This is one of the healthiest feelings inside of your body. It's good for your overall well-being, AND speifically your immune and cardiovascular system. This is what I call "inner sexuality." It is healing. Marvin Gaye has been singing about since the 80s, and the song is on the list of 500 ALL TIME Greatest Hits. Coach Betty Louise explores the idea of using pleasure as medicine in this episode. What does it require? …honesty with your inner self.

In the second half of the show, Lori Fields, Founder of REALBeautyIs.com shares her passionate message for women "YOU matter. No matter what you are doing in your life, it matters." 

Lori is a NYS License Clinical Social Worker, Internet entrepreneur, health and fitness enthusiast and Founder of the Real Beauty Is Movement. She has dedicated her life to teaching women how to feel good about themselves by tapping into their power, living their life on purpose and defining beauty on their own terms.

Lori's innovative method for empowering women derives from her background in clinical social work, health and fitness and entrepreneurship. Through her compassion, focus, clarity, and determination, Lori creates a supportive space for women to awaken into their most beautiful and confident self. 

You can learn more at www.realbeautyis.com.

Special guest, Laura Fenamore, CEO of Body Image Mastery, shares her amazing journey from 4th grade obesity to rock bottom drug addict at 24 years old to choosing life and transformation. Look at the photos below…they tell the story. Here is a woman who dug deep and found her inner beauty. To listen to the whole show, click the listen button below.

Weight Release & Body Image Coach Laura Fenamore is on a mission to guide women around the world to love what they see in the mirror, one pinky at a time, so they can unlock the secrets to a healthy weight and start loving their lives as soon as possible.

Her popular Body Image Mastery program is celebrated by hundreds of women who have lost weight, reclaimed self-esteem, and started bold, happy lives with Laura and her proven programs as their guide.

Having overcome her own battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, Laura released over 100 pounds 24 years ago to begin a journey to guide other women to live more joyous, balanced lives. The author of the forthcoming book Weightless: 7 Tools to Love Your Body (and Lose Weight For Good) and a frequent contributor to local and national media – including First for Women, Ladies Home Journal, the Dr. Pat Show and blog contributor on Betty Confidential, Daily Love and Positively Positive.  Laura believes that self-love and self-care is where the transformation begins. Learn more about her programs, invite her to speak or contribute to your program or conference, or place pre-orders for her book today at OnePinky.com.

In this remarkable journey of life, we are confronted with choices at every bend and turn. What helps guide your choices? What is the difference between a good choice and a bad choice?  Experience has shown me that when I make a good choice, it comes from my intuition. Choices that hold some regret for me are when I have let outside sources override my inner truth. I inevitably feel bad when my core values have been compromised, AND I have no one to blame but myself.

I am such an advocate for nourishing and strengthening our inner world as it is a key to happiness, peace and joy. Let me share a helpful way to understand your inner world, and break it down so that you can see the numerous ways to develop your ability to make decisions that will honor you and your values.

You may have heard of the Wheel of Life, which illustrates how to examine 8-10 different aspects of your life and rate your satisfaction in each area. This is a beautiful snapshot of your life in the moment and how much it is flowing or NOT flowing. I have taken this same concept and applied it to the inner world of YOU.

I am starting with 8 different aspects of what makes up the inner world of YOU. There are more, but this is to demonstrate how dissecting down can create more avenues for simple and easy changes to enhance your state of well being, and good feelings about yourself. 

My mission is to help women rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves everytime they look in the mirror. Inner Beauty and Inner Sexuality are two aspects of your inner world. Cultivating your inner beauty and sexuality has impact on the other 6 aspects of  peace, truth, happiness, strength, love, and juice.  And just as with the wheel of life it goes with each one of these areas…you nurture one and they all get fed. 

Below are simple ways to feed each aspect of your inner world:

Beauty: When you look in the mirror…look past the blemishes into your eyes. The more you practice, the deeper you go. 

Sexuality: Become more sensual. Feel the weather on your skin. Is it warm, wet, cold, windy…just feel it. Sensuality brings you into the moment.

Peace: Pause and Breathe and remember there is not another soul on the planet like you SO you will never really fit in and that is a good thing.

Truth: The most reliable truth you have to listen to is your body. What signal is your body giving you about your inner world?

Happiness:  Laughter is the quickest way to happiness. Watch a funny movie, read jokes or contact someone you know who brings light and laughs to you.

Strength: REMOVE victim mentality from your language and thoughts. There is no one to blame for how things are working for you.

Love: Hug yourself every morning before you get out of bed…even if you have someone else to hug you…hug yourself too.

Juice: Place your hand on your lower belly (in between your pubic bone and belly button) and envision a fountain of healing power living right underneath your hand.

The more you cultivate your inner world, the more you will be able to relate to anyone, anytime and anywhere with courage, confidence and grace.

Why does it take 100 sperm to fertilize an egg?

Because Men won't ask for directions.

Life was torn apart by the accidental death of Anita and Rod’s 16-year-old, only child. Their world became a circle with no corner to hide: A noose that slowly, over many years, strangled all desire to maintain their established life. From the beginning, they refused to acknowledge the potential of sexual closure, common to such tragedy. Their intimacy evolved in ways few therapists consider. Constantly expanding their sexual boundaries provided the highly charged spiritual fuel necessary to meld.

Thirteen years after their son’s death, Rod sold his busy chiropractic office. They designed an unorthodox, emotionally charged focus: A profession where they could work together while continuing to help others. Combining their skills of Chiropractic and Art Therapy, Rod and Anita made a dramatic choice to go where few will ever consider; a place far too emotionally dangerous for most. For ten-years they worked as Sexual Surrogates creating a private, safe and clean environment for women, men and couples to experience their sexual fantasies. During those years their relationship flourished. Their sexual knowledge and compassion for others increased dramatically as they physically and emotionally (always together) explored the sexual dreams of thousands.  

Combining these ten-years of sexual research with their journey in search of an existence for their son is the focus of Rod and Anita’s book, Love is For Sharing: A passionate autobiography contrasting their battle through grief with the humor and ever expanding vitality of sex; this is an erotic book for modern couples wishing to break apart stereotyped walls of gender biased communication.

Rod and Anita have been married for 44-years.  www.loveisforsharing.com.

Happiness is an inside job all the way! Have you ever found yourself in a situation in your life where your outer world looked happy, but your inner world was not happy at all. It's a cover up for our vulnerabilities.

Why is it so hard to live an authentic life? Answer: Pressure, pressure, pressure from the outside world. The systems that surround us do not want individuals exerting their uniqueness and forging their own path.  The fear is, that it would be hard to control.  

How can we wake up, rise up, and take charge of our own happiness without having to overthrow the government?  My vision is to create a path of pleasure medicine and explore the non-violent way of inner beauty and sexuality. Men and women alike, are powerful beings when we experience the juicy place of the feminine within.  

Ponder this…

What takes your breath away?

What three words describe the feeling of beauty?

Where does pleasure live in your body?

If even for the few short moments you read this article, you are accessing your happy place which is directly connected to the inner beauty and sexuality place which leads to an authentic glow place that vibrates out into the world.

What a woman says: " This place is a mess. C'mon, you and I need to clean up. Your stuff is lying on the floor, and you'll have no clothes to wear if we don't do laundry right now!"

What a man hears: "blah, blah, blah, blah C'mon blah, blah, blah, blah, you and I blah, blah, blah, on the floor blah, blah, blah, no clothes blah, blah, blah, blah, right now!

Dr. Taffy Wagner is a Certified Educator in Personal Finances, Money and Marriage Advocate and an Ordained Minister. She is also the author of "Bride and Groom Money Talk FAQ," "Debt Dilemma," and "Homebuyer’s Helper (How to Have and Hold on to your House)." Dr. Wagner has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The Denver Business Journal, Bob Brinker Money Talk, AOL Black Voices, The Associated Press, US News and World Report, Called Magazine and Woman’s Day regarding handling money before and after saying “I Do”. She provides premarital and post-marital financial counseling. She conducts seminars for individuals, couples, single parents and small groups regarding personal finances, home ownership and women’s issues. Dr. Wagner is the financial columnist for www.BlackBride.com, www.Adviceandinfo.com and a contributing writer to Black Bride and Groom Magazine. She holds a Doctorate of Ministry in Biblical Counseling, Master’s degree in Human Resources Management, a Bachelor’s degree in Business Admin/Management and an Associates degree in Paralegal Studies. She is a veteran of the United States Armed Forces. Dr. Wagner resides in the metro Denver area with her husband, Eric and their twins, Erica and Cody.  

Dr. Take the red pill after breakfast with one glass of water.

Woman: Ok

Dr. Take the blue pill after lunch with two glasses of water.

Woman: Ok

Dr. Take the yellow pill after lunch with three glasses of water.

After giving these instructions to the woman, she asks, "Can you tell me what's wrong with me Dr.?"

Dr.: Yeah. You do not drink enough water.

IT'S ALL IN THE WATER!!

Highlights:

Beauty is an inside job, as Cynthia Desoto, author and beauty research, explained from her book "Changing the Way the World Thinks About Beauty." She shared that when directly asked what attributes make a person beautiful, only 15% of the answers were about physical appearance. What about the other 85%?

Karen Carlson, Nurse Practitioner from the University of Washington's Women's Health Clinic, said that regular sex is as important to overall health as eating and sleeping. Imagine giving sex the same attention?

Nicole Daedone, author of "Slow Sex: the Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm," believes that women are hungering for orgasms, just not what is on the menu. Her Foundation, One Taste, teaches a practice of orgasmic meditation to both men and women.

When we discover this place of inner beauty and sexuality, then we can bring that juicy energy to all of our relationships. It allows us to be receptive to the beautiful people we have in our lives. Alison Armstrong, designer of the course "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women," says we must honor ourselves to learn receptivity.

These are just a few of the goodies…listen to the entire show by clicking the listen button below.

"I have an earache.."

2000 B.C. – Here, eat this root.

1000 A.D. – That root is heathen. Here, say this prayer."

1850 A.D. – That prayer is superstition. Here, drink this potion.

1940 A.D. – That potion is snake oil. Here, swallow this pill.

1985 A.D. – That pill is ineffective. Here, take this antibiotic.

2000 A.D. – That antibiotic is artificial. Here, eat this root.

What happens when you make a promise to yourself, and then you don't follow through with it? Disappointment and a ding in your  confidence is usually the result. On January 1st we set out with the best of intentions, and then in a short time that positive idea turns into a negative. 

A survey shows that almost 1/2 of Americans set new year's resolutions, and only 8% are truly successful in achieving those changes. What happens to the rest of those who set out to make some positive changes? Why do we fall back into the old comfort zone patterns, even when we know they don't serve us anymore? How can we set ourselves up to break old patterns, and manifest our deepest desires?

The 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure are running to the rescue again. This 5 step process can be applied to any situation in your life to create a life well lived…the organic and orgasmic way. Let's take a look at how it works in making new year's resolutions.

Before determining how you want to begin the new year, PAUSE, and breathe into your lower belly. Do this 3 times before moving to step 2. This simple step will allow you to form your ideas from a grounded and centered place.

