“Gossip,” as defined by Wikipedia, is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It derives from the bedroom at the time of childbirth when the pregnant female’s relatives and neighbors (an all female event) would gather and chatter about others outside the birthing room.  The term is often used to refer to the spreading of dirt and excited details of scandals.  On the flip side, gossip can also be used to contribute to social bonding.  With the technology of the computer and internet, gossip can spread in an instant.

So what kind of messages about others do we want to spread like wildfire in our world today?  Aw come on, Coach Betty, it is so much fun to talk about other people and get all the juicy details of their struggles! Right?  I say wrong, because I am a part of creating a new positive consciousness, and the drama of negative gossip becomes an obstacle to the needed collaboration in solving the crisis level of problems today. If we are going to live, not just talk about, a new vision of a healthy and balanced planet for people on the planet, then we must STOP the addiction to “needing to know” the inner scum of other people’s life.  We are human, after all, and not a single one of us can claim perfection to my knowledge. So would you like your dirty laundry hanging in the air?

Women created the word for gossip, and now I want to invite and encourage women to foster the good gossip that is an actual path to inner beauty. I love playing with the positive sides of what words mean.  How can we turn “gossip” into that social bonding experience that creates good juice on the planet and spreads near and far with a click?

For starters:

• Taken from an old saying my mother drummed into my head “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
• When you share anything at all about another, evaluate where the information comes from.  Does it come from your own personal experience, another person who may or may not have gotten the facts straight, or from a media source.  Remember, it is not illegal to present false news. 
• When you have spoken about someone who is not present and accounted for, how does it make you feel inside? Do you feel relaxed, calm and at peace or do you feel tense, tight and uneasy?

Inner beauty is felt as a peaceful relaxation, and your body knows it if you tune in.  Are you are spreading the good word, or contributing to more chaos and havoc among us? Spread the good word, and let’s take this opportunity to transform the world into what is possible!

If you resonating with this article, then YOU are a beautiful soul I want to know about so I can spread the good word about you.  Join my newsletter at CoachBettyLIVE.com by entering your name and email in the upper right hand corner of this page, and/or “Like” my fan page at www.facebook.com/coachbetty, and let me know more about you. Who knows, you may just end up on the radio with CoachBettyLIVE.

Have you ever experienced an encounter with the opposite sex where you felt like you were communicating so precisely, in direct language, and your intentions were completely misconstrued? Okay…it is a rhetorical question.  How can we learn to understand and honor our differences with love, compassion and an open heart?  My intention with the following essay on men and women is to open the conversation in a healthy way.

Masculine and Feminine characteristics are clearly very different energies.  A man who exudes strong masculinity is often a lone wolf, independent, competitive, physically strong, forgetful, logical, tough, and acutely self aware.  And what I mean by acutely self aware is a focus on taking care of his needs without consideration of what his female companion might need.  Some call this self-centered, and I don’t as it is too negative for the many good things about taking care of your own needs.

What you will notice with a women who lives from an extreme feminine place is a gentle collaborator, nurturing, loving, adapting, empathizing with a relaxed receptivity to change.  Often women are co-dependent because they receive what comes to them with the intention of nurturing and loving it back into balance.  It’s a woman’s intuition that allows her to feel what is out of balance.  The generous way a woman serves in this capacity is a beautiful thing. However, if a woman is not tuned into her own needs and inner nature or intuition, life can easily become unhealthy in relationship with a man. 

This is far from an exhaustive list of characteristics, and yet the stark contrast of  energies is apparent. We all carry both energies within, and each person has a unique spot on the spectrum from extreme masculine to extreme feminine. From the extremes noted here, it is a no wonder women lose their identity in relationships, and men are so confused by women and their flip flop behavior.

From this woman’s perspective, I have displayed the feminine characteristics noted above for most of my life.  I want a man to honor all the aspects of my softer and nurturing approach to life and relationships. My experience is that men love my femininity during sensual and sexual times, and then “don’t get too emotional on me now” can be the refrain when I have overextended my empathizer and need some time to recenter myself. 

As I understand men and their energies, I see a strength in mind and body men possess that is calming and peaceful to my inner soul. There is a determination that I admire from the toughness and competitive male stance.  Forgetfulness is a vulnerable and innocent place that has a sweet honesty.  These are the perceptions and attitudes I am embracing to fully appreciate and love our amazing men.

We need to take responsibility individually for the impact of our own true nature and rebalance ourselves. The world needs our best efforts. I am curious how our communication would change with the ability to stand in each other’s shoes, and see the positive side of our opposing characteristics?

What do you do to honor others?

