Coach Betty LIVE! Dance with the rhythms of life, create healthy relationships & thrive! Mon, 26 Aug 2013 19:03:37 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Dance with the rhythms of life, create healthy relationships & thrive! Coach Betty LIVE! clean Coach Betty LIVE! (Coach Betty LIVE!) Dance with the rhythms of life, create healthy relationships & thrive! coach betty, coach betty live, betty louise, greenthink, green think, green, healing, pain, relationships, sexuality, green think radio Coach Betty LIVE! ANNOUNCEMENT-PAUSING IN THE MYSTERY Thu, 27 Jun 2013 21:07:12 +0000 Admin Thank you for the outpouring of concern and support with my recent health challenges. Albeit not easy, I am finding an organic and orgasmic way with this experience too.

It has been an interesting journey since I have been in the Phoenix area of Arizona. In late January, I arrived in beautiful Arizona and was ready to embrace the desert air and collaborate with the amazing holistic healers of the Southwest.

When I arrived, my body was happy to land in the warmth of the sun, and the sensual hug that goes with this warm and dry air. My body relaxes easily in heat, and my movements become deliberate and slow. And as my body relaxed, an enormous amount of underlying stress rose to the surface. Have you ever had that experience? You know, when you finally finish a project, a semester's work, or moving to a new house/city that has kept you engaged and busy for a few weeks at least. You finally stop after it is complete, and you get sick or you are absolutely exhausted. Well that is what happened to me. I stopped and relaxed, and quite a bit of pain surfaced. I have had an extended period of acute pain in the muscles and joints on the entire right side of my body. 

During this time of stepping back from the normal routine of work and dealing with the acute pain throughout my body, I am reflecting on my life purpose and passionate pursuits. There have been so many mysteries in my journey, and I continue to practice listening to the wisdom of my body and digging deeper for the root cause of my pain. I know this is what allows me to dig deep with my clients and uncover the gifts that reside within them. I am consulting western medicine and practicing all my natural therapies as well, and expect to be dancing and singing in the rain very soon. 

I have not come to a complete stop though. I continue to move forward with my passionate desire to bring more natural healing through our own beauty and sexuality into the world. And so I make the following 3 offers to help you uncover your unique beauty and sexuality.

1) In 2012-2013, I led a 10-week introductory coaching program "Tapping Into the Juice" which focused on establishing a practice of pausing and pondering the relationship to personal beauty and sexuality. Some of the amazing feedback I received from the clients who participated:

"She took me to a deeper place of awareness and awakened my innate capacity for healing."

"Betty is an expert at helping women tap into that reserve of body wisdom that lies dormant inside of us. Confusion and worry simply didn't exist when we worked together, and I had a joyful time learning and retraining my habits around my body that will stay with me forever." 

"Working with Coach Betty has allowed me to get in touch with my senses, with my breath, with my body. I appreciate and love my body on a completely different level. Her exercises are simple, yet profound. If you are ready for the truth, the truth is waiting. Just open the door."

"Working with Coach Betty has absolutely been a transforming experience for me! Thank you, Coach Betty for opening up my eyes and being with me as I peeled a few more layers of my thick cocoon off… thank you for helping me see the beauty inside- my smile, my butterfly."

Participate in phase 2 of the 10-week Introductory Coaching Program
Click HERE for details. 
2) In July, 2013, a new 10-week Coaching Program will be available, "Grounding and Channeling Juicy Energy to Everyday Activities."
In this program, you will learn:
* a simple 2-minute grounding exercise to calm your mind and body
* the one most critical piece of knowledge to have in order to channel energy
* how to use your sexual energy outside of the bedroom 
* simple, yet profound, practices that ground you in your confidence and courage
Participate in Level 2 Coaching Program. (you must first take level 1)
Click HERE for more information, and email Coach Betty Louise for an application and more details.
3) I am writing a book about the process of re-discovering beauty and sexuality as a healing force. The book will draw on my own personal profound experience of healing, and teach my simple process for increased peace, passion, and pleasure in your life. 


Be a contributor of support through the project and completion of this book. The contribution could be editing, virtual assisting, publishing, or financing to name a few ideas. 

Please email me for details. 
Subject line: Book Contributor

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FINDING THE FUNNY – On the Golf Course with Jesus Mon, 15 Apr 2013 16:03:17 +0000 Admin Moses, Jesus and an old man are golfing. Moses steps up to the tee and hits the ball. It goes sailing over the fairway and lands in the water. Moses parts the water and chips the ball onto the green.

Jesus steps up to the tee and hits the ball. It goes sailing over the fairway and lands in the water.

Jesus just walks on the water and chips the ball onto the green. 

The old man steps up to the tee and hits the ball. It goes sailing over the fairway and heads for the water. But, just before it falls into the water, a fish jumps up and grabs the ball in its mouth. As the fish is falling back down into the water, an eagle swoops down and grabs the fish in its claws. The eagle flies over the green when a lightning bolt shoots from the sky and barely misses it. Startled, the eagle drops the fish. When the fish hits the ground, the ball pops out of its mourth and rolls into the hole for a hole-in-one.

Jesus then turns to the old man and says, "Dad, if you don't stop folling around, we won't bring you next time."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Ten dollars is ten dollars Mon, 08 Apr 2013 22:02:46 +0000 Admin Fred and his wife Edna went to the state fair every year. Every year Fred would say, "Edna, I'd like to ride in that there airplane." And every year Edna would say "I know Fred, but that airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars."

One year Fred and Edna went to the fair and Fred said, "Edna, I'm 71 years old. If I don't ride that airplane this year I may never get another chance."

Edna replied, "Fred that there airplane ride costs ten dollars, and ten dollars is ten dollars."

The pilot overhear them and said, "Folks, I'll make you a deal. I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you, but if you say one word it's ten dollars."

Fred and Edna agreed and up they go. The pilot does all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word is heard. He does all his tricks over again, but still not a word.

They land and the pilot turns to Fred, "By golly, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn't."

Fred replied, "Well, I was going to say something when Edna fell out of the plane, but ten dollars is ten dollars."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – The Wrong Way Mon, 01 Apr 2013 16:05:13 +0000 Admin A senior citizen was driving down the freeway when his wife called his cell phone.

"Herman, I just hear on the news that there's a car going the wrong way on Route 280. Please be careful!"

"It's not just one car," said Herman, "It's hundreds of them!"

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WHOA Baby Wednesday Wed, 27 Mar 2013 17:00:23 +0000 Admin  

A team of neurologists found that sexual activity can lead to “partial or complete relief” of head pain in some migraines.
The study, from the University of Munster, Germany, suggests that instead of using a sore head as an excuse to refuse sex, making love can be more effective than taking painkillers.
Their research, reported in Cephalalgia, the journal of the International Headache Society, found that more than half of migraine sufferers who had sex during an episode experienced an improvement in symptoms.
One in five patients left without any pain at all, while others, in particular male sufferers “even used sexual activity as a therapeutic tool”, they added.
They suggested that sex triggered the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, through the central nervous system, which can in turn reduce, or even eliminate, a headache.
Can you imagine a world where we look to our sexuality as a part of our medicine? 
I have mentioned many times that in the 1850s Victorian Physicians performed vaginal massage (orgasm) to treat female hysteria. The movie "Hysteria" documents this time in history which led to the invention of the vibrator. 
I have also been vocal about sexual wellness as natural ways to improve your immune system, cardiovascular system, and overall well being. 
What makes us resistant and hesitant to embrace this?
In my research and experience coaching women about their sexuality, I have identified the following reasons we resist the power of sexual healing. 
Religious training – interpretations of sex and sexual behavior by many religions teaching repression and shame. This has created confusion in enjoying sex for both young and mature women alike. And if you are unable to enjoy sex, it will not be a healing experience.
Reliance/Dependence on Quick Fix – our trained response when we have a health issue is to see a doctor or take a pill. When is the last time you were ill, and thought sex could help? We are also greatly influenced by the abundance of advertising pharmaceuticals.
Belief systems – We have not been exposed enough to the belief that sex can relieve pain and be healing, even though Marvin Gaye has been singing about it for 30 years. Our belief systems are formed by our experiences and what we are exposed to, and they can change in a moment. 
The good news is the seed has now been planted. Consider the side effects of orgasm, the next time you have a headache. :-)


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Elderly Marriage?? Mon, 25 Mar 2013 16:53:00 +0000 Admin Two elderly folks in a nursing home wanted to get married. Their doctor took each one into his office separately to try and talk them out of it.

He called in the woman and told her that the man had already suffered two heart attacks.

She told the doctor that she didn't care.

The doctor called in the man and told him the woman was suffering from acute angina.

"I know!" he said. "I peeked."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Proud Catholic Moms Mon, 18 Mar 2013 16:32:40 +0000 Admin Four old Catholic women sit and brag about their sons.

The first Catholic woman tells her friends, "My son is a priest. When he walks into a room, everyone calls him 'Father'."

The second Catholic woman chirps, "My son is a bishop. Whenever he walks into a room, people call him 'Your Grace'."

The third Catholic mother says, "My son is a cardinal. Whenever he walks into a room, he's called 'Your Eminence'."

The fourth Catholic woman says, "My incredibly handsome son is 6' 2 with broad, square shoulders, good manners, and impeccable style. Whenever he walks into a room, women say, 'Oh my God!'"

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Parrot Prostitutes?!? Mon, 11 Mar 2013 20:04:10 +0000 Admin A lady approaches her priest and tells him, "Father, I have a problem. I have two female talking parrots, but they only know how to say one thing."

"What do they say?" the priest inquired.

"They only know how to say, 'Hi, we're prostitutes. Want to have some fun?"

"That's terrible!" the priest exclaimed, "but I have a solution to your problem. Bring your two female parrots over to my house and I will put them with my two male parrots whom I taught to pray and read the bible. My parrots will teach your parrots to stop saying that terrible phrase and your female parrots will learn to praise and worship."

"Thank you!" the woman responded.

The next day the woman brings her female parrots to the priest's house.

His two male parrots are holding rosary beads and praying in their cage.

The lady puts her two female parrots in with the male parrots and the female parrots say, "Hi we're prostitutes, want to have some fun?"

One male parrot looks over at the other male parrot and exclaims, "Put the beads away. Our prayers have been answered!"

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ARTICLE – BElieving in the Impossible Thu, 07 Mar 2013 23:32:42 +0000 Admin  

There are many in the world today who are working for a better planet. Big thinkers who are imagining a planet that is healthy, because it's people are healthy; a world that has peace and love as the predominant mood; a place where positive thinking and optimism run rampant; a society where everyone has enough and we truly understand the power of how we can affect our surroundings.
You might say this is an impossible vision. What makes it impossible? 
Is it possible…
…to be healthy?
…to abolish war, fear and hate?
…to find good in all people and situations?
…to become conscious of how when one suffers, we all suffer on some level?
We have never known a world like this, but does that mean it isn't possible?
What does exist when we create peace where war existed, or when health replaces dis-ease, or when conflicts are resolved and people come together as a community? It starts with someone having a vision of what did not previously exist. Those special folks that do not allow themselves to be limited in their thinking and begin the process of changing the impossible to the possible. They paint the picture for others of this new vision, and then the miracle of what did not exist before becomes a reality.
I am stepping out to create a new vision for my life, and I want to invite you to support me. If you see me change the impossible to possible, then you have evidence it can be true for you too. My body has been ravaged by a dis-ease that has been present for over 25 years and the physical changes that have occurred are considered permanent by many. Is it impossible for me to regenerate bone, muscle, ligament and tendon tissue and restore my joints to full function? Before I consider the action of radical surgery, I am going to give it a go to BElieve in what appears to be impossible. Will you join me?
When I participated in an intensive experiential leadership program, one of the things I learned about myself is that I wait until the very last minute to ask for help. But help does come with the request, and it often creates miracles and magic.
So it is with a renewed sense of deep self-worth that I ask for your help to make some magic with me now. Whenever you happen to read this piece, PAUSE and envision me and my beautiful right hip joint fully functioning where my femur smoothly articulates in the socket of my pelvis. There is a smooth tough articular cartilage cushioning the bones and letting the ball move easily in it's socket. The surrounding muscles, ligaments and tendons are relaxed and at ease as they surround and move my leg with strength and flexibility. The dancer is dancing again!
Why should I choose this time, after almost 27 years, to believe that a healing like this is possible?
Why not now? 
Why not me?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Bedtime Blues Mon, 04 Mar 2013 18:00:42 +0000 Admin A small boy is sent to bed by his father…

[five minutes later]



"I'm thirsty. Can you bring me a drink of water?"

"No. You had your chance. Lights out."

[five minutes later]



"I'm THIRSTY…Can I have a drink of water?"

"I told you NO! If you ask again I'll have to spank you!!"

[five minutes later]



"When you come in to spank me, can you bring me a drink of water?"


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Wife Finder Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:00:20 +0000 Admin A man approached a very beautiful woman in a large supermarket and asked, "You know, I've lost my wife here in the supermarket. Can you talk to me for a couple of minutes?"


"Because every time I talk to a beautiful woman my wife apprears out of nowhere."

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ARTICLE – The Power of Vulnerability Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:44:12 +0000 Admin  

Looking up a definition of vulnerability, the first one noted is “susceptible to physical or emotional injury.” Aren’t we all, as human beings, susceptible to a blow to our physical and emotional well being? This is part of BEing a human. We can be strong and powerful in one moment, and fragile in the next. 
Other phrases that are used to describe vulnerability are “chink in one’s armor,” “live in a glass house,” “out on a limb,” “sitting duck,” or “over a barrel.” They certainly are not powerful images, are they? It is no wonder that we create stories that we are weak, helpless and victimized when we feel  vulnerable.
My personal experience with vulnerability has shown the spectrum from feeling weak and helpless to feeling powerful and in deep integrity. What I know is that the moment I burst into tears that I can’t hold back, I am tapping into the deeper mystery that lives within and is raw and true. I may not have the words for it and understand what it all means in the moment, but I know I am hovering around something deeply meaningful. If I can pause and let the tears pass through, WITHOUT judgement, there can often be an insight for me. As soon as I start to criticize myself or feel helpless or victimized, then the emotions take over and the learning is often lost.
I know I am in helpless victimized vulnerability when I hear this kind of self-talk: “Are you kidding me?” “Really! This has to be sooo difficult for me.” And the ultimate Viola Victim self-talk is “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” The other awareness about the helpless victim place is that it becomes more difficult to be grateful for what I have in my life. Sometimes, it just seems impossible to feel the gratitude.
Well I imagine you can guess what the empowered vulnerability might look like; gratitude comes easy for all the amazing simple moments; I embrace the fragile nature of my life as part of life; and I feel the truth in how it connects me deeply with the rest of humanity. We are all on our hero’s journey, and we all have moments of vulnerability.
I love asking questions that make people stop and think in new ways. Sometimes people furrow their brow and wonder whether I am asking a trick question or know the right answer when I ask them to pause and consider something like the power of vulnerability. When you ponder questions that do not coincide with the normal ways you think, you expand your view and open up creative problem solving. Asking new kinds of questions get at new kinds of understandings. 
What does “The Power of Vulnerability” mean to you?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Through a Child’s Eyes Mon, 18 Feb 2013 15:17:27 +0000 Admin A mom and dad were worried about their son not wanting to learn math at the school he was in, so they decided to send him to a Catholic school.

After the first day of school, their son comes racing into the house, goes straight into his room and slams the door shut.  Mom and dad are a little worried about this and go to his room to see if he is okay.

They find him sitting at his desk doing his homework. The boy keeps doing that for the rest of the year. 

At the end of the year, the son brings home his report card and gives it to his mom and dad. Looking at it they see under math an A+.

Mom and dad are very happy and ask the son, "What changed your mind about learning math?"

The son looked at mom and dad and said, "Well, on the first day when I walked into the classroom, I saw a guy nailed to the plus sign at the back on the room behind the teacher's desk and I knew they meant business."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Our Creative English Language Mon, 11 Feb 2013 19:27:04 +0000 Admin The English Language

There is no egg in eggplant, no ham in hamburger, and neither pine nor apple in pineapple 

English muffins were not invented in England

French fries were not invented in France

We sometimes take English for granted, but if we examine its paradoxes we find that

Quicksand takes you down slowly

Boxing rings are square

And a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig

If writer's write, how come fingers don't fing

If the plural of tooth is teeth, shouldn't the plural of phone booth be phone beeth

If the teacher taught, why didn't the preacher praught


If the vegetarian eats vegtables, what the heck does a humanitarian eat

Why do people recite at a play, and yet play at a recital

Park on driveways and drive on parkways

You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a lanaguage where

a house can burn up as it burns down

And in which you fill in a form by filling it out

English was invented by people not computers, and it reflects the creativity of the human race

Which of course isn't a race at all

That is why when the stars are out they are visible, but when the lights are out they are invisible

And why it is that when I wind up my watch it starts, but when I wind up this observation, it ends.



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ARTICLE – Pain and Pleasure Wed, 06 Feb 2013 17:42:23 +0000 Admin  

Do you want to hear something crazy? I did not have any idea how much pleasure was available to me in my body until I was in a whole lot of pain. My body has experienced the high of dancing on stage with joy and ease to the "show stopping" pain of being unable to move a single joint in my body without a searing and stabbing sensation penetrating throughout.
It was in one of those "show stopping" moments that I learned about how to use pleasure as a balance to the pain. That was over 7 years ago now, and I have been exploring this phenomenon of pleasure and pain since then.
This is what I want you to know:
* Pain can be physical, emotional, psychological, energetic, spiritual, etc. No matter where it derives from, pleasure is a source of relief.
* Pain and pleasure live right next door to each other within our bodies. We do have a choice.
* Pleasure medicine, as I call it, can mean laughter, sensuality, sexuality, and beauty (to name a few).
* The above mentioned pleasure medicine lives within us 24/7.
* There are no side effects from pleasure.
* We all live with pain.
When we are able to ramp up the pleasure in our lives, we are engaging in a form of preventative medicine.
Simple pleasures are the very best. Here is a starter list of my most enjoyable simple pleasures. 
* Drinking coffee (with cream) in the morning outside in fresh air
* Reading, posting and telling jokes on a weekly basis
* Feeling the breeze blow across my skin
* Savoring the taste of a juicy mango
* Listening to the birds
* Smelling the fragrance of lilacs
* Giving and getting a hug
* Enjoying an Arizona sunset
* Talking to my daughter on the phone or skype
* Having a whole day with no plans
What can you add?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Men are all Alike Mon, 04 Feb 2013 08:00:37 +0000 Admin A few moments after the daughter announced her engagement, her Father asked, "Does this fellow have any money?"

The daughter shook her head sadly. 

"Oh Daddy! You men are all alike," sighing deeply, she replied. "That's exacly what he asked me about you."

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ANNOUNCEMENT – Wisdom of Your Body programs Wed, 09 Jan 2013 19:59:41 +0000 Admin With the new year upon us, change is in the air for Coach Betty.

I am traveling to the Phoenix area for the winter to restore my body so that I can better contribute to my local and global community through live talks, writing, coaching, internet radio/TV, and volunteering. It all begins with taking care of the Self.

On my way to Phoenix, I want to share this beautiful "Good Morning" I experienced in  Genoa, NV.  









I am also currently compiling material for a new ebook/book on "The Wisdom of Your Body: the 3 Ps to Peace, Passion, and Pleasure." If you are interested in contributing to the book while receiving 10-1/2 hour phone coaching sessions for $200. That's $20/session with the agreement I can use the notes (anonymously) for the book. Grab your chance…email me Deadline is January 31st, 2013.

Beginning February 1st, you will find a whole new array of articles, jokes, and radio podcasts to enjoy right here.

Happy 2013!!

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FINDING THE FUNNY – The Birds and Bees Tue, 08 Jan 2013 04:43:45 +0000 Admin A father asked his son, Little Johnny, if he knew about the birds and bees.

"I don't want to know!" Little Johnny said, exploding and bursting into tears. Confused, his father asked Little Johnny what was wrong.:Oh Pop," Johnny sobbed, "for me there was no Santa Clause at age six, no Easter Bunny at seven, and no Tooth Fairy at eight. And if you're telling me now that grown ups don't really have sex. I've got nothing left to believe in!"

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Only After One Thing Mon, 31 Dec 2012 19:14:50 +0000 Admin A man parked his car at the supermarket and was walking past an empty cart when he heard a woman ask, "Excuse me, did you want that cart?"

"No," he answered. "I'm only after one thing."

As he walked toward the store, he heard her murmur, "Typical male."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Genie grants BIG WISH Mon, 17 Dec 2012 16:33:25 +0000 Admin A man was walking along a beach and stumbled across an old lamp. He picked it up, rubbed it, and out popped a genie.

The genie said "You released me from the lamp, blah, blah, blah. This is the fourth time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these wishes so you can forget about three. You only get one wish!"

The man sat and though about it for awhile and said, "I've always wanted to go to Hawaii, but I'm scared to fly and I get very seasick.

"Could you build me a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive over there to visit?"

The genie laughed and said,"That's impossible! Think of the logistics of that? How would the supports ever reach the bottom of the Pacific? Think of how much concrete! How much steel! You're going to have to think of another wish."

The man agreed, and tried to think of a really good wish. Finally, he said, "I've been married and divorced four times. My wives always said that I don't care and that I'm insensitive. So, I wish that I could understand women. I want to know how they feel inside and what they're thinking when they give me the silent treatment. I want to figure out why they're crying know what they really want when they say 'nothing', and know to make them truly happy."

The genie paused for awhile and said, "How many lanes do you want on that bridge?"

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FINDING THE FUNNY – I’ll do ANYTHING Mon, 10 Dec 2012 20:58:03 +0000 Admin A student comes to a young professor's office hours. She glances down the hall, closes his door, kneels pleadingly.

"I would do anything to pass this exam." She leans closer to him, flips back her hair, gazes meaningfully into his eyes. "I mean…" she whispers, "…I would do…anything."

He returns her gaze, "Anything?"


His voice softens. "Anything??"

"Absolutely Anything."

His voice turns to a whisper. "Would you…study?"

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NEWS FLASH – Honoring Dave Brubeck Thu, 06 Dec 2012 20:18:03 +0000 Admin RIP Dave Brubeck

Dave Brubeck was an innovator who was not initally embraced by the American jazz music scene, because he was bold enough to be different and unique. He was the first pianist to break 4/4 time in jazz, by adding a fifth beat to the measure, according to jazz historian Ted Gioia.

Dave and I both attended Mills College in Oakland, Calfornia, and I was fortunate enough to see him perform there in 1983.

Another interesting fact is that he was married for 70 years!

Take Five, and BE bold and unique, in Dave's honor!

Click to listen to the Dave Brubeck Quartet "Take Five" 

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FINDING THE FUNNY – No more Worries Mon, 26 Nov 2012 16:44:16 +0000 Admin "Mum," yelled Johnny from the kitchen, "you know that dish you were always worried that I would break?"

"Yes dear, what about it?"

"Well, your worries are over."


How about that for a perspective? :-)

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ARTICLE – The Inner Peace of Gratitude Tue, 20 Nov 2012 19:14:56 +0000 Admin  

According to Wikipedia, "the systematic study of gratitude within psychology only began around the year 2000, possibly because psychology has traditionally been focused more on understanding distress rather than understanding positive emotions." Given that, it makes sense that we are still learning about how to feel grateful. 
In my experience, it is definitely a practice. There are times that gratitude comes easy for me, and there are times that it can be hard to muster it up. 
It is worth the effort though, as empirical findings show that grateful people are more likely to have higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and depression.
Statistics from World Poverty report that "if you have a full fridge, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are wealthier than 75% of the world's population.  As we prepare for this Thanksgiving holiday here in the US, I imagine that many of those refrigerators are overflowing. 
Gratitude is a perspective, and so it is a choice to feel grateful. When you review the evidence above, it seems like it should be second nature to feel grateful.
And, even with all the evidence, there are times in my life where it can be difficult to choose it. For example, when I have worked diligently on a project and the result is "less than" what I wanted, I often choose disappointment. And then I collect all sorts of evidence to support my disappointment. This, too, is my choice.
How do I shift from disappointment to gratitude?
  • PAUSE and feel where the tension is in my body, because disappointment always equals tension in my  body
  • Acknowledge the tension and breathe into it with the intention of releasing and relaxing
  • Remind myself that life is a series of experiences and it is ALWAYS my choice how to respond and learn from them 
  • Become present with the moment…note the food in the fridge, the clothes on my back, the home I am living in, and the bed I get to sleep in
  • Smile at my human-ness, and embrace the wild journey of life…living an organic and orgasmic life, that is.
May you find the gratitude in simple things today…being able to take another breath and experience another amazing day on this planet!
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Choosing Hymns Mon, 19 Nov 2012 16:47:30 +0000 Admin There has been a need for extra funny lately…I will be posting articles and interviews soon! In the meantime, keep your laugh muscle working!! :-)


One Sunday a pastor told his congregation that the church needed some extra money and asked the people to prayerfully consider giving a little extra in the offering plate. He said what whoever gave the most would be able to pick out three hymns.

