ARTICLE – The Day I Wanted to End My Life




I am known among my friends as an extremely positive person. Often, I will get a call from my friends when they need a positive outlook or just a word of encouragement for their bad day. And I always have one as I have a special gift to be able to find the beauty and goodness in life. My father taught me how to have a optimistic view no matter what your circumstances. He was even a die-hard Chicago Cubs fan!! (If you aren't aware, the Cubs baseball team has not won a world series in 103 years, the longest drought in history). When Dad was alive, he was a true believer that some day he would see them win it all. He never did get to see it.
 
My optimism has served me well in many aspects of my life much more importantly than rooting for the home team. It has been extremely valuable in dealing with the destructive chronic pain condition I have had for the last 26 years. Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life was born out of the optimism of finding my path with this painful condition and learning to embrace it all without judgement and feel the juiciness. This has been how I have approached the pain since tapering off all the heavy medications almost 7 years ago.
 
But just last week, I woke with a painful flair of inflammation in my joints that sent me over the edge of optimism and into the deepest and darkest place I have ever felt. It wasn't even the worst pain I have ever experienced, but I was SO tired of the experience of pain in my body on this day and I had no hopeful thoughts or positivity in my mind. During the entire 24 hour period, I was just so tired of the f…ing roller coaster of pain. I had so much anger and sadness in me that I screamed and cried for most of the day which created an inner exhaustion and extreme fatigue. I asked the angels to take me to the other side and put me out of my misery. I felt like I had lived lifetimes of pain, and it was enough! I was seriously ready to take my own life…I even thought about  how I would do it.
 
Now I can see that, on that day last week in all the raw pain and despair, it actually allowed me to access more of my inner world that I had not previously wanted to look at. You've heard there is much to learn in the darkness, and now I have an up close and personal experience of this truth.
 
As my dear housemates surrounded me with love that evening, I saw a glimmer of the old me as they filled me with acknowledgement and appreciation for who I BE. I went to bed that night without much relief from the morning pain. However, the next morning I woke up and it had moved through my body like I had not experienced without the very toxic but powerful drug, prednisone.
 
We all have pain…emotional, physical , spiritual, etc. After all, we are humans who love to suffer. I don't want you to live in suffering, and I also don't want you to ignore the truth of pain. What I learned on this special day in my life was that once I accepted and surrendered to what was without any resistance, the pain had nothing to hold onto in my body and so it was released. Sounds rather organic and orgasmic, wouldn't you say?
 
What pain do you need to release to lighten your load?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – It’s Logical




There were two nuns…one of them was know as Sister Mathematical (SM), and the other one was known as Sister Logical (SL). It is getting dark and they are still far away from the convent. 

SM: Have you noticed that a man has been following us for the past thirty-eight and a half minutes? I wonder what he wants.

SL: It's logical. He wants to rape us.

SM: Oh no! At this rate he will reach us in 15 minutes at the most. What can we do?

SL: The only logical thing to do of course is walk faster.

SM: It's not working.

SL: Of course it's not working. The man did the only logical thing. He started to walk faster too. 

SM: So what shall we do? At this rate he will reach us in one minute.

SL: The only logical thing we can do is split up. You go that way and I'll go this way. He cannot follow us both. 

So the man decided to follow Sister Logical. Sister Mathematical arrives at the convent and is worried about what has happened to Sister Logical. Then Sister Logical arrives.

SM: Sister Logical! Thank God you are here! Tell me what happened.

SL: The only logical thing happened. The man couldn't follow us both, so he followed me.

SM: Yes, yes! But what happened then?

SL: The only logical thing happened. I started to run as fast as I could and he started to run as fast as he could.

SM: And?

SL: The only logical thing happened. He reached me.

SM: Oh no! What happened then?

SL: The only lgical thing to do. I lifted my dress up.

SM: Oh Sister! What did the man do?

SL: The only logical thing to do. He pulled down his pants.

SM: Oh no! What happened then?