Step 2 is to PONDER what aspects of your life you would like to improve or change.  Make a list of what changes would create more joy and love. Get creative…maybe watching the sunset or sitting under the stars once a week. Spend 30 minutes writing down anything and everything.

Choose no more than 3 ideas on your list to make a PLAN. Your plans need to be simple and specific. I will start my day with inspirational readings at least 3 days a week on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Write it on your calendar from January through March. After 3 months, you can assess whether the idea brought you the desired result. You will have learned something, and can then determine what is next. Give a new idea at least 3 months.

The step of PROSPECTING is a key to setting yourself up for success.  PROSPECT, in this sense, means taking an extensive view and giving mental consideration to your change. Write down your compelling reason for making the change. What will it bring into your life? Place this on a sticky note where you will see it daily. Give consideration to what people will support and encourage you, and ask them for help. Create an affirmation or mantra to re-program your brain. Repeat it at least 10 times a day. Something like, "I make positive changes in my highest healing good and the highest healing good of all." 

And now you are ready to POP your happier and healthier self out into the world. We want more of your juiciness in the world…aren't you ready to make your unique contribution?

As we all step up and create the resolve necessary to change our individual lives, then we have the power to shift the entire planet to a peaceful, passionate, and pleasurable place to live. 

Are you with me? 

Have this ever happened to you?  It is really pretty funny when you think about it! 

A woman is a person who, if she says to a man, "Never mind, I'll do it myself," and he then lets her, and she gets mad. 

He says, "Now what are you mad about?"

And she says, "Well if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you."

Pablo Solomon is an internationally recognized artist and designer known primarily for his drawings and sculptures of dancers as well as for soothing and environmentally friendly designs. Please check out his work at www.pablosolomon.com Pablo has been featured in 23 books, numerous major magazines and  newspapers, radio, TV and film. Currently he lives and work with his wife Beverly on their historic 1856 ranch north of Austin, Texas. Beverly was a model and then in sales and marketing for Diane von Furstenberg, Revlon and Ralph Lauren. She currently runs their international art and design business.

Recognition for Environmental work and design– In 2009, Pablo was featured in an article by Mark Anderson for National Geographic about his part in the first Earth Day. He has have been involved in conservation most of his life. His wife Beverly and he not only talk conservation, but live it. Their 1856 historic ranch in the Texas Hill Country is not only a state historic site and official Texas Wild Scape, but was nominated in 1997-98 for the highest award in Texas for land stewardship. They have been featured in books, magazines, newspapers, and on TV.

To learn more, www.pablosolomon.com.

Recently Pablo's design work has gotten a lot of press. Bunny Wong featured Pablo as one of 3 top American designers in her article on how to achieve that hotel sleek and serene look in your home for Woman's Day and AOL.

http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/life/11-ideas-for-hotel-inspired-decor-512286/

Defining Trends Magazine for March 2010 did a feature on how Pablo's work has been a major influence on the resurgence of Black and White in art and design.

Iyna Caruso featured Pablo in an April 6, 2010 article for Wall Street Journal http://online.wsj.com/ad/article/sir-living-historic

Home design magazine Growers and Nomads describes Pablo as the choice of major publications for "the designer to interview".
http://www.growersandnomads.com/article/Incorporating+the+Things+You+Love+into+Home+Design

A man was walking on the beach one day and he found a bottle half buried in the sand. He decided to open it. Inside was a genie.

The genie said, "I will grant you three wishes and three wishes only."

The man thought about his first wish and decided, "I think I want 1 million dollars transferred to a Swiss bank account. POOF!

Next he wished for a Ferrari red in colorr. POOF! There was the car sitting before him.

He asked for his final wish, "I wish I was irresitible to women." POOF! He turned into a box of chocolates.

Sidney Andrews, author of "A Fall to New Heights,"  is a psychology graduate, retired nurse, motivational speaker, author and recipient of an Honorable Mention Award from the Hollywood Book Festival. She has a daily column called "Ask Sidney," on the Treasure Coast Happens, an online newspaper, covering the Treasure Coast in Florida.Her website is www.sidney-andrews.com. 

Her call to action:

Awareness brings knowledge, knowledge brings understanding, and understanding awakens us to living a life of compassion, tolerance and respect for all people. Look deeper then your physical eyes can see. Look at each other through the eyes of spirit.

Don't just simply judge another for their look, dress, lifestyle or sexual preference; talk with them and listen to their feeling, fears, hopes and dreams, because you'll find, they're not unlike your own.

Take on the challenge of living the best life that you envision for yourself, and allow others the same opportunity.

You know my guest, Jaiya is a kindred spirit. This articulate and grounded lady has some pretty profound "real" sex education for you on this episode. Her goal is to eradicate sexual shame, and empower the healing force of sex in all of our bodies. Her demonstration of how to bring out your seductress on the show will help you see how you can become a happy orgasmic person. To listen to the amazing Jaiya, click the button below.

Jaiya is a world-renowned sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the founder of New World Sex Education; a company dedicated to using "real" sex education to help men and women get the sex lives they desire.  Jaiya understands that throughout life sexuality changes and strives to meet her students wherever they are on their personal path to greater pleasure.  She's been through many sexual stages and honestly shares her personal experience from pain to pleasure.  Jaiya is passionate about helping women and men overcome sexual issues, usually stemming from a lack of education, that may hold them back from exquisite sex as their birthright.  She believes that sex isn't just something you do, but something that is part of being human and being alive.  You may have seen Jaiya on the Tyra Banks Show, TLC, CNN, Oxygen Network, or Playboy TV.  She's even shared the stage with self-help guru Tony Robbins. Jaiya is  a unique mix of Dr. Ruth, Lady Gaga and a Yogi; through her dynamic teachings she's helping women and men reach their full erotic potential.

Find out more at www.sexisyou.com.

Monogamy, as defined by wikipedia, is one + marriage; a form of marriage in which an individual has only one spouse at any one time. Monogamous sex is to have one sexual partner at a time irrespective of marriage or reproduction.

We see in our media, men being lambasted for having sexual encounters outside of the relationship/marriage. In the US, it doesn't matter what profession or social status, men are finding the need for pleasure outside of their primary relationship.  We do not hear about women much in the media, even though there are some that report their infidelity is as common as in men. I, personally, find this difficult to believe as the scientific evidence is confirmed that the sexual center in the male brain is 2-1/2 times larger than the female brain. Dr. Louann Brizendine, author of "The Female Brain," and "The Male Brain," writes that adolescent boys think about sex every 9 seconds while adolescent girls think about it once a day. This is some mighty powerful wisdom to consider in why men are having all those sexual encounters…imagine if your brain just couldn't turn it off the desire. I also take a stand for women finding their true inner sexuality so that they can experience more pleasure during sex which makes a man more turned on to have sex with YOU.

However, underneath the sexual desires of the male brain, lies a need for a deep and meaningful connection to another human being. A woman has that same need.  A sexually monogamous relationship is one pathway for that to happen. 

Although there are plenty of arguments, about the boring and routine nature of monogamous sex in a long term relationship, there are three significant aspects to monogamy that, in my mind, make it the best pathway to deep and meaningful connection and sustainability.

    1)    Why are we in relationship with others? I believe relationships, such as marriage, are there to reflect back to us who we are in our deepest truth. When a sacred space of trust and love is the foundation for sexual monogamy, the potential to learn about yourself is ripe for the taking. We can'?t see ourselves the way the world sees us, so our loved ones give us feedback on our impact. When you commit to a healthy sexually monogamous relationship, the stage is set for deep truths to be shared and revealed. When we share ourselves with others (more than one lover at a time), I don't see how it is possible to achieve the same depth of connection. Do women want depth more then men???

    2)    In a sexually monogamous relationship that is honest and healthy, the atmosphere is one of calm, peace, and love. There is complete transparency with no need to hide any details of your life. The more that is exposed, received, and appreciated by your partner, the closer the bond.

    3)    An obvious advantage is the safety in knowing that, as long as you and your partner are free of disease, there is no transmission of STDs. This also provides a safety net of good health.

Let me acknowledge that these points rely on an honesty and integrity to the highest degree for the sacred possibilities of deep and loving connection.

For me personally, I like the phrase "hot monogamy" shared by one of my inner beauty experts, Magatte Wade.Give me the familiar mixed with some ongoing curiosity and adventure, and I am one satisfied sexual being!

Thoughts, reactions…bring it on!

Miss Beatrice, the church organist, was in her eighties and had never been married. She was admired for her sweetness and kindness to all.

One afternoon the pastor came to call on her and she showed him into her quaint sitting room.

She invited him to have a seat while she prepared tea.

As he sat facing her old Hammond organ, the young minister noticed a cut glass bowl sitting on top of it. The bowl was filled with water, and in the water floated, of all things, a condom. 

When she returned with tea and scones, they began to chat. The pastor tried to stifle his curiosity about the bowl of water and its strange floater, but soon it got the better of him and he could no longer resist.

"Miss Beatrice," he said, "I wonder if you would tell me about this." He pointed to the bowl. 

"Oh yes," she replied, "Isn't it wonderful? I was walking through the park a few months ago and I found this little package on the ground. The directions said to place it on the organ, keep it wet, and that it would prevent the spread of disease."

"Do you know I haven't had the flu all winter?"

Joy Nordenstrom, founder of "Joy of Romance," shares how she helps couples find that. She works with people no matter where they are in the spectrum of the relationship. This bright young woman has studied relationships and love with teachers like John Gottman and Dr. Helen Fisher for years, and then studied business and entrepreneurism. Joy has dissected the components of matchmaking and created a year long intensive process for her clients. If you are serious about finding your life partner, you need to look up Joy's business. Her video "Aphrodisiac Affiair: a comprehensive guide to creating a passionate feast designed to carry you from the kitchen to the bedroom (if you can make it that far)" is one answer to the  comfort zone phase of our relationships. To listen to the whole show, including a WHOA Baby on the Grace of Beauty, click listen button below.

Joy M. Nordenstrom is founder of Joy of Romance, Inc., a certified matchmaker, relationship coach, wedding proposal planner and special romantic event and vacation planner. Joy loves love and helping people cultivate, nourish and celebrate love in their lives. She believes that relationships are what make our lives rich and full. They are paramount to what makes the world go around. 

Joy received an MBA in Entrepreneurship, and a BA in both Communications and Economics, with a minor in Psychology. All degrees are from Mills College in Oakland. Joy is a certified matchmaker from the Matchmaking and Behavioral Science Institute in New York City. Joy lives and works in the San Francisco Bay Area with her love and 4-pound Yorkshire Terrier, Mighty Miss. To learn more, visit www.joyofromance.com or email her at joy@joyofromance.com. Follow her on Twitter at JoyofRomance and like the Joy of Romance fan page on Facebook.

She will be hosting her own radio show soon "Love, Sex and Food" on sextalkradionetwork.com.

Women are being called to drop into their feminine energy, and assist in returning the planet back into health. 

It starts with you, extends to your relationships, and then affects how we treat the earth and environment.

The following link will connect you with an opportunity to take a journey into your own inner beauty. What you find there will delight and amaze you!