After the offering plates werre passed, the pastor glanced down and noticed that someone had placed a $1,000 bill in offering. He was so excited that he immediately shared his joy with his congregation and said he'd like to personally thank the person who placed the money in the plate.

A very quiet, elderly, saintly lady all the way in the back shyly raised her hand.

The pastor asked her to come to the front.

Slowly she made her way to the pastor. He told her how wonderful it was that she gave so much and in thanksgiving asked her to pick out three hymns. 

Her eyes brightened as she looked over the congregation, pointed to the three handsomest men in the building and said, "I'll take him and him and him!"

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Punctuation Matters Mon, 12 Nov 2012 22:31:18 +0000 Admin An English professor wrote the words, "woman without her man is savage" on the blackboard and directed his students to punctuate it correctly.

The men wrote: "Woman without her man, is a savage."

The women wrote: "Woman: Without her, man is a savage."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – You are Never Too Old Mon, 05 Nov 2012 18:00:28 +0000 Admin Dorothy and Edna, two "senior" widows, are talking at the local coffee shop.

Dorothy: "That nice Joe asked me out for a date…I know that you went out with him last week, and I wanted to talk with you about him before I give him my answer."

Edna: "Well…I'll tell you. He shows up at my apartment punctually at 7 PM dressed like such a gentleman in a fine suit, and he brings me such beautiful flowers! Then he takes me downstairs, and what's there but a luxury car…a limousine, uniformed chauffeur and all. Then he takes me out for dinner…a marvelous dinner – lobster, champagne, dessert, and after-dinner drinks. Then we go see a show…let me tell you Dorothy, I enjoyed it so much I could have just died from pleasure! So then we are coming back to my apartment and he turns into an ANIMAL. Completely crazy, he tears off my expensive new dress and has his way with me…two times!"

Dorothy: "Goodness gracious!…so you are telling me I shouldn't go out with him?"

Edna: "No, no, no. I'm just saying, wear an old dress."

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ARTICLE – A Planet Calling for Help Thu, 01 Nov 2012 23:17:54 +0000 Admin

Our fulfillment with sexuality is a pathway to freedom in all aspects of our lives. It is our true nature. It is who we are at our very basic core, a beautiful and sexual BEing. And when we know this feeling, everyone wins, including the planet.
We have not been living according to our true nature. We have been faking orgasms and engaging in unsatisfying sex from both genders. We have been beating ourselves up for not matching up to unreal images of beauty in the media. This has led to an increasing number of sexless marriages.The vicious cycles that most people call their lives have created stressed based diseases, and a dependence on pharmaceutical medication to keep us going. The impact of this is being felt throughout the world and environment. It is a cause for the current messages from Mother Nature that have been devastating. She is crying for us to wake up and create the heaven on earth that is possible. We need to stop the insanity.
My approach is simple, but not easy. My system of the 5 Ps to peace, passion, and pleasure has been based on my own personal sexual healing experience with the chronic pain condition, Rheumatoid Arthritis, that led me on a 7 year study and exploration of orgasmic healing. Orgasmic Healing is real and was  documented over 100 years ago. The Victorian Physicians orgasmic treatment of women with the diagnosis of “Female Hysteria” led to the invention of the vibrator.
The need for us to PAUSE is NOW. Tune into your sensuality. Until we get back to living in the wisdom of our bodies and feeling our sensual and beautiful nature, our planet will show us that we are not listening to the right messages. 
The good news is that it is totally and completely possible, if we believe. If we embrace the power of pleasure. We have been resisting. Moving into sexual wellness and freedom will make all areas of your life feel in greater balance and abundance.
How important to you is your sexual well being? On a scale of 1-5 (5 being VERY important). If you said 4-5, then your time is NOW. 
Join me in creating a new world based on moving with the flow of our true natures and embracing every moment and squeezing the juice out of it. 
This is what I call “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life.”
Contact me TODAY to learn the pathway to sexual freedom.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – St. Peter and Manhood Mon, 29 Oct 2012 17:01:54 +0000 Admin Everybody on earth dies and goes to heaven.

God comes and says "I want the men to make two lines. One line for the men that dominated their women on earth and the other line for the men that were whipped by their women. Also, I want all the women to go with St. Peter."

Said and done, the next time God looks the women are gone and there are two lines. 

The line of men that were whipped was 100 miles long. On the line of men that dominated women there was only one man.

God got mad and said, "You men should be ashamed of yourselves. I created you in my image, and you were all whippped by your mates. Look at the only one of my sons that stood up and made me proud. Learn from him. Tell them, my son, how did you manage to be the only one on that line?"

The man said, "I don't know. My wife told me to stand here."

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ARTICLE – Rising to the Challenge Wed, 24 Oct 2012 22:30:38 +0000 Admin  

A Giant Rise to the Challenge
I love how sports can inspire me to see possibilities in my own life. As the San Francisco Giants head into the first game of the World Series tonight, they have very beautifully demonstrated what it means to rise to the challenge. 
Whether you are a baseball fan or not, I believe you will appreciate what the Giants accomplished.
During the regular 2012 season the Giants were confronted with a couple of serious blows to the spirit of the team. Early in the season, one of the ace pitchers, Brian Wilson, hurt his elbow which required surgery taking him out for the rest of the season. Then in mid-August, SF Giant outfielder Melky Cabrera who was the #1 hitter in all of baseball, was suspended for performance enhancing drugs. Two huge blows as both of these men were leaders on the team. The Giants biggest rival, the Los Angeles Dodgers, also made a blockbuster trade in August which many thought would propel the Dodgers to the playoffs and leave the Giants in the dust. Not so fast there Dodger Blue…the Dodgers ended the season 8 games behind the Western Division Champion Giants.
For those not familiar with baseball, the postseason begins with a "best of 5" game playoff series between two top teams. The first team to win 3 games goes on to the next round. The Giants lost the first 2 games of this series to the Cincinnatti Reds in San Francisco. That meant they had to fly to Cincinnati and win all 3 games or be eliminated. This is a very difficult task for most teams as your home crowd can greatly influence a team's momentum. One of SF Giant players, Hunter Pence, spontaneously made a passionate speech to his teammates before they took the field in Cincy. His talk helped to motivate and inspire his teammates to step it up and win the next 3 games. On to the next round…
The next playoff series is the best of 7 games, and the first team to win 4 games moves on to the World Series. The Giants found themselves down again. The Cardinals had won 3 games to the Giants 1 game. Again, they were faced with needing to win the next 3 games or be eliminated. Not only did they win those games, but they outscored the Cardinals 21 – 1. 
Another part of the inspiring story is Barry Zito, a Giant's player who was pitching so poorly that he did not even play in the playoffs or World Series for the Giants in 2010. Well fast forward to must win game 5 in 2012. He won the game without giving up a run to the Cardinals. This set the Giants on fire for the next 2 games to capture the baseball dream of going to the World Series.
As if that isn't inspiring enough, the MVP of the 7 game series was Marco Scutaro, who has never been to a World Series. His hitting was amazing (.500 batting average), and his defense in the field made him a slam dunk choice.
If I wasn't a SF Giant fan, I wouldn't even know of Hunter Pence, Barry Zito or Marco Scutaro. Yet these 3 players made extraordinary efforts that helped bring the team to the coveted experience of playing in the championship series.  Barry Zito is in the honored position of being the starting pitcher of the first game.
It is a story of triumph that reminds me that the possibility for ordinary to become extraordinary lives within us all, and often happens when our backs are up against the wall. 
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FINDING THE FUNNY – 80 Year Old Couple Mon, 22 Oct 2012 17:07:01 +0000 Admin An eighty year old couple decide to try for a child. (I know, crazy already!!)

They visit the doctor who asks the man to produce a sperm sample in a bottle.

After two weeks, the couple return and the bottle is empty.

"What's the problem?' asks the doctor.

"Well," says the man, "First, I tried it with my right hand, then my left. Then my wife tried it with her right hand, then her left. Then she tried it with her teeth in and with her teeth out, and we still can't get the lid off the bloody bottle."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Twisting the Night Away Mon, 15 Oct 2012 16:57:51 +0000 Admin It's the Spring of 1957 and Bobby goes to pick up his date. He's a pretty hip guy with his own car. When he goes to the front door, the girl's father answers and invites him in. 

"Carrie's not ready yet. Why don't you have a seat?"

Carrie's father asks Bobby what they're planning to do.

Bobby replies politely that they will probably just go to the soda shop or a movie.

Why don't you two go out and screw? I hear all the kids are doing it!"

Naturally, this comes as a quite a surprise to Bobby so he asks Carrie's dad to repeat himself.

"Yeah," say Carrie's father, "Carrie really likes to screw; she'll screw all night if we let her!"

A few minutes later, Carrie comes downstairs in her little poodle skirt and announces that she's ready to go.

Almost breathless with anticipation, Bobby escorts his date out the front door.

About 20 minutes later, Carrie rushes back into the house, slams the door behind her, and screams at her father, "Dad, it's called the twist!"

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ARTICLE – Resisting Pleasure Fri, 12 Oct 2012 18:31:32 +0000 Admin  

You might think that sounds crazy. It's hard to wrap your mind around the idea that we actually resist pleasure. Don't we want to feel good?
How could this really be true?
I have three theories of why we resist pleasure, and three suggestions for how we can practice embracing pleasure.
Have you ever had the experience where things were going really well in your life, and you felt anxious about it? It is a common feeling. I've been there many times in my life. When I was married, my husband always wanted to prepare for the worst so I wouldn't allow myself to get too excited when things were going well. I didn't know what was right around the corner…could be something horrible, and I didn't want to fall too far from the pedestal of pleasure.
Another perspective on why we resist pleasure is a self-worthiness issue. Do we really deserve to be happy and ecstatic? I am sorry to say, I have lived a great deal of my life not feeling worthy of a pleasurable life. There are many facets of that as well, but in part, due to my parents living through the great depression of the 1930s. They instilled in us that work was the most important thing, and fun was to come after all the work was complete. Sometimes I found myself too tired for fun. It was difficult for my father to take his 2-week vacation each year. 
A final thought for this essay on why we resist pleasure is that we are strongly influenced by our left brain in the world today. We reward productivity and problem solving, which are left brained attributes. It is our right brain, more artistic side that creates the pure ease of pleasure. This is not to say that productivity and accomplishment don't create pleasure, but it isn't sustainable kind of pleasure. Often when the promotion or project has ended, there is a moment of pleasure and then on to the next thing.
What can we do to receive more pleasure:
* Consider the Buddhist concept of impermanence, which means that everything is constantly changing…every moment of everyday. There is no way to hang onto any feeling. When you try to hang onto a feeling…well you kind of hang yourself. When you are experiencing moments of pleasure, be aware that it won't always feel this way and deepen the experience by breathing into it. Squeeze the juiciness out.
*Receiving is a self-less act. What about this perspective? When you receive another human being, such as their words (compliments), their help, or their affection, you are allowing pleasure to flow between you and your relationships. Try it on, and see what happens.
*Since we are such good problem solvers, why don't we look at the problem of not enough laughter, joy and good pleasurable sex in our lives? 
How do you open up your channel to receive pleasure?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Words with Men and Women Tue, 09 Oct 2012 23:32:32 +0000 Admin  

A husband was trying to prove to his wife that women talk more than men.

He showed her a study which indicated that men use about 10,000 words per day, whereas women use 20,000 words per day.

His wife thought about his for a while. She then told her husband that women use twice as many words as men because they have to repeat everything they say.

Her husband looked stunned. He said "What?!?"


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GUEST APPEARANCE – IQ Live with Iqbal Thu, 04 Oct 2012 02:05:10 +0000 Admin This was such a fabulous and fun interview. Before my interviewer, Iqbal, started the show. we engaged in a beautiful PAUSE and breath work. 





Iqbal Ishani was born in Kenya, Africa, was raised across Europe, is a certified Qi Gong and Qi Yoga Master and has a 40-year long career in film and music production. Ishani is fluent in six languages, is a passionate musician, singer, documentarian filmmaker and intuitive healer, and became a Canadian citizen in 2011.

Definition of Qi Gong :

“Qi” means breath or vital energy of the body, and “Gong” means the skill of cultivating self-discipline.The practice of Qi Gong consists of physical movement combined with relaxation, mind-body integration, and breathing exercises.

Health Benefits of Qi Gong : Good health is a result of a free flowing, well- balanced energy system. Regular practice of Qi Gong helps to cleanse the body of toxins, restore energy an reduce stress and anxiety.

Products :

1) Quick Fix Energy is a multimedia DVD/CD kit that calms the body, rebalances energy systems and releases stress, anger and anxiety, which results in bringing the practitioner to a natural, happy state of being.

2) Inner Smile Qi; Sound Journey; Perfect Health; Sleep Well Journey; and Flowing Abundance are a series of healing music CDs that penetrate both the conscious and subconscious levels of the mind.

Qi Gong Workshops :

The first Qi Gong workshop is called “Taiji-Qigong” where participants are taught 18 movements for the body and mind. The second workshop is called “The 12 IQ’s” or the 12 basic postures to improve health and reduce stress.

For more information:

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Dormitory Rules Mon, 01 Oct 2012 18:09:51 +0000 Admin On the first day of college, the Dean addressed the students, pointing out some of the rules.

He said, "The female dormitory will be out-of-bounds for all male students, and the male dormitory to the female students. Anyone caught breaking this rule once will be fined $50."

He continued, "Anyone caught breaking this rule a second time will be fined $150. Being caught a third time will incur a hefty fine of $400. Are there questions?"

At this point, a male student in the crowd inquired, "How much for a season pass?"

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ARTICLE – Connecting Courage and Fear Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:57:37 +0000 Admin  

I have seen many quotes start out this way. The ending is what caught my attention. "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. The brave may not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all. From now on you'll be traveling the road between who you think you are and who you can be. The key is to allow yourself to make the journey." 
- Meg Cabot
How do I allow myself to make the journey…fear and all? How do I stay focused on the greater vision that's more important than the fear?
The questions go together. Being brave and doing uncomfortable things relies on the fact that there is a goal greater than your fears.
I have been sharing my vision with new people here in Seattle, after recently relocating. When I meet with people to network, there is a thought that tries to take up residence in my head that says "I really hate meeting people cold, and what am I going to wear anyway." Will I let it stop me from taking action? When it stops me, it's a moment of staying in my comfort zone and living cautiously. When I hear the thought and risk it anyway, it's my rock solid stance that I am working on something greater than me and my measly old fear.
Here is my three part strategy for how I have been feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
1) Keep going…inch along with each moment, just like the caterpillar I watched cross the sidewalk today with all sorts of obstacles and dangers in his way. He never stopped, and finally made it to the lush grass on the other side. I remind myself that moving bravely in any direction feels better than standing still in fear.
2) Hold steady…know what I know, and speak what I believe. I stay grounded and trust that my mission in life is unfolding in divine timing. I feel my feet on the ground as I walk, and feel the strength in my body to embrace every day as a new adventure without judgement.
3) Live optimism…stay in the positive and find the funny in my life. I remind myself daily of the Tao story with the sage who said "Who's to say what is good and what is bad?" The less I judge my experiences, the more freedom I feel.
Keep going with an eye toward positivity, Hold steady that your contribution is unique and NEEDED in the world, and Live optimism because that is one way you can help create a healthy and positive world. 
Life is a series of experiences to feel and embrace. Make yours organic and orgasmic ones. :)
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Nuns Going hee hee hee Mon, 24 Sep 2012 15:13:46 +0000 Admin One day in the convent the nuns had their morning prayer session.

At the end of the prayer session, the head nun stood up and addressed the rest of the nuns.

She said, "There was a man in the convent last night."

99 of the nuns go ohhhh blush, and 1 of them goes hee hee hee smiley

The head nun goes on, "We found a condom in the garden."

Again 99 of the nuns go ohhhhblush, 1 nun goes hee hee heelaugh.

The head nun continues, "There was a hole in that condom."

99 nuns go hee hee heelaugh, 1 nun goes ohhhhsurprise.

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GUEST APPEARANCE – Dr. Laura Ciel Show Sat, 22 Sep 2012 00:50:26 +0000 Admin Dr. Laura Ciel has an intelligent show where she asks some of the best questions to get at the heart of the matter. We dig into my experience with chronic pain in this interview, and through her probing questions, we come up with a good perscription for organic and orgasmic living. I loved her style, and she has a unique way to bring out the best in people to inspire her listeners. Give it a listen…it is one 15 minute segment by clicking below.




Dr Laura Ciel, Founder Of 1One World Leadership, Is A Change Agent For Anyone Or Any Business Desiring To Change The Status Quo Or Who Is Experiencing A Change In Their Lives. Licensed As A Psychologist And Accredited As A Coach, Her Unique Talent Lies In Her Ability To Help People Confront The Old Patterns Keeping Them Stuck In Unproductive, Unfulfilling Lives And Learn Strategies To Create The Exceptional Lives They Really Want To Be Living. Through Interviewing Guests, Providing Specific Advice And/Or Answering Listeners Questions Live The Show Will Inform And Inspire All Of Us To Live Our Exceptional Lives. 


To learn more about her show, click HERE.

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GUEST APPEARANCE – Good and Green Radio with Susan Davis Wed, 19 Sep 2012 17:07:28 +0000 Admin Susan Davis, changing the world with her internet radio show "Good and Green Radio," hit her milestone of 100 shows last week! This is a huge accomplishment in the internet radio world, and I want you all to know more about her and her show. AND I was the lucky guest who got to be on her 100th episode. Click the listen button below to hear the whole juicy conversation.

Nice work, Beautiful Susan!





Exploring The Essence Of Sustainability
Trying to live a holistic, sustainable lifestyle?
So many things are important to consider – where you live, how you work, what you eat, what you wear . . . The challenge is balancing your choices, so that the needs of the present will not compromise future generations – all the while living the quality of life important to you.
Good and Green Radio explores the essence of Sustainability with Susan’s guests – friends, colleagues, & connections – all ‘thought leaders’, passionate about their areas of expertise. They will inspire you to bring the balance into your life that will impact you, your family, your community – and the planet.
Good and Green Radio conversations are about topics that matter most to you; guiding your journey along the path to a more Sustainable Lifestyle – Balancing Body, Mind, & Spirit and Leaving a Lighter Footprint on the Earth!
For more information on Susan and her work, click HERE.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Jesus vs. Moses Mon, 17 Sep 2012 15:37:13 +0000 Admin  

Two old friends — Quinn, a Christian, and Sophie, a Jew — are in the middle of a lunch date when Sophie says to Quinn, "Don't take this personally, but how can you honestly believe that Jesus walked on water, turned water into wine and made the infirm walk?"

"Well, look at it this way," says Quinn. "Maybe there were rocks beneath the water's surface, and he crossed over them. Or maybe there was a little wine in the water, and that's what someone tasted. As for healing the sick, maybe they just needed his guidance. But who are you to question my beliefs? What about Moses parting the Red Sea?"

Sophie nods thoughtfully. "Wasn't that something!"


Can we agree that they are, at least, good stories? 

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ARTICLE – The Art of Change Thu, 13 Sep 2012 00:22:27 +0000 Admin I was inspired to write this article because I have recently relocated from San Francisco to Seattle. With any relocation brings a change or two with it. The first week I was here, every time I stepped out of the door I felt like I was in the Land of Oz. Even though I have visited Seattle plenty of times over the last 30 years, it all feels different to me knowing I am navigating my life here now.

I have found three strategies that allow me to adapt to new environments and keep in the organic and orgasmic flow.
Listening more than talking is always my first strategy. My attention and intention is on learning new habits, systems and structures that allow me to be my best. Where will I take my walks? Where will I meditate? What do I do, and where do I go to feel at home? Listening to the locals around me give me ideas for all of that. Self-care and finding my routines always comes first. Learning where the grocery store, gas station, bus stop, and landmarks for north, south, east and west become an acute new awareness. It is a different level of listening. I know that I am stimulating a different part of my brain as I adapt to this new environment.
Secondly, I ask myself how I can contribute to the whole of this new environment. It takes me out of the focus of not knowing, and into a creative way to view my change. I am staying with dear friends who have a wonderful10 year old boy. I am observing and being with the needs of this active household. How do I add to their flow, and they to mine. It is an "in the moment" consciousness of how to make every thing you do organic and orgasmic. I am always reminding myself not to judge my experiences as good and bad…only as learning.
Finally, I remember everyday to acknowledge the courage, confidence and grace it takes to make changes and stay in the flow. Whether I am leaving Seattle for the countryside or making a trip to a new market, I congratulate myself every time I successfully navigate a new adventure on my own. 
Negotiating change is inevitable.
BE the artist in your world of change. What are your three strategies for flowing with change?  
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GUEST APPEARANCE – “The Bliss Edition” with Dr. Shelley Childers Tue, 11 Sep 2012 05:23:24 +0000 Admin When Dr. Shelley Childers and I got together, it was a "double your bliss"conversation. You can be infected with the bliss by clicking the "Listen" button below.
















Dr. Shelley Childers grew up in Fairborn, Ohio…listen to her story in her own words…a small town girl living in a large universe! I always dreamed of being someone who brings great change to the world, yet I wasn’t sure how until a few knee injuries led me to see my chiropractor. After realizing that the power that MADE my body can actually HEAL my body, I knew I wanted to pursue chiropractic not only as a profession, but as a lifelong lifestyle. I worked for my chiropractor while majoring in exercise science at Wright State University, however I was on a mission to be a chiropractor as soon as possible. The universe responded to my request and took me to Palmer College of Chiropractic in Davenport, Iowa to complete my Bachelor’s of Science Degree in 2004 and begin the chiropractic curriculum in 2005. I graduated from Palmer with high honors in October, 2008, and am now on an endless vacation of being, doing, having, creating, and generating a phenomenal life!

I’ve served over a thousand people abroad, in Morocco and in Brazil. I’m so grateful that I’ve had the opportunity to share the message of chiropractic with people around the world, and I plan to continue sharing that message by serving on Mission of Light trips with AdJust World.

My heart sings with joy when serving people the gift of chiropractic… the gift of life… the gift of expanding your awareness of your body and its inborn potential to heal. I look forward to sharing with YOU the infinite possibilities of life, health, wellness, well-being, and communion with your body! How does it get any better than this?

I’m also a Licensed Facilitator of Access Energy Transformation, a set of tools and processes that generate change and facilitate more consciousness on the planet. What would it be like to function with more consciousness and awareness and change your whole life into something unimaginable?
Click HERE for more information on Dr. Shelley Childers.


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FINDING THE FUNNY – 11 on a Rope Mon, 10 Sep 2012 17:08:14 +0000 Admin  

Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter during a daring rescue…10 men and 1 woman. 

The rope was not strong enough to carry them all so they decided that one had to let go, otherwise they were all going to fall.

They weren't able to choose that person, until the woman gave a very touching speech. 

She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, because, as a woman, she was used to giving up everything for her husband and kids or for men in general, and was used to always making sacrifices with little in return. 

As soon as she finished her speech,

All the men started clapping . . . 


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Standing in the Line for the Bus Tue, 04 Sep 2012 15:57:43 +0000 Admin One Day, at a bus stop there was a girl who was wearing a skintight miniskirt.

When the bus arrived, and it was her turn to get on, she realized that her skirt was so tight that she couln't get her foot high enough to reach the step.

Thinking it would give her enough slack to raise her leg, she reaches back and unzips her skirt a little. 

She still could not reach the step.

Embarrassed, she reaches back once again to unzip it a little more. 

Still, she couln't reach the step. 

So with her skirt zipper halfway down, she reaches back and unzips her skirt all the way.

Thinking that she could get on the step now, she lifts up her leg only to realize that she still couldn't reach the step.

So, seeing how embarrassed the girl was, the man standing behind her put his hands around her waist and lifted her up on to the first step of the bus.

The girl turns around furiously and says "How dare you touch my body that way. I don't even know you!"

Shocked, the man says, "Well, ma'am, after you reached around and unzipped my fly three times, I kinda figured that we were friends."

