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- WHOA Baby - Commentary on Sera Beak’s “The Red Book”
- ARTICLE - Ask for What you Want and Need
- ANNOUNCEMENT-PAUSING IN THE MYSTERY
- FINDING THE FUNNY - On the Golf Course with Jesus
- FINDING THE FUNNY - Ten dollars is ten dollars
- FINDING THE FUNNY - The Wrong Way
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- FINDING THE FUNNY - Elderly Marriage??
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WHOA Baby - Commentary on Sera Beak’s “The Red Book”
WHOA Babies are sound bites I have read or heard that make me stop and pay close attention. Sometimes they make me say "WHOA Baby!!!"
I recently got turned onto a new author whose work has given me a few WHOA Babies along the way. Her name is Sera Beak.
Sera Beak is a Harvard-trained scholar of comparative world religions who spent years traveling the world studying spirituality with Sufi dervishes, Tibetan monks, Croatian mystics, shamans, and more. She is the author of "The Red Book: A Deliciouosly Unorthodox Approach to Igniting Your Divine Spark," and "Red Hot and Holy." www.serabeak.com
She writes:
"Simply put, the Gnostic gospels are a collection of remarkable teachings that were written by Jesus' disciples but viewed as dangerous and heretical by the early (second century C.E.) church fathers and therefore banned from the official Christian canon. In fact, the whole spiritual tradition that rose up around these teachings, called Gnosticism, from the Greek word gnosis, meaning "inner knowing" and "self-knowledge," was outlawed by the early church; the church leaders even went to far as to attempt to destroy the gospels… No one knew what became of them until 1945, when they were found buried in a clay pot in the desert near the town of Nag Hammadi in Egypt.
Strict religious dogmas was to the Gnostics what a bicycle is to a fish: a useless unidirectional contraption. For them, ongoing divine revelation was what it was all about. If you were a Gnostic, you accessed this type of sacred revelation not by going outside, not by listening solely to others or by reading theology or by being dictated to but by looking inside and finding your deep inner self, your "self of your self," which was often referred to as a divine seed or a divine spark and which was believed to be the same substance as God. This experience of one's divine spark was a human being's truest reality, and it was cause for celebration by humans and the divine. You know, Jesus always said the kindgom of God is within you, so-maybe he was more of a Gnostic than the church fathers led us to believe.
…it's the sort of idea that would have completely upstaged and upended the early Church; after all, who would need a dogmatic religious father figure if people realized they already had the divine within and required not stern intermediaries (though compassionate guidance and support is always helpful) to to access it? They could find out what God was, just by checking in. Carl Jung believed that "one of the main functions of organized religion is to protect people from a direct experience of God.."
This is a WHOA Baby to me because my work helps people rediscover their inner knowing and truest reality, especially around sensuality, sexuality and beauty. To understand how these thought patterns of resistance to our inner knowing came from is fascinating. It goes a lonnnnnngggg way back that we were encouraged to trust others before we trust ourselves. Today, we are being called to dissolve the resistance to our inner truth.
It is time to restructure and reorganize our beliefs based on our inner reality. What does this mean? It means paying close attention when your life is out of flow and balance. That is a signal that you are telling lies to yourself, maybe something like "It's okay that I fake orgasms, he has no idea." Your inner truth is there to be honored or ignored. We get to choose.
This does not mean to become an island, and only talk to yourself from here forward. What we need from others is to empower us to go inside and then hold the space for us. You may find darkness, but I promise if you stay with it, you will find inner light and juiciness too.
Don't be afraid of your magnificence!
ARTICLE - Ask for What you Want and Need
Excerpt from "Healing with Pleasure Medicine: PAUSE"
I became aware of this concept in an intensive leadership program. The actual phrase we learned and practiced during this eight-month intensive was, "Ask for what you want and need 100 percent of the time, and then stick around and negotiate." What we do so often is work with the needs of others instead of paying attention to our own needs. I know this habit well.
There was a moment in my life where I was asked, "What do you want, Betty"? And I didn't have a clue of what I wanted in that moment. My life seemed to exist to take care of my aging mother, my three-year-old daughter, my working husband, to name a few. Yes, I was a co-dependent extraordinaire. It was the role that was very familiar for me. Such second nature, that I was in my fifties before I realized fully what was going on. I humbly say “fully,” as there's always more to learn.