SL: Isn't it logical, Sister? A nun with her dress up can run faster than a man with his pants down. 

And for those of you who thought it would be dirty…say two Hail Marys!

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CBL#155 – REAL beauty Is Inner Beauty with Lori Fields




Are you ready to live an alive and juicy life? 

This is one of the healthiest feelings inside of your body. It's good for your overall well-being, AND speifically your immune and cardiovascular system. This is what I call "inner sexuality." It is healing. Marvin Gaye has been singing about since the 80s, and the song is on the list of 500 ALL TIME Greatest Hits. Coach Betty Louise explores the idea of using pleasure as medicine in this episode. What does it require? …honesty with your inner self.

 

In the second half of the show, Lori Fields, Founder of REALBeautyIs.com shares her passionate message for women "YOU matter. No matter what you are doing in your life, it matters." 

Lori is a NYS License Clinical Social Worker, Internet entrepreneur, health and fitness enthusiast and Founder of the Real Beauty Is Movement. She has dedicated her life to teaching women how to feel good about themselves by tapping into their power, living their life on purpose and defining beauty on their own terms.

Lori's innovative method for empowering women derives from her background in clinical social work, health and fitness and entrepreneurship. Through her compassion, focus, clarity, and determination, Lori creates a supportive space for women to awaken into their most beautiful and confident self. 

You can learn more at www.realbeautyis.com.

 

 

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Brothers are SO Helpful




 

A six year old comes crying to his Mother because his little sister pulled his hair.
 
"Don't be angry," the Mother say, "Your little sister doesn't realize that pulling hair hurts." 
 
A short while later, there's more crying, and the Mother goes to investigate.
 
This time the sister is bawling and her brother says…"Now she knows."
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CBL#154 – Body Image Mastery and Inner Beauty




Did you know that your inner world actually creates your outer world? All aspects of your inner world, peace, happiness, truth, strength, beauty, and sexuality can be cultivated separately and feed the overall inner world. Coach Betty Louise shares more on that in the first part of the show.

Special guest, Laura Fenamore, CEO of Body Image Mastery, shares her amazing journey from 4th grade obesity to rock bottom drug addict at 24 years old to choosing life and transformation. Look at the photos below…they tell the story. Here is a woman who dug deep and found her inner beauty. To listen to the whole show, click the listen button below.

 

 

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Weight Release & Body Image Coach Laura Fenamore is on a mission to guide women around the world to love what they see in the mirror, one pinky at a time, so they can unlock the secrets to a healthy weight and start loving their lives as soon as possible.

Her popular Body Image Mastery program is celebrated by hundreds of women who have lost weight, reclaimed self-esteem, and started bold, happy lives with Laura and her proven programs as their guide.

Having overcome her own battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, Laura released over 100 pounds 24 years ago to begin a journey to guide other women to live more joyous, balanced lives. The author of the forthcoming book Weightless: 7 Tools to Love Your Body (and Lose Weight For Good) and a frequent contributor to local and national media – including First for Women, Ladies Home Journal, the Dr. Pat Show and blog contributor on Betty Confidential, Daily Love and Positively Positive.  Laura believes that self-love and self-care is where the transformation begins. Learn more about her programs, invite her to speak or contribute to your program or conference, or place pre-orders for her book today at OnePinky.com.

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ARTICLE – The Inner World of YOU




 

In this remarkable journey of life, we are confronted with choices at every bend and turn. What helps guide your choices? What is the difference between a good choice and a bad choice?  Experience has shown me that when I make a good choice, it comes from my intuition. Choices that hold some regret for me are when I have let outside sources override my inner truth. I inevitably feel bad when my core values have been compromised, AND I have no one to blame but myself.

 

I am such an advocate for nourishing and strengthening our inner world as it is a key to happiness, peace and joy. Let me share a helpful way to understand your inner world, and break it down so that you can see the numerous ways to develop your ability to make decisions that will honor you and your values.