“Fraud is considered white collar crime. An Illinois survey shows that 55.2% said that fraud crimes do more to undermine the morality of society than street crimes. More money is lost through white collar crime than as a result of street crime. National survey of fraud victimization show the total annual losses exceed $40 billion.”

This is from a report “Personal Fraud: the victims and the scams,” by Richard Titus of the National Institute of Justice.

Why did I get victimized?  What I have reflected upon is as follows:

1)  I was careless…my message is one that I believe anything is possible.  I believe in miracles and was convinced it was my time to receive one.  Because of that I did not thoroughly investigate the sources offering me this incredible opportunity.

2)  I am not aware of these scams as I rarely listen to news.  I stopped watching news regularly as a means to stay more positive, and create a healthy and uplifting world for myself.

3)  I was susceptible to this offer because it touched me so deeply in my heart.  The thought that I could be paid well to coach small groups of people who do not have access to such services was a miracle I wanted to believe in.

4)  I am a risk taker, and therefore even more susceptible to these crimes.

5)  Scams like this play on a person’s compassion and generosity and I fell for it hook, line and sinker, as they say.

6)  Shocking, but true, 10-20% of people victimized in this way have chronic health problems and those vulnerable are the best targets.

WHAT TO DO IF YOU SUSPECT FRAUD:

1)  Do your due diligence in investigating those in question.  Call and speak to a live person, look at websites, get name, address, phone numbers.

2)  DO NOT accept money orders.  Tell them to make a wire transfer right into your account.

3)  Insist on US checks

4)  Do not rely on your bank for the best information.  IF you deposit checks or money orders, be specific when the checks will clear NOT when the money is available.

The Organic and Orgasmic nature of this is that I am not resisting the truth, and am authentically sharing the story.  Life is rich and juicy in many ways!

If this information helps 1 person…it will have been a good day!

Gina Ogden, PhD who is a marriage and family sex therapist, finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better.  ”One reason people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves.”  Great sex begins with self-esteem.  If the sex is loving, connected and what you want, it raises it.”

This is why I am so passionate about helping women rediscover their beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror.   Imagine how your enjoyment of sex would change if you always felt good about YOU…and then having sex made you feel even better!  Now that’s a WHOA BABY!

What if you felt beautiful and sexual with anyone, anytime and anywhere?  How would your life be different?

This CoachBettyLIVE episode was Coach Betty sharing a bit of her personal journey and outlining the 5 step path to Orgasmic Fulfillment.  You can listen to the entire show below.

Highlights from the show:

5 Easy Principles to Inner Peace, Passion and Pleasure AND Orgasmic Fulfillment

PAUSE is step one to begin to feel more alive sexually right away

PONDER is assessing what is working and your own level of satisfaction

PLAN is how to prepare for YOU and your next sexual experience

PROSPECT is how to dig deep and explore the orgasmic possibilities in life

POP is how you surrender and allow your life to be organic and orgasmic

Whether you are in a long term relationship, newly in love, or single, Coach Betty will guide you to create an inner orgasmic nature that allows you to feel confident and courageous to step out and BE the beautiful you.  If you follow the principles of the 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure, you will fall in love with yourself every time you look in the mirror.

Listen here by clicking on the link below.

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Rebecca Costa is a sociobiologist whose unique expertise is to spot and explain emerging trends in relationship to human evolution, global markets, and new technologies. A thought-leader and provocative new voice in the mold of Jared Diamond, Thomas Friedman and Malcolm Gladwell, Costa is part biologist, psychologist and entrepreneur, whose insights result from examining the “big picture.” Her successful career identifying global trends, combined with her keen ability to perceive the unifying concept within diverse and interrelated fields, uniquely qualify her to present a multi-disciplinarian approach to complex, systemic issues affecting our world today.  To learn more www.rebeccacosta.com or www.watchmansrattle.com, call her at 831-620-1505 or 831-521-9150, or email her at rebeccacosta@yahoo.com.

To learn more about the brain excercises that Rebecca talked about go to PositScience.com.

We lost our connection with Bob Banner so Coach Betty shared some stories from the movie “Laughology” which Bob will talk more about when he is on the show on December 14, 2010.

Did you know?

• children laugh 300 times a day and adults only 15
• laughter was the original peace signal
• The Laughing Doctor in Mumbai, India stopped practicing medicine because he found laughter was more healing
• laughing regularly helps you live 8+ years longer
• laughter is a natural anti-depressant

More about the healing benefits of laughter in December with Bob Banner…tune in live to hear more on Tuesday, December 14th at 12:00 (noon).  For now…enjoy the first CoachBettyLIVE with Rebecca Costa and Coach Betty by listening to the audio above.

