Have this ever happened to you?  It is really pretty funny when you think about it! 

A woman is a person who, if she says to a man, "Never mind, I'll do it myself," and he then lets her, and she gets mad. 

He says, "Now what are you mad about?"

And she says, "Well if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you."

Internationally recognized artist, Pablo Solomon, describes what he looks for in a model. "I look for a healthy, vigorous, confident woman who projects strength. She has a uniqueness about her, and I notice her posture." Pablo passionately shares what he has learned about women and beauty from pursuing the art of sensual women. His experience of the transformation of when a woman steps into her inner beauty and sexuality…"it is a wondrous and joyous thing." Click listen to hear the whole interview and Coach Betty's 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure this holiday season.

Pablo Solomon is an internationally recognized artist and designer known primarily for his drawings and sculptures of dancers as well as for soothing and environmentally friendly designs. Please check out his work at www.pablosolomon.com Pablo has been featured in 23 books, numerous major magazines and  newspapers, radio, TV and film. Currently he lives and work with his wife Beverly on their historic 1856 ranch north of Austin, Texas. Beverly was a model and then in sales and marketing for Diane von Furstenberg, Revlon and Ralph Lauren. She currently runs their international art and design business.

Recognition for Environmental work and design– In 2009, Pablo was featured in an article by Mark Anderson for National Geographic about his part in the first Earth Day. He has have been involved in conservation most of his life. His wife Beverly and he not only talk conservation, but live it. Their 1856 historic ranch in the Texas Hill Country is not only a state historic site and official Texas Wild Scape, but was nominated in 1997-98 for the highest award in Texas for land stewardship. They have been featured in books, magazines, newspapers, and on TV.

To learn more, www.pablosolomon.com.

Recently Pablo's design work has gotten a lot of press. Bunny Wong featured Pablo as one of 3 top American designers in her article on how to achieve that hotel sleek and serene look in your home for Woman's Day and AOL.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/11-ideas-for-hotel-inspired-decor-512286/

Defining Trends Magazine for March 2010 did a feature on how Pablo's work has been a major influence on the resurgence of Black and White in art and design.

Iyna Caruso featured Pablo in an April 6, 2010 article for Wall Street Journal http://online.wsj.com/ad/article/sir-living-historic

Home design magazine Growers and Nomads describes Pablo as the choice of major publications for "the designer to interview".
http://www.growersandnomads.com/article/Incorporating+the+Things+You+Love+into+Home+Design

A man was walking on the beach one day and he found a bottle half buried in the sand. He decided to open it. Inside was a genie.

The genie said, "I will grant you three wishes and three wishes only."

The man thought about his first wish and decided, "I think I want 1 million dollars transferred to a Swiss bank account. POOF!

Next he wished for a Ferrari red in colorr. POOF! There was the car sitting before him.

He asked for his final wish, "I wish I was irresitible to women." POOF! He turned into a box of chocolates.

My guest, Sidney Andrews, encourages people to "Make a difference, instead of seeing a difference." Her compelling memoir documenting leaving her marriage and children to live with the woman of her dreams and a lesbian lifestyle is a story of courage and faith. She had to look inward deeper than she ever had before to find her authentic truth and then live it as an outcast initially. "The rewards are worth the price," she told me. To listen to the show in it's entirety, click listen below. It includes a WHOA Baby on how heads of models are being put on digitally generated bodies in advertising!!!

Sidney Andrews, author of "A Fall to New Heights,"  is a psychology graduate, retired nurse, motivational speaker, author and recipient of an Honorable Mention Award from the Hollywood Book Festival. She has a daily column called "Ask Sidney," on the Treasure Coast Happens, an online newspaper, covering the Treasure Coast in Florida.Her website is www.sidney-andrews.com. 

Her call to action:

Awareness brings knowledge, knowledge brings understanding, and understanding awakens us to living a life of compassion, tolerance and respect for all people. Look deeper then your physical eyes can see. Look at each other through the eyes of spirit.

Don't just simply judge another for their look, dress, lifestyle or sexual preference; talk with them and listen to their feeling, fears, hopes and dreams, because you'll find, they're not unlike your own.

Take on the challenge of living the best life that you envision for yourself, and allow others the same opportunity.

