These two dynamic women, Laura Banks and Susan Winter, have stepped up to help change the world of love and relationships. It was such a treat to be on their show.

Our conversation, including a call in from NY physician, Dr. Alan Pressman. He confirmed this topic of sexuality is so important. It was such a juicy and joyous time. We talked about what helps get us in your bodies, reduce stress, and enjoy sex to the fullest. Listen in to the whole show.

Laura Banks penned the USA Today Bestseller Breaking the Rules, Last Ditch Tactics for Landing the Man of Your Dreams (Career Press, 1997) which sold over 125,000 copies nationwide. She also penned Love Online (Career Press, 1994) and Embracing Your Big Fat Ass (Simon and Schuster, 2008) TV appearances as a relationship coach include: ABC World News, Tyra, Rosie, MSNBC, Fox News, VH1, The Movie Channel, BRAVO, as well as mentions in hundreds of newspapers nationwide including The New York Times and L.A. Times. She's also written for Fitness Magazine and Tarot.com. Laura currently produces and hosts Loveline Radio and is a practicing astrologer.

SUSAN WINTER is a futurist, with her eye on the perfected model of loving partnerships. She is an author and motivational speaker with a thriving consulting practice on both coasts. Susan's book "Older Women/Younger Men" (New Horizon Press) opened the social conversation to identify the many evolving and cutting-edge forms of mating we are now seeing, in today's world. Credits include: THE TODAY SHOW, GOOD MORNING AMERICA, ABC/CBS/NBC EVENING NEWS, VH1, CNN, and INSIDE EDITION. Feature articles and cover stories include: COSMO (USA/UK), HARPERS BAZAAR (US/UK/AUS), PEOPLE, GOOD HOUSEKEEPING, NEW YORK TIMES, WASHINGTON POST, LONDON TIMES, BOSTON HERALD, LA TIMES, CHICAGO TRIBUNE, SAN FRANCISCO CHRONICLE, IN TOUCH MAGAZINE, ENTERTAINMENT WEEKLY, WOMAN’S WORLD and THE DAILY EXPRESS (London). In radio Susan has been a frequent guest on NPR, ABC (Mitch Album), Playboy Network (Sirius Radio), CBS News Radio and 98FM-Dublin, Ireland.

“Gossip,” as defined by Wikipedia, is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It derives from the bedroom at the time of childbirth when the pregnant female’s relatives and neighbors (an all female event) would gather and chatter about others outside the birthing room.  The term is often used to refer to the spreading of dirt and excited details of scandals.  On the flip side, gossip can also be used to contribute to social bonding.  With the technology of the computer and internet, gossip can spread in an instant.

So what kind of messages about others do we want to spread like wildfire in our world today?  Aw come on, Coach Betty, it is so much fun to talk about other people and get all the juicy details of their struggles! Right?  I say wrong, because I am a part of creating a new positive consciousness, and the drama of negative gossip becomes an obstacle to the needed collaboration in solving the crisis level of problems today. If we are going to live, not just talk about, a new vision of a healthy and balanced planet for people on the planet, then we must STOP the addiction to “needing to know” the inner scum of other people’s life.  We are human, after all, and not a single one of us can claim perfection to my knowledge. So would you like your dirty laundry hanging in the air?

Women created the word for gossip, and now I want to invite and encourage women to foster the good gossip that is an actual path to inner beauty. I love playing with the positive sides of what words mean.  How can we turn “gossip” into that social bonding experience that creates good juice on the planet and spreads near and far with a click?

For starters:

• Taken from an old saying my mother drummed into my head “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
• When you share anything at all about another, evaluate where the information comes from.  Does it come from your own personal experience, another person who may or may not have gotten the facts straight, or from a media source.  Remember, it is not illegal to present false news. 
• When you have spoken about someone who is not present and accounted for, how does it make you feel inside? Do you feel relaxed, calm and at peace or do you feel tense, tight and uneasy?

Inner beauty is felt as a peaceful relaxation, and your body knows it if you tune in.  Are you are spreading the good word, or contributing to more chaos and havoc among us? Spread the good word, and let’s take this opportunity to transform the world into what is possible!

If you resonating with this article, then YOU are a beautiful soul I want to know about so I can spread the good word about you.  Join my newsletter at CoachBettyLIVE.com by entering your name and email in the upper right hand corner of this page, and/or “Like” my fan page at www.facebook.com/coachbetty, and let me know more about you. Who knows, you may just end up on the radio with CoachBettyLIVE.

