What makes a life extraordinary?
What do you think? Lots of money, fame or accomplishments may be the first place you think to look. I'd like to offer a more expansive view that allows anyone, anywhere at anytime to live an extraordinary life.
I would also like to offer that we ALL live extraordinary and ordinary lives. Each and every one of us has that special unique combination of amazing goodness that no one else has…that makes us far from ordinary. The paradox of wanting to belong and wanting to self-express keeps us in a conundrum of how to really feel about the BEing inside.
How can we fill ourselves up with the best of who we are, and bring that beautiful self to our relationships? How can we have organic orgasmic relationships that are based in honesty and acceptance?
According to Eric Anderson's book "The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating," 78% of the undergraduate college men in the study cheated even though they said they loved their partners and wanted to stay with them. His study concluded that men don't want to be honest because it often results in termination of a relationship.
This is a WHOA Baby to me.
I agree with Eric Anderson that men crave sex with women. And guess what, it is a natural and human part of the way their brains function. Dr. Louann Brizendine, author and brain scientist, writes that the sexual center in the male brain is 2-1/2 times larger than the female brain. What if women focused on the power that lives within them instead of trying to control others behavior.
I recently had an experience at a party where I was speaking to a married man, some might say flirting although with no ill intention on my part. He was clearly enjoying our interaction when his wife came over and slapped their coats in his lap. The story I am making up about that is she did not like our interaction. It made her jealous or she felt some competition with me, even though she was a beautiful woman and her husband clearly respected and loved her. I will admit it is all an assumption.
What I know is that if a woman feels at peace within herself, she is at peace with what is happening all around her. When a woman feels her inner beauty and sexuality falling in love with what she sees in the mirror everyday, there is a courage, confidence and grace that is available to create honest, loving and extraordinary relationships.
Finding inner beauty and sexuality means finding more inner peace. This sets the foundation for the possibility of extraordinary relationships.