InnerBeauty.WGRNradio.com

A young man goes into a drug store to buy condoms. The pharmacist says the condoms come in packs of 3, 9, or 12 and asks which the young man wants.

"Well," he said, "I've been seeing this girl for a while and she's really hot. I want the condoms because I think tonight's "the night." We're having dinner with her parents, and then we're going out. And I've got a feeling I'm gonna get lucky after that. Once she's had me, she'll want me all the time, so you'd better give me the 12 pack." 

The young man makes his purchase and leaves. 

Later that evening, he sits down to dinner with his girlfriend and her parents. He asks if he might give the blessing, and they agree. He begins the prayer, but continues praying with his head down for several minutes after everyone starts eating. 

The girl leans over and says, "You never told me that you were such a religious person.

He leans over to her and says, "You never told me that your father was a pharmacist."

There are also so many different ways that love is expressed…sometimes as simple as offering a cup of tea.  This is a sneak preview of the the conversation I had with Cindy Wolfe Boynton, playwright and actress of the one woman show, "The Right Time to Say I Love You" in New York City. Cindy's inspiring story and play documents the gift of turning a difficult time with family into something positive, uplifting, and inspiring.  Her story is one of courage and empowerment. Click the listen button below to hear the whole interview.

Cindy Wolfe Boynton is an award-winning journalist, playwright, poet and writing instructor whose work has appeared in The New York Times, Boston Globe,Connecticut Magazine and Better Health magazine, among other print and online publications. An English and journalism instructor at the Yale School of Medicine and Housatonic Community College, she also teaches popular creative and business writing workshops and is host of the weekly Literary New England Radio Show (www.litnewengland.com) that will launch on BlogTalk Radio Dec. 12, 2011.

Her one-woman play “Right Time to Say I Love You,” which focuses on Cindy’s struggles to take care of her mother with Parkinson’s disease, made its world premiere in October at the 2011 United Solo Theatre Festival and played to a sold-out crowd at New York City’s Stage Left Studio. Right Time to Say I Love You also recently received an 80^th Annual Writer’s Digest Writing Competition award and was selected as one of just 10 plays to be included in Indie Theatre Now’s digital collection celebrating the best of the 2011 United Solo Theatre Fest.

Please visit www.cindywolfeboynton.com or www.righttimetosay.com to learn more.

DAY 1:

Dear Diary,

All packed for the cruise ship — my nicest dresses, swimsuits, short sets. I'm very excited. Our local Red Hat chapter planned this "all-girls" trip. It will be my first one, and I can't wait!

DAY 2:

Dear Diary,

Spent the entire day at sea. Beautiful! Saw whales and dolphins. Met the Captain today — seems like a very nice man.

DAY 3:

Dear Diary,

At the pool today. Did some shuffleboard, hit golf balls off the deck. Captain invited me to join him at his table for dinner. Felt honored and had a wonderful time. He is very attractive and attentive.

DAY 4:

Dear Diary,

Won $800.00 in the ship's casino! Captain asked me to have dinner with him in his own cabin. Had a scrumptious meal, complete with caviar and champagne. He asked me to stay the night, but I declined. Told him I could not be unfaithful to my husband.

DAY 5:

Dear Diary,

Pool again today. Got sunburned, and I went inside to drink at piano-bar, stayed there for rest of day. Captain saw me, bought me several large drinks.

Really is quite charming. Again asked me to visit his cabin for the night. Again I declined. He told me if I did not let him have his way with me, he would sink the ship. I was shocked!

DAY 6:

Dear Diary,

Today I saved 1600 lives. Twice.

Fredrik Ejemo, actor, musician, and writer was born and raised in Stockholm, Sweden.  At age 17, Fredrik was discovered by a casting director and soon began a career in the performing arts. He starred in the television show ‘Three Crowns’, the #1 TV series in the country and then went on to star in ‘Friends and Enemies’, another  successful television series. Later he joined the prestigious Royal Dramatic Theater in Sweden and acted in several national theater productions. 

When he was 21 years old, Fredrik traveled to Thailand and had a spiritual awakening that deeply affected the course of his life. He dove into metaphysical studies, exploring ancient wisdom and mysticism in order to understand this new level of conscious awareness. Driven by a longing desire to heal his own dysfunctional family patterns, an absent father and wounded mother, led Fredrik on a quest to find the sacred feminine to restore divine union within himself. This resulted in a 3 year sabbatical which took him on a journey throughout India, Southeast Asia, and the United States.

He crossed path with many spiritual teachers from different traditions. Shri Shri Ravi Shankar, Byron Katie, Joan Halifax, Bernie Prior, and Brad Blanton, to name a few. He explored shamanism, yoga, martial arts, meditation, and many new healing modalities. Fredrik’s writings have been published in the Swedish book, 15 Gånger Asien (15 Stories from Asia).

Currently Fredrik is working in the field of naturopathic medicine and studying energy medicine in Laguna Beach, California. He spends his spare time working on his new music album.

A Womens Grace

Check out his blog at www.nordiceagle.blogspot.com

"The imagination is infinite and truly holds our connection to Creator. Tapping into this powerful and miraculous resource is the key to manifesting unconditional joy and health." – Amanda Elo'esh

Drop into a quiet place, and listen to this beautiful young/old wise woman!

Amanda Elo'esh Johnsen, M.A. holds a degree in counseling psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies. She has been developing her current alternative healing arts practice since the age of eleven when she took part in a program for gifted children. Coming from a lineage of hands-on-healers, Amanda recognized, at an early age, the need to empower all those she helped to become their own guide and healer. Amanda has been refining her work ever since. Her primary tool is guided imagery. 

Her initiations into the Divine Feminine Mysteries, Mayan Shamanism, the Buddha Dakini Path and Indigenous Medicine Ways also strongly influence her work, and she believes that each person has their own unique pathway to Source. 

Amanda helps people to gently, quickly and easily recognize and heal old wounding and shadow and helps each of her clients to tap into their own higher wisdom and authentic Self. "My clients leave amazed at the new confidence and joy they have access to that seemed impossible just moments before."

Ready to tap into Your Goddess…Contact Amanda

AmandaEloesh@gmail.com

(415) 717-2963

www.Altarnative.org

What cha think?

Dr. Bernie Siegel was my inspiring guest this week emphasizing the need to love ourselves, love our kids and love our world as a path to healing. He suggested to "live an authentic life," hang mottos to live by all over your house to encourage you daily to live from your heart. He has many miraculous stories to share, including his own marriage success of 57 years raising 5 children and numerous pets. It makes me happy to know that Bernie Siegel has left his imprint of love and compassion on the health care system. To listen to the entire interview, click the button below.

For many, Dr. Bernard Siegel—or Bernie, as he prefers to be called—needs no introduction. He has touched many lives all over the Planet. In 1978, he reached a national and then international audience when he began talking about patient empowerment and the choice to live fully and die in peace. As a physician who has cared for and counseled innumerable people whose mortality has been threatened by illness, Bernie embraces a philosophy of living and dying that stands at the forefront of the medical ethics and spiritual issues our Society grapples with today. In May 2011, Bernie was honored by the Watkins Review of London, England, as one of the Top 20 Spiritually Influential Living People on the Planet. He continues to break new ground in the field of healing, supporting changes in medical education to “humanize” medical practice.

Bernie was born in Brooklyn, NY, and attended Colgate University and Cornell University Medical College. He graduated with honors and holds membership in two scholastic honor societies, Phi Beta Kappa and Alpha Omega Alpha. He trained to become a surgeon at Yale New Haven Hospital, West Haven Veteran’s Hospital and the Children’s Hospital of Pittsburgh. In 1989, Bernie retired from Yale as an Assistant Clinical Professor of General and Pediatric Surgery to speak to patients, their families and caregivers.

In his latest book, his 12th, published in September 2011, entitled A BOOK OF MIRACLES—Inspiring True Stories of Healing, Gratitude, and Love, Bernie is described in the Foreword written by Deepak Chopra who tells us “Bernie Siegel began his writing career twenty-five years ago, and from the outset he didn’t shy away from miracles. The title of his first book—LOVE, MEDICINE & MIRACLES (1986)—flaunted his disagreement with mainstream medicine. An MD who advised more love as a path to healing would have been in enough trouble. Opening the possibility of miracles was grounds for dismissal. In his new book, Bernie reaffirms his original beliefs, and with a lifetime’s wisdom and experience, he trusts in miracles more than ever.”

Bernie’s writings in the 12 books he has published so far reflect his passion to reach people struggling with all of life’s challenges—not just the physical ones—so that each person can live life fully with the understanding that, as Bernie reminds us, “We only have today.” Believing that we are all here to love one another, Bernie has crafted eternal truths and the timeless wisdom of the ages into his reflections on the true stories of his patients in much of his work. But he has also produced wonderful resources for everyone like 365 Prescriptions for the Soul (Daily Messages of Inspiration, Hope, and Love), and 101 Exercises for the Soul (A Divine Workout Plan for Body, Mind, and Spirit). Bernie’s books also include those like Love, Magic & Mudpies, a great resource for parents and delightful, loving stories like Buddy’s Candle to help children of all ages cope with the loss of a loved one, be it a pet or parent. Reflecting on his work so far, Bernie quotes Woody Allen who once said, “If I had one wish it would be to be somebody else.” Bernie’s wish was to be a few inches taller, and can say now that he is a few inches taller because his work has been such a growth experience.

In 1978, nearly a decade before retirement, Bernie launched ECaP—Exceptional Cancer Patients, in which he and his wife and co-worker, Bobbie, remain active today. ECaP is a therapeutic approach Bernie calls Carefrontation that helps patients interpret their drawings, dreams and images to express their feelings about the healing process. The physical, spiritual, and psychological benefits that emerge strengthen the immune system, a direct response to the power of the Mind-Body Connection about which Bernie has written and spoken extensively. He is currently working on other books with the goal of empowering patients and teaching survival behavior to enhance immune system competency. Bernie believes that in the next decade, the roles of consciousness, spirituality, non-local healing, body memory, and heart energy will all be explored more intensively as scientific subjects.

All along the way, Bernie’s wife, Barbara H. Siegel—or Bobbie—has been a mainstay at workshops on helping patients interpret their drawings and especially, with a talent for very funny one-liners, at workshops on the healing power of humor. Bobbie, a graduate of Oswego State Teachers College with a BS in Early Childhood Education, credits her academic work as the preparation she needed to educate and train Bernie. On his part, Bernie does say that her guidance has helped him become the person he is today. Bobbie and Bernie raised five children together and now, as then, live in a home full of children’s things (for their eight grandchildren), pets, and especially love.

Read Bernie’s regular blog posts on his website where you will also find his books, articles, and CDs:  http://www.berniesiegelmd.com.

A self-admitted, but recovering, achievement junkie and doing addict, Christine is an inspirational catalyst who writes and speaks about the  struggles and possibilities that this generation of woman — today’s 21st century woman — faces in getting the love and happiness she works so hard to find. 