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ARTICLE – Review of “50 Shades of Grey” Wed, 29 Aug 2012 14:09:22 +0000 Admin  

The Huffington Post reported that EL Jame's "Fifty Shades" trilogy has outsold JK Rowling's seven-book Harry Potter series on Amazon's UK site. James has been named the best-selling author of all time at selling over 40,000,000 copies of her book "50 Shades of Grey" since March. It is the fastest selling paperback of all time.
It is hard to deny that we love and will spend money on fantasy, whether porn or Potter. This book has been called "Mommy porn" as the fanbase is being composed largely of married women over 30. Hmmm…
Will this improve women's sexual lives? The disturbing and poorly written details would be worth it, if that were the outcome.
I have always found graphic descriptions of sexual encounters to be arousing in my body. My first sexual feelings, that I remember, came from reading "racy" stories in magazines I use to hide under my mattress. 
Sex and what arouses a woman is unique to her. The scenes in "50 Shades…" that created a positive visceral experience for me were when the two main characters expressed love and compassion for each other. Sex, without compassion, is the lowest form of relationship in my book.
The nature of the dominant/submissive aspect created a visceral feeling of anger welling up inside of me. The admitted need to control and bark orders which created pain along with the pleasure was where I felt very disturbed that this book was creating such a stir with women. Is it just a deep awakening we desire, which sometimes includes pain?
This idea of submission has made its way into new marriage vows approved in Australia where brides are promising to "submit" to their husbands as well as "obey" them. Even as I write this I am feeling the unease of this thought.
Before I explain what I believe may be beneficial about the book, I need to comment on the fantasy man syndrome. The main character, Christian Grey, was the image of the sexiest, richest, smartest and most talented man this side of the North Pole. I want us all to find a way to look past surface glamour, and find the true soul. It is not always easy. I fail in this endeavor often.
I found three redeeming thoughts from this odd book. 
A sexual relationship requires deep communication. Because of the provocative nature of the sexual requests in this story, communication was repeatedly stressed as necessary…verbal communicaton speaking your deep truth. We can all learn from this.
There was also a consciousness about choosing to enter into the relationship because of the extreme nature of the sexual demands. Conscious choosing is a key factor in creating any life you desire.
My final positive take away from this book is the encouragement of receptivity. The heroine was showered with gifts which she resisted, until she didn't. There was an air of giving and receiving that took into account value on both sides. It felt natural, until it went over the edge of kinkiness for me.
BEing the conscious optimist that I am, I invite you to reflect on your own relationships and see where you could:
- communicate your deep truth
- be acutely conscious of your choices
- give and take with love
There is wisdom in all things. It is up to us to find it. :)  
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GUEST APPEARANCE – Healthy Alternatives Mon, 27 Aug 2012 22:07:58 +0000 Admin My thoughts on sexual healing are shared with Dr. Jerry Teplitz. His radio show "Healthy Alternatives" provides a needed resource for natural ways to treat health conditions. On this show, he discusses the healthy breakthrus with acupuncture for pain relief. To listen to this and my interview on sexuality, click the button below.




Dr. Jerry V. Teplitz dynamic, educational and entertaining keynotes and seminars have a long-term impact on performance enhancement and productivity.


Dr. Teplitz is author of 8 books and his latest, "Switched-On Selling," became a #1 Amazon Bestseller. He has given over 1700 presentations to more than 1 million people since 1974. Participants report becoming more positive, effictive, focused, energized, and productive.

Dr. Teplitz has earned the Certified Speaking Professional designation from the National Speakers Association. 


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Mirror Mirror Mon, 27 Aug 2012 16:13:48 +0000 Admin A young woman buys a mirror at an antique shop, and hangs it on her bathroom door.

One evening, while getting undressed, she playfully says "Mirror, mirror, on my door, make my bust-line forty four."

Instantly, there is a brilliant flash of light, and her boobs grow to enormous proportions.

Excitedly, she runs to tell her husband what has happened, and in minutes they both return.

This time the husband crosses his fingers and says, "Mirror, mirror on the door, make my manhood touch the floor!"

Again, there is a bright flash and both his legs fall off."


MORAL OF THE STORY: Be specific when working with magic! :-)


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FINDING THE FUNNY – A Monk Story Mon, 20 Aug 2012 14:09:30 +0000 Admin A new monk arrives at the monastery.

He is assigned to help the other monks in copying the old texts by hand.

He notices, however, that they are copying copies, not the original books.

So, the new monk goes to the head monk to ask him about this. He points out that if there werre an error in the first copy, that error would be continued in all of the other copies.

The head monk says, "We have been copying from the copies for centuries, but you make a good point, my son."

So he goes down into the cellar with one of the copies to check it against the original. 

Hours later, nobody has seen him.

So, one of the monks goes downstairs to look for him.

He hears sobbing coming from the back of the cellar, and finds the old monk leaning over one of the original books crying.

He asks what's wrong.

The old monk sobs, "The word is celebrate."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – This 60 Year Old Woman… Mon, 13 Aug 2012 16:29:28 +0000 Admin This 60 year old woman was walking along 5th Avenue when she heard a voice from above. "You will live to be 100."

She looked around and didn't see anyone. 

Again, she heard, "You will live to be 100."

Boy, she thought to herself, that was the voice of God. I've got 40 more years to live! So off she went to the plastic surgeon. She got everything fixed from head to toe.

When she left the plastic surgeon's office, she got hit by a bus, died, and went to heaven.

She said to God, "You told me I would live to be 100. I was supposed to have 40 more years. So how come you let the bus kill me?"

God said, "I didn't recognize you."

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GUEST APPEARANCE – The Empowered Healer with Susan Allison Fri, 10 Aug 2012 19:04:27 +0000 Admin Susan Allison is a gifted healer, and radio host. She interviewed me for her show last week, and between our combined experiences of natural healing, it was an inspiring hour of what is possible. To listen to the whole show, click the button below.

Santa Cruz therapist Dr. Susan Allison has a doctorate in Transpersonal Psychology and has maintained a private practice for 20 years. She was honored as a “Woman of the Year” in California by the Santa Cruz Women’s Commission for her counseling work with adolescents. She currently works with individuals and groups to bring about healing, using traditional therapies, as well as hypnosis, process therapy, shamanic journey, and energy medicine. Susan is also an ordained and licensed interfaith minister who loves to offer prenuptial counseling and perform wedding ceremonies.



The published author of three books:Conscious Divorce, Ending a Marriage with Integrity (Three Rivers Press), Breathing Room: The Leaving of a Marriage (Park Place) and Empowered Healer (Balboa), she has received many awards for her writing, and has been published hundreds of times for her non-fiction and poetry. Her passion for service is reflected in her new book, Empowered Healer: Gain the Confidence, Power, and Ability to Heal Yourself, in which she inspires readers to become involved in their own recovery process. When she is not working with clients or writing, she enjoys a quiet life near the ocean. 

Her website is

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GUEST APPEARANCE – The Spiritual and Irritable Show Thu, 09 Aug 2012 00:00:40 +0000 Admin I had the great honor to be interviewed by media personality and Life Coach, Lisa Phillips, based in Sydney, Australia. In addition to her Amazing Coaching Practice and radio show "The Spiritual and Irritable Show," she is a community activist who has spearheaded a campaign "Donate Your Socks For the Homeless." She is a real dynamo…listen into her high vibrational spirit by clicking below.


Hi, my name is Lisa and I am a Success Coach based in Sydney, Australia.  My passion in life is helping people really love, accept and believe in themselves. I love to see people grow during the coaching process and reach out and fulfill their wildest dreams! In particular, I gain great satisfaction watching my clients change from believing they are not worthy, deserving or good enough, to transforming into empowered, loving and responsible individuals who treat themselves like the amazing special people they truly are.
Prior to becoming a success coach, my background was in Finance and Change Management, where I worked in over thirty countries around the world. However, I always felt that this was not my real passion in life but I lacked the confidence and know how to take action and do anything about it. I just felt that the bus of life was driving me round and round wherever it wanted, whether I liked it or not! What I didn't realise at the time, was that I am more than capable of driving my own bus in exactly the direction I wanted my life to go!
I decided to get into Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Success coaching at a time when it seemed that my life was falling apart around me. I had recently lost my job, got divorced and moved far away from my family and friends. This decision totally transformed my life and I have never looked back. I did not realise at the time what a positive impact coaching would make to all areas of my life. In particular, it allowed me to increase my self esteem and confidence, and really believe that I was good enough to have the life I wanted to lead!
My life is a continuous journey, and I have experienced endless positive changes.  I am now totally committed to helping individuals have a joyous life. My formal training both in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Life coaching have enabled me to develop a holistic approach that is tailored to individuals allowing them to make an effortless transformation in their lives.
In addition to my formal training, I have completed workshops and courses with many of the world’s leading self development experts, including Debbie Ford, Doreen Virtue, Erkhart Tolle and Louise L. Hay.
Lisa is also a regular contributor to many Australian magazines including Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, Weight Watchers and Dolly.   She also appears regularly in the media and runs her own ' Spiritual and Irritable' radio show .
Lisa is also the founder of the ‘ Donate Your Socks for the Homeless’ campaign. 
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Talk Like an Adult! Mon, 06 Aug 2012 23:26:54 +0000 Admin The Grade 2 pupils returned to class after the long weekend. 

Their teacher told them to tell their classmates about the weekend, but to use adult words in telling their stories.

First Pupil: "I visited my Nana." 

Teacher: "Please use adult words, you visited your Grandmother."

Second Pupil: "I had a ride on a choo-choo."

Teacher: "Please, you had a ride on a train."

Third Pupil: "I read a whole book by myself for the first time."

Teacher: "Excellent. And what was the name of the book?

Third Pupil: "Winnie the Shit."


Our children are watching us and listening to us! 

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Confession Mon, 30 Jul 2012 17:50:46 +0000 Admin The elderly Italian man went to his parish priest and asked if the priest would hear his confession. 

"Of course, my son," said the priest.

"Well Father, at the beginning of World War Two, a beautiful woman knocked on my door and asked me to hide her from the Germans; I hid her in my attic, and they never found her."

"That's a wonderful thing, my son, and nothing that you need to confess," said the priest.

"It's worse, Father; I was weak, and told her that she had to pay for rent of the attic with her sexual favors," continued the old man.

"Well, it was a very difficult time, and you took a large risk – you would have suffered terribly at their hands if the Germans had found you hiding her; I know that God, in his wisdom and mercy, will balance the good and the evil, and judge you kindly," said the priest.

"Thanks Father," said the old man. "That's a load off of my mind. Can I ask another question?"

"Of course, my son," said the priest.

The old man asked, "Do I need to tell her that the war is over?"

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GUEST PODCAST – Barbara Musser on “Sexy After Cancer” Fri, 27 Jul 2012 17:36:03 +0000 Admin What a special treat to sit down face to face with the Beautiful Barbara Musser, and share stories of how she found her sexuality through the health crisis of a breast cancer diagnosis. It is a truly inspiring story of how she went deep into self-love and inner wisdom to heal herself from the inside out. In this deep inner journey, she found a meaningful and ecstatic life. She vulnerably shares how her diagnosis was a wake up call…no more living according to outside input. Now her question is "How do a stay awake?" She has some wonderful insights on that topic! Click the listen button below to hear this yummy 30 minute conversation!





Barbara Musser is a world-renowned intimacy and sexuality educator and coach, facilitator and author. She was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1989 as a young woman and had a child after all her treatments. She has worked with hundreds of women, couples, and health care professionals. She specializes in creating programs to help heal the trauma of cancer treatments to femininity, intimacy, sexuality and relationsips. Barbara is the found and CEO of Sexy After Cancer. Barbara leads retreats for women, she creates powerful circles that show women how they heal the world. WooHoo! To learn more, go to 

Here she is with her sweetie, Ron Morgan. They do couples workshops and retreats, and share how they have created a beautiful organic and orgasmic life!

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Three Envelopes Mon, 23 Jul 2012 19:54:16 +0000 Admin A fellow had just been hired as the new CEO of a large high tech corporation. The CEO who was stepping down met with him privately and presented him with three numbered envelopes. "Open these if you run up against a problem you don't think you can solve," he said.

Well, things went along pretty smoothly, but six months later, sales took a downturn and he was really catching a lot of heat. About at his wit's end, he remembered the envelopes.

He went to his drawer and took out the first envelope. The message read, "Blame your predecessor." The new CEO called a press conference and tactfully laid the blame at the feet of the previous CEO. Satisfied with his comments, the press–and Wall Street–responded positively. Sales began to pick up and the problem was soon behind him.

About a year later, the company was again experiencing a slight dip in sales, combined with serious product problems. Having learned from his previous experience, the CEO quickly opened the second envelope. The message read, "Reorganize." This he did, and the company quickly rebounded. 

After several consecutive profitable quarters, the company once again fell on difficult times. The CEO went to his office, closed the door and opened the third envelope. The message said, "Prepare three envelopes."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Do You Know Me? Mon, 09 Jul 2012 15:22:08 +0000 Admin A small town prosecuting attorney called his first witness to the stand in a trial–a grandmotherly, elderly woman.

He approached her and said, "Do you know me?"

She responded, "Why, yes I do know you, Mr. Jones. I've known you since you were a young boy. And frankly, you've been a big disappointment to me. You lie, you cheat on your wife, you manipulate people and talk about them behind their backs. You think you're a rising big shot when you haven't the brains to realize you will never amount to anything more than a two-bit paper pusher. Yes, I know you."

The lawyer was stunned. Not knowing what else to do he pointed across the room and asked, "Mrs. Williams, do you the the defense attorney?"

She again replied, "Why yes I do. I've known Mr. Bradley since he was a youngster, too. I used to baby-sit him for his parents. And he, too, has been a real disppointment to me. He's lazy, bigoted, and he has a drinking problems. The man can't build a normal relationship with anyone and his law practice is one the shoddiest in the entire state. Yes I know him."

At this point the judge rapped the courtroom to silence and called both counselors to the bench. In a very quiet voice, he said with menace, "If either of you asks her if she knows me, you'll be in jail for contempt within 5 minutes." 

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ARTICLE – Self-Love is Always the Answer Thu, 05 Jul 2012 22:22:43 +0000 Admin  

"Love is in need of love…" Thank you for those words Stevie Wonder. And I would tweek it slightly to say that love is in need of Self-Love today. How can we allow our bodies to become unhealthy, overweight, and stressed out, if we truly love ourselves? 

When you love something outside of yourself, consider how you treat it? Whether it be your partner, child, friend, or home, you are focused on protecting, nurturing and caring for your precious ones and things. Some care for their things before they care for people, and that is yet another way we distract ourselves from Self-Love. 

My journey with chronic pain for 26 years, a condition where my body is attacking it's own tissue, was how I got in touch with the depth of my feelings of unworthiness. It has only been the last few years that I have discovered the path to living organically and orgasmically includes loving myself up, no matter what the circumstances. Whenever I do something I consider "really stupid," I go to the mirror and look myself right in the eyes and connect with what an amazing human being I am. There is nobody else like me, or you, or you…:)
It is only our past stories that keep us in denying Self-Love. Your history is just that…history. We can change history at any moment we choose to do so. Women are so use to loving outside of themselves. The problem with that is that we easily blame outside of ourselves when we don't feel good about what is created in our lives. We are the architects of each and every day. Never forget that. I've designed a life that has me keeping a piece of my heart for ME and ME only so there is always something left in my LOVE tank. 
I've learned a process for removing the obstacles of our past history and creating a new groove of Self-Love in which to live. It is the 5 Ps to peace, passion, and pleasure. These simple steps to create transformation in your inner world, will show you how to discover beauty and sexuality within, and live the life you deserve from a place of Self-Love. Review the whole article HERE
For now, let me summarize:
PAUSE: Get out of the vicious cycle
PONDER:  Sensuality
PAINT: A new story/vision for your life
PENETRATE: Deeper wisdoms within
POP: Your magnificent self out in the world
"I don't like myself, I am crazy about myself." – Mae West (American actress and sex symbol from 1892 – 1980)
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JOKE – Good Clarity :-) Mon, 02 Jul 2012 17:00:59 +0000 Admin Brian was dating Lorraine and they were very close. 

While they were dating, he met another woman named Clearly and wanted to start dating her, but felt that he should be faithful to Lorraine.

So he continued to date Lorraine.

One day Brian took Lorraine on a walk in the woods by the river. 

As they were walking near the river, Lorraine fell in and was washed away.

Brian softly sang, "I can see Clearly now, Lorraine is gone…"


Silly fun !!

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GUEST APPEARANCE – The Power of the Unstoppable Woman Fri, 29 Jun 2012 23:21:53 +0000 Admin  

Over twenty eight years ago Rose’s husband was murdered outside of their home. She had two choices, heal or allow anger and grief to take over her life.
Rose chose to heal her emotional and mental pain. By refusing to be a victim, she discovered that emotional polarity treatment was her ultimate way to heal and recover. If Dr. Rose can empower herself, after the unexpected loss of her husband, she can surely empower you!





Dr. Rose Backman has worked in her private practice for over 23 years. She received her Ph.D. in Clinical Nutrition at the American College of Independent Studies in Indianapolis. Dr. Backman is certified in Contact Reflex Analysis with Parker College of Chiropractic in Dallas, also certified in Nutrition Response Testing from Ulan Nutritional Systems, Inc. and has certification in Emotional Polarity Technique with Dr. Annette Cargioli, DC, in Indianapolis.

With further training in cellular healing, Rose then developed her specialized “Backman Emotional Technique©”, that she believes is the missing link to a more immediate and effective healing.
Rose’s specialized techniques show people how to shift perspectives, enabling them to overcome seemingly unmanageable hurdles and rid themselves of negative obstacles in their path. Rose teaches people to have strength, love, faith, and hope to believe in themselves. Using her techniques she has helped thousands of
people handle issues related to addiction, depression, weight, relationship and finances. Desire for change and willingness is all that is required. Rose is passionate about enabling her clients to become leaders in life-management by taking control of their lives and moving forward effortlessly.
Dr. Rose Backman is a powerful and dynamic speaker who lectures and hosts workshops internationally. Dr. Rose has been interviewed on numerous radio and television shows including Vicki Gabereau (CTV), The Breakfast Show (A-Channel), Jennifer Mather Show (CKNW), Breakfast Television (CityTV).  Her book Forgiveness Soothes the Soul is therapy in a book. CDs are available on healing weight, money and relationship issues.Dr. Backman’s work is about empowering others to take the risk in order to manifest powerful positive thoughts, knowing that we all deserve a fantastic life.
Dr Rose Backman is also certified in the morphagenic™ technique from Doctor Frank Springob.


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Choices Mon, 25 Jun 2012 16:44:02 +0000 Admin A Mormon was seated next to an Irishman on a flight from London. After the plane was airborne, drink orders were taken.

The Irishman asked for a whiskey, which was promptly brought and placed before him.

The flight attendant then asked the Mormon if he would like a drink.

He replied in digust, "I'd rather be savagely raped by a dozen whores than let liquor touch my lips." 

The Irishman then handed his drink back to the attendant and said, "Me too, I didn't know we had a choice."

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GUEST APPEARANCE – Love Online talking Self-Love, Inner Beauty and Sexuality Thu, 21 Jun 2012 19:15:22 +0000 Admin These two dynamic women, Laura Banks and Susan Winter, have stepped up to help change the world of love and relationships. It was such a treat to be on their show.

Our conversation, including a call in from NY physician, Dr. Alan Pressman. He confirmed this topic of sexuality is so important. It was such a juicy and joyous time. We talked about what helps get us in your bodies, reduce stress, and enjoy sex to the fullest. Listen in to the whole show.





Laura Banks penned the USA Today Bestseller Breaking the Rules, Last Ditch Tactics for Landing the Man of Your Dreams (Career Press, 1997) which sold over 125,000 copies nationwide. She also penned Love Online (Career Press, 1994) and Embracing Your Big Fat Ass (Simon and Schuster, 2008) TV appearances as a relationship coach include: ABC World News, Tyra, Rosie, MSNBC, Fox News, VH1, The Movie Channel, BRAVO, as well as mentions in hundreds of newspapers nationwide including The New York Times and L.A. Times. She's also written for Fitness Magazine and Laura currently produces and hosts Loveline Radio and is a practicing astrologer.

SUSAN WINTER is a futurist, with her eye on the perfected model of loving partnerships. She is an author and motivational speaker with a thriving consulting practice on both coasts. Susan's book "Older Women/Younger Men" (New Horizon Press) opened the social conversation to identify the many evolving and cutting-edge forms of mating we are now seeing, in today's world. Credits include: THE TODAY SHOW, GOOD MORNING AMERICA, ABC/CBS/NBC EVENING NEWS, VH1, CNN, and INSIDE EDITION. Feature articles and cover stories include: COSMO (USA/UK), HARPERS BAZAAR (US/UK/AUS), PEOPLE, GOOD HOUSEKEEPING, NEW YORK TIMES, WASHINGTON POST, LONDON TIMES, BOSTON HERALD, LA TIMES, CHICAGO TRIBUNE, SAN FRANCISCO CHRONICLE, IN TOUCH MAGAZINE, ENTERTAINMENT WEEKLY, WOMAN’S WORLD and THE DAILY EXPRESS (London). In radio Susan has been a frequent guest on NPR, ABC (Mitch Album), Playboy Network (Sirius Radio), CBS News Radio and 98FM-Dublin, Ireland.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Teacher Wisdom Mon, 18 Jun 2012 17:20:30 +0000 Admin The 10th grade teacher asks Jessica: "What part of the human body increases to 10 times it's normal size when excited?"

Jessica responds: "That's disgusting! I don't have to answer that question!"

So the teacher asks little Johnny.

Johnny responds: "That's easy…the pupil of the eye."

"That's correct Johnny. Very Good!"

And turning to Jessica, she says: "I've three things to say to you, young lady…first, you didn't do your homework; second, you have a dirty mind; and third, you're in for a big disappointment."

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GUEST APPEARANCE – “From the Heart Radio” with Elizabeth Cuckson Sun, 17 Jun 2012 17:00:39 +0000 Admin I had such a blast with Elizabeth Cuckson on her show "From the Heart Radio." We had a hot hot discussion about sexuality and self-love.

Elizabeth is so inspiring. She began her radio show after the death of her infant child. Her story is so courageous as she vulnerably shares how she woke up to living from the heart. She is fun and fabulous as an interviewer too. To listen to the whole show, click the listen button.

From the Heart with Elizabeth Cuckson inspires others to live each day from the heart and to live in the present moment. This hit show invites you to participate in expressing and experiencing the infinite possibilities waiting in each and every moment. 


Elizabeth is joined by world-renowned experts who provide true stories of overcoming adversity and how they aligned their values and beliefs to get clear on creating a vision and living their dream. They will provide you with intuitive guidance, tools, techniques, and support to assist you in living with purpose and passion. 


Get ready for a packed hour of laughter, tears, and a soul full of emotions as Elizabeth raises your vibration and shifts your spirit. Whether the topic is about Health, Family, Work, Relationships, Finances or Spirituality, you will be saying YES to live the life you were intended to live. 

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ARTICLE: How to Have an Orgasm in 5 minutes Sat, 16 Jun 2012 19:27:15 +0000 Admin Okay, now that I have your attention, let me say that a 5 minute orgasm is never a goal you should have in your mind. A big N-O on the outcome oriented orgasms. When you have expectations of any kind about what will happen during a sexual connection,  you set yourself up for disappointment. This is part of the reason why we have over 60% of women who are sexually repressed. When you aren't having the experience you think you should, then you often hold sex as if it is another item on a long list of "to dos."

I can relate to this. When I was trying to get pregnant, which took me three long years, sex was literally a note marked on my calendar. It felt more like a science experiment than an orgasmic transfer of energy. I know women who look at engaging in sex as an obligation to their partners, with no regard for their own sexual energy.
This, my friends, is tragic. The true goodness of feminine sexual energy is that it is nurturing, nourishing, loving, sexy, passionate, and wowza juicy! Why are we repressing ourselves and depriving ourselves, our relationships, and the planet of this amazing goodness?
Bottom line…women, overall, are dried up, stressed out hamsters running in viscious cycles without the ability to relax and get out of their heads. I'm sorry, that was harsh. And yet, we have to get real with the truth before we can begin to make healthy changes.
In addition to these crazy schedules we keep, we are completely and utterly disconnected to our beauty. Only 3% of women worldwide (yes, that's worldwide) can comfortably refer to themselves as beautiful.  And when we do not feel really beautiful, without any changes required, we have a more difficult time relaxing during sex. Thoughts, such as, "OMG, I hope he/she doesn't see my cellulite or pimples" are thoughts penetrating the mind instead of feeling into your body and letting something else penetrate through. Any worry about your beauty or body distracts you, keeps you in your head, and literally prevents you from enjoying the pleasure your body can bring.
The other main factor in how we prevent sexual pleasure is that our world is so unhealthy about the conversation of sexuality. Sex is all around us, on magazines and other visual media. We see it, desire it, but can't easily and openly talk about it. I live here in Northern California where people are still flinching when I use the word orgasm. It's rather crazy, wouldn't you say? We are all walking around on the planet as products of sex.
My body is so orgasmic that when I let go of my mind and feel into my body, I can achieve an orgasm instantly. It is effortless, and my ability to receive and surrender to the pleasure is almost automatic. Here is what I know.
*when I move into the sexual space of pleasure, I leave my "to do" list at the door
*I breathe deeply feeling the sensations of my body
*my thoughts become quiet, and I slow down the pace of life
*it is a sacred time I spend with ME (with or without a partner)
*I become 100% present with the moment
This wisdom can be applied to any woman with any body type or previous sexual experience. 
And you don't even need to leave home to find your amazing orgasmic energy. It lives within you, and can be accessed throughout your day for all of your activities. 
If I can heal chronic pain with orgasmic energy, just imagine what you can do with yours.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – The Female Dentist and the Difficult Patient Mon, 11 Jun 2012 17:00:39 +0000 Admin  

Thank you Conrad King!
A guy goes to a female dentist to have a tooth extracted.
She pulls out a numbing needle to give the man a shot.  "No way!  No needles.  I hate needles" the patient said.
The dentist starts to hook up the nitrous oxide and the man says:" I can't do the gas thing.  The thought of having the gas mask on suffocates me!' The dentist then asks the patient if he has any objections to taking a pill.
"No objection," he says.  "I'm fine with pills."
The dentist gives him a couple of pills.  He swallows them.
"What are they?" he says.
"Viagra," says the dentist.
"Heck," the patient says, "I didn't know Viagra worked as a pain killer."
"It doesn't" said the dentist, "But it will give you something to hold on to when I pull your tooth."
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GUEST APPEARANCE – Seduce Smart with Jennifer Victory Fri, 08 Jun 2012 23:43:46 +0000 Admin What is the connection between inner beauty and sexuality? How is sexual wellness a path to freedom in other aspects of life? How is healthy sexuality good for the planet? 