Coach Betty is very exciting to announce that she has joined the Transformation Talk Radio Network, and will begin to live stream an hour long radio show beginning Tuesday, November 16th at 12:00 PT.  WooHoo…the network has an established audience of over 400,000 listeners from the internet and terrestrial radio stations in Seattle and New England.  The target audience is cultural creatives and progressive thinkers.  Check it out at transformationtalkradio.com.

Coach Betty will continue to interview artists, experts and innovators who have a message of natural healing.  Her focus will be on the healing power of music and dance, alternative health, and innovative ideas of how we can heal ourselves, our relationships and our planet.  Sprinkled throughout each show, she will continue to share her thoughts and ideas about living an organic and orgasmic life.  Each show will be action packed!

This collaboration comes after meeting Dr. Pat Baccili who has been doing internet and terrestrial radio since 2003.  Please check out Dr. Pat’s site at drpatlive.com and you will see that this network and CoachBettyLIVE is going to transform the way we are living.  Are you ready for some positivity??

Stay tuned for much more to share on this exciting new venture!

The Natural Healers join Coach Betty in the celebratory song, Carnaval, composed by Fa7 and performed by Fa7, Yvette Summers, and Inor Sotolongo. As we performed this show in Paris and in Frankfurt, Germany, this piece always inspired people to get up and dance. The celebratory feeling at the end of each show inspired all of the performers to keep creating more good juice and goodness to share with the world.

You will find a RECIPE for Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life in this segment. We hope it inspires you to create some of your own ingredients to an Organic and Orgasmic Life. Please share yours by submitting a comment.

To learn more about the performers, contact information is below. We all wish you the path to YOUR Organic and Orgasmic Life!

www.CoachBetty.com
www.myspace.com/thenaturalhealers
www.myspace.com/yvettesummers
www.myspace.com/Fa7
www.myspace.com/inorsotolongo

The Organic & Orgasmic Paris Show Cast

How can we live organically and orgasmically in our relationships?

In this segment, Coach Betty shares excerpts from noted experts John Gray, Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell, John Gottman, and Dr. Louann Brizendine who share research and data on the nature of men and women. They offer some findings about relationships which are bound to give you some food for thought. With a 67% divorce rate, we could certainly use some good creative thinking for our marriages AND all relationships.  In my experience with Rheumatoid Arthritis, I know that when I work with nature…moving thru life with little resistance or, as I like to say, organically…then things run more smoothly.

What is the most important relationship we have in life?  Tune in below to hear Coach Betty’s perspective.

The beautiful tune “Ces Yeux La” on this video was composed by Fa7, beautiful soul inside and out. Here is what he had to say about what this song means. “I wrote this song when I was living in Carnon last year. I had a flat just near the beach; we walked 5 seconds to cross the road and it was the sea. A beautiful place. I wrote this after an argument with my ex-girlfriend. I was sitting on a bench late night summer with my guitar, singin some old song for the birds when the melody came to me and then the lyrics. It was like a psychological work on me after this argument to find out all the reasons that existed for me to keep on in this relationship. And I found a lot. The most important one was how I loved the way she looked at me. Those particular eyes we all have when we love someone. It was one of those night in august with hundreds of shooting stars in the sky. After this I came back to take my air bed and I slept on the beach with a wave music. It was great in fact now that I remember it.”

Where can you spread love by looking deeply into someone’s eyes? “Ces Yeux La” may inspire you to do just that!

For more information about Coach Betty…www.CoachBetty.com

For more information about Fa7 and “The Natural Healers“…www.myspace.com/thenaturalhealers

The Organic & Orgasmic Paris Show Cast

I am so pleased to present the first segment of our live Paris show presented on July 9th, 2010, “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life.” Coach Betty and The Natural Healers team up to give you a little conversation, music and dance… the ultimate in Edu-tainment.

In this segment you will learn exactly what I mean by an Organic and Orgasmic life, and how I found my way down this path. You will also find out what made Coach Betty and The Natural Healers deliver this message at this time in our world. Sit back, enjoy this introduction to a unique show that moved people in Europe to consider what their own Organic and Orgasmic life would look like. What would yours include?

The song “La Brise,” was composed by Fa7, who writes all his music in nature. Coming back to our true natures is the mission of our work and this amazing show. More information can be found at www.myspace.com/thenaturalhealers and www.coachbetty.com.

Coach Betty shares her own personal healing story, and quotes and shares expertise from her amazing guests on CoachBettyLIVE.com. The Natural Healers, Yvette Summers, Inor Sotolongo and Fa7, weave in their musical and dancing talents to demonstrate the power of natural healing.

