Posts Tagged ‘women’s sexual satisfaction’

ARTICLE – Review of “50 Shades of Grey”

Wednesday, August 29th, 2012


The Huffington Post reported that EL Jame's "Fifty Shades" trilogy has outsold JK Rowling's seven-book Harry Potter series on Amazon's UK site. James has been named the best-selling author of all time at selling over 40,000,000 copies of her book "50 Shades of Grey" since March. It is the fastest selling paperback of all time.
It is hard to deny that we love and will spend money on fantasy, whether porn or Potter. This book has been called "Mommy porn" as the fanbase is being composed largely of married women over 30. Hmmm…
Will this improve women's sexual lives? The disturbing and poorly written details would be worth it, if that were the outcome.
I have always found graphic descriptions of sexual encounters to be arousing in my body. My first sexual feelings, that I remember, came from reading "racy" stories in magazines I use to hide under my mattress. 
Sex and what arouses a woman is unique to her. The scenes in "50 Shades…" that created a positive visceral experience for me were when the two main characters expressed love and compassion for each other. Sex, without compassion, is the lowest form of relationship in my book.
The nature of the dominant/submissive aspect created a visceral feeling of anger welling up inside of me. The admitted need to control and bark orders which created pain along with the pleasure was where I felt very disturbed that this book was creating such a stir with women. Is it just a deep awakening we desire, which sometimes includes pain?
This idea of submission has made its way into new marriage vows approved in Australia where brides are promising to "submit" to their husbands as well as "obey" them. Even as I write this I am feeling the unease of this thought.
Before I explain what I believe may be beneficial about the book, I need to comment on the fantasy man syndrome. The main character, Christian Grey, was the image of the sexiest, richest, smartest and most talented man this side of the North Pole. I want us all to find a way to look past surface glamour, and find the true soul. It is not always easy. I fail in this endeavor often.
I found three redeeming thoughts from this odd book. 
A sexual relationship requires deep communication. Because of the provocative nature of the sexual requests in this story, communication was repeatedly stressed as necessary…verbal communicaton speaking your deep truth. We can all learn from this.
There was also a consciousness about choosing to enter into the relationship because of the extreme nature of the sexual demands. Conscious choosing is a key factor in creating any life you desire.
My final positive take away from this book is the encouragement of receptivity. The heroine was showered with gifts which she resisted, until she didn't. There was an air of giving and receiving that took into account value on both sides. It felt natural, until it went over the edge of kinkiness for me.
BEing the conscious optimist that I am, I invite you to reflect on your own relationships and see where you could:
- communicate your deep truth
- be acutely conscious of your choices
- give and take with love
There is wisdom in all things. It is up to us to find it. :)  
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CBL#139 – Organic and Orgasmic with Sex Butter and Bonnie Gayle

Saturday, October 8th, 2011

Do you understand how when you emanate the essence of pleasure, you attract pleasure into your life? That is what my special guest, Bonnie Gayle, calls pleasure empowerment. Bonnie's personal story had her successful in a life as an accountant, but miserable personally. Possibly no coincidence, she developed early menopausal symptoms that decreased her libido and made sex painful. Never fear though because from this experience, she found happiness, positivity and her life purpose to empower and liberate women sexually. She doesn't just talk about…she created a 100% natural product Sex Butter which has healing properties inside and out. Tune into Bonnie's interview as she openly shares her personal story of transformation. Also on this episode is a fun segment where Coach Betty talks with the "Queen of Pinckney, Michigan" about how her inner beauty played into her queenliness. To hear the whole show, click the "LISTEN" button below.

When Bonnie turned 41, and was in the prime of her life she had a life-changing experience stemming from early peri- menopause.  She had a successful business as a business manager/accountant for over 18 years, attractive, and was supposed to be at her peak until her body had other plans.  Her mind was at its sexual prime while her body shut down.  As she reached out to woman for answers, she quickly realized that whether women were healthy or not, they were struggling sexually with their bodies and needed help for a variety of reasons.
The drastic physical change her body, sent her on a quest to find something that didn’t exist; a healthy product to sooth the dryness and pain and help her feel sexually empowered again.  So, she had it created – “Sex Butter”  and “Amida Oil” products to help women feel and heal their bodies while manifesting their dreams.  Cancer patients, abuse victims, and women with all types of other intimate issues are using Sex Butter, with positive results.
Bonnie is actively involved in the women’s community, speaking to women’s groups and Cancer survivors, and a huge advocate for women’s sexual empowerment.  She has experienced and seen how sexually repressed women are affected in all areas of their lives.  What started off as a mission to save herself and her body, became a mission to help women globally to heal.  As she has seen and felt herself, this experience has been life-changing to her person, her self esteem, and all areas of her life.  Some of the groups she’s involved in are:  National Association of Professional Women; Cambridge’s Who’s Who; Savor the Success; Woo Hoo Women; Goddess Collective; LA, Tribal Truth.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Women’s Sexual Satisfaction – NOT

Monday, August 29th, 2011

A man wakes up in the hospital bandaged from head to foot.  

The doctor comes in and says, "Ah, I'm glad to see you've regained consciousness.  You probably won't remember, but you were in  a huge pile-up on the freeway.

"You're going to be okay — you'll walk again and everything, but your penis was severed in the accident and we couldn't find it."

The man groans, but the doctor goes on. "You've got $9,000 in insurance compensation coming, and we now have the technology to build a new penis. They work great, but they don't come cheap. It's roughly $1,000 an inch." The man perks up.

"So," the doctor says, "you must decide how many inches you want. I understand that you've been married for over forty years and this is something you should discuss with your wife. If you had a nine-incher before and you decide to invest only in a five-incher now, she might be disappointed. It's important that she plays a role in helping you make a decision."