Have you ever experienced an encounter with the opposite sex where you felt like you were communicating so precisely, in direct language, and your intentions were completely misconstrued? Okay…it is a rhetorical question.  How can we learn to understand and honor our differences with love, compassion and an open heart?  My intention with the following essay on men and women is to open the conversation in a healthy way.

Masculine and Feminine characteristics are clearly very different energies.  A man who exudes strong masculinity is often a lone wolf, independent, competitive, physically strong, forgetful, logical, tough, and acutely self aware.  And what I mean by acutely self aware is a focus on taking care of his needs without consideration of what his female companion might need.  Some call this self-centered, and I don’t as it is too negative for the many good things about taking care of your own needs.

What you will notice with a women who lives from an extreme feminine place is a gentle collaborator, nurturing, loving, adapting, empathizing with a relaxed receptivity to change.  Often women are co-dependent because they receive what comes to them with the intention of nurturing and loving it back into balance.  It’s a woman’s intuition that allows her to feel what is out of balance.  The generous way a woman serves in this capacity is a beautiful thing. However, if a woman is not tuned into her own needs and inner nature or intuition, life can easily become unhealthy in relationship with a man. 

This is far from an exhaustive list of characteristics, and yet the stark contrast of  energies is apparent. We all carry both energies within, and each person has a unique spot on the spectrum from extreme masculine to extreme feminine. From the extremes noted here, it is a no wonder women lose their identity in relationships, and men are so confused by women and their flip flop behavior.

From this woman’s perspective, I have displayed the feminine characteristics noted above for most of my life.  I want a man to honor all the aspects of my softer and nurturing approach to life and relationships. My experience is that men love my femininity during sensual and sexual times, and then “don’t get too emotional on me now” can be the refrain when I have overextended my empathizer and need some time to recenter myself. 

As I understand men and their energies, I see a strength in mind and body men possess that is calming and peaceful to my inner soul. There is a determination that I admire from the toughness and competitive male stance.  Forgetfulness is a vulnerable and innocent place that has a sweet honesty.  These are the perceptions and attitudes I am embracing to fully appreciate and love our amazing men.

We need to take responsibility individually for the impact of our own true nature and rebalance ourselves. The world needs our best efforts. I am curious how our communication would change with the ability to stand in each other’s shoes, and see the positive side of our opposing characteristics?

What do you do to honor others?

As promised, I am writing today to share more about my fraud experience in the hopes that it can save someone else from going through this very humiliating process. The data on fraud surprised me, and became a WHOA Baby.

“Fraud is considered white collar crime. An Illinois survey shows that 55.2% said that fraud crimes do more to undermine the morality of society than street crimes. More money is lost through white collar crime than as a result of street crime. National survey of fraud victimization show the total annual losses exceed $40 billion.”

This is from a report “Personal Fraud: the victims and the scams,” by Richard Titus of the National Institute of Justice.

Why did I get victimized? What I have reflected upon is as follows:

1) I was careless…my message is one that I believe anything is possible. I believe in miracles and was convinced it was my time to receive one. Because of that I did not thoroughly investigate the sources offering me this incredible opportunity.

2) I am not aware of these scams as I rarely listen to news. I stopped watching news regularly as a means to stay more positive, and create a healthy and uplifting world for myself.

3) I was susceptible to this offer because it touched me so deeply in my heart. The thought that I could be paid well to coach small groups of people who do not have access to such services was a miracle I wanted to believe in.

4) I am a risk taker, and therefore even more susceptible to these crimes.

5) Scams like this play on a person’s compassion and generosity and I fell for it hook, line and sinker, as they say.

6) Shocking, but true, 10-20% of people victimized in this way have chronic health problems and those vulnerable are the best targets.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU SUSPECT FRAUD:

1) Do your due diligence in investigating those in question. Call and speak to a live person, look at websites, get name, address, phone numbers.

2) DO NOT accept money orders. Tell them to make a wire transfer right into your account.

3) Insist on US checks

4) Do not rely on your bank for the best information. IF you deposit checks or money orders, be specific when the checks will clear NOT when the money is available.

The Organic and Orgasmic nature of this is that I am not resisting the truth, and am authentically sharing the story. Life is rich and juicy in many ways!

If this information helps 1 person…it will have been a good day!

Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by the University of Texas researchers published in the “Archives of Sexual Behavior.”

Gina Ogden, PhD who is a marriage and family sex therapist, finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. ”One reason people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves.” Great sex begins with self-esteem. If the sex is loving, connected and what you want, it raises it.”