These are the questions and more that I discuss with Jennifer Victory and her fabulous show "Seduce Smart."  Fun stuff!  Click the listen button below to hear the whole show.


Seduce Smart with Jennifer Victory
Friday at 9 AM Pacific Time on VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel
Be smart with your heart to create the love life of your dreams! Whether you’re single and ready to date, in a relationship that’s not going anywhere, or just want tips to make your relationship better, Seduce Smart can help. Jennifer V presents the easy solutions, topics, and guests that can add love and confidence to your present (or soon-to-be future!) relationship. Fall in love with yourself before falling in love with the man or woman of your dreams! Tune in to Seduce Smart with Jennifer V, broadcasting live every Friday at 9 AM Pacific Time on the VoiceAmerica 7th Wave Channel.
Check out more about Jennifer and her show at www.Voice
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Travel Tales – Organic and Orgasmic Nature Wed, 06 Jun 2012 00:13:34 +0000 Admin I have just returned from the Shasta Trinity National Forest of Northern California. 

We truly live on an amazingly beautiful planet…as I learn to love and appreciate my beauty and sexuality more deeply, I can feel  the organic and orgasmic beauty of nature.


Photos by Sandra Hickman








Mt. Shasta

Naturalist and author John Muir said of Mt. Shasta:

"When I first caught sight of it over the braided folds of the Sacramento Valley, I was fifty miles away and afoot, alone and weary. Yet all my blood turned to wine, and I have not been weary since."

Theodore Roosevelt said:

"I consider the evening twilight on Mt. Shasta one of the grandest sights I have ever witnessed."







Wild Dogwood Trees and the Trinity Alps








Tippit, Roxie, Ziggy, and Nemo 




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FINDING THE FUNNY – Spray Starch?? Mon, 28 May 2012 17:06:28 +0000 Admin Grampa and Billy were working out in the garden. Grampa spies Billy trying to put a worm back into the ground.

"You'll never get that worm back in his hole," said the old man.

Suddenly, Billy had an idea. He ran into the laundry room and came back with a can of spray starch. After a few sprays, the worm was as stiff as a board and Billy was able to slide him back into the earth.

"Billy! You're a genius," exclaimed Granpa.

He hugged Billy, gave him a dollar out of his pocket, and ran inside.

Thirty minutes later, Grampa comes back out smiling. He gives Billy another dollar.

"Grampa," said the boy, "You already gave me a dollar."

"No," replied Grampa, "That dollar's from Grandma!"

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Oh the Innocence! Mon, 21 May 2012 17:01:00 +0000 Admin A cop pulls over a carload of nuns.

Cop: Sister, this is a 65 MPH highway — why are you going so slow?

Sister: Sir, I saw a lot of signs that said 22, not 65.

Cop: Oh Sister, that's not the speed limit, that's the name of the highway you're on!

Sister: Oh! Silly me! Thanks for letting me know. I'll be more careful.

At this point, the cop looks in the backseat where the other nuns are shaking and trembling.

Cop: Excuse me Sister, what's wrong with your friends back there?

Sister: Oh, we just got off of highway 119.

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ARTICLE – Sexual Wellness as a Path to Freedom Wed, 16 May 2012 17:07:39 +0000 Admin  

Sexual Wellness as a Path to Freedom.
My hope is that this phrase will make you stop and think. Hmmm…how is this possible? 
How does a healthy sex life give you a feeling of freedom? 
First of all, let's define what is meant by sexual wellness or healthy sex. Sexual wellness is a return to the inner wisdom and truth about BEing a sexual person. It is a place that lives inside of you where you feel safe and have the power to enjoy sex without restraint, and have full permission to express your sexuality. This does not mean that you have to hang yourself upside down and create exotic gymnastics to have a fulfilling sexual experience. It actually has nothing to do with what is happening on the outside during sex. Sexual wellness is a quality of energy that pulses at a high vibration which results in vibrant health on the inside.
For every individual, the path to find sexual wellness is unique. No two orgasms look the same. You explore your personal inner most ecstatic feelings by allowing, receiving and surrendering to pleasure. Safety is the key.
Knowing you are safe is also an inside job. You experience safety when your body is very relaxed and your mind is easeful without stress and worries. How hard is this for you? According to current data, at least 60% of women are repressed sexually so I imagine many of you find it difficult to feel safe. BTW, the 60% statistic has also been noted to be low by many sexual experts. That's a WHOA Baby! 
It makes me sad to report it, as I know the value of sexual wellness for you, your relationships and the entire planet. When we free ourselves from the confinement of fear around our sexuality, the joy factor on the planet will increase substantially.
Let's take a look at our key words and their definitions, and how you can use the meaning behind them to skip down the path of sexual liberation and freedom. And please do skip…it gets us out of our serious minds…always helpful. :)
Allow: 1) to make a possibility, 2) to give consideration to circumstances or contingencies. 
Allow yourself to consider what needs to BE present in order to feel safe and experience pleasure. 
Receive: 1) to come into possession of, 2) to assimilate through the mind or senses
Receive and possess pleasure by experiencing joy through your senses. Let all your senses come alive throughout your day.
Surrender: 1) to give oneself over to something (as an influence), 2) to yield to the power
Surrender to the power of pleasure and allow it influence your life.
There are obvious issues which prevent us from experiencing deep satisfaction and fulfillment with sexuality. We, as women, are awfully good at complicating most situations. Our darn brains just don't want to turn off sometimes. 
Start where you are…and cultivate a knowing that sexual wellness heals you and creates freedom in every aspect of your life.
"Health is not only to be well, but to use well every power we have." – Florence Nightingale
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Math Lesson Mon, 14 May 2012 17:00:36 +0000 Admin A professor of mathematics sent a fax to his wife. It read:

"Dear Wife,

You must realize that you are 54 years old and I have certain needs which you are no longer able to satisfy. I am otherwise happy with you as a wife, and I sincerely hope you will not be hurt or offended to learn that by the time you receive this letter, I will be at the Grand Hotel with my 18-year-old teaching assistant. I'll be home before midnight.

Your Husband"

When he arrived at the hotel, there was a faxed letter waiting for him that read as follows:

"Dear Husband,

You too are 54 years old, and by the time you receive this, I will be at the Breakwater Hotel with the 18-year-old pool boy. Being the brilliant mathematician that you are, you can easily appreciate the fact that 18 goes into 54 a lot more times than 54 goes into 18.

Don't wait up."

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CBL#167 – Accepting our Inner Beauty and Sexuality leads to Love Sat, 12 May 2012 17:28:11 +0000 Admin "Life is not a problem to be solved, it is a mystery to be lived."

This quote was shared by my guest, Laura Maher, author of "Auntie Mom." Her book is a memoir of a year in her life where she raised her niece and nephew. It was an organic and orgasmic experience for her. Laura beautifully and vulnerably shares how she became more confident living in the mystery after this experience. To listen to her interview, and my memoir of how I found the path to "Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life," click the listen button below.


When her twenty-nine year old sister suffered a stroke, L.A. businesswoman Laura Maher returned home to Boston. During the year her sister spent in recovery, Laura moved her eight-year-old nephew and six-year-old niece to California. Because her fiancé did not want to “raise someone else’s kids”, their relationship ended, and as a result, she did not have a home for her or the kids to live in. While on a road-trip, Laura and the kids met a wealthy couple who invited them to live on their estate in the Santa Cruz Mountains.

Auntie Mom is an inspiring true story of a single woman’s yearlong adventure into motherhood. Laura weaves a rich tapestry of candid tales that speak to the heart of the age-old struggle every woman faces in her role as parent, in her search for self-identity. It’s a story of family, and faith, and the forgiveness that occurs when embracing the messy, complex situations we all find ourselves in when we step into the role of parent.

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ARTICLE – Occupy Your Organic and Orgasmic Life Wed, 09 May 2012 20:47:30 +0000 Admin


Photo credit to Pablo Solomon

Occupying your organic and orgasmic life has a way of BEing good for the planet and sexy at the same time!!



My inspiration for this article came from a Google Alert on sexuality. What did we do before Google? In Auckland, New Zealand, there was a Sexuality and Consciousness Symposium in March, 2012. The aim of this event was to help people overcome guilt, shame and fear. The organizers wrote, "We are exploring the nature of healthy sexuality. The world is full of misinformation on who we are as sexual beings." How true this is!

One of the presenters, Baba Dez Nichols, expressed the following in defining healthy sex. "A healthy sense of sexuality is important because it allows us to be in control and occupy ourselves. Sex is our life force and when we are filled with guilt, shame and fear, which can hold us back, we have no power."

There are three things I love about this statement.


1-allows us to occupy ourselves

2-is our life force

3-when repressed, strips our power

Let's look at these one at a time, beginning with number 3.

What happens when we repress our natural sexual feelings? Our bodies are more tense which depletes our energy. It takes energy to hold your muscles tense all day and night. When we do not have a healthy expression of our sexuality, we also anger and frustrate more easily. Anytime an emotion or feeling is repressed, bad things happen. I know this so well from personal experience with inflammation and pain throughout my body due to suppressed anger. Understanding and mastering my sexuality has not only given me relief from stress and tense muscles, but it has been an amazing form of healing as well. 

The National Institute of Health claims that 70% of our health issues are stress based. A healthy and satisfying sex life relieves stress and creates a natural harmony within your body. Sex is our life force. After all, other than a small percentage of mothers who were inseminated with sperm, most of us are walking around on the planet because somebody had sex. That is a pretty strong argument that sex is, indeed, our life force…without it, we would not even be here. I am certain mastering our sexuality can provide medicine that would most likely help the 70% of stress-based diseases.

Now, my favorite point from the New Zealander's point of view is that healthy sexuality allows us to occupy ourselves. I would say, it allows us to occupy our body instead of our mind with a pleasure surge that is good for us, our relationships and our planet.

My BEST strategy for occupying my body goes like this:

Breathe – deeply into the lower belly

Embrace – give myself a big hug

Smile – feel into my inner sexual sensation

Think – organic and orgasmic moment

The BEST strategy applies to any activity you may be engaging in…there is always a way to make it organic and orgasmic.

Apply the BEST strategy today, and let me know what how it feels to occupy your life by living in your magnificent body.

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Whistling Doc Mon, 07 May 2012 17:05:05 +0000 Admin A new young MD doing his residency in OB was quite embarrassed performing female pelvic exams.

To cover his embarrassment he had unconsciously formed a habit of whistling softly.

The middle-aged lady upon whom he was performing this exam suddenly burst out laughing and further embarrassed him.

He looked up from his work and sheepishly said, "I'm sorry. Was I tickling you?"

She replied, "No doctor, but the song you were whistling was, I wish I was an Oscar Meyer Weiner."

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CBL#166 = Streaming Love and Slow Sex with Christin Myrick Sat, 05 May 2012 17:02:04 +0000 Admin  

Occupy Your Body and discover the life force energy of sex to heal you, your relationships, and the planet!

This episode contains mature information about how to grow up, and become the beautiful sexual human BEing you already are. Yes, we make our way back to our true natures, and experience the vivid feelings of sensuality to create a healthy sexuality that has incredible potential for good in your life, your relationships, and the planet. Imagine a life where you felt full permission and freedom to express yourself in your FULL POWER. What would that open up for you? Listen in to the whole episode by clicking the button below.

Christin Myrick, Certified Slow Sex Coach, shares her beautiful insights about what men need from women in our world today. She writes, "Every man can be a warrior and king if you tell him what needs to be done AND give him the space to do it." Check it out, ladies!


Christin Myrick is a certified Slow Sex Coach with international clientele. She facilitates virtual and live training for good guys who want to be better men, and helps them to create deeper and more meaningful connections with women.

Men are beautiful creatures of great power, giving and strength and Christin has gained significant insight into what men desire and hold dear. It is her passion to share this wisdom with both men and women so we can live in a world of harmony and true compassion. 

Christin lives in the foothills of Boulder, loves poetry, whispering pines, and pink frosting.


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Blonde Convention Mon, 30 Apr 2012 17:00:25 +0000 Admin I decided it was only fair, after last week's joke, to post this one. Enjoy! :)

There is a blonde convention, and the emcee pulls one of the blondes on stage to compete in the BIG WINNER contest.

He says, "I will ask you one question, and if you get it right, you win the million dollar prize."

"Okay, I'm ready," says the blonde.

"The quesion is…what is 2 + 1?"

The blonde thinks and thinks. "Um….4?"

The emcee says, "I'm sorry miss. That is not the correct answer."

The crowd of blondes scream, "Give her another chance! Give her another chance!"

The emcee says, "Okay, I will give you another chance. What is 3 + 3?"

"Um, Um…5?"

"No sorry miss. That is not correct."

The crowd screams, "Give her another chance! Give her another chance!"

"Okay, this will be your final chance. What is 2 + 2?"

The blonde thinks and thinks, "is it 4?"

The crowd screams, "Give her another chance! Give her another chance!"


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CBL#165 – Beauty, Sexuality and Sustainability with Pablo Solomon Sun, 29 Apr 2012 15:42:19 +0000 Admin Did you know that Elvis learned his moves from going to strip clubs as a young man? This bit of fun trivia was shared by my guest this week, Pablo Solomon. 

Pablo was the perfect guest this month of "Earth Day," as he was a pioneer in the environmental movement. He is also an artist who uses the qualities of beauty and sexuality in his art and designs. He is passionate about the balance of beauty in nature, and has a huge vision for how we can be sustainable with true freedom. 

He spoke about the Buffalo Bayou water clean up project when he was growing up. He didn't get a chance to say "on air," but wanted to add the following wonderful news. Miraculously a combination of laws and responsible businesses came together and now Buffalo Bayou again has fish and alligators and canoes. It is being turned into a parkway for miles through the center of Houston. This is perhaps the most impressive example in America of what people and responsible businesses can do when they work together and not against one another.  

Another pioneer woman who brings a true feeling of freedom to her life is Maya Angelou. Coach Betty Louise reads her famous poem "Phenomenal Woman," as it is a beautiful expression of inner beauty and sexuality. To listen to the whole show, click the listen button below.


Pablo Solomon is an internationally recognized artist and designer known primarily for his drawings and sculptures of dancers as well as for soothing and environmentally friendly designs. Pablo has been featured in 23 books, numerous major magazines and  newspapers, radio, TV and film. Currently he lives and work with his wife Beverly on their historic 1856 ranch north of Austin, Texas. Beverly was a model and then in sales and marketing for Diane von Furstenberg, Revlon and Ralph Lauren. She currently runs their international art and design business.
Recognition for Environmental work and design– In 2009, Pablo was featured in an article by Mark Anderson for National Geographic about his part in the first Earth Day. He has have been involved in conservation most of his life. His wife Beverly and he not only talk conservation, but live it. Their 1856 historic ranch in the Texas Hill Country is not only a state historic site and official Texas Wild Scape, but was nominated in 1997-98 for the highest award in Texas for land stewardship. They have been featured in books, magazines ( Texas Parks and Wildlife, Texas Highways, Discover, Spiegel, Chevy Outdoors, Texas Monthly, Alaska Airways, just to name a few) ,newspapers and on TV.
Please check out his work at
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FINDING THE FUNNY – A Little Twist on a Blond Joke Mon, 23 Apr 2012 17:00:02 +0000 Admin A blond guy and a brunette girl were happily married and about to have a baby.

One day, the wife started having contractions, so the husband rushed her to the hospital. He held her hand as she went through a trying birth.

In the end, there were two little baby boys.

The blond guy turned to his wife and angrily said, "All right, who's the other father!?!"

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CBL#164 – Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves Sat, 21 Apr 2012 20:25:45 +0000 Admin Women telling the truth. Men feeling heard and appreciated. Hmmm…maybe there is hope for our relationships! 

We are creating our world…our vision of how life in the future will be. Right here and right now…think about what kind of world you want to live in. Do you want to live around beauty, sexuality, love, and truth? If that sounds pretty good, then I invite you to listen to this entire show as Coach Betty Louise shares a blog post from Christin Myrick on "8 Things Good Men Need to Know." Listen in and imagine a world of mindful men and women relating in truth…not lies!

Amy Ahlers speaks right to the heart of women's destructive and self-loathing behaviors. She shares her 3 step process to ditch the inner critic, and her vision of what is available when we do that. Our inner wisdom allows us open to our inner superstar, and vibrate our delicious energy out into the world. Are you ready? Listen to the whole show by clicking the LISTEN button below.






Amy Ahlers, the Wake-Up Call coach and cofounder of the Inner Mean Girl Reform School, is a workshop leader and has been a featured expert on TV and radio as well as in publications including the Washington Post and Oakland Tribune. A former online media sales executive, she lives in Oakland, California. Visit her online at


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Gift Switcharoo Mon, 16 Apr 2012 20:00:38 +0000 Admin A young man wanted to purchase a gift for his new sweetie for Valentine's Day. As they had not been dating very long, it was a very difficult decision. After careful consideration he decided a good gift would be a pair of gloves.

Accompanied by his sister, he went to the store and bought the gloves. His sister purchase a pair of panties at the same time.

The clerk carefully wrapped both items but in the process got them mixed up. The sister was handed the gloves and the young man got the panties.

The young man mailed his Valentine's Day gift with the following note:

"This special Valentines Day gift was chosen because I noticed you are in the habit on not wearing any when we go out in the evenings. If it had not been for my sister, I would have chosen the ones with buttons, but she prefers short ones that are much easier to remove. 

These are a lovely shade, the lady I bought them from showed me the pair she had been wearing for the past three weeks and they were hardly soiled. I had her try yours on for me and they looked quite lovely. I wish I was there to put them on you for the first time; no doubt, others hands will come into contact with them before I have a chance to see you again. 

When you take them off, remember to blow on them lightly before putting them away as they will naturally be a little damp from wearing. Just think how many times I'll be kissing them in the future. I hope you'll wear them Friday night for me.



P.S. The sales lady say the latest style is to wear them folded down with just a little fur showing."

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Making a Baby Mon, 09 Apr 2012 17:20:21 +0000 Admin  

There is not one dirty word in it, but it is funny!
Thanks Conrad King!!
The Smiths were unable to conceive children and decided to use a surrogate father to start their family.
On the day the proxy father was to arrive, Mr. Smith kissed his wife goodbye and said, "Well, I'm off now.
The man should be here soon."
Half an hour later, just by chance, a door-to-door baby photographer happened to ring the doorbell, hoping to make a sale.
"Good morning, Ma'am", he said, "I've come to…"
"Oh, no need to explain," Mrs. Smith cut in, embarrassed,
"I've been expecting you."
"Have you really?" said the photographer. "Well, that's good.. Did you know babies are my specialty?"
"Well that's what my husband and I had hoped. Please come in and have a seat."
After a moment she asked, blushing, "Well, where do we start?"
"Leave everything to me. I usually try two in the bathtub, one on the couch, and perhaps a couple on the bed. And sometimes the living room floor is fun. You can really spread out there."
"Bathtub, living room floor? No wonder it didn't work out for Harry and me!"
"Well, Ma'am, none of us can guarantee a good one every time. But if we try several different positions and I shoot from six or seven angles, I'm sure you'll be pleased with the results."
"My, that's a lot!", gasped Mrs. Smith.
"Ma'am, in my line of work a man has to take his time. I'd love to be in and out in five minutes, but I'm sure you'd be disappointed with that."
"Don't I know it," said Mrs. Smith quietly.
The photographer opened his briefcase and pulled out a portfolio of his baby pictures. "This was done on the top of a bus," he said.
"Oh, my God!" Mrs. Smith exclaimed, grasping at her throat.
"And these twins turned out exceptionally well – when you consider their mother was so difficult to work with."
"She was difficult?" asked Mrs. Smith.
"Yes, I'm afraid so. I finally had to take her to the park to get the job done right. People were crowding around four and five deep to get a good look"
"Four and five deep?" said Mrs. Smith, her eyes wide with amazement.
"Yes," the photographer replied. "And for more than three hours, too. The mother was constantly squealing and yelling – I could hardly concentrate, and when darkness approached I had to rush my shots. Finally, when
the squirrels began nibbling on my equipment, I just had to pack it all in."
Mrs. Smith leaned forward. "Do you mean they actually chewed on your, uh…equipment?"
"It's true, Ma'am, yes.. Well, if you're ready, I'll set-up my tripod and we can get to work right away."
"Oh yes, Ma'am. I need to use a tripod to rest my Canon on. It's much too big to be held in the hand very long."
Mrs. Smith fainted.
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ARTICLE – Where is the Funny Perspective Thu, 05 Apr 2012 20:29:03 +0000 Admin What happens to me when I begin to take life too seriously is that my body starts to tense, and my mind is full of problem-solving thoughts and ideas. My sense of humor goes out the window, and I actually lose sight of my senses all together.  I am less aware of the world around me and focused on problems and solutions. 

Sure, we all have issues and problems that need energy, attention, and creative solutions. When do you do your best creative thinking? When you are tense or relaxed? I know for me it's when I can laugh at myself, and experience life with an attitude of lightness. 
Did you know that serious and funny are perspectives? Every thought we have is a perspective that can be changed. When I first understood the truth of that, my life changed dramatically. In that moment, I realized that this is how we create our own experiences. Our issues and circumstances are what they are. It's how we choose to interpret the issue that allows us to experience life in different ways. 
Have you ever retold a story to someone who was involved in the story, and they had a completely different view or remembrance of it. We all have our own unique set of glasses in which we see life. And we can change those glasses any time we want to…really we can. Undoubtedly, sometimes it is easier to see the funny than others.
My journey of 26 years with chronic pain has certainly given me plenty of opportunities to practice seeing the funny when I really am not in the mood for laughing or being light. What's funny about my elbow being so swollen that my hand can't reach my face to eat or put my contact lenses in? Just imagine how ridiculous that feels within my body…so much inflammation and swelling that I can not even feed myself. 
Now guess what happens when I get upset about it. Answer: it gets worse. When I can engage my sense of humor, it actually allows me to engage my other senses as well as relax my muscles which takes the edge off the pain. This pathway to finding the funny works on all pain points in life: emotional, physical, psychological, etc. Pain is pain, and funny is funny.  I promise you, it is hard to be in funny and in pain at the same time. Which would you rather feel?
There are hundreds of perspectives you could have for every single thought. For the next two weeks, try on the funny perspective, and notice how your relaxation and peace increases.
Don't forget to click on the joke in the sidebar…it will get you started with a funny perspective on sex and relationships!
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FINDING THE FUNNY – About Last Night… Mon, 02 Apr 2012 17:00:14 +0000 Admin After the annual office Christmas party blow-out, John woke up with a pounding headache, cotton-mouthed and utterly unable to recall the events of the proceeding evening.

After a trip to the bathroom, he was able to make his way downstairs where his wife put some coffee in front of him.

"Louise," he moaned. "Tell me what went on last night. Was it as bad as I think?"

Even worse," she assured him in her most scornful tone. "You made a complete ass of yourself. You succeeded in antagonizing the entire board of directors, and insulted the chairman of the company to his face."

"He's an arrogant, self-important prick, piss on him!"

"You did. All over his suit," Louise informed him. "And he fired you."

"Well screw him," said John.

"I did," said Louise. "You're back at work on Monday."

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CBL#163 – Long Lasting Love and Relationships with Bobby Jo Valentine Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:12:30 +0000 Admin Are you ready for a renewed vision for life? Do you want to be inspired about the future of love? Listen in to Bobby Jo Valentine's heartfelt music and lyrics about sustaining love and relationships. His hopeful folk/pop music will touch your heart and soul. He quotes a John Mayer song as one of his personal guiding beliefs, "I know the heart of life is good." This young man is spreading love wherever he goes.

Coach Betty Louise also shares her deeply vulnerable story of sexual healing, and how the healing is available when we are open to receiving. Click on the listen button below to hear the whole show.


Bobby Jo Valentine is an award-winning singer/songwriter currently residing and touring around the coast of CA. His new album, ‘A Place to Belong’ released to favorable reviews and his single “Be Mine” had radio airplay even before the album’s release. His warm, accessible melodies and often-profound lyrics have developed a following around the nation. In August of 2011, a song from the album, “Fly” won Song of the Year at West Coast Songwriter’s Association.