The man agrees to talk it over with his wife.

The doctor comes back the next day and asks, "So have you spoken with your wife?"

"Yes I have," says the man.

"And has she helped you make a decision?"

"Yes," says the man.

"What is your decision?" asks the doctor.

"We're getting granite countertops."


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CBL#125 – Clinical Look at Sexual Satisfaction and Fulfillment

Saturday, July 2nd, 2011

How important do you think sex is to your overall health?  

In this episode of CoachBettyLIVE, we open the conversation about the connection between sexual health and overall health.  Women's Health Expert, Karen Carlson, and Coach Betty talk about what a wise nurse practitioner advises her patients on their sexual fulfillment.  Karen suggests that sex is as important as eating and exercise to our health and well being!  Listen to the entire interview below and enjoy a slice of her wisdom of over 18 years of working with women.  Her thoughts directly address this ever-rising issue of womens' sexual dysfunction issues.

CoachBettyLIVE with Karen Carlson – click here

Karen discusses the three most common complaints regarding sexual satisfaction and fulfillment:  pain, dryness, and lack of desire.  Karen empowers them to talk to their partner, as it has been documented that women don't talk to friends or family about their sexual experiences which leaves many women left uncertain about what to expect during sex.  

Karen Carlson is a highly skilled, well respected primary care nurse practitioner treating adults at the University of Washington's Women's Health Care Center on the Roosevelt campus. One of Karen's gift is to provide a safe, compassionate and holistic approach to discussing all health issues with her women patients.  She is one of only 3-5 % of health care providers that talk with women about sexual satisfaction!!

She is also clinical faculty and preceptor for nurse practitioner students from the University of Washington's School of Nursing, and clinical preceptor for medical students at the University of Washington's School of Medicine.  We are so fortunate to have her expertise and compassion teaching others.

I know how fortunate we are to have Karen's expertise in the world, because she and I have been best friends for over 40 years!!



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CBL#114 -Women BEing Organic and Orgasmic with Zestra

Tuesday, January 25th, 2011

The entire show today was devoted to talking about how women can find more sexual fulfillment and satisfaction.  Rachel Braun Scherl of Semprae Laboratories, producers of natural botanical oil Zestra, was my special guest.  Why is it important for women to pay attention to their own sexual satisfaction?  A healthy and loving sex life translates to a healthy life, emotionally, physically, and socially. As Rachel pointed out on the show, much more attention is given to men’s sexual satisfaction.  Ladies, it is time to start taking responsibility for our own sexual desires and fulfillment.  Would it help you to feel more confident, have an increased self-esteem, and feel courageous to ask for what you want in your life?  That is what greater sexual fulfillment will do for you.  Listen in to the entire show with the whys and hows below.

A seasoned executive, Rachel Braun Scherl has focused on driving growth through innovation, building Fortune 500 brands, revitalizing stagnant brands, and creating opportunities for 20 years.  As President and co-Founder of Semprae Laboratories, Rachel is building on her track record of success, developing teams committed to creating a company that provides essential sexual satisfaction and health products and services to women.

Rachel and Mary Wallace Jaensch, long-time business partners, founded Semprae Laboratories, Inc. with Quaker BioVentures, in 2008.  The company is by women, for women and dedicated to the idea that all women deserve sexual satisfaction.  Semprae’s flagship product, Zestra Essential Arousal Oils, is clinically proven to improve desire arousal and satisfaction for women of all ages and lifestyles.  Find out more, and order a FREE sample of Zestra (shipping charges do apply) by going to  If you type in the special CoachBettyLIVE code Z53FREE, you will save 5% on any order.

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WHOA Baby #2 – Redefining Seduction

Wednesday, January 12th, 2011

Consider this…Women choose men in relationships.

Yes, that is what Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell write about in their groundbreaking book, “Redefining Seduction:  Women Initiating Courtship, Partnership and Peace.” Donna and Paul are evolutionary psychologists who have done extensive research, and had their own amazing relationship based on this theory. A premise of their work is that the egg chooses the sperm.

Here is a WHOA Baby sampling from the book:

Redefined Seduction Truths

Women, not men, should make the first move in courtship

Women’s initiative in courtship is not only natural but essential to the survival of the species

Men are in awe of women

Every women possesses the power to select and seduce her chosen mate

Surveys done at college campuses confirm that men would love to be seduced and have women make the first move.

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Green Think #60 – A Future of Healthy and Satisfying Sex – are you ready?

Sunday, February 21st, 2010

Whether you are a woman or a man, you will want to know about Zestra, a natural botanical product that enhances women’s sexual satisfaction.  My special guest, Rachel Braun Scherl, is the president of Semprae Laboratories, the company that produces Zestra.  She shares research on women’s sexual satisfaction, looking at it separate and apart from relationships.  The Zestra message to focus on inner sexuality aligns perfectly with Coach Betty’s focus of loving and caring for ourselves first…then we have so much more to give in our relationships, and for our planet.

Listen to this 18 minute podcast and be inspired to change your world from the inside out!

Rachel Braun Scherl

Rachel Braun Scherl

Stanford Business School graduate Rachel Braun Scherl teamed up with colleague Mary Wallace Jaensch over ten years ago to focus on developing and marketing women’s health products.  They have provided guidance and expertise to Fortune 100 firms, including multiple divisions and operating companies of Johnson & Johnson, Wyeth, and GlaxoSmithKline.

In 2008, they purchased Zestra, and are committed to creating a company that provides essential sexual satisfaction health products and services to women.  These two ladies are creating a safe enviornment for women to listen and explore their own sexual satisfaction and pleasure.

Imagining becoming more aligned with your true nature by the exploration of sexual satisfaction?  Sound good…

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What are your natural ways to sexual pleasure and satisfactionlet’s keep the conversation going

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