 

You may have heard of the Wheel of Life, which illustrates how to examine 8-10 different aspects of your life and rate your satisfaction in each area. This is a beautiful snapshot of your life in the moment and how much it is flowing or NOT flowing. I have taken this same concept and applied it to the inner world of YOU.

 

I am starting with 8 different aspects of what makes up the inner world of YOU. There are more, but this is to demonstrate how dissecting down can create more avenues for simple and easy changes to enhance your state of well being, and good feelings about yourself. 

 

My mission is to help women rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves everytime they look in the mirror. Inner Beauty and Inner Sexuality are two aspects of your inner world. Cultivating your inner beauty and sexuality has impact on the other 6 aspects of  peace, truth, happiness, strength, love, and juice.  And just as with the wheel of life it goes with each one of these areas…you nurture one and they all get fed. 

 

Below are simple ways to feed each aspect of your inner world:

 

Beauty: When you look in the mirror…look past the blemishes into your eyes. The more you practice, the deeper you go. 

 

Sexuality: Become more sensual. Feel the weather on your skin. Is it warm, wet, cold, windy…just feel it. Sensuality brings you into the moment.

 

Peace: Pause and Breathe and remember there is not another soul on the planet like you SO you will never really fit in and that is a good thing.

 

Truth: The most reliable truth you have to listen to is your body. What signal is your body giving you about your inner world?

 

Happiness:  Laughter is the quickest way to happiness. Watch a funny movie, read jokes or contact someone you know who brings light and laughs to you.

 

Strength: REMOVE victim mentality from your language and thoughts. There is no one to blame for how things are working for you.

 

Love: Hug yourself every morning before you get out of bed…even if you have someone else to hug you…hug yourself too.

 

Juice: Place your hand on your lower belly (in between your pubic bone and belly button) and envision a fountain of healing power living right underneath your hand.

 

The more you cultivate your inner world, the more you will be able to relate to anyone, anytime and anywhere with courage, confidence and grace.

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Which Way to the Egg?




Why does it take 100 sperm to fertilize an egg?

Because Men won't ask for directions.

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CBL#153 – Sexual Healing as a pathway through Crisis




Rod and Anita Nairne share their dramatic story of healing following the death of their only son. They went from being a conservative middle-aged couple to provocative sexual surrogates as they expanded their sexual nature to heal others. It is a remarkable story. They emphasize the importance of fantasy in intimate relationships. Coach Betty shares a WHOA baby where a report from the UK showed that Runway models meet the BMI criteria for anorexia. WHOA Baby!! Listen to the whole show by clicking the listen button.

Life was torn apart by the accidental death of Anita and Rod’s 16-year-old, only child. Their world became a circle with no corner to hide: A noose that slowly, over many years, strangled all desire to maintain their established life. From the beginning, they refused to acknowledge the potential of sexual closure, common to such tragedy. Their intimacy evolved in ways few therapists consider. Constantly expanding their sexual boundaries provided the highly charged spiritual fuel necessary to meld.

Thirteen years after their son’s death, Rod sold his busy chiropractic office. They designed an unorthodox, emotionally charged focus: A profession where they could work together while continuing to help others. Combining their skills of Chiropractic and Art Therapy, Rod and Anita made a dramatic choice to go where few will ever consider; a place far too emotionally dangerous for most. For ten-years they worked as Sexual Surrogates creating a private, safe and clean environment for women, men and couples to experience their sexual fantasies. During those years their relationship flourished. Their sexual knowledge and compassion for others increased dramatically as they physically and emotionally (always together) explored the sexual dreams of thousands.  

 

Combining these ten-years of sexual research with their journey in search of an existence for their son is the focus of Rod and Anita’s book, Love is For Sharing: A passionate autobiography contrasting their battle through grief with the humor and ever expanding vitality of sex; this is an erotic book for modern couples wishing to break apart stereotyped walls of gender biased communication.

 

Rod and Anita have been married for 44-years.  www.loveisforsharing.com.

 

 

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