After nearly 50 years of marriage, a couple was lying in bed one evening, when the wife felt her husband begin to massage her in ways he hadn't in quite some time. …

It almost tickled as his fingers started at her neck, and then began moving down past the small of her back. He then caressed her shoulders and neck, slowly worked his hand down, stopping just over her stomach. …

He then proceeded to place his hand on her left inner arm, working down her side, passing gently over her buttock and down her leg to her calf. …

Then, he proceeded up her thigh, stopping just at the uppermost portion of her leg. He continued in the same manner on her right side, then suddenly stopped, rolled over and became silent.

As she had become quite aroused by this caressing, she asked in a loving voice, 'Honey, that was wonderful. Why did you stop?'

To which he responded: 'I found the remote.'

Orgasm, Inc. is award-winning director Liz Canner’s first feature documentary. Canner was recently named one of the top ten independent filmmakers to watch in 2009 by The Independent Magazine and honored with a Visionary Award from Dartmouth College for the movie. Since earning her BA with Honors from Brown University in 1991, she has received more than 45 awards, honors and grants for her innovative documentary projects on human rights issues. Canner’s documentaries have been broadcast on PBS, cable stations and internationally in many countries. They have screened at festivals like The New York Film Festival and the Human Rights Watch Film Festival. For her contribution to the field, Canner has been honored with a Radcliffe Institute for Advanced Study (Bunting) Fellowship from Harvard University and a Rockefeller Foundation Next Generation Leadership Fellowship documentary. 

To learn more and order the film, go to OrgasmInc.com.

Such was the case with Mary Bartnikowski, who I met through my dear friend Sandra Hickman, at David Walley's Hot Springs Resort near Genoa, Nevada. Love spontanous connections with dynamic women. 

Mary is the author of "Everyday Naked," and her newly released book "Kitten Heels in Katmandu: Adventures of a Female Vagabond," and she has captured vulnerability and deep truth about living as an adventurous women. Mary traveled to 27 countries in 6 years by herself, and her new book tells many of the tales she experienced. She is a true example of knowing her inner beauty and sexuality and finding the courage, confidence and grace to go with that. She is a photographer and has taken photos and videos of many of her adventures including seeing the Dalai Lama and escaping a stampede of elephants in Nepal. To listen to the 20 minute inteview, click link below.

Coach Betty & Mary Bartnikowski

Mary Bartnikowski is an award-winning photographer, published author, expert on women’s travel, kundalini yoga and meditation instructor, and mother of a maverick son. She travels full-time teaching photography and yoga and leading humanitarian projects worldwide. Mary has led programs at Stanford University, Apple, and Intel and is available for photography assignments, photographic consultations, and speaking. She exhibits and sells her work internationally and publishes books of her world journeys. After 25 years of having her own photography business in Palo Alto, California she is now a global citizen, who has worked and explored on 4 continents and in 27 countries.

• www.bartnikowski.com
• Write Mary at mbartnikowski@yahoo.com
• order the book on Amazon for Kindle
• or download from Mary  Bartnikowski on Facebook for the PDF or ipad ebooks
• youtube.com - zestyzippy is my user name - http://www.youtube.com/my_videos?feature=mhee - 80 videos from our big wide world!

Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and designer of the wildly acclaimed "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshop series, asks the question: "If man were primarily the hunter and women the gatherer, what would this explain about our behavior?"  She explores the differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, win-win strategies for men and women to improve their communication and intimacy by paying attention to when they talk, how they talk, and what they listen for.  While many women bring out the worst in men – turning Princes into Frogs – Alison has spent two decades teaching women and men what they can do to bring out the best in each other.

Born in Laguna Beach, California in 1960, Alison Armstrong has been designing and leading transformational programs for adults for almost 30 years.  Since 1989, she has been training others to facilitate growth, healing and transformation.  In 1995, after four years of studying men for her personal benefit, she created the Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women® workshop series to share her extraordinary findings with women across the nation.  With her friend, Joan McClain, she founded PAX Programs Incorporated with the mission of “altering society’s culture by transforming the way women relate to men.”  PAX, the Latin word for “peace” and an acronym for Partnership, Adoration and Xtasy, creates peace between the sexes by providing unique and immediately useful information to women and men.

Alison is the author of Keys to the Kingdom and Making Sense of Men ~ A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men.  While she enjoys writing and developing products to help men and women create peaceful partnerships, she still leads workshops around the country.  You can see Alison live at Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery™, the PAX Mastery & Leadership Program, Embracing the Queen (the advanced Queen course), and Core Partnership (the “Colorado Horse Course”), Partnership By Design, and an occasional Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women® workshop and introductory Making Sense of Men™ seminars.

Alison’s other passions include gardening, nature, and animals, especially horses.  Fulfilling a childhood dream, Alison is raising a horse from birth at her beautiful home in picturesque western Colorado.  Alison enjoys spending time with Greg, her husband since 1993, who she has described as “the motorcycle riding, piano playing, former C.P.A.”  They live with their youngest daughter in Southern California.  People often comment on her marriage, assuming they must be newlyweds.  “Greg and I sometimes make people uncomfortable, although we don’t mean to.  I just have the worst crush on him.  And,” she adds with a smile, “Greg says he worships the water I walk on.” Armstrong also has a grown son and daughter, currently enjoying various adventures.

For more information, go to UnderstandMen.com.

How many Ps can you find in this article?  I'm feeling in a childlike mood today.

Penelope Piper Paused, Pondered, Planned, Prospected and Popped so that she could bring her Peaceful, Passionate and Pleasured self out into the world. 

And so it goes in the world of organic and orgasmic.

Are we having fun yet? When is the last time you felt like life was rolling along without conflicts or worries? How do you suppose the laws of attraction work when we feel worry?

Okay, Coach Betty, enough with the questions! Many of my clients say enough, just tell me what to do and how to feel. Sorry, it is an inside job, and Pausing and Pondering these questions will help you find that place. How you Plan the rest of your life could be quite a bit different than your current path. 

This is actually a 5-part proven system that you can begin to implement today, in this moment, without Purchasing a thing to begin on the Path of Peace, Passion, and Pleasure which are the Ps that follow the Os of Organic and Orgasmic. Sometimes, I am just too clever.

Let me cut to the chase with step 1. The only way to begin the path to peace, passion and pleasure is Pausing in the moment and paying attention to your senses. Sensuality is not something you can multi-task through. You must get off the hamster wheel of whatever cycle you are in the midst of, and give yourself as little as 30 seconds or 10 breaths to notice your solar plexus or 3rd chakra area. That is really all there is to understand step 1, Pause.

The 2nd step of Ponder is all about what you felt when you Paused. If your upper belly is tense and tight, you are in some state of worry. Breathe deeper into that tightness and assure your body that you are going to find ways to make peace and relax.

The 3rd step of Planning is to design ways to get to your inner beauty, sexuality, and peace. The common Prescription is to breathe for 30 seconds and notice your 3rd chakra 3 times a day, when you open your eyes in the morning, after lunch, and before you close your eyes at night. Simple as that and remember all the 3s….3rd step, 3rd chakra, 3(0) seconds and 3 times a day. Design little tricks to remind and re-program your brain.

After this becomes automatic, then you are ready for steps 4 and 5. Prospecting for your unique magnificence and popping that out into the world can be tricky for you to do for yourself. Remember Marianne Williamson’s famous quote “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” I have personally experienced the fear of looking my power right in the eye and shrinking back from it. I repeatedly go back through steps 1-3, and more keeps popping out. It is very important to surround yourself with people who see you in all your beauty and sexuality, magnificence, wisdom, or whatever words for which you want to be known. 

Don’t let Penelope Piper have all the fun!  Pop it out there!

A couple was having a discussion about family finances.

Finally the husband exploded, "If it weren't for my money, the house wouldn't be here!"

The wife replied, "My dear, if it weren't for your money I wouldn't be here." 

How true is this for you?

Coach Betty shares a WHOA Baby about the controversy over Catherine Hakim's new book, "Erotic Capital." The book makes a case for women exploiting their beauty and sexuality, and enjoying the positive financial, cultural and social benefits. What cha think? 

Lori Bryant-Woolridge is the co-founder and past president of Mothers Off Duty, a non-profit organization that helps mothers stay balanced and committed to maintaining the woman within. This small group of working mothers also helps educate and mentor teen mothers through the Mothers Off Duty Scholarship Fund. She is also an Emmy award-winning tv writer and Essence bestselling novelist.

Get your "Individual Wow,""Social Wow," and "Sexual Wow" on and check out this dynamic and sexy lady.  LoriBryantWoolridge.com

Her passionate message focuses on banning all chemical fertilizers and returning to organic gardening and the native seed. Her view is that the native seed is going through a holocaust as Corporations are controlling seed supply.  Over 250,000 Indian Farmers have committed suicide because of large indebtedness to these Corporations. Her call to action was directed at each individual as she said, "Things change because the fear disappears." Dr. Shiva urged women to take back the control of food for the future of our planet.

She has recently been named one of the 7 most influential women in the world by Forbes Magazine. Click on her name below for this 8 minute interview.

Vandana Shiva

One of the world's most renowned environmentalists, Dr. Vandana Shiva is the founder of Navdanya, an international movement to protect the diversity and integrity of living resources, especially native seeds, and the promotion of organic farming and fair trade. A global thinker, scientist and acclaimed author on the issues of food access, production and distribution, Dr. Shiva sits on the National Board of Organic Standards of India and Prince Charles panel of experts on Sustainable Agriculture, and also chairs the Commission on the Future of Food in Italy.

Trained as a Physicist with a Ph.D. on the subject of Hidden Variables and Non-locality in Quantum Theory from the University of Western Ontario in Canada, Dr. Shiva has received honorary Doctorates from University of Paris, University of Western Ontario, University of Oslo and Connecticut College. In 2003 she was named an environmental her by Time Magazine.

To learn more about Dr. Shiva and her fabulous work…VandanaShiva.org and Navdanya.org.

"The future of our world depends on how we steward our land, soil, water, and seeds, and pass them on to future generations."

- Dr. Vandana Shiva

When we resist the flow of nature then we are in pain, either emotionally, physically or both. Nature flows according to a grand plan that involves constant change. Look outside at flowers, trees, or the sky, and everyday you will see a difference if you look closely. Our bodies change everyday too, getting older and wiser as the moments tick by.  Have you ever felt the pain of resisting the flow of aging? You know, looking in the mirror and saying, “Oh no, a new wrinkle,” or “When did I get so old?” It is rare to hear someone embrace the inevitable process of aging.  In this moment, doesn’t that strike you as really crazy? What about the perks and wonderment of getting older?  There is a recent study out of Stanford University that shows that peak emotional happiness comes at age 70. I love to report good news about aging as it gets such a bad rap in life. 

“It’s likely that only vibrations of love and gratitude appear in nature, and observations of nature shows this to be true.”  – Masuru Emoto

Yet another wonderful reason to move with the vibrations of nature, you create love and gratitude. When you move with the flow of nature it is also much easier to embrace your experiences along the way. A traditional Tao story illustrates that it is better to accept the wholeness of life instead of dividing experiences into good or bad. Ask yourself, “Who’s to say what is good and what is bad,” when you hit a bump in your life path. How many times can you look back at an experience you thought was tragic in the moment, and it turned into a blessing in disguise. Why even have this phrase in our world? Because it happens all the time, and we can actually LOOK for it and find the blessings pouring out. You only have to become aware and look.