What would happen if you ALWAYS assumed the best?  It would mean giving people the benefit of the doubt no matter what prior circumstances may have taken place that would cause you to question their intentions. When you assume the best, you can actually create the space for the person to step into their best. 

Happy Orgasmic People leads to World Peace!

You know my guest, Jaiya is a kindred spirit. This articulate and grounded lady has some pretty profound "real" sex education for you on this episode. Her goal is to eradicate sexual shame, and empower the healing force of sex in all of our bodies. Her demonstration of how to bring out your seductress on the show will help you see how you can become a happy orgasmic person. To listen to the amazing Jaiya, click the button below.

Jaiya is a world-renowned sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the founder of New World Sex Education; a company dedicated to using "real" sex education to help men and women get the sex lives they desire.  Jaiya understands that throughout life sexuality changes and strives to meet her students wherever they are on their personal path to greater pleasure.  She's been through many sexual stages and honestly shares her personal experience from pain to pleasure.  Jaiya is passionate about helping women and men overcome sexual issues, usually stemming from a lack of education, that may hold them back from exquisite sex as their birthright.  She believes that sex isn't just something you do, but something that is part of being human and being alive.  You may have seen Jaiya on the Tyra Banks Show, TLC, CNN, Oxygen Network, or Playboy TV.  She's even shared the stage with self-help guru Tony Robbins. Jaiya is  a unique mix of Dr. Ruth, Lady Gaga and a Yogi; through her dynamic teachings she's helping women and men reach their full erotic potential.

Find out more at www.sexisyou.com.

As we begin to understand the differences in the male and female brain regarding our sexual desires and libidos, it feels important to examine the way we view monogamy in a long term sustainable relationship.

Monogamy, as defined by wikipedia, is one + marriage; a form of marriage in which an individual has only one spouse at any one time. Monogamous sex is to have one sexual partner at a time irrespective of marriage or reproduction.

We see in our media, men being lambasted for having sexual encounters outside of the relationship/marriage. In the US, it doesn't matter what profession or social status, men are finding the need for pleasure outside of their primary relationship.  We do not hear about women much in the media, even though there are some that report their infidelity is as common as in men. I, personally, find this difficult to believe as the scientific evidence is confirmed that the sexual center in the male brain is 2-1/2 times larger than the female brain. Dr. Louann Brizendine, author of "The Female Brain," and "The Male Brain," writes that adolescent boys think about sex every 9 seconds while adolescent girls think about it once a day. This is some mighty powerful wisdom to consider in why men are having all those sexual encounters…imagine if your brain just couldn't turn it off the desire. I also take a stand for women finding their true inner sexuality so that they can experience more pleasure during sex which makes a man more turned on to have sex with YOU.

However, underneath the sexual desires of the male brain, lies a need for a deep and meaningful connection to another human being. A woman has that same need.  A sexually monogamous relationship is one pathway for that to happen. 

Although there are plenty of arguments, about the boring and routine nature of monogamous sex in a long term relationship, there are three significant aspects to monogamy that, in my mind, make it the best pathway to deep and meaningful connection and sustainability.

    1)    Why are we in relationship with others? I believe relationships, such as marriage, are there to reflect back to us who we are in our deepest truth. When a sacred space of trust and love is the foundation for sexual monogamy, the potential to learn about yourself is ripe for the taking. We can'?t see ourselves the way the world sees us, so our loved ones give us feedback on our impact. When you commit to a healthy sexually monogamous relationship, the stage is set for deep truths to be shared and revealed. When we share ourselves with others (more than one lover at a time), I don't see how it is possible to achieve the same depth of connection. Do women want depth more then men???

    2)    In a sexually monogamous relationship that is honest and healthy, the atmosphere is one of calm, peace, and love. There is complete transparency with no need to hide any details of your life. The more that is exposed, received, and appreciated by your partner, the closer the bond.

    3)    An obvious advantage is the safety in knowing that, as long as you and your partner are free of disease, there is no transmission of STDs. This also provides a safety net of good health.

Let me acknowledge that these points rely on an honesty and integrity to the highest degree for the sacred possibilities of deep and loving connection.

For me personally, I like the phrase "hot monogamy" shared by one of my inner beauty experts, Magatte Wade.Give me the familiar mixed with some ongoing curiosity and adventure, and I am one satisfied sexual being!

Thoughts, reactions…bring it on!