Bobby is comfortable on stage in front of large crowds, having played at locations like Hard Rock Cafe, The Fillmore Poster Room, and Pride festivals, but his favorite performances are the intimate theaters and house concerts that enable him a strong connection to the audience. Bursting with energy at times and filled with uplifting, honest messages about hope and life’s struggles, Bobby continues to gather new listeners with every show. “Armed with just a guitar and ukulele, Bobby aims straight for the heart.” -Bruce Kaplan, Folk Unlimited

To learn more, go to

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Underwear is important! Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:00:55 +0000 Admin Always wear clean underwear in public especially when working under your vehicle…From the NORTHWEST FLORIDA Daily News comes this story of a Crestview couple who drove their car to WalMart, only to have their car break down in the parking lot.

The man told his wife to carry on with the shopping while he fixed the car in the lot. The wife returned later to see a small group of people near the car.

On closer inspection, she saw a pair of male legs protruding from under the cassis. 

Although the man was in shorts, his lack of underwear turned private parts into glaringly public ones.

Unable to stand the embarrassment, she dutifully stepped forward, quickly put her hand UP his shorts, and tucked everything back into place.

On regaining her feet, she looked across the hood and found herself staring at her husband who was standling idly by.

The mechanic, however, had to have three stitches in his forehead.

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CBL#162 – The Essential Feminine with Maureen Simon Sat, 24 Mar 2012 17:02:58 +0000 Admin Our inner beauty and sexuality is available to us ALWAYS. We need to quiet our minds to allow it.  This is a bit of brilliant wisdom from my guest, Maureen Simon, author of "The Essential Feminine: Claiming Your Influential Power." Maureen has taken a year and a half study of feminine attributes/talents that she has identified and included in this ground-breaking book. She shared that all humans have male and female attributes, and women are predisposed to some energies like collaboration, interconnectedness and emotional expression that are needed in our workplace and the world. To listen to this dynamic and articulate woman, click the listen button below.

Coach Betty Louise started the show with creating a formula for taming those inner beauty critics or gremlins. The time is now for us to emerge as the powerful and essential forces that we are in the world. Tune into the whole show by clicking listen button below.























Maureen is the founder of The Essential Feminine Company™ (TEF)—a lifestyle and business design company that supports women in creating successful, powerful lives that incorporate their feminine attributes and gifts through her work with women in private consulting and in groups. Her company provides learning environments and products to help women claim, live and lead with their natural strengths and talents.  TEF believes that it is now time for women step forward and make a major contributions in the world. 


Maureen’s experience with women is based on over 25 years of successfully mentoring and guiding women leaders from around the world in creating successful lives and businesses that reflect their values.  As a social alchemist she addresses women’s pertinent issues of social change and transformation. For more information on TEF visit

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ARTICLE – Taming the BS Gremlins Wed, 21 Mar 2012 21:26:14 +0000 Admin  

What gets in the way of us truly seeing our inner beauty and sexuality? You guessed it…the BS Gremlins. Those voices inside us that are referred to as BS (beauty and sexuality) Gremlins. After the media blitzes unreal images toward us, then we fall back into our inner voices to guide us on how we feel about ourselves. Fitness trainer, Marci Lock, says that 80% of what we believe is what we are telling ourselves. In addition, according to a study commissioned by Dove, only 4% of women in the world find themselves beautiful, and only half that number (a dismal 2%) were comfortable describing themselves as beautiful. Maybe taking a closer look at the role of the Gremlins might shed some light on how we can step into those BEautiful bodies, minds and spirits we are. 

Let me normalize this for you. Everybody has Gremlins. There is a book by Richard Carsen called "Taming Your Gremlin" which was designed for CEOs. It was so popular and widely distributed that an entire "Taming Your Gremlin" Institute was established where their clientele includes school districts, universities, government agencies, major corporations and professional associations. So you see, we all have them. A successful and happy life means learning how to make peace with those inner voices. It is also another way to open up the pleasure channel.


What is so compelling about Richard Carsen's approach is that it is so SIMPLE. He has a 3-step process to tame your gremlin. The first step is to notice what your gremlin is saying. The second step is to play with options for working with the inner voices. And the third and final step is to be patient with yourself.  That is one pretty simple formula, AND he has had great success with all types of people from different settings.


Another interesting story about how we love to beat ourselves up is from my friend who was writing a book about the impact of all the phrases we were told as children. He put a call out for the negative phrases that we were told, and the responses just flooded in and he finally had to cut it off. Then he put out a call for the positive phrases and the responses just trickled in. His first working title for the book was "No Wonder We Suck!"


We hear these phrases as children and then they become part of our own inner critic's voice droning on about where we just don't have it together. This keeps us from experiencing pleasure and BEing powerful. It is all just a bunch of BS we are making up in our heads. Imagine that for a moment! 


A good study of your Gremlins can be life changing. 


The BS Gremlins are there to interfere with your pleasure. A woman who is in touch with her beauty and sexuality is one who has made peace with the BS Gremlins. My formula to cut through to the pleasure is:


1) Notice when and where your inner voice wants to sabotage your joy – those times when life is feeling so good and you bring yourself to a place of worry or concern because it feels too good. It happens more than you might think!


2) Speak, write and take thoughtful action on what you notice. Where did this belief come from? Is it true? How is it serving me to have this thought?


3) Affirm that you deserve the best (we all do), and know when you are feeling positive and alive, you can contribute the best of you to every activity in your life.


The final step is to stand up, open your heart, hold your head high, and breathe deep into that luscious and juicy belly! 



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FINDING THE FUNNY – Who’s Driving?!? Mon, 19 Mar 2012 17:00:40 +0000 Admin Two elderly women were out driving in a large car, both women barely large enough to see over the dashboard.

As they cruised along, they came to an intersection. The stoplight was red, but they just went right on through. The woman in the passenger seat thought to herself, "I must be losing it, I could have sworn we just went through a red light."

After a few more minutes, they came to another intersection, the light was red, and again they went right through. This time, the passenger was almost sure that the light had been red, but was also concerned that she might be seeing things.

She was getting nervous, and decided to pay very close attention. At the next intersection, sure enough, the light was definitely red, and they went right through it. She turned to the other woman and said, "Mildred! Did you know we just ran through three red lights in a row? You could have killed us!"

Mildred turned to her and said, "Oh my goodness, Am I driving?"

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CBL#161 – Living Like an Organic Orgasmic Rockstar! Sat, 17 Mar 2012 21:59:35 +0000 Admin It's not a millionaire. It's not a billionaire. It's a Wellnessaire. This is Dr. Richard London's life path and program to help others achieve wealth, wellness and love in abundance and balance. Richard uses the Acaciac Records and Laws of Attraction as tools to help people play the Divine Game of Life. He has a step by step process for creating miracles in life, and has been doing it since he was 4 years old. My favorite gem of wisdom he shared on this interview is "If an individual masters their own sexuality, they master their entire life." A huge vote for inner sexuality! He is a psychiatrist by training, and an intuitive by living. He also explains we have more chambers in our heart that can be cleared of negativity energy and Dis-ease. Listen in and let me know what you think. Click the button below.


“LETS LIVE LIKE A ROCKSTAR!” says Dr. Richard London, physician, world renowned author and consultant.

With times being so uncertain, people are wondering what the future holds for them, and how to handle the changes that are on the horizon in every area of their lives.

The World Renowned Dr. Richard London has many of the answers, and the tools we will need to survive the changes that are forthcoming. He would like to be a guest on your show to share some of this information with you and your listeners.
“Regardless of the economic circumstances, and our ‘star’ qualities, we can all live like rock stars,” says Dr. London, “provided we know the tools to use in these uncertain times.”
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Nurses Aren’t Suppose to Laugh Mon, 12 Mar 2012 17:00:23 +0000 Admin  

"Of course I won't laugh," said the  nurse.
"I'm a professional. In over twenty years I've never laughed at a patient."
"Okay then," and he proceeded to drop his trousers, revealing the smallest male part the nurse had ever seen. In length and width it was almost identical to a AAA battery.
Unable to control herself, the nurse tried to stop a giggle, but it just came out. And then she started laughing at the fact that she was laughing.
Feeling very badly that she had laughed at the man's part, she composed herself as well as she could. "I am so sorry," she said. "I don't know what came over me. On my honor as a nurse and a lady, I promise that won't happen again. Now, tell me, what seems to be the problem?"
"It's swollen."
She ran out of the room.
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CBL#160 – Seeing the Beautiful You with Leta Greene Sat, 10 Mar 2012 18:04:55 +0000 Admin Have you fallen prey to the classic traps of beauty? What you see on magazine covers and TV is not beauty. My guest, Leta Greene, has a powerful message about beauty and feeding the goodness in life. What do you want to feed in your life…anger, sadness, happiness, love? Her story of losing her baby girl opened her up to the knowledge that goodness and sadness live next to each other within. She chose to honor her daughter and other children and feed the goodness in life. Listen in below to her powerful and profound story. 

Coach Betty Louise wants to you feed pleasure. Hedonophobia is the Greek word meaning "fear of pleasure." The feeling of guilt from deriving pleasure while others are suffering. As Leta and Coach Betty Louise point out…we help the entire world by feeding the pleasure and goodness. Click listen below to hear the whole show. Love to hear what you think!

As a truckers daughter she learned the ins and outs of the beauty industry from the outside in! How does the shy tomboy become a confident beauty expert? Leta not only gives you the tools she has learned but has shared with thousands of clients to help them discover the power of their own unique beauty.   Her approach to beauty goes past makeup, clothes and body stance it goes to the heart, the heart and mind of those she works  with.  More than a speaker on beauty and image she speaks on life.  How to deal with tragedy, change and making commitments to self through goal setting that works! Founding Glamour Connection® in 2000 an image consulting and makeup application company. She is honored to be one of the most influential women of SeneGence International.   She speaks regularly at company events as a trainer, motivator and sales strategist.  Also a member of the National Speaker Association.  Leta is an international speaker recently travelling to Armenia and soon to Gambia.  She considers her greatest accomplishment to be that her children and husband still like her!

To win the FREE 75 minute "Seeing the Beautiful You" coaching session with Leta, email her (see below) with "Coach Betty Offer" in subject line.

toll free: 1(866)598-2285


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ARTICLE – The Awkwardness of Pleasure Thu, 08 Mar 2012 16:36:17 +0000 Admin  

The Awkwardness of Pleasure
What makes the word orgasm so nervous making for many people? Even here in my home in progressive thinking Northern California, I have given presentations where the audience has been ill at ease with my comfort in saying the word orgasm. 
This nervousness is on some level an indication of our resistance to pleasure. It is undeniable that the word orgasm stands for a pleasurable experience. Where does this fear of pleasure come from?
Hedonophobia is a word from the Greeks that means "fear of pleasure." Many people feel guilt from deriving pleasure while others somewhere in the world are suffering. It feels like such an injustice. However, the science of consciousness and laws of attraction show us that we can actually create more pleasure energy and experiences for those suffering if we think, speak and act out of pleasure. Pleasure lives right alongside the pain and suffering.
We are at a turning point in our awareness of the potential for pleasure being a healing force. The numbers of people are growing who understand more and more that old religious doctrines encourage fear and guilt do not serve us in facing and solving the problems we have in our lives, our relationships and with the planet. 
Pleasure is defined as a broad class of mental states that humans and other animals experience as positive, enjoyable or worth seeking. Orgasm, on the other hand, is NOT a mental state…orgasm is a body state and that is why it is effective in creating an experience of pleasure, for those who will allow it. The body tells the truth making it one of the most authentic forms of pleasure we can enjoy.
How can we take the awkward out of orgasm?
My three recommendations are:
1) Allow yourself to think about the word orgasm. Write it down and note next to it other associated words that it brings up for you.
2) Begin to use the word to describe experiences in your life…orgasmic eating and other orgasmic experiences outside of sex.
3) Remember that embarrassment comes from worrying about what others think AND it really is none of your business what other people think of you. :)
Experiment with finding an orgasmic experience once everyday for the next month. PONDER:
What feelings do you experience in your body?
How does that impact your thoughts and your life? 
Awesome living is right around the corner.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Hit Him Again! Mon, 05 Mar 2012 18:00:19 +0000 Admin A country doctor went way out to the boondocks to deliver a baby. It was so far out, there was no electricity.

When the doctor arrived, no one was home except for the laboring mother and her 5 year old child.

The doctor instructed the child to hold a lantern high so he could see, while he helped the woman deliver the baby.

The child did so, the mother pushed and after a little while, the doctor lifted the newborn baby by the feet and spanked him on the bottom to get him to take his first breath.

The doctor then asked the 5 year old what he thought of the baby.

"Hit him again," the 5 year old said. "He shouldn't have crawled up there in the first place!"

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CBL#159 – Soul Hearted Partnerships Begin with Self-Love Sat, 03 Mar 2012 18:13:49 +0000 Admin Soul-hearted self-love is the topic.

Women are becoming aware of how little we know about our bodies and our sources of pleasure. Coach Betty Louise presented a WHOA Baby this week from an blog article on "The Internal Clitoris." It may shock and amaze you to learn that the pleasure organ for a woman, the clitoris, is something that has just recently been studied. Medicine did not feel it important to understand as it only served the function of sexual pleasure for a woman. How much good medicine for our planet is there when women are feeling beautiful and sexual? 

In addition on this episode, Dr. Debra Reble, in her new book "Soul-hearted Partnerships: Creating the Ultimate Experience of Love, Passion, and Intimacy," writes that we have 1000s of soul mates in our lifetime. The ones that become soul-hearted partnerships are those where each individual does the inner work of soul-hearted self love. This can be romantic partners, business partnerships, family relationships, etc. To listen to all the gems of wisdom shared, click the listen button below.



Debra L. Reble, Ph.D., ia a Cleveland-based author. therapeutic intuitive, and psychologist, who conducts a private practice and facilitates workshops and seminars on personal transformation and well-being. She also is the founder of HeartPaths, a producer of materials inspiring full self-expression, and a director of Foundation in Light, an international nonprofit educational organization furthering spiritual growth and self-realization. In the provocative new model of relationship set forth in Soul-Hearted Partnership, longtime counselor Debra L. Reble, Ph.D., shows how dreams of amazing relationships come true when individuals cultivate first a soul partnership with themselves. Soul-Hearted Partnership lays the groundwork by presenting a series of spiritual principles for integrating body, heart, spirit, and soul and intertwining the combined energies with those of a loved one, while acknowledging the shared energy source. and



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FINDING THE FUNNY – Now That You Mention It Mon, 27 Feb 2012 18:00:56 +0000 Admin "I'd like to buy some gloves for my wife," the young man said, eyeing the attractive salesgirl, "but I don't know her size."

"Will this help?" she asked sweetly, placing her hand in his.

"Oh yes" he answered. "Her hands are just slightly smaller than yours."

"Will there be anything else?" the salesgirl queried as she wrapped the gloves.

"Now that you mention it," he replied, "she also needs a bra and panties."

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CBL#158 – Unlocking the Organic Orgasmic Goddess Within Sun, 26 Feb 2012 01:01:28 +0000 Admin How can we go from an ordinary life to an extraordinary life?

Answer: By unlocking the organic orgasmic goddess within, and creating extraordinary relationships.

On this episode, I share a WHOA Baby from Erik Anderson, author of "The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating." He writes, "Monogamy is failing men. Not only is it failing them, but it's a 'socially compelled sexual incarceration' that can lead to a life of anger and contempt." It is a strong statement, and no matter where you stand on it, the facts are certainly pointing to dishonesty and cheating in most relationships. WHOA Babies are about paying attention in new ways. If women felt deeply beautiful and sexual and passionately in love with themselves, I wonder how they would feel about monogamy. Listen to the show, and let me know what you think. Click the listen button below.

Also on this show, the beautiful Amanda Elo'esh Johnsen joins me to talk "Sexual Bliss through Good Housekeeping." Cleansing inside and out as a practice of living. One of the inspiration gems Amanda shared was "Abundance can be had by receiving what is being given." There are so many more to come as together we have created a juicy call titled "Unlocking the Organic Orgasmic Goddess Within." Details below. If you resonated with this interview, you will not want to miss this FREE call.

Unlocking the Organic Orgasmic Goddess Within

Tuesday, March 6th

1:00 pm – 2:00 pm PT

FREE – Register Here


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ARTICLE – Taking Relationships from Ordinary to Extraordinary Wed, 22 Feb 2012 18:23:36 +0000 Admin  

What makes a life extraordinary? 
What do you think? Lots of money, fame or accomplishments may be the first place you think to look. I'd like to offer a more expansive view that allows anyone, anywhere at anytime to live an extraordinary life.
I would also like to offer that we ALL live extraordinary and ordinary lives. Each and every one of us has that special unique combination of amazing goodness that no one else has…that makes us far from ordinary. The paradox of wanting to belong and wanting to self-express keeps us in a conundrum of how to really feel about the BEing inside.
How can we fill ourselves up with the best of who we are, and bring that beautiful self to our relationships? How can we have organic orgasmic relationships that are based in honesty and acceptance? 
According to Eric Anderson's book "The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating," 78% of the undergraduate college men in the study cheated even though they said they loved their partners and wanted to stay with them. His study concluded that men don't want to be honest because it often results in termination of a relationship. 
This is a WHOA Baby to me.
I agree with Eric Anderson that men crave sex with women. And guess what, it is a natural and human part of the way their brains function. Dr. Louann Brizendine, author and brain scientist, writes that the sexual center in the male brain is 2-1/2 times larger than the female brain. What if women focused on the power that lives within them instead of trying to control others behavior. 
I recently had an experience at a party where I was speaking to a married man, some might say flirting although with no ill intention on my part. He was clearly enjoying our interaction when his wife came over and slapped their coats in his lap. The story I am making up about that is she did not like our interaction. It made her jealous or she felt some competition with me, even though she was a beautiful woman and her husband clearly respected and loved her. I will admit it is all an assumption.
What I know is that if a woman feels at peace within herself, she is at peace with what is happening all around her. When a woman feels her inner beauty and sexuality falling in love with what she sees in the mirror everyday, there is a courage, confidence and grace that is available to create honest, loving and extraordinary relationships. 
Finding inner beauty and sexuality means finding more inner peace. This sets the foundation for the possibility of extraordinary relationships.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Doctor??? Mon, 20 Feb 2012 18:02:38 +0000 Admin

A woman is laying on a gurney out in the hall prior to going to surgery.

As she lays there, a man in white coat comes by, lifts up the sheet, and then leaves. This happens a second time.

The third time this happens, she says "Doctor, am I going into surgery soon?"

The man replied, "Don't ask me lady. I'm just a painter."

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CBL#157 – The Inner Healer empowered by Susan Allison, PhD. Sat, 18 Feb 2012 18:03:23 +0000 Admin A willingness to feel inside and dialogue with your body opens up your ability to self-heal. It was a fascinating conversation with Dr. Susan Allison as she guided us through her 4 step process from her book, "Empowered Healer: Gain the confidence, power, and ability to heal yourself."  As women, we must believe in ourselves deeply to heal. Her book is a brilliant work of how we can do just that. To listen to the entire show, click the listen button below.

How can a women generate more oxytocin, which is the hormone that helps us stay peaceful and balanced? Answer…enjoy meaningful conversation with girlfriends. Studies show it is more important for women to have friends than it is for her to stop smoking cigarettes!! Listen in to hear more…


Dr. Susan Allison has helped numerous people achieve what modern medicine might term spontaneous recoveries from physical and emotional illnesses, including the overnight disappearance of a diagnosed cancer nodule in the larynx, shrinking lesions in the brain, the healing of cervical cancer, the recovery from throat cancer and Hepatitis C, the disappearance of excruciating pain virtually instantly, peripheral eyesight restored, blocked arteries cleared, and depression and anxiety released effortlessly. 


These may seem like miracles, but they are actually the result of a four-step process that Allison teaches people in her new break-though book Empowered Healer: Gain the Confidence, Power and Ability to Heal Yourself. She has combined disciplines from her traditional practice as a psychotherapist with her training in a number of alternative healing methodologies–including clinical hypnotherapy, shamanic studies, Reiki, Reconnective Healing, intuitive guidance and more. Each of these made important  contributions to her remarkable four-step Empowered Healer Process. And in a few minutes you will discover how she used it to mystify doctors at Stanford University Hospital and help her husband! A vital turning point in her discovery of this process. 


Empowered Healer is Susan’s third book, following on the heels of two other highly regarded books, Conscious Divorce, Ending a Marriage with Integrity and Breathing Room. She has a doctorate in Transpersonal Psychology and has been honored as a “Woman of the Year” in California for her counseling work, but today her practice is more about being an Empowered Healing coach than a traditional psychologist. Currently, she works with individuals and groups in a variety of capacities, but always with the intent of bringing about healing, whether it is physical, emotional or spiritual.


To learn more, go to



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FINDING THE FUNNY – Birth Control Pills?? Mon, 13 Feb 2012 15:00:02 +0000 Admin

An elderly woman went in to the doctor's office. 

When the doctor asked why she was there, she replied, "I'd like to have some birth control pills." Taken aback, the doctor thought for a minute and then said, "Excuse me, Mrs. Smith, but you're 75 years old. What possible use could you have for birth control pills?"

The woman responded, "They help me sleep better." 

The doctor thought some more and continued, "How in the world do birth control pills help you to sleep?"

The woman said, "I put them in my granddaughter's orange juice and I sleep better at night."

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CBL#156 – The Mystery of Belief with Christopher “Divinity” Dines Sat, 11 Feb 2012 18:03:23 +0000 Admin What happens when positive Coach Betty Louise has a dark day? Well that is what I shared on the show today. Last week, I had a physically painful day where my joints were inflamed and painful and I could not muster a positive thought in my head. I did not even recognize myself…I kept saying "Who am I?" Well who I was began to expand in that moment by embracing my darkness and all the vulnerability and truth that lived there. How did I make it organic and orgasmic? Listen to the show to find out.


Christopher "Divinity" Dines was my special guest, and he spoke about when a woman owns her inner beauty, then that beauty shines out at the world. "Follow Your Heart," and ask yourself every morning and every night, "How would I feel if I unconditionally loved the way I look?" were a couple of the gems he shared. To listen to the whole show, click the listen button above.


Christopher Francis Dines, (born August 19th, 1983) is an English life
coach, author and former House DJ. Dines is the author of "A Ticket to
Prosperity". Christopher's music alias was Chris Lopez and Splash.
Dines career took off DJing at profiled club nights: City Loud at
Turnmils, Garage City and Defected in the House at Pacha in his late teens
and early twenties. Dines worked with chart-topping UK dance music trio
Afro Medusa and remixed some of their singles "Pasilda 2"(Come A Little
Closer) and "Beautiful Thing." Christopher travelled the world as a DJ
particularly in Asia: China, Hong Kong, Thailand and Koh Samui. Dines left
the dance music industry in 2006 to become a life coach.

Dines is the author of "A Ticket to Prosperity"; which is based
on spiritual success principles and has been endorsed by Richard Cole
(former tour manager for Led Zeppelin, Eric Clapton, The Who and Ozzy
Osbourne), Daniel C. DiCriscio, Michael J McEvoy, Eddie Gordon, Michael
Cogdill, Jon Mack and Danny Rampling. Daniel C. DiCriscio was quoted:
"Christopher Dines brings a new energy that can elevate oneself to
places one thought was unattainable." Dines is the author of
"The Mystery of Belief: How to Manifest Your Dreams," which is
based on creating self-belief. Dines coaches and speaks at public events
and seminars on the topic of motivational concepts.

To learn more,

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ARTICLE – The Day I Wanted to End My Life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:11:45 +0000 Admin

I am known among my friends as an extremely positive person. Often, I will get a call from my friends when they need a positive outlook or just a word of encouragement for their bad day. And I always have one as I have a special gift to be able to find the beauty and goodness in life. My father taught me how to have a optimistic view no matter what your circumstances. He was even a die-hard Chicago Cubs fan!! (If you aren't aware, the Cubs baseball team has not won a world series in 103 years, the longest drought in history). When Dad was alive, he was a true believer that some day he would see them win it all. He never did get to see it.
My optimism has served me well in many aspects of my life much more importantly than rooting for the home team. It has been extremely valuable in dealing with the destructive chronic pain condition I have had for the last 26 years. Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life was born out of the optimism of finding my path with this painful condition and learning to embrace it all without judgement and feel the juiciness. This has been how I have approached the pain since tapering off all the heavy medications almost 7 years ago.
But just last week, I woke with a painful flair of inflammation in my joints that sent me over the edge of optimism and into the deepest and darkest place I have ever felt. It wasn't even the worst pain I have ever experienced, but I was SO tired of the experience of pain in my body on this day and I had no hopeful thoughts or positivity in my mind. During the entire 24 hour period, I was just so tired of the f…ing roller coaster of pain. I had so much anger and sadness in me that I screamed and cried for most of the day which created an inner exhaustion and extreme fatigue. I asked the angels to take me to the other side and put me out of my misery. I felt like I had lived lifetimes of pain, and it was enough! I was seriously ready to take my own life…I even thought about  how I would do it.
Now I can see that, on that day last week in all the raw pain and despair, it actually allowed me to access more of my inner world that I had not previously wanted to look at. You've heard there is much to learn in the darkness, and now I have an up close and personal experience of this truth.
As my dear housemates surrounded me with love that evening, I saw a glimmer of the old me as they filled me with acknowledgement and appreciation for who I BE. I went to bed that night without much relief from the morning pain. However, the next morning I woke up and it had moved through my body like I had not experienced without the very toxic but powerful drug, prednisone.
We all have pain…emotional, physical , spiritual, etc. After all, we are humans who love to suffer. I don't want you to live in suffering, and I also don't want you to ignore the truth of pain. What I learned on this special day in my life was that once I accepted and surrendered to what was without any resistance, the pain had nothing to hold onto in my body and so it was released. Sounds rather organic and orgasmic, wouldn't you say?
What pain do you need to release to lighten your load?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – It’s Logical Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:43:39 +0000 Admin There were two nuns…one of them was know as Sister Mathematical (SM), and the other one was known as Sister Logical (SL). It is getting dark and they are still far away from the convent. 