This is why I am so passionate about helping women rediscover their beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror. Imagine how your enjoyment of sex would change if you always felt good about YOU…and then having sex made you feel even better! Now that’s a WHOA BABY!

What if you felt beautiful and sexual with anyone, anytime and anywhere? How would your life be different?

Here is Coach Betty LIVE in Paris, France as she prepared for the opening of “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life” at the Theatre La Reine Blanche last July. Let me tell you, it was an organic and orgasmic time.

This CoachBettyLIVE episode was Coach Betty sharing a bit of her personal journey and outlining the 5 step path to Orgasmic Fulfillment. You can listen to the entire show below.

Highlights from the show:

5 Easy Principles to Inner Peace, Passion and Pleasure AND Orgasmic Fulfillment

PAUSE is step one to begin to feel more alive sexually right away

PONDER is assessing what is working and your own level of satisfaction

PLAN is how to prepare for YOU and your next sexual experience

PROSPECT is how to dig deep and explore the orgasmic possibilities in life

POP is how you surrender and allow your life to be organic and orgasmic

Whether you are in a long term relationship, newly in love, or single, Coach Betty will guide you to create an inner orgasmic nature that allows you to feel confident and courageous to step out and BE the beautiful you. If you follow the principles of the 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure, you will fall in love with yourself every time you look in the mirror.

Listen here by clicking on the link below.

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My special guest, Rebecca Costa, is a sociobiologist whose unique expertise is to spot and explain emerging trends in relationship to human evolution, global markets, and new technologies. A thought-leader and provocative new voice in the mold of Jared Diamond, Thomas Friedman and Malcolm Gladwell, Costa is part biologist, psychologist and entrepreneur, whose insights result from examining the “big picture.” Her successful career identifying global trends, combined with her keen ability to perceive the unifying concept within diverse and interrelated fields, uniquely qualify her to present a multi-disciplinarian approach to complex, systemic issues affecting our world today. And if that is too serious for you, Bob Banner will be on the show to share laughter yoga. How and Why it works to help us heal.

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Rebecca Costa is a sociobiologist whose unique expertise is to spot and explain emerging trends in relationship to human evolution, global markets, and new technologies. A thought-leader and provocative new voice in the mold of Jared Diamond, Thomas Friedman and Malcolm Gladwell, Costa is part biologist, psychologist and entrepreneur, whose insights result from examining the “big picture.” Her successful career identifying global trends, combined with her keen ability to perceive the unifying concept within diverse and interrelated fields, uniquely qualify her to present a multi-disciplinarian approach to complex, systemic issues affecting our world today. To learn more www.rebeccacosta.com or www.watchmansrattle.com, call her at 831-620-1505 or 831-521-9150, or email her at [email protected].

To learn more about the brain excercises that Rebecca talked about go to PositScience.com.

We lost our connection with Bob Banner so Coach Betty shared some stories from the movie “Laughology” which Bob will talk more about when he is on the show on December 14, 2010.

Did you know?

• children laugh 300 times a day and adults only 15
• laughter was the original peace signal
• The Laughing Doctor in Mumbai, India stopped practicing medicine because he found laughter was more healing
• laughing regularly helps you live 8+ years longer
• laughter is a natural anti-depressant

More about the healing benefits of laughter in December with Bob Banner…tune in live to hear more on Tuesday, December 14th at 12:00 (noon). For now…enjoy the first CoachBettyLIVE with Rebecca Costa and Coach Betty by listening to the audio above.

It’s Official!!

Coach Betty is very exciting to announce that she has joined the Transformation Talk Radio Network, and will begin to live stream an hour long radio show beginning Tuesday, November 16th at 12:00 PT. WooHoo…the network has an established audience of over 400,000 listeners from the internet and terrestrial radio stations in Seattle and New England. The target audience is cultural creatives and progressive thinkers. Check it out at transformationtalkradio.com.

Coach Betty will continue to interview artists, experts and innovators who have a message of natural healing. Her focus will be on the healing power of music and dance, alternative health, and innovative ideas of how we can heal ourselves, our relationships and our planet. Sprinkled throughout each show, she will continue to share her thoughts and ideas about living an organic and orgasmic life. Each show will be action packed!

This collaboration comes after meeting Dr. Pat Baccili who has been doing internet and terrestrial radio since 2003. Please check out Dr. Pat’s site at drpatlive.com and you will see that this network and CoachBettyLIVE is going to transform the way we are living. Are you ready for some positivity??

Stay tuned for much more to share on this exciting new venture!