My experience with chronic pain for 26 years is my teacher for living an organic and orgasmic life everyday.  When I do not listen to my body’s pain whispers (nature) and resist, well guess what happens. My bones and muscles that have been so compromised over time start yelling at me and I, at times, must come to a complete stop because I am in such pain. Now that is not a situation anyone would say “Hey I want to live like that,”  and it has been an amazing blessing to me. I found my life’s work of coaching, experienced numerous forms of powerful natural healing modalities which I get to share with the world through my radio work, and I have learned from my own experience through pain that inner beauty and sexuality are some kind of potent medicine for the soul.

FUN FACTS about Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life

• You don’t have to leave home do it
• You don’t have to buy anything, so you never have to upgrade.
• You will begin to smile more and you just can’t help it…because
• You find the funny perspective which makes you laugh…and then
• You start to feel this tingling sensation in your lower belly…and
• You shout “OMG, this lives inside of me!”

And I’m here to tell you, yes it does.  Enjoy organic and orgasmic living!

When an old farmer's stallion wins a prize at a country show, his neighbor calls round to congratulate him, but the old farmer says, "Who knows what is good and what is bad?" The next day some thieves come and steal his valuable animal. His neighbor comes to commiserate with him, but the old man replies, "Who knows what is good and what is bad? A few days later the spirited stallion escapes from the thieves and joins a herd of wild mares leading them back to the farm. The neighbor calls to share the farmer's joy, but the farmer says, "Who knows what is good and what is bad?" The following day, while trying to break in one of the wild mares, the farmer's son is thrown and fractures his leg. The neighbor calls to share the farmer's sorrow, but the old man's attitude remains the same as before. The following week the army passes by, forcibly conscripting soldiers for a war, but they do not take the farmer's son because he cannot walk. The neighbor thinks to himself, "Who knows what is good and what is bad?" and realizes that the old farmer must be a Taoist sage."

- From The Tao Book and Card Pack by Timothy Freke

The WHOA Baby segment shares a perspective that makeup is a reflection of inner beauty instead of makeup being used to BE beautiful. Do you feel the subtle change in view?

Erin Delaney and Dionisio Ceballos, married for 12 years, are the creators of The Committed Couple: A Collaborative Journey to the Heart. Their programs are for committed couples who are struggling or feeling stuck in their relationship and want to rejuvenate and strengthen their commitment so they can have a more fulfilling and masterful relationship.  

Erin is a certified dream and true purpose coach, a trained dancer and certified yoga teacher. Dionisio is an Emmy Award Winning filmmaker & animator as well as an accomplished artist.

Both Erin and Dionisio are deeply devoted to their inner spiritual journey and self-development – individually and as a couple. They have studied with transformational leaders such as Marcia Wieder, Tim Kelley, T. Harv Eker, Lisa Sasevich and Brendon Burchard.

Their mission is to raise the awareness of the true and healing power of men and women working and living together in a honoring and collaborative way in order to create a paradigm shift for future generations and help transform the world. Go to TheCommittedCouple.com to get 5 FREE tips from Erin and Dionisio.  Once you listen to them, you know they are on to something…check it out!!

Enjoy this article by Tia who came "on air" to be coached about her inner beauty.

Staring in the Mirror, Yet I Couldn’t See
by Tia Silverthorn Bach
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It seemed a simple instruction—look in the mirror and say, “You are a self-confident, graceful, creative and inspiring person.” Coach Betty laid out the guidelines for finding inner beauty. I was pumped. How hard could it be?

I steadied myself in front of the mirror, armed with the words and the will. “You are…” What is that, I thought, a new wrinkle? Crap, there’s another gray hair. I pulled at my skin for a few minutes. I looked tired, sad even. My eyes scanned down. More pounds, I wondered and swore my t-shirt fit better a month ago. 

“Mom, whatcha doing,” my sweet six-year-old asked, confused as to why I was pulling, squirming and grimacing.

What was I doing? I was supposed to be lifting myself up, and all I could focus on were my flaws. If one of my three beautiful daughters did that, I would point out every wonderful attribute, every blessing. Yet, I focused on all the things I tell my children not to . . . physical attributes, not inner beauty. 

My mother and I co-wrote a coming of age novel, Depression Cookies, showcasing two distinct points of view: teenage daughter and her mother. I wrote the teenage daughter’s point of view while my mom wrote the mother’s. Our hope… to open up the dialogue not only between mothers and daughters but all women to discuss what makes us special and unique, what binds us. 

Plus, I’m raising three daughters. It’s easy to tell them to love themselves, but we parents know kids do what they see, not what they are told. Same is true for writers, we are constantly told to show and not tell. It means nothing to tell my children, and other women, to love themselves if I can’t show them how I love myself. 

"[Kids] don't remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are." Jim Henson

I believe whole-heartedly in inner beauty, but I need to practice what I preach . . . for myself, for my three children, for my friends and family. 

I started to soften in the mirror, gave my daughter a hug, and repeated, “You ARE a self-confident, graceful, creative and inspiring person.”

“Me, too, Mama,” my sweet daughter repeated. We were both standing in front of the mirror, and I finally started to see. I decided to give my children their own sayings so we could practice together. We’re committed to this exercise every day, until our images become clearer and the words easier to say. It’s a beginning, but a good one.

One day the powers that BE came down and said to three guys that the less you cheat on your wives the better the cars you'll get in heaven.

So the first guy went to heaven after cheating on his wife 67 times and he got a Mercedes.

The second guy went to heaven and had cheated on his wife 2 times and he got a Ferrari, then the third guy went to heaven and said that he had never cheated on his wife and he got a Bentley.

Then one day the third guy was all sad and depressed and the first and second guys asked him what was wrong and the third guy said, "I saw my wife the other day" and the first guy said "yeah, so" and the third guy said " she was riding a skateboard"

Emily from Asheville, North Carolina, was courageous and vulnerable enough to talk about how her body weight is an obstacle to seeing her inner beauty.  This is such a common experience for women. Listen in to their "on air" coaching session below.

Wendy Strgar has an important mission: to encourage sustainable, lovin relationships. Proclaimed a "Loveologist," Wendy writes and lecture on the topic of making love sustainable, a green philosophy she developed herself that emphasizes the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love and family. She created a business and line of organic intimacy products available to the public. She is a Mom of 4 teenage children, and has been married for 25 years to the same man.  Learn more about Wendy, her intimacy products and book at GoodCleanLove.com.

When we tap into our pleasure centers and experience the contentment and peace that lives there, we have the potential to create such lofty visions as world peace. John Lennon imagined organic and orgasmic living.  I believe that deep down in our inner sanctums of truth, we want to "Make Love Not War." Call me an optimist…I surrender as charged. The fear that shields our minds and bodies from the essence of orgasmic living is only a mask.

My journey of discovery and finding organic and orgasmic living came from the mask of a chronic pain condition. My health, for the last 26 years, has been on a roller coaster of mild to severe pain with very few pain-free days overall. You would not have a clue from looking at me unless you notice the swelling on my hands, or witness me getting up and down off the floor. I have worn my mask well.

Do we always have to go through pain to get to the pleasure? Many experts believe that it is when we are uncomfortable, that we have the compelling reason to consider another way. Until we are willing to look at the truth of our pain, the pleasure will go unnoticed.

When I finally learned to surrender to pain, I was shocked to find the pleasure lives right there along side of it.  My initial experience finding the pleasure came through surrendering to the pain and seeking another way, besides pharmaceutical medication, to find relief.  It came during a sexual healing experience when I went from a 10 on the pain scale to a 2 after having numerous orgasms during sex.  My body moved easily and gracefully for about 4 hours after. It didn't last though. So I began to experiment with the fact that the orgasmic-ness lived inside of me. Could I recreate that sensation in my body outside of the bedroom?  And the answer is yes, and that is what has birthed this movement towards natural healing through inner beauty and sexuality.  

What does it take to explore this for yourself? 

• You must get out of your head and into your body.  It is impossible to tap into your inner juice by thinking about it. It just doesn't work. For women, this is not always the easiest thing to do either. During sex, if you have that overactive mind (and you are not alone) let your mind drift to the sensation place. What do you feel on your skin? Walk outside and feel the air on your face, and just notice.

• Your experience of inner sexuality is greatly enhanced when you feel your inner beauty. When a woman feels her inner beauty, an inner sexuality naturally flows out. This is not beauty from the outside only…this is an inner place of loving yourself that assures you that you are a beautiful being. Think of the last time you noticed something that was so beautiful it made you react with a deeply felt "Ah."  In that moment, you have tapped into inner juice. So find something that really touches you…a beautiful photo, painting, friends, family, flowers, trees, a sunset…it is everywhere.  And then look in your eyes, and find it there too.

• Once you have experienced a moment of tapping into your inner juice,  feel it. Where is it located inside your body? I can guarantee that it is not in your head.  Some of my clients have found it in their hearts, others in their lower abdomen, and still others in their solar plexus. 

Enjoy the experience of exploring and learning about your inner magnificence that is the natural truth of who you are…

What other ways can you share for tapping into inner juice?

So many fascinating hosts to connect the world in all its humanity. Take 2 minutes to watch, and find out more at Facebook.com/wgrnradio.

A man wakes up in the hospital bandaged from head to foot.  

The doctor comes in and says, "Ah, I'm glad to see you've regained consciousness.  You probably won't remember, but you were in  a huge pile-up on the freeway.

"You're going to be okay — you'll walk again and everything, but your penis was severed in the accident and we couldn't find it."

The man groans, but the doctor goes on. "You've got $9,000 in insurance compensation coming, and we now have the technology to build a new penis. They work great, but they don't come cheap. It's roughly $1,000 an inch." The man perks up.

"So," the doctor says, "you must decide how many inches you want. I understand that you've been married for over forty years and this is something you should discuss with your wife. If you had a nine-incher before and you decide to invest only in a five-incher now, she might be disappointed. It's important that she plays a role in helping you make a decision."

The man agrees to talk it over with his wife.

The doctor comes back the next day and asks, "So have you spoken with your wife?"

"Yes I have," says the man.

"And has she helped you make a decision?"

"Yes," says the man.

"What is your decision?" asks the doctor.

"We're getting granite countertops."

Author, Dr. of Metaphysics, trainer and founder of the Wellness & Sexual Healing Centers, Toni De Marco has an extensive background in psychology, metaphysics, and health.  Her training includes having studied with many of the world's leading wellness and Tantra teachers and she, herself, has worked as a teacher, healer and counselor to both individuals and couples for over 30 years. Ms. De Marco was a top cover-girl in her 20's and acted in scores of television commercials and several films at the same time that she was studying many different holistic and healing technologies.  In her 30's Ms. De Marco wrote an acclaimed health and beauty book, The California Way to Natural Beauty, and also started relationship counseling.  In her 40's, Ms. De Marco segued to writing and producing video and television. In her most recent venture into the Video/DVD arena she created Tantric Partner Yoga, along with Tantra trainers, Robert Frey and Lori Grace Star, as a tool to help couples to develop more intimacy in their relationships through sensual partner-yoga. 