SM: Have you noticed that a man has been following us for the past thirty-eight and a half minutes? I wonder what he wants.

SL: It's logical. He wants to rape us.

SM: Oh no! At this rate he will reach us in 15 minutes at the most. What can we do?

SL: The only logical thing to do of course is walk faster.

SM: It's not working.

SL: Of course it's not working. The man did the only logical thing. He started to walk faster too. 

SM: So what shall we do? At this rate he will reach us in one minute.

SL: The only logical thing we can do is split up. You go that way and I'll go this way. He cannot follow us both. 

So the man decided to follow Sister Logical. Sister Mathematical arrives at the convent and is worried about what has happened to Sister Logical. Then Sister Logical arrives.

SM: Sister Logical! Thank God you are here! Tell me what happened.

SL: The only logical thing happened. The man couldn't follow us both, so he followed me.

SM: Yes, yes! But what happened then?

SL: The only logical thing happened. I started to run as fast as I could and he started to run as fast as he could.

SM: And?

SL: The only logical thing happened. He reached me.

SM: Oh no! What happened then?

SL: The only lgical thing to do. I lifted my dress up.

SM: Oh Sister! What did the man do?

SL: The only logical thing to do. He pulled down his pants.

SM: Oh no! What happened then?

SL: Isn't it logical, Sister? A nun with her dress up can run faster than a man with his pants down. 

And for those of you who thought it would be dirty…say two Hail Marys!

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CBL#155 – REAL beauty Is Inner Beauty with Lori Fields Sat, 04 Feb 2012 18:13:23 +0000 Admin Are you ready to live an alive and juicy life? 

This is one of the healthiest feelings inside of your body. It's good for your overall well-being, AND speifically your immune and cardiovascular system. This is what I call "inner sexuality." It is healing. Marvin Gaye has been singing about since the 80s, and the song is on the list of 500 ALL TIME Greatest Hits. Coach Betty Louise explores the idea of using pleasure as medicine in this episode. What does it require? …honesty with your inner self.


In the second half of the show, Lori Fields, Founder of shares her passionate message for women "YOU matter. No matter what you are doing in your life, it matters." 

Lori is a NYS License Clinical Social Worker, Internet entrepreneur, health and fitness enthusiast and Founder of the Real Beauty Is Movement. She has dedicated her life to teaching women how to feel good about themselves by tapping into their power, living their life on purpose and defining beauty on their own terms.

Lori's innovative method for empowering women derives from her background in clinical social work, health and fitness and entrepreneurship. Through her compassion, focus, clarity, and determination, Lori creates a supportive space for women to awaken into their most beautiful and confident self. 

You can learn more at



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FINDING THE FUNNY – Brothers are SO Helpful Mon, 30 Jan 2012 18:00:44 +0000 Admin  

A six year old comes crying to his Mother because his little sister pulled his hair.
"Don't be angry," the Mother say, "Your little sister doesn't realize that pulling hair hurts." 
A short while later, there's more crying, and the Mother goes to investigate.
This time the sister is bawling and her brother says…"Now she knows."
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CBL#154 – Body Image Mastery and Inner Beauty Sat, 28 Jan 2012 19:47:29 +0000 Admin Did you know that your inner world actually creates your outer world? All aspects of your inner world, peace, happiness, truth, strength, beauty, and sexuality can be cultivated separately and feed the overall inner world. Coach Betty Louise shares more on that in the first part of the show.

Special guest, Laura Fenamore, CEO of Body Image Mastery, shares her amazing journey from 4th grade obesity to rock bottom drug addict at 24 years old to choosing life and transformation. Look at the photos below…they tell the story. Here is a woman who dug deep and found her inner beauty. To listen to the whole show, click the listen button below.





Weight Release & Body Image Coach Laura Fenamore is on a mission to guide women around the world to love what they see in the mirror, one pinky at a time, so they can unlock the secrets to a healthy weight and start loving their lives as soon as possible.

Her popular Body Image Mastery program is celebrated by hundreds of women who have lost weight, reclaimed self-esteem, and started bold, happy lives with Laura and her proven programs as their guide.

Having overcome her own battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, Laura released over 100 pounds 24 years ago to begin a journey to guide other women to live more joyous, balanced lives. The author of the forthcoming book Weightless: 7 Tools to Love Your Body (and Lose Weight For Good) and a frequent contributor to local and national media – including First for Women, Ladies Home Journal, the Dr. Pat Show and blog contributor on Betty Confidential, Daily Love and Positively Positive.  Laura believes that self-love and self-care is where the transformation begins. Learn more about her programs, invite her to speak or contribute to your program or conference, or place pre-orders for her book today at

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ARTICLE – The Inner World of YOU Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:37:53 +0000 Admin  

In this remarkable journey of life, we are confronted with choices at every bend and turn. What helps guide your choices? What is the difference between a good choice and a bad choice?  Experience has shown me that when I make a good choice, it comes from my intuition. Choices that hold some regret for me are when I have let outside sources override my inner truth. I inevitably feel bad when my core values have been compromised, AND I have no one to blame but myself.


I am such an advocate for nourishing and strengthening our inner world as it is a key to happiness, peace and joy. Let me share a helpful way to understand your inner world, and break it down so that you can see the numerous ways to develop your ability to make decisions that will honor you and your values.


You may have heard of the Wheel of Life, which illustrates how to examine 8-10 different aspects of your life and rate your satisfaction in each area. This is a beautiful snapshot of your life in the moment and how much it is flowing or NOT flowing. I have taken this same concept and applied it to the inner world of YOU.


I am starting with 8 different aspects of what makes up the inner world of YOU. There are more, but this is to demonstrate how dissecting down can create more avenues for simple and easy changes to enhance your state of well being, and good feelings about yourself. 


My mission is to help women rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves everytime they look in the mirror. Inner Beauty and Inner Sexuality are two aspects of your inner world. Cultivating your inner beauty and sexuality has impact on the other 6 aspects of  peace, truth, happiness, strength, love, and juice.  And just as with the wheel of life it goes with each one of these areas…you nurture one and they all get fed. 


Below are simple ways to feed each aspect of your inner world:


Beauty: When you look in the mirror…look past the blemishes into your eyes. The more you practice, the deeper you go. 


Sexuality: Become more sensual. Feel the weather on your skin. Is it warm, wet, cold, windy…just feel it. Sensuality brings you into the moment.


Peace: Pause and Breathe and remember there is not another soul on the planet like you SO you will never really fit in and that is a good thing.


Truth: The most reliable truth you have to listen to is your body. What signal is your body giving you about your inner world?


Happiness:  Laughter is the quickest way to happiness. Watch a funny movie, read jokes or contact someone you know who brings light and laughs to you.


Strength: REMOVE victim mentality from your language and thoughts. There is no one to blame for how things are working for you.


Love: Hug yourself every morning before you get out of bed…even if you have someone else to hug you…hug yourself too.


Juice: Place your hand on your lower belly (in between your pubic bone and belly button) and envision a fountain of healing power living right underneath your hand.


The more you cultivate your inner world, the more you will be able to relate to anyone, anytime and anywhere with courage, confidence and grace.

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Which Way to the Egg? Mon, 23 Jan 2012 18:00:58 +0000 Admin

Why does it take 100 sperm to fertilize an egg?

Because Men won't ask for directions.

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CBL#153 – Sexual Healing as a pathway through Crisis Sat, 21 Jan 2012 18:08:14 +0000 Admin Rod and Anita Nairne share their dramatic story of healing following the death of their only son. They went from being a conservative middle-aged couple to provocative sexual surrogates as they expanded their sexual nature to heal others. It is a remarkable story. They emphasize the importance of fantasy in intimate relationships. Coach Betty shares a WHOA baby where a report from the UK showed that Runway models meet the BMI criteria for anorexia. WHOA Baby!! Listen to the whole show by clicking the listen button.

Life was torn apart by the accidental death of Anita and Rod’s 16-year-old, only child. Their world became a circle with no corner to hide: A noose that slowly, over many years, strangled all desire to maintain their established life. From the beginning, they refused to acknowledge the potential of sexual closure, common to such tragedy. Their intimacy evolved in ways few therapists consider. Constantly expanding their sexual boundaries provided the highly charged spiritual fuel necessary to meld.

Thirteen years after their son’s death, Rod sold his busy chiropractic office. They designed an unorthodox, emotionally charged focus: A profession where they could work together while continuing to help others. Combining their skills of Chiropractic and Art Therapy, Rod and Anita made a dramatic choice to go where few will ever consider; a place far too emotionally dangerous for most. For ten-years they worked as Sexual Surrogates creating a private, safe and clean environment for women, men and couples to experience their sexual fantasies. During those years their relationship flourished. Their sexual knowledge and compassion for others increased dramatically as they physically and emotionally (always together) explored the sexual dreams of thousands.  


Combining these ten-years of sexual research with their journey in search of an existence for their son is the focus of Rod and Anita’s book, Love is For Sharing: A passionate autobiography contrasting their battle through grief with the humor and ever expanding vitality of sex; this is an erotic book for modern couples wishing to break apart stereotyped walls of gender biased communication.


Rod and Anita have been married for 44-years.



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ARTICLE – The Journey to a Happy YOU Wed, 18 Jan 2012 22:42:12 +0000 Admin One thing is for certain. When we feel a deep inner happiness, there is a glow we vibrate out into the world.   What creates that glow is unique to each individual.  What makes you happy may not make me happy.

Happiness is an inside job all the way! Have you ever found yourself in a situation in your life where your outer world looked happy, but your inner world was not happy at all. It's a cover up for our vulnerabilities.

Why is it so hard to live an authentic life? Answer: Pressure, pressure, pressure from the outside world. The systems that surround us do not want individuals exerting their uniqueness and forging their own path.  The fear is, that it would be hard to control.  

How can we wake up, rise up, and take charge of our own happiness without having to overthrow the government?  My vision is to create a path of pleasure medicine and explore the non-violent way of inner beauty and sexuality. Men and women alike, are powerful beings when we experience the juicy place of the feminine within.  

Ponder this…

What takes your breath away?

What three words describe the feeling of beauty?

Where does pleasure live in your body?

If even for the few short moments you read this article, you are accessing your happy place which is directly connected to the inner beauty and sexuality place which leads to an authentic glow place that vibrates out into the world.

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FINDING THE FUNNY – What Men Hear… Mon, 16 Jan 2012 18:00:01 +0000 Admin

What a woman says: " This place is a mess. C'mon, you and I need to clean up. Your stuff is lying on the floor, and you'll have no clothes to wear if we don't do laundry right now!"

What a man hears: "blah, blah, blah, blah C'mon blah, blah, blah, blah, you and I blah, blah, blah, on the floor blah, blah, blah, no clothes blah, blah, blah, blah, right now!

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CBL#152 – Inner Beauty/Inner Sexuality and Money Sat, 14 Jan 2012 18:20:05 +0000 Admin Dr. Taffy Wagner, author of "Bride and Groom Money Talk FAQ," shared an important view on how money affects inner beauty and sexuality and visa versa. Coach Betty Louise absolutely loves her advice to women getting married with past financial issues to step up with courage, confidence and grace and say, "Honey, I want our relationship to work. I want to be totally honest because I love you so much. This is my past history of money…" How do we get to that honest place of communicating in relationships? By tuning to our inner beauty and sexuality…Coach Betty Louise gives you the 5 Ps to peace, passion, and pleasure as a WHOA Baby on this show in the last segment. Enjoy the whole show by clicking on the listen button below.













Dr. Taffy Wagner is a Certified Educator in Personal Finances, Money and Marriage Advocate and an Ordained Minister. She is also the author of "Bride and Groom Money Talk FAQ," "Debt Dilemma," and "Homebuyer’s Helper (How to Have and Hold on to your House)." Dr. Wagner has been interviewed by The Wall Street Journal, The Denver Business Journal, Bob Brinker Money Talk, AOL Black Voices, The Associated Press, US News and World Report, Called Magazine and Woman’s Day regarding handling money before and after saying “I Do”. She provides premarital and post-marital financial counseling. She conducts seminars for individuals, couples, single parents and small groups regarding personal finances, home ownership and women’s issues. Dr. Wagner is the financial columnist for, and a contributing writer to Black Bride and Groom Magazine. She holds a Doctorate of Ministry in Biblical Counseling, Master’s degree in Human Resources Management, a Bachelor’s degree in Business Admin/Management and an Associates degree in Paralegal Studies. She is a veteran of the United States Armed Forces. Dr. Wagner resides in the metro Denver area with her husband, Eric and their twins, Erica and Cody.  

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ARTICLE – Moving to Pleasure Fri, 13 Jan 2012 02:12:56 +0000 Admin  

Do you know that humans are very attached to misery? Yes, it's true. Dr. Rick Hansen, author of "Buddah Brain," says that we must make an active effort to think positively because our brains are wired for danger. Thinking and living in pleasure does not come naturally. We actually resist the pleasure.
I am on a mission to eradicate our attachment to pain, and open us up to more pleasure and positivity. I don't believe we can tackle the problems and issues that confront our lives and our world today from a place of fear and negativity. That's how we got here to being with, right?
The turning point in my life showing me how pleasure and positivity can heal pain was 26 years ago when I was diagnosed with a destructive chronic pain condition. After taking pharmaceutical drugs for 15 years, I tapered off and had the insight that pleasure is the opposite of pain. What if I used pleasure as the antidote to pain? As I began to experience more pleasure right along side the pain, I began to write a new story for my life…and in that realized the role by inner beauty and sexuality played in the new story. And that story became an organic and orgasmic one! 
So what falls between you and your inner beauty and sexuality? I see three main things:
1- the media
2- your own negative thinking
3- the story you tell yourself
When we get clear about the unreal images in the media, make an active effort in our minds to experience pleasure, and write a new more authentic story for ourselves, then we are well on our way to creating a new world.  We have learned from the laws of attraction and conscious research that our thoughts, feelings and actions create the world as we know it. What kind of world do you want to live in?
My system of the 5 Ps to peace, passion, and pleasure shows you how to contribute your feminine energy of collaboration, nurture and receptivity to create a world where it becomes the norm to feel pleasure. 
Step 1: PAUSE
We have beauty and sexuality all around us to feel and enjoy. Does that surprise you? Well that is why you need to Pause and think of the most beautiful person you know. What characteristics make you feel their beauty?  When you consider this question, it will bring you more into your pleasure center…just thinking about it. And when you lean into that pleasure center, you can experience the feelings of juiciness or your inner sexuality. I know, I know…it's really that simple.
Step 2: PONDER
Who are you not to be beautiful, fabulous and talented?
What makes sex such a taboo topic when it is how most of us arrived on the planet?
Step 3: PAINT
Take some time to ponder those questions, and find deeper truths for yourself. The basic plan is to fall in love with yourself. Look in the mirror everyday and say "I love you, I really really do. You are a beautiful soul." To enjoy moving toward sexual pleasure, find moments of sensuality throughout your day. It is as simple as noticing and feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin. Begin to paint a new vision.
Explore what you love about your body. Is it your smile, your toes, your fingernails? Notice, notice, and keep noticing it until you are able to move to new areas of your beautiful self. The primary area of exploration for women around sexually is in receptivity. What would it be to receive your loving partners for all of their gifts?
Step 5: POP
When you integrate this new story into your life, then you easily pop yourself out with courage, confidence and grace.
Are you ready for a movement towards a positive world of pleasure?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – What’s up Doc? Mon, 09 Jan 2012 18:00:27 +0000 Admin A woman had some problems, so she went to her doctor of twenty years. They had the following conversation:

Dr. Take the red pill after breakfast with one glass of water.

Woman: Ok

Dr. Take the blue pill after lunch with two glasses of water.

Woman: Ok

Dr. Take the yellow pill after lunch with three glasses of water.

After giving these instructions to the woman, she asks, "Can you tell me what's wrong with me Dr.?"

Dr.: Yeah. You do not drink enough water.


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CBL# 151 – The Essence of the Inner Beauty and Sexuality Message Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:03:39 +0000 Admin Coach Betty Louise takes a reflective look back at some of the gems from her amazing guests in 2011. Her assessment results in a prescriptive pathway to living an organic and orgasmic life through the place of inner beauty and sexuality. 


Beauty is an inside job, as Cynthia Desoto, author and beauty research, explained from her book "Changing the Way the World Thinks About Beauty." She shared that when directly asked what attributes make a person beautiful, only 15% of the answers were about physical appearance. What about the other 85%?

Karen Carlson, Nurse Practitioner from the University of Washington's Women's Health Clinic, said that regular sex is as important to overall health as eating and sleeping. Imagine giving sex the same attention?



Nicole Daedone, author of "Slow Sex: the Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm," believes that women are hungering for orgasms, just not what is on the menu. Her Foundation, One Taste, teaches a practice of orgasmic meditation to both men and women.



When we discover this place of inner beauty and sexuality, then we can bring that juicy energy to all of our relationships. It allows us to be receptive to the beautiful people we have in our lives. Alison Armstrong, designer of the course "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women," says we must honor ourselves to learn receptivity.


These are just a few of the goodies…listen to the entire show by clicking the listen button below.

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ARTICLE – Delve Into Your Magnificence in 2012 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 00:39:24 +0000 Admin Photobucket


I love words, and playing with their meanings in new ways. The definition of delve is to dig and excavate. The Archaic take on the word refers to digging with a shovel or spade. It can also mean to carry on intensive and thorough research for information. Are you beginning to see where I'm going with this? Dig deep with the tools of intense inquiry to find that amazing uniquely magnificent person that lives inside of you. I know that being is in there and dying to come out.
The thought of BEing magnificent can be very intimidating. Who, me? Yes, you. Each and every one of you. I am a Marianne Williamson fan of her famous quote that our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. The following four simple steps will help you begin to uncover that awesome soul…do you hear the planet calling?
Step 1: Declutter
The process of decluttering is both inside and out. To declutter your internal self, you will never believe how easy it is. Breathe and drink water. As you exhale, release the old patterns no longer serving you. Inhale, and breathe in the space for the fresh new thinking. Then add drinking 2-4 liters of hot water every day and we have completed the basics of internal cleansing. I told you it was easy. I have a feeling you know what to do to declutter your external world. It is there all around you. Simple places to look that can make a big impact…your purse, email inbox, utensil drawer, entryway to your home, and your car. Start here and feel the difference in how your energy flows. 
Step 2: Assess
Assessing who you are in your inner magnificence takes a large amount of courage. We can see it in others so much easier than we see it in ourselves. Assessment can be a deep process of inquiry where more details of what makes you peaceful, passionate and in your pleasure continue to be revealed. Start by identifying your core values, and evaluating how you are honoring those in your life.
Step 3:Integrate
What you learn from deep inquiry becomes a new more positive reality as you integrate what you assess into your everyday life. One excellent tool to staying focused on integrating the positive in your life is to designate a journal for only the positive evidence of what is working well in your life. Begin to notice all the little things that work well…that oatmeal tasted so good this morning or what a sweet smile on her face when I said hello. My challenge is to daily write 12 pieces of evidence of how your life is working well. Do this for 30 days and see what happens.
Step 4: Mastering
There are those who would never refer to themselves as a master. I know there was a time in my life when that would have been too arrogant or grandiose a word to use in reference to me. This final step of mastering is not about mastering anything outside yourself. Imagine if we could become masters of ourselves, then there would be no need to be a master of anyone else.You know you have discovered your inner magnificence when when you feel your inner beauty and sexuality easily and effortlessly. You are able to smile with your whole body. A smile that lights up a whole room with self-love that comes from mastering who you are. 
Happy 2012!…did you say extraordinary year?
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FINDING THE FUNNY – A Short History of Medicine Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:44:41 +0000 Admin

"I have an earache.."

2000 B.C. – Here, eat this root.

1000 A.D. – That root is heathen. Here, say this prayer."

1850 A.D. – That prayer is superstition. Here, drink this potion.

1940 A.D. – That potion is snake oil. Here, swallow this pill.

1985 A.D. – That pill is ineffective. Here, take this antibiotic.

2000 A.D. – That antibiotic is artificial. Here, eat this root.

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ARTICLE – Making New Year’s Resolutions Work for YOU Wed, 28 Dec 2011 23:06:20 +0000 Admin Photobucket


What happens when you make a promise to yourself, and then you don't follow through with it? Disappointment and a ding in your  confidence is usually the result. On January 1st we set out with the best of intentions, and then in a short time that positive idea turns into a negative. 


A survey shows that almost 1/2 of Americans set new year's resolutions, and only 8% are truly successful in achieving those changes. What happens to the rest of those who set out to make some positive changes? Why do we fall back into the old comfort zone patterns, even when we know they don't serve us anymore? How can we set ourselves up to break old patterns, and manifest our deepest desires?


The 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure are running to the rescue again. This 5 step process can be applied to any situation in your life to create a life well lived…the organic and orgasmic way. Let's take a look at how it works in making new year's resolutions.


Before determining how you want to begin the new year, PAUSE, and breathe into your lower belly. Do this 3 times before moving to step 2. This simple step will allow you to form your ideas from a grounded and centered place.


Step 2 is to PONDER what aspects of your life you would like to improve or change.  Make a list of what changes would create more joy and love. Get creative…maybe watching the sunset or sitting under the stars once a week. Spend 30 minutes writing down anything and everything.


Choose no more than 3 ideas on your list to make a PLAN. Your plans need to be simple and specific. I will start my day with inspirational readings at least 3 days a week on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Write it on your calendar from January through March. After 3 months, you can assess whether the idea brought you the desired result. You will have learned something, and can then determine what is next. Give a new idea at least 3 months.


The step of PROSPECTING is a key to setting yourself up for success.  PROSPECT, in this sense, means taking an extensive view and giving mental consideration to your change. Write down your compelling reason for making the change. What will it bring into your life? Place this on a sticky note where you will see it daily. Give consideration to what people will support and encourage you, and ask them for help. Create an affirmation or mantra to re-program your brain. Repeat it at least 10 times a day. Something like, "I make positive changes in my highest healing good and the highest healing good of all." 


And now you are ready to POP your happier and healthier self out into the world. We want more of your juiciness in the world…aren't you ready to make your unique contribution?


As we all step up and create the resolve necessary to change our individual lives, then we have the power to shift the entire planet to a peaceful, passionate, and pleasurable place to live. 


Are you with me? 

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ARTICLE: The Holiday Version of Organic and Orgasmic Living Mon, 26 Dec 2011 21:19:29 +0000 Admin  

You may know of my 5Ps to Peace, Passion and Pleasure. Today, I offer you a special holiday version of this powerful process.
The first step to living a juicy life is to build Pauses into your day/week/life. You can not move with the flow of nature and squeeze the juice out of every moment when you are buzzing through life. Write pause on your to do list, think pause when you wake up in the morning, and most of all when you are stressed, PAUSE for at least 30 seconds before moving on to the next thing. Pausing to feel whatever is there for you to feel is the first of the 5 Ps.
The second is Ponder. So you pause…now what? Pondering is a BEing place. It is about noticing what you feel during the Pause.  It is critically important to be in non-judgement of what you observe. Don't even try to change the way you feel. All feelings are valid and lead you to your truth. Can you hold the space for your own truth?
The third P is Plan. The plan for organic and orgasmic living during the holidays is always the same. Simplify whatever plan you have now. Wake up in the morning and consider how you can simplify that day, write simplify 3 times on your to do list, and put stickies with the word simplify on them all over your world (bathroom mirror, purse, etc.). Your life is always more full during the holidays with the added extra fun. Make sure you can enjoy the fun without over scheduling.
Prospecting is the 4th P, and during the holidays it is all about prospecting for joy. Dig deep for what will bring you joy, and then honor it. Have the question rolling through your mind as an affirmation or mantra "What will make this joyful?" When you practice prospecting for joy during the holidays, the bonus is that once you learn the skill, you've got it for the rest of the year too!
And finally, Pop yourself out there in the world with all that beautiful joy. Smile and remember that life is lived in the presence of each and every moment.
Organic and Orgasmic Living creates Peace on Earth!
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FINDING THE FUNNY – The Tangled Thoughts of a Woman Mon, 26 Dec 2011 20:34:50 +0000 Admin Have this ever happened to you?  It is really pretty funny when you think about it! smiley

A woman is a person who, if she says to a man, "Never mind, I'll do it myself," and he then lets her, and she gets mad. 