This is our history. In the 1950s after World War II, many women in the U.S. stopped working for the war effort, married soldiers coming back from the war and started families. That was my mother. She married my father in 1942, and never worked a day of her life for compensation after that. My prideful father thought that was the best way to support and take care of her. Many women were happy staying home.
The underlying consequence was that these women communicated with children all day and lost touch with other women. And when we lost touch with other women, we stopped collaborating and creatively working together for community. The characteristic of collaboration is very powerful for women. It has been shown that a meaningful conversation between women raises their oxytocin levels (the pleasure hormone). Instead, we moved towards a masculine-based world and a competitive-based society. Women were dumbed down and self-esteem was sinking, so we fell into the masculine, competitive way of being.
In the 1970s, women even wore shoulder pads, which made them look even more masculine. In today's world, I don't know that men have it easy at all. Many women act like a man in women's bodies. To survive in the business corporate worlds, shutting down sexuality is necessary. Catharine Hakim, author of the book "Honey Money," writes that women have missed an opportunity to use their erotic capital in the business world.
She claims we wouldn’t have these pay discrepancies between men and women if women could embrace their erotic capital and use it wisely. Women are sensual and sexual beings. Women carry the ability to bring beauty to the world and vibrate beauty out into the world in a way that is unique and wonderful. What would change if we were conscious of this truth, and also learned to ask for what we want and need?
Excerpt from "Healing with Pleasure Medicine: PAUSE"
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ANNOUNCEMENT-PAUSING IN THE MYSTERY
Thank you for the outpouring of concern and support with my recent health challenges. Albeit not easy, I am finding an organic and orgasmic way with this experience too.
It has been an interesting journey since I have been in the Phoenix area of Arizona. In late January, I arrived in beautiful Arizona and was ready to embrace the desert air and collaborate with the amazing holistic healers of the Southwest.
When I arrived, my body was happy to land in the warmth of the sun, and the sensual hug that goes with this warm and dry air. My body relaxes easily in heat, and my movements become deliberate and slow. And as my body relaxed, an enormous amount of underlying stress rose to the surface. Have you ever had that experience? You know, when you finally finish a project, a semester's work, or moving to a new house/city that has kept you engaged and busy for a few weeks at least. You finally stop after it is complete, and you get sick or you are absolutely exhausted. Well that is what happened to me. I stopped and relaxed, and quite a bit of pain surfaced. I have had an extended period of acute pain in the muscles and joints on the entire right side of my body.
During this time of stepping back from the normal routine of work and dealing with the acute pain throughout my body, I am reflecting on my life purpose and passionate pursuits. There have been so many mysteries in my journey, and I continue to practice listening to the wisdom of my body and digging deeper for the root cause of my pain. I know this is what allows me to dig deep with my clients and uncover the gifts that reside within them. I am consulting western medicine and practicing all my natural therapies as well, and expect to be dancing and singing in the rain very soon.
I have not come to a complete stop though. I continue to move forward with my passionate desire to bring more natural healing through our own beauty and sexuality into the world. And so I make the following 3 offers to help you uncover your unique beauty and sexuality.
1) In 2012-2013, I led a 10-week introductory coaching program "Tapping Into the Juice" which focused on establishing a practice of pausing and pondering the relationship to personal beauty and sexuality. Some of the amazing feedback I received from the clients who participated:
"She took me to a deeper place of awareness and awakened my innate capacity for healing."
"Betty is an expert at helping women tap into that reserve of body wisdom that lies dormant inside of us. Confusion and worry simply didn't exist when we worked together, and I had a joyful time learning and retraining my habits around my body that will stay with me forever."
"Working with Coach Betty has allowed me to get in touch with my senses, with my breath, with my body. I appreciate and love my body on a completely different level. Her exercises are simple, yet profound. If you are ready for the truth, the truth is waiting. Just open the door."
"Working with Coach Betty has absolutely been a transforming experience for me! Thank you, Coach Betty for opening up my eyes and being with me as I peeled a few more layers of my thick cocoon off… thank you for helping me see the beauty inside- my smile, my butterfly."
OPPORTUNITY
Participate in phase 2 of the 10-week Introductory Coaching Program
Click HERE for details.
2) In July, 2013, a new 10-week Coaching Program will be available, "Grounding and Channeling Juicy Energy to Everyday Activities."