Don't miss her September 8th FREE 75 minute telecall on "5 Simple Secrets to a Hot and Juicy Relationship."  Email CoachBetty@CoachBettyLIVE.com to get all the details and a FREE ebook from Toni.  

Learn more about Toni's work at RelateLoveSex.com.

“Gossip,” as defined by Wikipedia, is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It derives from the bedroom at the time of childbirth when the pregnant female’s relatives and neighbors (an all female event) would gather and chatter about others outside the birthing room.  The term is often used to refer to the spreading of dirt and excited details of scandals.  On the flip side, gossip can also be used to contribute to social bonding.  With the technology of the computer and internet, gossip can spread in an instant.

So what kind of messages about others do we want to spread like wildfire in our world today?  Aw come on, Coach Betty, it is so much fun to talk about other people and get all the juicy details of their struggles! Right?  I say wrong, because I am a part of creating a new positive consciousness, and the drama of negative gossip becomes an obstacle to the needed collaboration in solving the crisis level of problems today. If we are going to live, not just talk about, a new vision of a healthy and balanced planet for people on the planet, then we must STOP the addiction to “needing to know” the inner scum of other people’s life.  We are human, after all, and not a single one of us can claim perfection to my knowledge. So would you like your dirty laundry hanging in the air?

Women created the word for gossip, and now I want to invite and encourage women to foster the good gossip that is an actual path to inner beauty. I love playing with the positive sides of what words mean.  How can we turn “gossip” into that social bonding experience that creates good juice on the planet and spreads near and far with a click?

For starters:

• Taken from an old saying my mother drummed into my head “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
• When you share anything at all about another, evaluate where the information comes from.  Does it come from your own personal experience, another person who may or may not have gotten the facts straight, or from a media source.  Remember, it is not illegal to present false news. 
• When you have spoken about someone who is not present and accounted for, how does it make you feel inside? Do you feel relaxed, calm and at peace or do you feel tense, tight and uneasy?

Inner beauty is felt as a peaceful relaxation, and your body knows it if you tune in.  Are you are spreading the good word, or contributing to more chaos and havoc among us? Spread the good word, and let’s take this opportunity to transform the world into what is possible!

If you resonating with this article, then YOU are a beautiful soul I want to know about so I can spread the good word about you.  Join my newsletter at CoachBettyLIVE.com by entering your name and email in the upper right hand corner of this page, and/or “Like” my fan page at www.facebook.com/coachbetty, and let me know more about you. Who knows, you may just end up on the radio with CoachBettyLIVE.

I must give a shout out to Marlo Thomas and her newsletter which starts me out with a Monday Morning laugh that I would like to pay forward.  If you loved "That Girl," you will love her wonderful newsletter http://marlothomas.aol.com/.

She becomes emboldened (I love that word) to say what's on her mind. Gratitude is a virtue, according to my special guest Brenda Knight, which allows you to see the good in life. Brenda shares her "gratitude adjustments" and her personal story of tragedy that opened the door to a daily gratitude practice. Would you like to transform Fear into Courage, Anger into Forgiveness and Isolation into Belonging?  That is what is possible through the authentic feeling of gratitude. Click on the "Listen" button below to hear Brenda's amazing story and wisdom, AND hear Laura from the SF Bay Area go deeper with her own inner beauty after working with Coach Betty live "on air."

Brenda Knight is a twenty-year publishing veteran, starting at HarperCollins and authored American Book Award-winning Women of the Beat Generation, Wild Women and Books, Rituals for Life, The Poetry Oracle, and the forthcoming Happiness Habits.

She has worked with many bestselling authors including Diane di Prima, Phil Cousineau, Daphne Rose Kingma, BJ Gallagher, Congresswomen Jackie Speier, Mary Jane Ryan, and Paolo Coehlo.  Founding editor of Viva Editions, Knight lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she practices gratitude daily. She is founding editor of VivaEditions.com.

Have you ever experienced an encounter with the opposite sex where you felt like you were communicating so precisely, in direct language, and your intentions were completely misconstrued? Okay…it is a rhetorical question.  How can we learn to understand and honor our differences with love, compassion and an open heart?  My intention with the following essay on men and women is to open the conversation in a healthy way.

Masculine and Feminine characteristics are clearly very different energies.  A man who exudes strong masculinity is often a lone wolf, independent, competitive, physically strong, forgetful, logical, tough, and acutely self aware.  And what I mean by acutely self aware is a focus on taking care of his needs without consideration of what his female companion might need.  Some call this self-centered, and I don’t as it is too negative for the many good things about taking care of your own needs.

What you will notice with a women who lives from an extreme feminine place is a gentle collaborator, nurturing, loving, adapting, empathizing with a relaxed receptivity to change.  Often women are co-dependent because they receive what comes to them with the intention of nurturing and loving it back into balance.  It’s a woman’s intuition that allows her to feel what is out of balance.  The generous way a woman serves in this capacity is a beautiful thing. However, if a woman is not tuned into her own needs and inner nature or intuition, life can easily become unhealthy in relationship with a man. 

This is far from an exhaustive list of characteristics, and yet the stark contrast of  energies is apparent. We all carry both energies within, and each person has a unique spot on the spectrum from extreme masculine to extreme feminine. From the extremes noted here, it is a no wonder women lose their identity in relationships, and men are so confused by women and their flip flop behavior.

From this woman’s perspective, I have displayed the feminine characteristics noted above for most of my life.  I want a man to honor all the aspects of my softer and nurturing approach to life and relationships. My experience is that men love my femininity during sensual and sexual times, and then “don’t get too emotional on me now” can be the refrain when I have overextended my empathizer and need some time to recenter myself. 

As I understand men and their energies, I see a strength in mind and body men possess that is calming and peaceful to my inner soul. There is a determination that I admire from the toughness and competitive male stance.  Forgetfulness is a vulnerable and innocent place that has a sweet honesty.  These are the perceptions and attitudes I am embracing to fully appreciate and love our amazing men.

We need to take responsibility individually for the impact of our own true nature and rebalance ourselves. The world needs our best efforts. I am curious how our communication would change with the ability to stand in each other’s shoes, and see the positive side of our opposing characteristics?

What do you do to honor others?

Eleven people – ten men and one woman – were hanging onto a rope from a helicopter after a mountain climbing rescue. Before long, the rope began to fray because of their combined weight, so they all agreed that one person should get off – but they couldn't decide which one. Finally, the woman gave a really touching speech, saying how she would give up her life to save the others, because women were used to giving up things for their husbands and children, and giving in to men, and never receiving anything in return. When she finished speaking, all the men started clapping.

This interesting bit of trivia and much more is what we discussed on this episode of "Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life." Special guest, Monica Day, Founder of The Sensual Life and creator of the one woman show "Song of the Sacred Whore."  Also, we have a brand new segment of live "on air" coaching with Tia from Demascus, Maryland where Coach Betty will help Tia rediscover her inner beauty and sexuality. Click the "Listen" button to hear the whole show.

Monica Day is the founder of The Sensual Life. She specializes in creating  safe spaces for people to explore, experience and express their sensuality.

Monica is best-known for finding playful ways to engage people into exploring what it means to live a more feeling, more passionate, more fully-expressed sensual life. She has spent the last 18 years as a writer, trainer and facilitator in areas ranging from personal growth and awareness, race and gender, class and power, sensuality and sexuality, communication skills, and relationship dynamics. She finds herself attracted to the edges of all experience — to the places where people are most likely to say “no” to going deeper with another…and working together to find “yes.”

The Sensual Life is Monica’s vehicle for sharing with others the tools of deeper communication, the turn-on of sensual awareness, and the practices that arouse greater freedom, awakening, love and spiritual connection.

Monica splits her time between Philadelphia, where she is raising two beautiful daughters with her former spouse and co-parent, and New York City, where she is active in various communities that explore sensuality, intimacy, communication and other opportunities for relating to the self and others through this core part of our being.

Her show, "Song of the Sacred Whore," will be a part of the Philly Fringe Festival from September 8-11.  Buy tickets at TheSensualLife.com.

Have you always been a caregiver in your family?  Many women live this role of caregiver from a very young age.  That was certainly my story, and I have no blame or upset with my parents for how this played out in my life, however I am aware of the impact of my falling into this role since I was 3 years old.  Now, as I make my choices of how to BE the empowered woman I am, an acute awareness of these old roles is critical to my success.  If this resonates with you, then you will want to read on.  

Recent brain research from Dr. Louann Brizendine, author of “The Female Brain,” shows that the female brain’s hormones ready a woman to focus on herself when she enters into menopause.  This is a time when she has less interest in caregiving and more interest in new challenges and her own health and well-being.  However, so many women fall into caregiving automatically since it is what they have always known to do…that familiar groove. I, for one,  easily slip out of my life focus when a family member or close friend has a health issue or another type of emotional need. And now, at 56, I am feeling like I am done setting my life aside for others.  Wow…it does feels strange to write it.  Uncomfortable as it may feel, I am ready to align with the nature of my brain. If not now, when?

Women are capable of becoming more beautiful, sensual, and lusciously juicy beings as they get older.  When an older woman exudes self-love, you can see her inside out beauty throughout her face and entire body.  More than 2,000 fitness experts named 66-year old actress Helen Mirren “Body of the Year.”  Helen has tapped into a sustainable inner beauty and sexuality that comes from the wisdom of age, and alignment with the true nature of a woman…beautiful, sensual and orgasmic. It is this powerful feminine energy that gets lost when women continuously fall into caregiving.

“The loss of soul connection, loss of connection to our femininity, may be the real cause of our anguished condition” – Marion Woodman

The difference in the way men and women provide caregiving help, as reported by the National Center for Caregiving, is quite fascinating.  Women take time off work and stay home to provide time-consuming care to disabled friends and family while men respond to loved one’s needs for support by delaying retirement, in part to shoulder the financial burden associated with long-term care.  Higher levels of depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges are common in women who fall into these caregiving roles.  The Center’s studies show that women who provide more than 36 hours of care per week dramatically increase the likelihood of these health challenges.

The cost of this phenomenon to our world is a big one as women deplete themselves, and lose connection with their inner beauty and sexuality. We have stretched, depressed, and impatient women instead of upbeat, lively and beaming beauties. Mother Earth has been stretched, depressed and impatient waiting for women, like me, to turn this trend around.

What do women need to do to stay tuned into their inner beauty and sexuality, keep their hearts open to care and love, and not fall into the caregiver trap time and time again? Here are a few ideas:

*Before you jump to the needs of another – PAUSE and ask “what is a way to handle this without turning my life upside down?” Be responsible for yourself, and take the lead on this discussion with your loved ones…don’t leave it for others to advise you on what will work.  You are the only one who knows. How can you make this a healthy experience? 

*Rest.  It may not come easy when there are so many things to get done like dishes and laundry and kids and, and, and.  Letting go and working with “good enough” will allow you to stop and lay your body down (AND THAT IS WHAT I MEAN BY RESTING).  There is no substitute for a relaxed and prone body. At least for 60 minutes on the days you are extending yourself to others, and 30 minutes no matter what your day looks like.  Put it on the “to do” list.