He says, "Now what are you mad about?"

And she says, "Well if you don't know, I'm not going to tell you."


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CBL#150 – Inner Beauty and Sexuality through the eyes of Pablo Solomon Sat, 24 Dec 2011 18:02:40 +0000 Admin Internationally recognized artist, Pablo Solomon, describes what he looks for in a model. "I look for a healthy, vigorous, confident woman who projects strength. She has a uniqueness about her, and I notice her posture." Pablo passionately shares what he has learned about women and beauty from pursuing the art of sensual women. His experience of the transformation of when a woman steps into her inner beauty and sexuality…"it is a wondrous and joyous thing." Click listen to hear the whole interview and Coach Betty's 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure this holiday season.


Pablo Solomon is an internationally recognized artist and designer known primarily for his drawings and sculptures of dancers as well as for soothing and environmentally friendly designs. Please check out his work at Pablo has been featured in 23 books, numerous major magazines and  newspapers, radio, TV and film. Currently he lives and work with his wife Beverly on their historic 1856 ranch north of Austin, Texas. Beverly was a model and then in sales and marketing for Diane von Furstenberg, Revlon and Ralph Lauren. She currently runs their international art and design business.

Recognition for Environmental work and design– In 2009, Pablo was featured in an article by Mark Anderson for National Geographic about his part in the first Earth Day. He has have been involved in conservation most of his life. His wife Beverly and he not only talk conservation, but live it. Their 1856 historic ranch in the Texas Hill Country is not only a state historic site and official Texas Wild Scape, but was nominated in 1997-98 for the highest award in Texas for land stewardship. They have been featured in books, magazines, newspapers, and on TV.

To learn more,

Recently Pablo's design work has gotten a lot of press. Bunny Wong featured Pablo as one of 3 top American designers in her article on how to achieve that hotel sleek and serene look in your home for Woman's Day and AOL.

Defining Trends Magazine for March 2010 did a feature on how Pablo's work has been a major influence on the resurgence of Black and White in art and design.

Iyna Caruso featured Pablo in an April 6, 2010 article for Wall Street Journal

Home design magazine Growers and Nomads describes Pablo as the choice of major publications for "the designer to interview".

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Be careful what you wish for… Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:00:14 +0000 Admin





A man was walking on the beach one day and he found a bottle half buried in the sand. He decided to open it. Inside was a genie.

The genie said, "I will grant you three wishes and three wishes only."

The man thought about his first wish and decided, "I think I want 1 million dollars transferred to a Swiss bank account. POOF!

Next he wished for a Ferrari red in colorr. POOF! There was the car sitting before him.

He asked for his final wish, "I wish I was irresitible to women." POOF! He turned into a box of chocolates.

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CBL#149 – Sidney Andrews and Authentic Living Sat, 17 Dec 2011 18:03:32 +0000 Admin My guest, Sidney Andrews, encourages people to "Make a difference, instead of seeing a difference." Her compelling memoir documenting leaving her marriage and children to live with the woman of her dreams and a lesbian lifestyle is a story of courage and faith. She had to look inward deeper than she ever had before to find her authentic truth and then live it as an outcast initially. "The rewards are worth the price," she told me. To listen to the show in it's entirety, click listen below. It includes a WHOA Baby on how heads of models are being put on digitally generated bodies in advertising!!!




Sidney Andrews, author of "A Fall to New Heights,"  is a psychology graduate, retired nurse, motivational speaker, author and recipient of an Honorable Mention Award from the Hollywood Book Festival. She has a daily column called "Ask Sidney," on the Treasure Coast Happens, an online newspaper, covering the Treasure Coast in Florida.Her website is 

Her call to action:

Awareness brings knowledge, knowledge brings understanding, and understanding awakens us to living a life of compassion, tolerance and respect for all people. Look deeper then your physical eyes can see. Look at each other through the eyes of spirit.

Don't just simply judge another for their look, dress, lifestyle or sexual preference; talk with them and listen to their feeling, fears, hopes and dreams, because you'll find, they're not unlike your own.

Take on the challenge of living the best life that you envision for yourself, and allow others the same opportunity.






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ARTICLE – Assume the Best Thu, 15 Dec 2011 20:42:29 +0000 Admin What would happen if you ALWAYS assumed the best?  It would mean giving people the benefit of the doubt no matter what prior circumstances may have taken place that would cause you to question their intentions. When you assume the best, you can actually create the space for the person to step into their best. 

Don Miguel Ruiz, author of "The Four Agreements," writes that when you agree not to make assumptions about others, you are on a path to your own freedom.  Freedom from the emotional baggage of the past, and freedom from the worry of a heavy heart. Can you feel how much lighter your spirit would be if you let go of trying to figure out what makes someone else tick?
Now I do believe that Don Miguel is accurate in the freedom of not making any assumptions, and I think it is a tall order for most humans. It happens so automatically and the bad news about that is, if you don't recognize it the assumptions start to pile up and you can lose sight of the truth completely. 
Making a distinction between what you actually know, and what you have assumed is a practice in and of itself. It is a constant inquiry of noticing whether you have clear evidence of the truth or if you have created a story in your mind of what you want the truth to be.
Why bother with this inner work of assumptions? It keeps your inner space clean and clear adding honesty and strength to all your relationships. Is that worth the time to pay closer attention?
Working with your assumptions requires you to breathe, feel your feet on the ground, and carefully look at what you know and what you are making up about the situation.  
To start practicing the work of busting assumptions, begin to notice what goes through your mind about others. When you enter the market or workplace, and greet people, what are your thoughts about the people you interact with? How much of what you are thinking is a fact and how much is an assumption?  The results may surprise you!
Now here is a giant size "ASSUME THE BEST"challenge. Your teenager/husband/wife comes home smelling like he/she is drunk. Assume the best. Start by expecting that they acted responsibly in getting home, and there is a reasonable explanation. Breathe (you can never breathe enough) and calmly listen. What difference would that approach make in the outcome of your interaction?
Let's attract the very best out of each other.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Circumcised ! Mon, 12 Dec 2011 18:01:29 +0000 Admin  

A teacher noticed that a little boy at the back of the class was squirming around, scratching his crotch, and not paying attention. She went back to find out what was going on. He was quite embarrassed and whispered that he had just recently been circumcised and he was quite itchy.
The teacher told him to go down to the principal's office. He was to telephone his mother and ask her what he should do about it. He did it and returned to his class.
Suddenly, there was a commotion at the back of the room She went back to investigate only to find him sitting at his desk with his penis hanging out.
'I thought I told you to call your mom!' she said.
'I did,' he said, 'And she told me that if I could stick it out till noon, she'd come and pick me up from school.' 
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CBL#148 – Healthy Orgasms and Red Hot Touch with Jaiya Sat, 10 Dec 2011 18:04:43 +0000 Admin Happy Orgasmic People leads to World Peace!

You know my guest, Jaiya is a kindred spirit. This articulate and grounded lady has some pretty profound "real" sex education for you on this episode. Her goal is to eradicate sexual shame, and empower the healing force of sex in all of our bodies. Her demonstration of how to bring out your seductress on the show will help you see how you can become a happy orgasmic person. To listen to the amazing Jaiya, click the button below.



Jaiya is a world-renowned sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, and the founder of New World Sex Education; a company dedicated to using "real" sex education to help men and women get the sex lives they desire.  Jaiya understands that throughout life sexuality changes and strives to meet her students wherever they are on their personal path to greater pleasure.  She's been through many sexual stages and honestly shares her personal experience from pain to pleasure.  Jaiya is passionate about helping women and men overcome sexual issues, usually stemming from a lack of education, that may hold them back from exquisite sex as their birthright.  She believes that sex isn't just something you do, but something that is part of being human and being alive.  You may have seen Jaiya on the Tyra Banks Show, TLC, CNN, Oxygen Network, or Playboy TV.  She's even shared the stage with self-help guru Tony Robbins. Jaiya is  a unique mix of Dr. Ruth, Lady Gaga and a Yogi; through her dynamic teachings she's helping women and men reach their full erotic potential.


Find out more at

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ARTICLE: Monogamous Sex and Sustainable Relationships Thu, 08 Dec 2011 02:21:04 +0000 Admin As we begin to understand the differences in the male and female brain regarding our sexual desires and libidos, it feels important to examine the way we view monogamy in a long term sustainable relationship.

Monogamy, as defined by wikipedia, is one + marriage; a form of marriage in which an individual has only one spouse at any one time. Monogamous sex is to have one sexual partner at a time irrespective of marriage or reproduction.


We see in our media, men being lambasted for having sexual encounters outside of the relationship/marriage. In the US, it doesn't matter what profession or social status, men are finding the need for pleasure outside of their primary relationship.  We do not hear about women much in the media, even though there are some that report their infidelity is as common as in men. I, personally, find this difficult to believe as the scientific evidence is confirmed that the sexual center in the male brain is 2-1/2 times larger than the female brain. Dr. Louann Brizendine, author of "The Female Brain," and "The Male Brain," writes that adolescent boys think about sex every 9 seconds while adolescent girls think about it once a day. This is some mighty powerful wisdom to consider in why men are having all those sexual encounters…imagine if your brain just couldn't turn it off the desire. I also take a stand for women finding their true inner sexuality so that they can experience more pleasure during sex which makes a man more turned on to have sex with YOU.


However, underneath the sexual desires of the male brain, lies a need for a deep and meaningful connection to another human being. A woman has that same need.  A sexually monogamous relationship is one pathway for that to happen. 


Although there are plenty of arguments, about the boring and routine nature of monogamous sex in a long term relationship, there are three significant aspects to monogamy that, in my mind, make it the best pathway to deep and meaningful connection and sustainability.


    1)    Why are we in relationship with others? I believe relationships, such as marriage, are there to reflect back to us who we are in our deepest truth. When a sacred space of trust and love is the foundation for sexual monogamy, the potential to learn about yourself is ripe for the taking. We can'?t see ourselves the way the world sees us, so our loved ones give us feedback on our impact. When you commit to a healthy sexually monogamous relationship, the stage is set for deep truths to be shared and revealed. When we share ourselves with others (more than one lover at a time), I don't see how it is possible to achieve the same depth of connection. Do women want depth more then men???


    2)    In a sexually monogamous relationship that is honest and healthy, the atmosphere is one of calm, peace, and love. There is complete transparency with no need to hide any details of your life. The more that is exposed, received, and appreciated by your partner, the closer the bond.


    3)    An obvious advantage is the safety in knowing that, as long as you and your partner are free of disease, there is no transmission of STDs. This also provides a safety net of good health.


Let me acknowledge that these points rely on an honesty and integrity to the highest degree for the sacred possibilities of deep and loving connection.


For me personally, I like the phrase "hot monogamy" shared by one of my inner beauty experts, Magatte Wade.Give me the familiar mixed with some ongoing curiosity and adventure, and I am one satisfied sexual being! :)

Thoughts, reactions…bring it on!

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Better than a Flu Shot Mon, 05 Dec 2011 18:00:48 +0000 Admin Thanks Conrad King for sharing the funny!

Miss Beatrice, the church organist, was in her eighties and had never been married. She was admired for her sweetness and kindness to all.

One afternoon the pastor came to call on her and she showed him into her quaint sitting room.

She invited him to have a seat while she prepared tea.

As he sat facing her old Hammond organ, the young minister noticed a cut glass bowl sitting on top of it. The bowl was filled with water, and in the water floated, of all things, a condom. 

When she returned with tea and scones, they began to chat. The pastor tried to stifle his curiosity about the bowl of water and its strange floater, but soon it got the better of him and he could no longer resist.

"Miss Beatrice," he said, "I wonder if you would tell me about this." He pointed to the bowl. 

"Oh yes," she replied, "Isn't it wonderful? I was walking through the park a few months ago and I found this little package on the ground. The directions said to place it on the organ, keep it wet, and that it would prevent the spread of disease."

"Do you know I haven't had the flu all winter?"

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CBL#147 – The Joy of Romance from Inner Beauty Sun, 04 Dec 2011 02:18:36 +0000 Admin How does a fun, sexy and intelligent relationship sound?

Joy Nordenstrom, founder of "Joy of Romance," shares how she helps couples find that. She works with people no matter where they are in the spectrum of the relationship. This bright young woman has studied relationships and love with teachers like John Gottman and Dr. Helen Fisher for years, and then studied business and entrepreneurism. Joy has dissected the components of matchmaking and created a year long intensive process for her clients. If you are serious about finding your life partner, you need to look up Joy's business. Her video "Aphrodisiac Affiair: a comprehensive guide to creating a passionate feast designed to carry you from the kitchen to the bedroom (if you can make it that far)" is one answer to the  comfort zone phase of our relationships. To listen to the whole show, including a WHOA Baby on the Grace of Beauty, click listen button below.




Joy M. Nordenstrom is founder of Joy of Romance, Inc., a certified matchmaker, relationship coach, wedding proposal planner and special romantic event and vacation planner. Joy loves love and helping people cultivate, nourish and celebrate love in their lives. She believes that relationships are what make our lives rich and full. They are paramount to what makes the world go around. 


Joy received an MBA in Entrepreneurship, and a BA in both Communications and Economics, with a minor in Psychology. All degrees are from Mills College in Oakland. Joy is a certified matchmaker from the Matchmaking and Behavioral Science Institute in New York City. Joy lives and works in the San Francisco Bay Area with her love and 4-pound Yorkshire Terrier, Mighty Miss. To learn more, visit or email her at Follow her on Twitter at JoyofRomance and like the Joy of Romance fan page on Facebook.


She will be hosting her own radio show soon "Love, Sex and Food" on

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SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT – Inner Beauty Collaboration LAUNCHED!! Tue, 29 Nov 2011 21:24:01 +0000 Admin


Women are being called to drop into their feminine energy, and assist in returning the planet back into health. 

It starts with you, extends to your relationships, and then affects how we treat the earth and environment.

The following link will connect you with an opportunity to take a journey into your own inner beauty. What you find there will delight and amaze you!

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Boys will be Boys :) Mon, 28 Nov 2011 18:00:27 +0000 Admin A young man goes into a drug store to buy condoms. The pharmacist says the condoms come in packs of 3, 9, or 12 and asks which the young man wants.

"Well," he said, "I've been seeing this girl for a while and she's really hot. I want the condoms because I think tonight's "the night." We're having dinner with her parents, and then we're going out. And I've got a feeling I'm gonna get lucky after that. Once she's had me, she'll want me all the time, so you'd better give me the 12 pack." 

The young man makes his purchase and leaves. 

Later that evening, he sits down to dinner with his girlfriend and her parents. He asks if he might give the blessing, and they agree. He begins the prayer, but continues praying with his head down for several minutes after everyone starts eating. 

The girl leans over and says, "You never told me that you were such a religious person.

He leans over to her and says, "You never told me that your father was a pharmacist."

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CBL#146 – The Right Time to Say I Love You Sat, 26 Nov 2011 18:01:13 +0000 Admin Did you know that it is always the right time to say "I Love You?"

There are also so many different ways that love is expressed…sometimes as simple as offering a cup of tea.  This is a sneak preview of the the conversation I had with Cindy Wolfe Boynton, playwright and actress of the one woman show, "The Right Time to Say I Love You" in New York City. Cindy's inspiring story and play documents the gift of turning a difficult time with family into something positive, uplifting, and inspiring.  Her story is one of courage and empowerment. Click the listen button below to hear the whole interview.




Cindy Wolfe Boynton is an award-winning journalist, playwright, poet and writing instructor whose work has appeared in The New York TimesBoston Globe,Connecticut Magazine and Better Health magazine, among other print and online publications. An English and journalism instructor at the Yale School of Medicine and Housatonic Community College, she also teaches popular creative and business writing workshops and is host of the weekly Literary New England Radio Show ( that will launch on BlogTalk Radio Dec. 12, 2011.

Her one-woman play “Right Time to Say I Love You,” which focuses on Cindy’s struggles to take care of her mother with Parkinson’s disease, made its world premiere in October at the 2011 United Solo Theatre Festival and played to a sold-out crowd at New York City’s Stage Left Studio. Right Time to Say I Love You also recently received an 80th Annual Writer’s Digest Writing Competition award and was selected as one of just 10 plays to be included in Indie Theatre Now’s digital collection celebrating the best of the 2011 United Solo Theatre Fest.

Please visit or to learn more.


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ARTICLE – Ten Simple Ways to BE in Your Beautiful Body Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:40:35 +0000 Admin  

During this busy time of year, it is so easy to become ungrounded and lose your center. When this happens, you give up your energy and can easily become exhausted and triggered by family or friends if things don’t go as planned.  And think about it…when do things go according to plan? 
Life happens when you are busy making plans!
To be able to flow with joy and fun when life happens, here are some simple ways to be aware of the signals that your body is giving you, and take responsibility for your own experiences.
1. Breathe deeply…make a commitment to breathe for 30 seconds down deep into your belly when you arise every morning from now until the end of the year.
2. Jokes…find your funny this season. Have a few jokes handy to create some healthy and healing laughter. Laugh at yourself often.
3. Smile…at anyone and everyone including yourself in the mirror.
4. Sleep…write down how many hours of sleep you have on your calendar in the morning…each week note your average…go for an average of 8 hours a night.
5. Eat something healthy that you enjoy everyday…maybe just a banana in the morning. Note how good it feels to eat it.
6. Drink at least 1 liter of hot water everyday. More is always better…not boiling but as hot as you can drink it. Add lemon for some added flavor and health benefits.
7. Meditate every morning for at least 5 minutes…basically sit quietly with yourself…nothing fancy needed.
8. Dance to your favorite music for 5 minutes a day…a song that makes you let loose a little.
9. Take at least 10 deep breaths out in the fresh air…could be on the way to the car or on the way into the shopping center. Just notice the air.
10. Look at your body in the mirror every day after you shower/bathe…let it know that you are paying attention.
Live, Love, Laugh………….
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Women Saving Lives! :) Mon, 21 Nov 2011 22:25:45 +0000 Admin









DAY 1:

Dear Diary,

All packed for the cruise ship — my nicest dresses, swimsuits, short sets. I'm very excited. Our local Red Hat chapter planned this "all-girls" trip. It will be my first one, and I can't wait!

DAY 2:

Dear Diary,

Spent the entire day at sea. Beautiful! Saw whales and dolphins. Met the Captain today — seems like a very nice man.

DAY 3:

Dear Diary,

At the pool today. Did some shuffleboard, hit golf balls off the deck. Captain invited me to join him at his table for dinner. Felt honored and had a wonderful time. He is very attractive and attentive.

DAY 4:

Dear Diary,

Won $800.00 in the ship's casino! Captain asked me to have dinner with him in his own cabin. Had a scrumptious meal, complete with caviar and champagne. He asked me to stay the night, but I declined. Told him I could not be unfaithful to my husband.

DAY 5:

Dear Diary,

Pool again today. Got sunburned, and I went inside to drink at piano-bar, stayed there for rest of day. Captain saw me, bought me several large drinks.

Really is quite charming. Again asked me to visit his cabin for the night. Again I declined. He told me if I did not let him have his way with me, he would sink the ship. I was shocked!

DAY 6:

Dear Diary,

Today I saved 1600 lives. Twice.

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CBL#145 – Changing the Conversation about Beauty Sat, 19 Nov 2011 18:09:38 +0000 Admin  

Would you dedicate a year of your life, all alone, to falling in love with yourself? That is what my special guests, Malinda Dowsett and Lani Barna, did and what they found on the other side is inspiring to listen to. The specific principles they used on their journey from rock bottom to thriving and powerful is documented in their book, "Change Your Conversation, Change Your Life." The stories these women vulnerably share is a common one amongst women, and their advice is solid and practical. Lani would consistently study spirituality, intention work, and brain science. Then she and Malinda would take her learnings, and have long conversations applying the concepts to their everyday lives.  Women are taking their power  back, and these two exemplify that. Click listen button below to hear the whole show.



Malinda Dowsett and Lani Barna are two friends who hit rock bottom.Two women who turned to each other and empowered each other to become the strong, independent women they always knew they could be. They discovered that they could choose how they wanted every experience in their lives to feel, and that they could hold that vibration with their conversation. This is their journey — how two women changed everything about their lives, one conversation at a time. 

In 2008 when Malinda and Lani were in the midst of some of life's toughest hurdles –divorce, suicide, near fatal experiences, single parenthood, job loss, financial disaster and inner turmoil. From failure to success they overcame years of self-defeating, habitual behavior by implementing the principles they put forward in their book and into everyday life.

Changing your conversation is the powerful beginning of every new journey.

These two remarkable women believe that every question we ask, every conversation we have, is the Law of Attraction at work. The spark that sets everything else in motion. The first step towards the fulfillment and completion we all seek. And although sometimes the first step down a long path may seem small in comparison to the journey, it is vital because without it there would be no journey at all.

"Change Your Conversation, Change Your Life" has one message — We all have a story. It's how you tell it that matters.

Events coming up are empowerment meetup groups and live Q & A with Malinda and Lani. They will be in Washington DC on December 4th, and Nashville, TN on February 4th.

Check out their website

Think of all the conversations that need changing in our world!


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ARTICLE – BEing Thankful for Your Beautiful Body Wed, 16 Nov 2011 19:01:56 +0000 Admin A song’s lyrics contain the line…“My body is the temple of my spirit.” 

Is it true? 
As someone who lives with a health condition that causes physical pain to my body, it is a harsh reality for me to face. Is my spirit in pain? Yes, it is. Do I create my own pain and self-hatred? Not consciously, but I most definitely have a role in it. We must be aware and conscious before we can change.
Okay, my situation is rather unique because I feel the pain physically in my body. The condition I was diagnosed with manifests as an overactive immune system, my body is attacking the cartilage, ligaments, tendons and muscles around the joints. My body is literally attacking itself…it is not a stretch to say that it is a physical form of self-hatred. 
Mine may be physical and obvious, however most women suffer from body self-hatred. Yes, it is a strong phrase, and there is a strong need to accept the truth of it so it can change. How can we deny this truth when the following startling statistics from the “International Journal of Eating Disorders,” show how early we are trained to find something wrong with our bodies?
*Among children in grades 1-3, 42% want to be thinner
*Among 11-13 year old girls, more than 50% believe they are overweight
*More than 10% of teenage girls report binge eating at least once a week
*More than 90% of college women in the mid-90s had attempted to control their weight through diets
*80% of US women do not like how they look
*Approximately 1 in 100 women in the US binge and purge in order to lose weight
What are some of the repercussions of this phenomenon in our world?
*low self-esteem and self-worth in women
*women set themselves up for failure by comparing their bodies to models on magazine covers (the average US woman is 5’4” tall and weighs 140 lbs while the average model is 5’11” and weighs 117 lbs)
*women have a happiness deficit because they don’t feel good in their own skin
*women have a difficult time feeling sexually and being present with their partners because they are too worried about how they look naked
*women have a difficult time achieving orgasm 
*men don’t understand women’s body issues, and don’t know how to help
*women wait until men find them attractive
*women relinquish their natural role in choosing mates 
These repercussions have a negative impact on our planet. If women do not feel happy with their bodies, they do not find their relationships fulfilling and satisfying. It is hard for a man to feel happy when a woman feels that way about herself. When women are feeling their beauty and sexuality, they can literally breathe with the earth. 
How can we bring the beauty back? How can we encourage our children to look within to their beautiful souls for how they feel, and not their outer appearance? What is the role of the woman in this journey back? What is the role of the man? In future articles, I will explore these curious questions.
For now, during this Thanksgiving time of year in the US, I am inviting women to BE Thankful for your body and how it has served you throughout your life: the pleasures, the pains, the glories, the defeats. Feel grateful for ALL of it, as all of your experiences have led you to this point in your life. 
And I invite all mindful men to appreciate something about a woman’s body…maybe say, “Honey, you look really beautiful today.” Simple, yet so powerful.
A woman who loves her body is one of the juiciest energy vibrations on the planet!


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Shopping for Sex??? Mon, 14 Nov 2011 23:45:38 +0000 Admin  

There is something disturbingly funny about this. 
Husband and wife are getting all snugly in bed. The passion is heating up. 
But then the wife stops and says, "I don' t feel like it. I just want you to hold me." 
The husband says " WHAT???" The wife explains that he must not be in tune with her emotional needs as a woman. 
The husband realizes that nothing is going to happen tonight and he might as well deal with it.
So the next day the husband takes her shopping at a big dept. store. He walks around and had her try on three very expensive outfits. And then tells his wife, We 'll take all three of them. Then goes over and gets matching shoes worth $200 each. 
And then goes to the jewelry Dept. and gets a set of diamond earrings. The wife is so excited (she thinks her husband has flipped out, but she does not care). She goes for the tennis bracelet. 
The husband says "but you don 't even play tennis, but OK if you like it then lets get it.' 
The wife is jumping up and down. So excited she cannot even believe what is going on. She says " I am ready to go, lets go to the cash register. " 
The husband says, " no no no, honey we're not going to buy all this stuff." The wife face goes blank. 
" No honey – I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while." 
Her face gets really red she is about to explode and then the husband says " You must not be in tune with my financial needs as a MAN!"
How did the punch line make you feel?
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CBL#144 – A Male Perspective on Inner Beauty with Fredrik Ejemo Sat, 12 Nov 2011 18:06:19 +0000 Admin My passionate special guest, Fredrik Ejemo, shares his intimate story discovering the divine feminine from a woman in the marketplace in india. He sees that when women are connected to inner beauty and sexuality, they can breathe with the earth. My former guest, John Gray who has coached thousands of men and women, said the exact same thing. You've got to hear Fredrik's description of what it feels like to be a man in the presence of a woman who loves herself. For the whole interview, click the listen button below.