In this program, you will learn:
* a simple 2-minute grounding exercise to calm your mind and body
* the one most critical piece of knowledge to have in order to channel energy
* how to use your sexual energy outside of the bedroom
* simple, yet profound, practices that ground you in your confidence and courage
OPPORTUNITY
Participate in Level 2 Coaching Program. (you must first take level 1)
Click HERE for more information, and email Coach Betty Louise for an application and more details.
3) I am writing a book about the process of re-discovering beauty and sexuality as a healing force. The book will draw on my own personal profound experience of healing, and teach my simple process for increased peace, passion, and pleasure in your life.
OPPORTUNITY
Be a contributor of support through the project and completion of this book. The contribution could be editing, virtual assisting, publishing, or financing to name a few ideas.
Please email me [email protected] for details.
Subject line: Book Contributor
FINDING THE FUNNY - On the Golf Course with Jesus
Moses, Jesus and an old man are golfing. Moses steps up to the tee and hits the ball. It goes sailing over the fairway and lands in the water. Moses parts the water and chips the ball onto the green.
Jesus steps up to the tee and hits the ball. It goes sailing over the fairway and lands in the water.
Jesus just walks on the water and chips the ball onto the green.
The old man steps up to the tee and hits the ball. It goes sailing over the fairway and heads for the water. But, just before it falls into the water, a fish jumps up and grabs the ball in its mouth. As the fish is falling back down into the water, an eagle swoops down and grabs the fish in its claws. The eagle flies over the green when a lightning bolt shoots from the sky and barely misses it. Startled, the eagle drops the fish. When the fish hits the ground, the ball pops out of its mourth and rolls into the hole for a hole-in-one.
Jesus then turns to the old man and says, "Dad, if you don't stop folling around, we won't bring you next time."
FINDING THE FUNNY - Ten dollars is ten dollars
Fred and his wife Edna went to the state fair every year. Every year Fred would say, "Edna, I'd like to ride in that there airplane." And every year Edna would say "I know Fred, but that airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars."
One year Fred and Edna went to the fair and Fred said, "Edna, I'm 71 years old. If I don't ride that airplane this year I may never get another chance."
Edna replied, "Fred that there airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars."
The pilot overhear them and said, "Folks, I'll make you a deal. I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you, but if you say one word it's ten dollars."
Fred and Edna agreed and up they go. The pilot does all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word is heard. He does all his tricks over again, but still not a word.
They land and the pilot turns to Fred, "By golly, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn't."
Fred replied, "Well, I was going to say something when Edna fell out of the plane, but ten dollars is ten dollars."
FINDING THE FUNNY - The Wrong Way
WHOA Baby Wednesday
A team of neurologists found that sexual activity can lead to “partial or complete relief” of head pain in some migraines.
The study, from the University of Munster, Germany, suggests that instead of using a sore head as an excuse to refuse sex, making love can be more effective than taking painkillers.
Their research, reported in Cephalalgia, the journal of the International Headache Society, found that more than half of migraine sufferers who had sex during an episode experienced an improvement in symptoms.
One in five patients left without any pain at all, while others, in particular male sufferers “even used sexual activity as a therapeutic tool”, they added.
They suggested that sex triggered the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, through the central nervous system, which can in turn reduce, or even eliminate, a headache.
WHOA BABY!!
Can you imagine a world where we look to our sexuality as a part of our medicine?
I have mentioned many times that in the 1850s Victorian Physicians performed vaginal massage (orgasm) to treat female hysteria. The movie "Hysteria" documents this time in history which led to the invention of the vibrator.
I have also been vocal about sexual wellness as natural ways to improve your immune system, cardiovascular system, and overall well being.
What makes us resistant and hesitant to embrace this?
In my research and experience coaching women about their sexuality, I have identified the following reasons we resist the power of sexual healing.
Religious training - interpretations of sex and sexual behavior by many religions teaching repression and shame. This has created confusion in enjoying sex for both young and mature women alike. And if you are unable to enjoy sex, it will not be a healing experience.
Reliance/Dependence on Quick Fix - our trained response when we have a health issue is to see a doctor or take a pill. When is the last time you were ill, and thought sex could help? We are also greatly influenced by the abundance of advertising pharmaceuticals.
Belief systems - We have not been exposed enough to the belief that sex can relieve pain and be healing, even though Marvin Gaye has been singing about it for 30 years. Our belief systems are formed by our experiences and what we are exposed to, and they can change in a moment.
The good news is the seed has now been planted. Consider the side effects of orgasm, the next time you have a headache.