*Practice the art of self-love by looking in your eyes every morning in the mirror and saying “I love you, I really really do.”  If it feels silly…fake it until you actually begin to feel it.  

*Spend 10 minutes a day in meditation – outside in the fresh air, if at all possible.

These are things you can do right now.  Don’t wait until tomorrow, or next week or next month when your family or friend is feeling better.  If you deplete yourself, then you can’t BE there for you or anybody else.

Need support?  Email me for a complimentary strategy session! You deserve it!

"It is hard to let your personality flourish when you are pointlessly paralyzed by insecurities about your physique. Character and personality are much more important and ultimately win out. For time passes and youthful beauty with it." -Hellen Mirren

CoachBettyLIVE with Sara Avant Stover – click here.

Sara Avant Stover is a mentor, teacher, and speaker to women around the world. A Phi Beta Kapha and Summa Cum Laude graduate of Columbia University’s all women’s Barnard College, I took my first yoga class at age 18, sat my first meditation retreat a few years later, and knew immediately that I would devote my life to teaching. After being diagnosed with the early stages of cervical cancer in my early 20′s, I moved to Chiang Mai, Thailand where I lived for 9 years, embarked on a healing odyssey throughout Asia, and, as a multi-certified yoga teacher, served as one of the pioneer yoga teachers in that part of the world. Since that time I have studied with the leading spiritual masters of our time and have taught thousands of women in over a dozen different countries. My work has been featured in The Huffington Post, Yoga Journal, Fit Yoga, Pilates Style, and Yogi Times. I love good sleep, autumn, dark chocolate, sexy lingerie, and beautiful shoes! I continue to travel the world leading women’s workshops, retreats, and teacher trainings and now call Boulder, CO home.

For more information on her online Red Tent community, and to order the book, go to TheWayoftheHappyWoman.com.

What is your best expression of beauty?  In an ongoing commitment to help women rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror, Coach Betty interviews Cynthia DeSoto who is a pioneer in her unique exploration of defining beauty.  On this episode, she shares her ground breaking research for the last 7 years surveying expressions of beauty from over 7500 beauty industry leaders.  Cynthia's 3 dimensional path to true beauty has three aspects:  BE true to your best self, CREATE the experience of beauty, and GIVE to the greater good.  Do you feel the radical nature of this path?  Listen to the entire show below.

CoachBettyLIVE and Cynthia DeSoto – click here

Cynthia DeSoto has spent the past 20 years working in the professional beauty industry both with Aveda Corporation and as owner of Caruh Salon Spa in Seattle, WA.  It is her soulful search for true meaning of beauty that brings her to this pinnacle in her career and the launch of her book "Changing the way the world thinks about Beauty."

After years of research and reflective study, Cynthia introduces The 7 Expressions of Beauty in her book as a framework to understand the universal truths about beauty and how to create beauty for yourselves and others. 

Passionate about people discovering their potential, Cynthia speaks to global audiences expanding the narrow definitions of beauty and elevating the role of the beauty professional to become leaders of personal transformation.

For more information about Cynthia and her book, go to www.anzuri.com.  

CoachBettyLIVE with Dale…click here.

Dale is a CTI (Coaches Training Institute) co-active life coach, and will complete his certification testing September, 2011.  He is not waiting until then to fill a need in our society around the shame of herpes.  Dale focuses on people who are suffering with herpes, and people who are called to use their own (often painful) life experiences to help others not only survive, but thrive (a.k.a. "wounded healers").  He runs a recurring tele-seminar series called The Herpes Opportunity, and a blog on the positive side of herpes.  You can learn more about Dale and his work at:

HerpesOpportunity.com

Here is a video discussing the Opportunity.
Herpes Opportunity Video 

Next tele-seminar information is available here – starting August 16th

SPECIAL OFFER:  Dale has offered 5 free tickets for the next 6-week tele-seminar to people who write to Dale  their story and what they look to get out of the seminar.  AND he added in a 45 minute coaching session to all 5.  Email him right now hello@thehopp.com.

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Listen to CoachBettyLIVE and the Panel Discussion – click here

Some of the perspectives shared were:

*shift the paradigm of dating to women selecting men

*stay in your own personal joy and do not expect anyone else to make you happy

*use thoughtful aggression when selecting men

*creative collaboration is a sustaining factor in relationships

*have dates with your partner outside of the daily grind

*tap into your spiritually juicy nature

What is your perspectives on "Selecting and Sustaining Joyful Partnerships."

Coach Betty also shares her views on this episode for women on "How to" approach a partner without feeling desperate?

Selecting and Sustaining Joyful Partnerships

Women and Men, A New View

by Betty Louise

How much more evidence do we need?  It is clearly time to pursue new views on what we define as marriage and on how we relate to one another. Our 67% divorce rate, according to 30-year marriage researcher John Gottman, cries out for a new approach. That is the bad news. The flip side is that science has shown amazing health benefits of both a healthy monogamous sex life and a lasting marriage/partnership. More good news is that there is new brain research that helps us understand male/female differences on a physiological level. This is ground-breaking research because previous science assumed there was no difference, and based their studies solely on the male brain – including the birth control pill! Think about the impact of understanding these differences can have for interpersonal and even international relationships.

This brings us to selecting and sustaining joyful partnerships. What has research taught us that debunks previous cultural norms and creates A New View? Let’s take a closer look at selecting and sustaining to see what’s new and how new views can contribute to more joyful partnerships.

Selecting

Take a moment to think about your relationships. How did you come together…who chose who? As a woman, did you select the man? Or did you wait by the phone for a guy to call because he said he would? Women selecting men may be a new idea today, but the science that supports it has been around since we discovered the egg chooses the sperm. Take a look at animals in nature and you will observe it is the male who displays and the female who selects her mate to reproduce.  

Many leading experts, John Gray and Jean Shinoda Bolen among them, say that it is the way of the woman that is needed to nurture – indeed save – the earth. The many changing hormones of the female brain are what allow women to be in tune with the movement of nature itself. This is a call-to-action for women to know and embrace this truth so they can recapture their innate power and literally create peace on earth. Women are the only ones who know what makes them happy and the partner with whom they can create a force for good. Remember, if mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.

The New View on Selecting…Women choosing men in partnership creates sustainable love and a healthier planet. Do you agree?

Sustaining

Whether you agree or not that women choosing men is healthier for our partnerships and our planet, sustaining our initial attractions in relationship remains elusive for many well-meaning couples. What does it really take to maintain the spark, joy and fun?

After observing thousands of couples in a marriage lab, researcher John Gottman concluded that partners in successful marriages have five positive encounters to every one negative encounter. Lasting marriages also show that, when in conflict, both partners make an attempt at repair. Repair attempts come in many forms from saying “I’m sorry” or “I want us to find a better way” to finding the funny in it all and cracking a joke.

Sustainable joyful relationships are worth exploring. Lasting marriages that include regular sex (three times a week) have been shown to reduce diabetes, heart disease, depression, and nourish the immune system. Healthy, loving and regular sex, combined with a strong friendship, is a big part of the recipe for sustaining love. Enjoying the healing qualities of orgasm during healthy and loving sex also deserves attention. Consider these staggering statistics. Sixty to 80% of women are dissatisfied with their sexual orgasms. And a recent study from Indiana University revealed this surprising gap: 85% of men reported that their partner had an orgasm the last time they had sex; but only 64% of women said they had reached orgasm. Women’s sexual dissatisfaction has gotten so out of hand that a new diagnosis has been developed for it – Female Sexual Dysfunction! This is crazy because women are orgasmic beings from birth. They lose their desire and enjoyment of sex in the masculine world of aggression and competition where there is no time to really connect with desire and pleasure. In addition, women generally do not have a safe place to talk about it. Only 3-5% of health care providers even talk to their patients about their sex lives.

A New View on Sustaining…Women taking responsibility for their own happiness, and couples designing partnerships with positivity as an overriding principle. 

Joyful

Selecting and sustaining build the partnership foundation. Filling the structure with joy is how we create a juicy new energy in our lives. Finding joy does not come from the outside…it comes from within for both women and men. No person outside of you is responsible for your happiness and joy or can even make you happy if they wanted to.  

How women and men feel about the way they look in our culture in a key to joy. What do you see when you look in the mirror? Studies show that 80% of women do not have a good body image and men may not fair much better.  Thousands of dollars are spent on beauty products every year that have no lasting results. If a person does not feel beautiful, it is difficult to feel sexual and awfully hard to be happy. True sustained joy is an inside job.

Creating Joy in your life doesn’t have to be hard. Make it a habit to smile and laugh more often. It is reported that children laugh from 75 to 250 times a day while adults only 15. How sad! Get out the joke books, find the funny perspective, and simply smile. See how the turned up corners of your mouth can actually transform your energy.

A New View…Think Fun!!

What is possible when we follow our true inner nature and understand our differences?

* attract high quality people into your life

• self-confidence, beauty, sexuality and happiness from the inside
• sacred healing orgasmic sex boosting health
• less reliance on pharmaceutical medication
• less infidelity and all the pain and suffering that goes with it
• more smiles and laughter
• uplifted energy for creative and constructive ideas

This is a warm up article for CoachBettyLIVE's show posting on Saturday which has a panel of 6 diverse views on this topic.  

CoachBettyLIVE with Carol Queen – click here

Carol Queen has a doctorate in sexology. She's worked at Good Vibrations, the legendary women-friendly, sex-positive adult retailer in San Francisco, where she serves as Staff Sexologist and Chief Cultural Officer, since 1990. She's also the co-founder of the nonprofit Center for Sex & Culture, and she's authored or edited many books about sex and scripted and/or appeared in a number of explicit sex education films. You can visit CarolQueen.com, SexandCulture.com, and GoodVibes.com — on the latter, she answers customer questions about sex, which people can find by clicking on the Good Vibes Magazine on the far-right top navigation drop-down (called How-To).

In this episode of CoachBettyLIVE, we open the conversation about the connection between sexual health and overall health.  Women's Health Expert, Karen Carlson, and Coach Betty talk about what a wise nurse practitioner advises her patients on their sexual fulfillment.  Karen suggests that sex is as important as eating and exercise to our health and well being!  Listen to the entire interview below and enjoy a slice of her wisdom of over 18 years of working with women.  Her thoughts directly address this ever-rising issue of womens' sexual dysfunction issues.

CoachBettyLIVE with Karen Carlson – click here

Karen discusses the three most common complaints regarding sexual satisfaction and fulfillment:  pain, dryness, and lack of desire.  Karen empowers them to talk to their partner, as it has been documented that women don't talk to friends or family about their sexual experiences which leaves many women left uncertain about what to expect during sex.  

Karen Carlson is a highly skilled, well respected primary care nurse practitioner treating adults at the University of Washington's Women's Health Care Center on the Roosevelt campus. One of Karen's gift is to provide a safe, compassionate and holistic approach to discussing all health issues with her women patients.  She is one of only 3-5 % of health care providers that talk with women about sexual satisfaction!!

She is also clinical faculty and preceptor for nurse practitioner students from the University of Washington's School of Nursing, and clinical preceptor for medical students at the University of Washington's School of Medicine.  We are so fortunate to have her expertise and compassion teaching others.