The venue is a quaint Ethiopian restaurant in the arts district of Frankfurt, Kulter & Kunstraum Lalibela e.V. These memorable shows will leave you with a smile as you experience a taste of what is possible when you tap into your inner good juice. See below for all the details.

She shares some great stories of how when you get pushed to the wall, you can come out standing strong.  She wisely recommends that women stand back and analyze instead of jumping to emotions.  Her 3 step approach to confrontation with grown up bullies is #1 – Agree, #2 – Smile, #3 – Think “Eat My Dust!”

Her sales strategy of helping others achieve their goals is so refreshing in our turbulent times.  She is full of ideas and suggestions for how to keep learning and thriving in these uncertain times.  To reach Elinor (pictured above):

1-800-704-1499
www.SmoothSale.net

Adee shares her story of how she made the first meeting with Coach Betty turn collaborative.  Her philosophy is people with similar visions working together is what makes change happen, but that wasn’t her first thought.

What do we need to admit to before we can truly collaborate with each other?  Listen in and find out.

To contact Adee:

Adee Swanson
www.adeeswanson.com
(707) 328-6026

One of Christine’s core values is FUN so you can have a blast working with Christine and end up with a job you love.  Not bad…it is what we at Women on Air want for you.  Let the path be at least half the fun.

If you are one of the 15 million + out of a job, listen in and see how you too can come into your own with your career.  Check out Christine’s website at:

www.balancingyourcareer.com

Women on Air encourage you to look at your relationships and see which ones need some inside out cleaning up. Listen to Giles personal story of how she handled it.

Enjoy!

Note the disturbing news about our planet and the honeybees in this conversation with the Dirt Diva. Stop and take notice news…we call that WOA Baby News (Women on Air = WOA). Learn what you can do to begin to turn the tide of honeybees disappearing from our earth.

We all need to step into our queen bee-ness and help bring nature back to its poetic balance.

Valuable websites with information are:

www.dirtdiva.com

www.ourwaterourworld.org

Also, for a free diagnosis of a plant or pest, contact your local Master Gardener desk. Bring your specimen to the main office and they’ll suggest the least toxic way to solve the problem. Find Master Gardeners in most cities across the US at the American Horticultural Society at www.ahs.org.

More news on the peace and balance of organic gardening coming soon…

Enjoy this Tao story which underlines the point that you never know what is really good or bad when things happen.

Who knows what is good and what is bad?

Most of us divide-up our life experiences into those we like and those we don’t. But the Taoist masters teach us to look deeper. In the flow of yin and yang everything is constantly changing into its opposite. The more we live with awareness of the inevitable tides of Tao, the more it seems superficial and misguided to reject some experience and try to hold onto others. It is better to accept the wholeness of life.

A traditional Taoist story illustrates these teachings. When an old farmer’s stallion wins a prize at a country show, his neighbor calls round to congratulate him, but the old farmer says, “Who knows what is good and what is bad?” The next day some thieves come and steal his valuable animal. His neighbor comes to commiserate with him, but the old man replies, “Who knows what is good and what is bad?” A few days later the spirited stallion escapes from the thieves and joins a herd of wild mares, leading them back to the farm. The neighbor calls to share the farmer’s joy, but the farmer says, “Who knows what is good and what is bad?” The following day, while trying to break in one of the wild mares, the farmer’s son is thrown and fractures his leg. The neighbor calls to share the farmer’s sorrow, but the old man’s attitude remains the same as before. The following week the army passes by, forcibly conscripting soldiers for a war, but they do not take the farmer’s son because he cannot walk. The neighbor thinks to himself, “Who knows what is good and what is bad?” and realizes that the old farmer must be a Taoist sage.

- from “The Tao Book” by Timothy Freke

Women on Air invite you to review the rules you have set up for yourself in life. Listen to this 10 minute podcast conversation with Coach Betty and Giles about how to re-write the rules and live the life you were intended to live.

What do we mean by that…listen in and see. We want you to understand that you do live by some rulebook…becoming conscious of what limitations and constraints (the rules) you have set up for yourself allows you to rip those pages of the rulebook out. Then you can replace them with pages of the possibilities and potential that are dying to be expressed.

Start the new year with a redesigned rulebook that will bring you joy, love and inner peace. Change is the word of the year…let’s all work on changing into more peaceful and positives selves to create the world we want!

In addition, I had an experience with joy this week that I want to share…maybe you will get some of your own ideas from it. I was offered a basket of homemade bookmarks this week which all had the word “joy” stamped on them. As I was offered the basket to choose one, my friend said “choose joy.” She was offering me no other choice. What if we always made that choice?  Is joy just a choice away?

Consider what a joyful life from the inside out would look like for you…it all starts with your vision.

What simple joy can you begin with today?