I know how fortunate we are to have Karen's expertise in the world, because she and I have been best friends for over 40 years!!

Judy Stadt is an entertainer extraordinaire appearing in over a dozen films and 80 stage performances.  She knew she was born to entertain at 5 years old.  She delivers her own weekly radio show "The Lunch and Judy Show"  on PWRN which is a variety of music, conversation and plenty of laughs. Of course, her varied background – or the fact that audiences have dubbed her the American Judi Dench – might have something to do with her celebrity demeanor, too.  A quick look at her resume reveals that she wrote some of those 80 plays she appeared in; produced illustrations and greeting cards for her company, JudyStadt Graphics; designed fashion jewelry for JStadt Jewelry (found at high-end retailers like Saks Fifth Avenue) and clothing for the now-retired Judith and Charles boutiques in New York.  She is even a licensed real-estate sales representative.  Throw in a handful of awards and skills in jazz-singing, character-voicing, puppeteering, ballroom- and tap-dancing, and you've got a regular Renaissance woman.

She has some insightful words about how you can have a beautiful mind too.

Click the "Listen" button to hear Beautiful Judy Stadt.

How connected to your sexuality are you?  This show highlights Nicole Daedone, author of "Slow Sex:  the Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm,"  who will share her expertise and experience on this topic.  Her work and book shows you how in 15 minutes, you can improve your sex life and experience true feminine satisfaction including:
* a deeper connection to your partner
* less anxiety around sexual performance
* increased sexual sensation

Listen to the entire show here.  CoachBettyLIVE with Nicole Daedone

Nicole writes, "The truth is, American women are not satisfied with their sex lives.  A reported 40 million American couples suffer sexless marriages, and 'low sexual interest in women' has become such an epidemic it is being considered an official diagnosis in the DSM V due out in 2013.  The problem isnt' that women aren't hungry for sex.  The problem is women want a different kind of sex than what's been on the menu."

Nicole Daedone is an author and educator focusing on the intersection between orgasm, intimacy, and life. She is the fouonder of OneTaste, a cutting-edge company bringing a new definition of orgasm to women through courses, coaching and media.  For more about OneTaste and OM, visit www.onetaste.us. Nicole's blog appears at www.nicoledaedone.com.

Watch Nicole's TEDx talk here:  The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman

This episode highlights my dear friends and colleagues, Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell, authors of "Seduction, Redefined."  Their 18 year relationship is a testament to the science and theory of women selecting men as a path to peace in our homes, and on our planet.  Click the "listen" button below to hear the entire interview below.

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Studies show that a woman’s success doubles when her intimate relationship fuels her business. A former Olympic athlete, Olga Aura has been married to the man of her dreams for seven years. And she teaches a 4-step GOLD system that will activate your power in the bedroom AND the bank.  Visit Olga’s website and receive 3 Gifts for you: www.OlgaAura.com

We must stand up, and pay attention to what is happening in this crazy world around our sexuality.  There is a movie that has been released earlier this year, Orgasm Inc.  It reveals how women get brainwashed into thinking there is something wrong (ladies, you know who you are), and actually we are just unique and different…normal. This movie is a courageous documentary by film director, Liz Canner.  Liz shows shows how out of control the pharmaceutical industry has become in their ability to influence what is considered a health diagnosis.  Think about it for a millisecond…the pharmaceutical industry determining what constitutes health!?!  They are onto the new hot market of women wanting to have better sex.  WHOA Baby!  We, as women, are sexual beings in our innermost natures.  This is our purest form of goodness.

Please take a moment to breathe right here and now.  You are a beautiful and sensual woman on the inside.  It is there, and we all want to see and BE in the presence of that woman.  Your sexuality is your birth right, and when women get back in touch with their sexuality we have a better chance to bring the planet back into balance.  You do not need medication to treat Female Sexual Dysfunction, because it only exists in the mind of the pharmaceutical industry.  There is a time and a place for pharmaceutical medication, and we must learn how to use it to contribute to the whole.

Here is a synopsis of Orgasm Inc.:

In the shocking and hilarious documentary Orgasm Inc., filmmaker Liz Canner takes a job editing erotic videos for a drug trial for a pharmaceutical company. Her employer is developing what they hope will be the first Viagra drug for women that wins FDA approval to treat a new disease: Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD). Liz gains permission to film the company for her own documentary. Initially, she plans to create a movie about science and pleasure but she soon begins to suspect that her employer, along with a cadre of other medical companies, might be trying to take advantage of women (and potentially endanger their health) in pursuit of billion dollar profits. Orgasm Inc. is a powerful look inside the medical industry and the marketing campaigns that are literally and figuratively reshaping our everyday lives around health, illness, desire — and that ultimate moment: orgasm.

Have you seen the film?  Tell me what you think…

Brenda Wade is the President, CEO & Founder of Heartline Productions, Inc.  She is “one of the most renowned psychologists in America,” Dr. Brenda Wade is best known for her dynamic, love-centered approach to transformation. She has earned numerous awards as psychologist, author, television host, producer, keynote speaker and workshop leader.  Together, these pursuits typify the results of blending her three primary focuses:  Psychology, Media, and Speaking.

Dr. Brenda Wade, a clinical psychologist in San Francisco, California, specializes in couples and family therapy, with a private practice that reaches internationally.   Dr. Wade is both producer and host of the PBS television pledge special Power Choices currently airing nationally.  She hosted the nationally-syndicated television program “Can This Marriage Be Saved?”.  The program was based on the column of the same name which has run in the Ladies Home Journal magazine for over 40 years.   The San Francisco Chronicle described Dr. Wade’s demeanor on the program as “…always knowledgeable, selectively tough or sympathetic.”  The Boston Globe stated Dr. Wade’s manner on the show mixed with “…the magic of television, encouraged [people] to respond…,” and that the show had an “odd integrity”, not often viewed in a TV talk/relationship program.

Dr. Wade has appeared as a guest expert on such popular, national day-time talk programs as: Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America, Jenny Jones. She appeared with Peter Jennings in the ABC News Special: Children First.  Currently, Dr. Wade hosts CW’s Black Renaissance and contributes medical reports to KRON-4 News.

Dr. Wade’s latest book Power Choices: 7 Milestones on Your Journey to Wholeness, Love, Joy and Peace demonstrates the power of bringing together psychology and spirituality to transform lives.  She has also co-authored with Brenda Richardson, What Mama Couldn’t Tell Us About Love, which focuses on healing the wounds and celebrating the strengths of African American Women. Dr. Wade’s first book, also co-authored with Brenda Richardson, Love Lessons: A Guide to Transforming Relationships, leads couples in trouble through a step by step healing program based on the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

To learn more about Dr. Brenda Wade’s resources, go to www.docwade.com or call (415) 775-4866.

Listen to the whole show here…CoachBettyLIVE with Brenda Wade

This is a WHOA Baby to me because, as women, we ARE sexual BEings. When 30% of women have no interest in sex, then our society suffers. When women are not connected with themselves and feeling good, then there are a whole lot of children, men and women unhappy. Remember that old saying “When Mama ain’t happy, Nobody’s happy!”

Here are my 5 secrets for women to manifest healthy, enjoyable, fun and replenishing sex.

1)  mellow out…start with 30 seconds three times a day to breathe and feel into your body (and sexuality)

2) free yourself from outcomes and expectations…let events unfold organically

3) live in the moment…let your body feel the sensations of the moment

4) surrender to the pleasure…yep, here is the orgasmic part

5) thank your body for the experience…don’t miss this step!

Notice that these steps can be done with or without a partner.  Love yourself up, and then others will automatically love you up too.  Why do we resist healing ourselves through pleasure?  As always, your thoughts are much appreciated.

BE Light

BE Love

BE the soul you are in awe of…

Elizabeth Taylor represents such an amazing example of how powerful beauty and sexuality as a combination can be for a woman.  Her classic films and TV appearances brought the essence of beauty and sexuality to our screens.  Her personal life, although wrought with unsuccessful marriages, also showed how powerfully men respond to women comfortable with their beauty and sexuality.  Eight marriages that show she got what she wanted, choosing each one of her mates.  On a grander scale, the work she pioneered with AIDS/HIV, is also such a clear example of a woman’s ability to exercise her woman-ness for goodness in the world.

What if I told you that you have an Elizabeth Taylor inside of you?  It’s true, and CoachBettyLIVE is committed to helping you find it.

Thank you for leading the way, Elizabeth Taylor.

This special show highlights another kindred spirit in the vision of sensuality and sexuality as our innermost natures. Kimberly Cain is the author of a captivating novel, “Heaven,”  about an exotic dancer/stripper who is closer to her God-Self than most people walking on the planet.  I could not put this book down as the underlying insights into the sacredness of sexuality were revealed with a page turning story of the religious establishment challenging and abusing the concept of Inner Divinity through sensual and sexual dancing.  ”Heaven” is on Coach Betty’s highly recommended reading list.

Listen to the whole show below.

Kimberly Cain is a speaker, intuitive spiritual guide, writer and performer.  She has received songwriting awards from Billboard and Musician Magazines and opened shows for artists such as David Bowie and Sarah McLachlan.  A perpertual student of spiritual practice and its application to daily life, Kimberly is intrigued by the power of art to entertain, challenge, and transform.  Her years as a professional singer, broadcast talent, writer and producer have shaped her ability to synthesize the energies of the visible and unseen worlds into presentations of art and faith that stretch our perceived limits.  She is passionate about inspiring others to discover their own authentic voice.  Heaven is Kimberly’s first novel.  Find out more at KimberlyCain.com.

To learn how to unleash your own sexy spirit, sign up now for Kimberly’s teleclass beginning April 7th at MoveYourSexySpirit.com.  BY POPULAR DEMAND, Kimberly is extending her “on air” offer for the first 15 CoachBettyLIVE listeners who sign up for MoveYourSexySpirit, you will receive “Heaven” including the accompanying CD.  What a gift!!

Listen to the entire show here…CoachBettyLIVE with Kimberly Cain.

When we strip life down to the bare essentials, let our true nature show, only love and goodness is present.

Beauty comes in many forms and surrounds us everyday.  Please take a moment to appreciate yours.

Blessings!

Hello My Lovely Family and Friends,

First I want to thank you so very much for your concern for me. I am very touched. I also wish to apologize for a generic message to you all. But it seems the best way at the moment to get my message to you.

Things here in Sendai have been rather surreal. But I am very blessed to have wonderful friends who are helping me a lot. Since my shack is even more worthy of that name, I am now staying at a friend’s home. We share supplies like water, food and a kerosene heater. We sleep lined up in one room, eat by candlelight, share stories. It is warm, friendly, and beautiful.

During the day we help each other clean up the mess in our homes. People sit in their cars, looking at news on their navigation screens, or line up to get drinking water when a source is open. If someone has water running in their home, they put out sign so people can come to fill up their jugs and buckets.

Utterly amazingly where I am there has been no looting, no pushing in lines. People leave their front door open, as it is safer when an earthquake strikes. People keep saying, “Oh, this is how it used to be in the old days when everyone helped