Fredrik Ejemo, actor, musician, and writer was born and raised in Stockholm, Sweden.  At age 17, Fredrik was discovered by a casting director and soon began a career in the performing arts. He starred in the television show ‘Three Crowns’, the #1 TV series in the country and then went on to star in ‘Friends and Enemies’, another  successful television series. Later he joined the prestigious Royal Dramatic Theater in Sweden and acted in several national theater productions. 

When he was 21 years old, Fredrik traveled to Thailand and had a spiritual awakening that deeply affected the course of his life. He dove into metaphysical studies, exploring ancient wisdom and mysticism in order to understand this new level of conscious awareness. Driven by a longing desire to heal his own dysfunctional family patterns, an absent father and wounded mother, led Fredrik on a quest to find the sacred feminine to restore divine union within himself. This resulted in a 3 year sabbatical which took him on a journey throughout India, Southeast Asia, and the United States.

He crossed path with many spiritual teachers from different traditions. Shri Shri Ravi Shankar, Byron Katie, Joan Halifax, Bernie Prior, and Brad Blanton, to name a few. He explored shamanism, yoga, martial arts, meditation, and many new healing modalities. Fredrik’s writings have been published in the Swedish book, 15 Gånger Asien (15 Stories from Asia).

Currently Fredrik is working in the field of naturopathic medicine and studying energy medicine in Laguna Beach, California. He spends his spare time working on his new music album.

A Womens Grace

Womens Radiance A womens true power is found in her radiant openness. As she allows herself to be the gateway of the essence within her. As she refuses to hold anything back from the ocean that lives within her. The rivers and the waterfalls of her being…

When a man can drink from her eternal ever-changing waters moment to moment, she will cleanse his soul, purify his being and awaken his heart to the art of love.

By: Fredrik Nordic Eagle Ejemo

Check out his blog at


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ARTICLE – Notes, Quotes and Suggestions from 22 Inner Beauty Interviews Thu, 10 Nov 2011 01:13:17 +0000 Admin Photobucket


Below are some interesting results from the recent inner beauty collaborative. There were 22 leading experts on beauty from various walks of life and perspectives who shared their unique approaches to rediscovering the powerful feminine place of inner beauty. 
The 22 perspectives came from 16 distinct fields: magazine editor, authors/bloggers, lifestyle/health coaches, skin care specialists, image consulting, clinical psychology and psychiatry, former international runway model, spiritual attorney working with incarcerated women, researcher, holistic yoga teacher, sensuality/sexuality coach, sex/relationship counselor, artist, and actress/entertainer.  These self-identified Inner Beauty experts each had a specific suggestion and path for feeling the kind of beauty that is sustained throughout your life. 
Some bits of wisdom from the interviews:
“If you don’t believe you are beautiful, then it’s not worth anything.” Stephanie Mansour, of StepItUpWithSteph
“Self-confidence is the greatest aphrodisiac…when a woman is comfortable in her own skin.” Donna Henes, author of “The Queen of Myself”
“Stop listening to external sources of beauty.” Courtenay Hall, editor of BELLA magazine
“Woman are the beginning and the end of everything. You’ve got the power. Use it wisely.” Magatte Wade, organic skin care specialist
“Your inner beauty is all that you will BE.” Jacqueline Piper, Founder of Image Enhancer
“Be compassionate and listen to your bodies. Then inner beauty can radiate out.” Melanie Greenberg, clinical psychologist
“Believe in who you are.” Hattie RetroAge, Holistic Health Coach
“We are deficient in acknowledgement. The first step is to appreciate something about ourselves everyday.” Lorelei Shellist, former international runway model
“Never give up. Inner beauty is that spark of innate intelligence where your body has the ability to heal anything.” Dr. Kathleen Hartford, author and wellness practitioner
The need to continue to collaborate and encourage inner beauty in our world is growing. Women are hungering to find their way back to inner peace and happiness. This is the path that will bring more health, wealth and happiness (not to mention good sex) onto the entire planet.
Consider writing these bits of wisdom that resonate with you down on sticky notes and post them up all over your house, car, purse, and world.  
Positive thoughts = Positive Words = Positive Actions


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FINDING THE FUNNY – More on Women and Sex – hehe Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:00:08 +0000 Admin  

An old Jewish man is walking along the beach when he sees something glittering in the sand.
He picks it up – it's a bottle. He brushes it off and a genie pops out.
"I will grant you one wish," the genie says.
"One wish?" the old man says. And from his back pocket, he takes out a crumpled old map.
"You see this?" he says to the genie. "This is a map of my homeland, Israel, and right next to it is Palestine. They are neighbors and yet for years and years they fight and kill each other. My wish is that you bring peace to my homeland and Palestine."
The genie says, "Oh, my, that is a very big wish you ask for. And though I am a very magical genie, I don't think even I can grant that wish. Do you have any other wish?"
The old man says, "Okay. How 'bout that my wife Sadie should like the oral sex?"
The genie thinks a moment and says, "Let me take another look at that map."
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ARTICLE – Flowing with the Nature of Winter Sat, 05 Nov 2011 21:55:55 +0000 Admin  

Winter is the coldest season of the year in temperate climates, between autumn and spring.  At the Winter Solstice, the days are shortest and the nights are longest, with days lengthening as the season progresses after the solstice.  The winter has also been described as a period of time characterized by coldness, misery, barrenness, or death.
How do you stay in tune with the flow of cold, misery and death?
I am in Northern California writing this on November 1st,  and if you haven’t felt the shortening days of winter approaching yet, you certainly feel it now. The sunrise is noted at 7:35 am and the sunset at 6:11 pm on this date, as opposed to the longest day of the year (June 21st) with a sunrise at 5:48 am and sunset at 8:35 pm. That is more than 4 hours less daylight as we approach the shortest day of the year on December 21st. This is nature, and we have no control over getting the sun to rise or set at any other time.
If we are to flow with nature, what is this time of more darkness and more cold asking of our bodies and spirits?
Instinctively, it makes sense to get more rest and eat/drink warm foods during the colder and darker time of year.  The lack of sunlight sends a message to our bodies to slow down, as we see in nature with animals who hibernate until spring.  And yet November through December is a more active and social time for most people so there is a faster and more constant pace generated. The way our holidays are celebrated today with all the plans, parties, shopping, eating, etc, it makes it a more stressful period of time. 
How much more of your precious energy do you want to let slip away without being conscious of your body, mind and spirit’s needs during these slower and darker months?
Ruth Stout, an American author, writes, “There is a privacy about it which no other season gives you …..  In spring, summer and fall people sort of have an open season on each other; only in the winter, in the country, can you have longer, quiet stretches when you can savor belonging to yourself."
Some WINTER ways to flow with nature and connect with You.
Withdraw from activities that do not give you energy – even if it’s family (find a polite way to bow out)
Include drinking at least 2 cups of hot water every day
Nest in bed for an extra 1/2 hour in the morning
Tuck in bed a 1/2 hour earlier at night
Enter your day with a smile on your face
Rest your body by breathing deeply at least 30 seconds a day
Practice these WINTER ways and you will surely experience more peace, passion and pleasure, and create more harmony within and without.
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CBL#143 – The Inner Beauty and Sexuality of the Goddess Sat, 05 Nov 2011 17:09:51 +0000 Admin How does the daughter of a conservative Mormon family in Utah grow up to be a Priestess and Focalizer of the 13 Moon Mystery School? You will have to listen (click the listen button) below to find out how Amanda Elo'esh, founder of the Emerging Goddess Program, did just that. She shares how she transformed from feeling clueless to BEing centered…so many good pondering questions. She gives us a taste of guided imagery so keep listening for that experience. 

"The imagination is infinite and truly holds our connection to Creator. Tapping into this powerful and miraculous resource is the key to manifesting unconditional joy and health." – Amanda Elo'esh

Drop into a quiet place, and listen to this beautiful young/old wise woman!

Amanda Elo'esh Johnsen, M.A. holds a degree in counseling psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies. She has been developing her current alternative healing arts practice since the age of eleven when she took part in a program for gifted children. Coming from a lineage of hands-on-healers, Amanda recognized, at an early age, the need to empower all those she helped to become their own guide and healer. Amanda has been refining her work ever since. Her primary tool is guided imagery. 

Her initiations into the Divine Feminine Mysteries, Mayan Shamanism, the Buddha Dakini Path and Indigenous Medicine Ways also strongly influence her work, and she believes that each person has their own unique pathway to Source. 

Amanda helps people to gently, quickly and easily recognize and heal old wounding and shadow and helps each of her clients to tap into their own higher wisdom and authentic Self. "My clients leave amazed at the new confidence and joy they have access to that seemed impossible just moments before."

Ready to tap into Your Goddess…Contact Amanda

(415) 717-2963



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FINDING THE FUNNY – Perspectives?!?! Mon, 31 Oct 2011 17:00:23 +0000 Admin

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CBL#142 – Inner Beauty Miracles with Bernie Siegel Sat, 29 Oct 2011 23:37:32 +0000 Admin "Healing is built into our bodies" – Bernie Siegel, MD

Dr. Bernie Siegel was my inspiring guest this week emphasizing the need to love ourselves, love our kids and love our world as a path to healing. He suggested to "live an authentic life," hang mottos to live by all over your house to encourage you daily to live from your heart. He has many miraculous stories to share, including his own marriage success of 57 years raising 5 children and numerous pets. It makes me happy to know that Bernie Siegel has left his imprint of love and compassion on the health care system. To listen to the entire interview, click the button below.

For many, Dr. Bernard Siegel—or Bernie, as he prefers to be called—needs no introduction. He has touched many lives all over the Planet. In 1978, he reached a national and then international audience when he began talking about patient empowerment and the choice to live fully and die in peace. As a physician who has cared for and counseled innumerable people whose mortality has been threatened by illness, Bernie embraces a philosophy of living and dying that stands at the forefront of the medical ethics and spiritual issues our Society grapples with today. In May 2011, Bernie was honored by the Watkins Review of London, England, as one of the Top 20 Spiritually Influential Living People on the Planet. He continues to break new ground in the field of healing, supporting changes in medical education to “humanize” medical practice.

Bernie was born in Brooklyn, NY, and attended Colgate University and Cornell University Medical College. He graduated with honors and holds membership in two scholastic honor societies, Phi Beta Kappa and Alpha Omega Alpha. He trained to become a surgeon at Yale New Haven Hospital, West Haven Veteran’s Hospital and the Children’s Hospital of Pittsburgh. In 1989, Bernie retired from Yale as an Assistant Clinical Professor of General and Pediatric Surgery to speak to patients, their families and caregivers.

In his latest book, his 12th, published in September 2011, entitled A BOOK OF MIRACLES—Inspiring True Stories of Healing, Gratitude, and Love, Bernie is described in the Foreword written by Deepak Chopra who tells us “Bernie Siegel began his writing career twenty-five years ago, and from the outset he didn’t shy away from miracles. The title of his first bookLOVE, MEDICINE & MIRACLES (1986)—flaunted his disagreement with mainstream medicine. An MD who advised more love as a path to healing would have been in enough trouble. Opening the possibility of miracles was grounds for dismissal. In his new book, Bernie reaffirms his original beliefs, and with a lifetime’s wisdom and experience, he trusts in miracles more than ever.”

Bernie’s writings in the 12 books he has published so far reflect his passion to reach people struggling with all of life’s challenges—not just the physical ones—so that each person can live life fully with the understanding that, as Bernie reminds us, “We only have today.” Believing that we are all here to love one another, Bernie has crafted eternal truths and the timeless wisdom of the ages into his reflections on the true stories of his patients in much of his work. But he has also produced wonderful resources for everyone like 365 Prescriptions for the Soul (Daily Messages of Inspiration, Hope, and Love), and 101 Exercises for the Soul (A Divine Workout Plan for Body, Mind, and Spirit). Bernie’s books also include those like Love, Magic & Mudpies, a great resource for parents and delightful, loving stories like Buddy’s Candle to help children of all ages cope with the loss of a loved one, be it a pet or parent. Reflecting on his work so far, Bernie quotes Woody Allen who once said, “If I had one wish it would be to be somebody else.” Bernie’s wish was to be a few inches taller, and can say now that he is a few inches taller because his work has been such a growth experience.

In 1978, nearly a decade before retirement, Bernie launched ECaP—Exceptional Cancer Patients, in which he and his wife and co-worker, Bobbie, remain active today. ECaP is a therapeutic approach Bernie calls Carefrontation that helps patients interpret their drawings, dreams and images to express their feelings about the healing process. The physical, spiritual, and psychological benefits that emerge strengthen the immune system, a direct response to the power of the Mind-Body Connection about which Bernie has written and spoken extensively. He is currently working on other books with the goal of empowering patients and teaching survival behavior to enhance immune system competency. Bernie believes that in the next decade, the roles of consciousness, spirituality, non-local healing, body memory, and heart energy will all be explored more intensively as scientific subjects.

All along the way, Bernie’s wife, Barbara H. Siegel—or Bobbie—has been a mainstay at workshops on helping patients interpret their drawings and especially, with a talent for very funny one-liners, at workshops on the healing power of humor. Bobbie, a graduate of Oswego State Teachers College with a BS in Early Childhood Education, credits her academic work as the preparation she needed to educate and train Bernie. On his part, Bernie does say that her guidance has helped him become the person he is today. Bobbie and Bernie raised five children together and now, as then, live in a home full of children’s things (for their eight grandchildren), pets, and especially love.

Read Bernie’s regular blog posts on his website where you will also find his books, articles, and CDs:

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ARTICLE – Embracing the Miracle of Your Human-Ness Wed, 26 Oct 2011 18:30:23 +0000 Admin

I have adopted a practice to embrace my human-ness. After I feel like I have “messed up” or “didn’t say the right thing,” I find a mirror and look right in my eyes. “I love you, I really really do,” said WITH feeling. My body knows the place of self-hatred, and it knows the place of self-love. It is a fine line between the two, and we have a choice in every minute of every day to tip the balance to self-love.
Do you suffer from perfectionism? 
According to psychologist and perfectionism researcher, Hamachek D.E., there are types: normal and neurotic. Normal or healthy perfectionism finds a person feeling a deep sense of pleasure from the tedious effort of working towards “perfect.” And then there are the neurotic or unhealthy perfectionists who never feel satisfied and strain compulsively toward impossible goals. These people often measure their own self worth entirely in terms of productivity and accomplishment.
So it ain’t all bad. The pleasure one derives from striving to make something better until filled up with pride and an expression of who you are is what I call “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life.” However, it is imperative to notice if you are struggling and tense while trying to perfect your recipe, article, parenting, job, project, etc., you are fighting and resisting your own human-ness.
How do you know if you suffer from perfectionism?
Are you afraid of making mistakes?
Do you get impatient with others when they make a mistake?
If you fail an assignment at work or school, do you feel like a failure?
How long does it haunt you when you make a faux pas (like using the wrong fork at a fancy dinner or putting your foot in your mouth)?
How do you feel when you read these questions?
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for all of your other relationships. If you are hard on ourselves, then you will in turn be hard on others. It is inevitable? If we are unable to nurture our inner most beings, then our lives will reflect this deficiency in some way. Embracing your own human-ness is the doorway to seeing the miracle of who you are at your essence.
Dr. Bernie Siegel writes in his new book on miracles, “Our body loves us, but it needs to know we love our lives in order for it to do all it can to help us survive. The change in body energy activated by the love alters our internal chemistry and makes a difference. In many cases, this kind of miracle is damn hard work. But when you are willing to do the work, and live in your heart, magic can happen.”
There are many ways to approach “the work” Bernie mentions, and they all begin with awareness. And to become aware, you need to PAUSE from the pace of life.  LIFT yourself into the moment by noticing:
Lighting in the room
Interior of your belly
Feeling in your heart
Taste in your mouth
“You are unique, and if that is not fulfilled, then something has been lost.”- Martha Graham
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Granny’s Sex Story Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:14:35 +0000 Admin

Upon hearing that her elderly grandfather had just passed away, Katie went straight to her grandparent's house to visit her 95-year-old grandmother and comfort her.
When she asked how her grandfather had died, her grandmother replied, "He had a heart attack while we were making love on Sunday morning."
Horrified, Katie told her grandmother that two people nearly 100 years old having sex was surely asking for trouble.
"Oh, no, my dear," replied Granny. "Many years ago, realizing our advanced age, we figured out the best time to do it was when the church bells would start to ring. It was just the right rhythm. Nice and slow and even. Nothing too strenuous, simply in on the Ding and out on the Dong."
She paused to wipe away a tear, and said, "He'd still be alive if that frickin' ice cream truck hadn't come along."
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ARTICLE – The Impact of Disconnected Beauty Wed, 19 Oct 2011 21:33:22 +0000 Admin

A good laugh at the insanity of how we define and design our marriages is surely in order. It’s not as funny as it should be though because so many people are affected by the enormous amount of emotional suffering.  Women give up on men, and men give up on women after failed attempts at relating, and both are left feeling misunderstood and unappreciated. Why do we keep hitting our heads against the wall with this marriage stuff?  Instead of continuing to do the same thing expecting a different outcome, let’s take a deeper look at the aspect of a woman’s inner beauty or disconnection to it that creates disharmony in relationships. 
What we need to know about women is that they are very disconnected to their inner beauty and sexuality which makes them feel inadequate and unhappy overall in their lives, and especially in relationships with men. A shocking 80% of women do not have a good body image, and 97% do not like something about their bodies. Below is an excerpt from an indepth study of college-age students on women’s body image published in “The Qualitative Report” in June, 2009. 
-Beyond an awareness of their bodies, our participants learned a particular set of attitudes regarding women’s bodies, and not one participant was currently satisfied with her body as it was. Moreover, our female participants all thought, to varying degrees, that a “better body” (one closer to the cultural standard) would make them happier and/or more successful. In our written interviews we asked all of the male and female participants the following question: “Honestly, if you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?” All of the female participants listed a body part, their weight, or their body image. In a follow-up question asking why, the following responses were given: envy other women, to gain confidence, to get boys, to get better clothes, due to self-consciousness, currently feels unattractive or otherwise dissatisfied with appearance, and as a result of cultural influence.-
Adding insult to injury, Americans alone spend over 200 billion dollars each year on beauty products and services without an ounce of difference in how content or satisfied women feel in their lives. This same amount of money would be enough to feed, clothe, educate, and provide health care for every child in the world. (Worldwatch Institute) How happy would women AND men be if that were a reality?!?
A resulting dynamic of unhappy women in our relationships is a little startling. Men are often the receivers of the rath of unhappy women. In countless Jerry Springer shows, a disgruntled wife or girlfriend is allowed to use her spouse or boyfriend as a punching bag, unleashing as much anger as is physically possible without any response whatsoever from the men. Sometimes the abuse is not so overtly physical, but statements of blame like “I am done with men.,” “He is so clueless!,” or “What a piece of work he is!”
Men need our guidance, love and understanding to navigate the waters of our emotions, especially with our body images.
Call to action…DABS everyday!
Deep breath
Act from love
Be kind
Smile alot :)
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FINDING THE FUNNY – Men and Directions! Mon, 17 Oct 2011 17:00:44 +0000 Admin  

An old man and woman were married for many years, even though they hated each other. Whenever there was a confrontation, yelling could be heard deep into the night. The old man would shout, "When I die, I will dig my way up and out of the grave and come back and haunt you for the rest of your life!"
Neighbors feared him. They believed he practiced magic, because of the many strange occurrences that took place in their neighborhood. The old man liked the fact that he was feared. To everyone's relief, he died of a heart attack when he was 98.
His wife had a closed casket at the wake. After the burial, she went straight to the local bar and began to party as if there was no tomorrow.
Her neighbors, concerned for her safety, asked, "Aren't you afraid that he may indeed be able to dig his way out of the grave and haunt you for the rest of your life?"
The wife put down her drink and said, "Let him dig. I had him buried upside down. And you know men won't ask for directions."
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CBL#140 – Self-Love as a Path to Inner Beauty Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:33:21 +0000 Admin Did you know that the definition of Self-Love includes conceit, vanity and narcissism? It is a no wonder women are getting Fs in Self-Love, and why Christine Arylo has co-founded the Mean Girls Reform School. Christine says it like it is about how women feel like they are Falling Behind, living up to False Ideals, and Failing miserably at being a super-woman…lots of Fs.  If you are ready to claim Self-Love, she has a plan and will show you how with fun, creativity, and passion. She has helped over 500 people successfully navigate a 40 day fear cleanse at Listen to the interview, and some pretty shocking WHOA Babies about how women feel about their bodies by clicking the "Listen" button below. 

A self-admitted, but recovering, achievement junkie and doing addict, Christine is an inspirational catalyst who writes and speaks about the  struggles and possibilities that this generation of woman — today’s 21st century woman — faces in getting the love and happiness she works so hard to find. 

The popular author of Choosing ME before WE, Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love Christine is affectionately known as the “Queen of Self-Love.” A title earned due to her relentless commitment to teaching and inspiring girls and women from around the world to really, truly fall madly in love with themselves. 
After leaving her six-figure corporate career behind, Christine has spent the last 5 years dedicated to making self-love a tangible reality for all girls and women. She is the creator of Madly in Love with ME™ , an international self-love movement that includes an official  self-love holiday on Februrary 13th — put it on your calendar! She is the co-founder of Inner Mean Girl Reform School™, a virtual school and community that has helped over 10,000 women transform their self-sabotaging voices into self-loving ones. 
Christine loves to speak publicly to groups of women and girls. She has been a frequent guest on ABC, CBS, FOX and E! Entertainment TV, and she speaks often on college campuses, at retreat and spa resorts, and at women’s conferences around the country. When not online teaching or on the mic talking, she is hanging out with her 2nd best friend – her partner Noah – because as Christine says, ‘Every woman must be her own best friend first.’ 
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ARTICLE – PAUSE for Pleasure and Inner Beauty Fri, 14 Oct 2011 18:40:27 +0000 Admin The system, “5 Ps to Peace, Passion, and Pleasure,” is designed for women to uncover their inner beauty. This kind of beauty is lasting and true no matter what kind of hair day you may be having, or how old you feel. This is important because women are disconnected to feeling good on the inside…wow, it really breaks my heart to write this AND I know that it is true. We have evidence of it everywhere with eating disorders, plastic surgeries, and the fast growing market of anti-aging products and services. Doesn’t it seem odd that it is inevitable to get older and yet we fight it as if it is a horrible fate? Especially women, and I believe it is because they are disconnected with their inner beauty so when the skin ages and wrinkles set it, they feel old and used up. However, the disconnection is not only for older women. Unfortunately, it is most women. Ninety-seven percent of women do not like something about their bodies.

The 5 Ps system is a step by step process. The first step is PAUSE, followed by Ponder, Plan, Prospect, and Pop. This article is focused on pausing because it is the hardest and most crucial step. If you do not pause, there is no time to ponder, the plan remains the same, prospecting feels like too much work, and popping is left for the corn in the microwave.
The reasons for the difficulty in woman’s ability to stop and focus on her  own self-care is being revealed with the brain science of the last two decades. Prior to the 1990s, all the studies in medicine were done on the male brain because a woman’s hormones would screw up the data. Even the pill was based on the male brain…now there is a scary thought! The corpus colosseum is the connector between the brain’s left and right hemispheres. In a woman’s brain, it is wider which makes it easier for her to take the kids to school, plan dinner tonight, prepare for the business meeting, and do her kegel exercises on the way.  Can you just feel how the brain is dancing around keeping her up in her head instead of in her body? It does not take a rocket scientist to know that peace, passion, and pleasure is felt in the body…not thought about in the head. I am here to tell you that you can not think your way to peace, passion, and pleasure.
I am also here to tell you it is much simpler than you think. The most convenient and least expensive method rendering the best results are to take 30 seconds at least 3 times a day to stop. Yes, I am asking for 1-1/2 minutes of your time to feel and apply a strategy with the acronym BEST. It is the BEST strategy for pausing, and here is how it breaks down.
B is to Breathe deeply – down into your belly
E is to Embrace Your Humanness-look into your eyes if possible
S is to Smile – let it turn into a laugh if you are feeling it
T is to Think – YOU are a beautiful soul
I said it was simple, but it’s not always easy. Practice everyday for 24 days. This will take one and a half minutes of your day. 
This movement towards more feminine energy and power in the world is happening. Let’s make sure it is a peaceful and loving feminine energy. The only way for that to happen is for women to learn to love themselves again, and feel their beautiful soul.
Ah, go on, take 30 seconds right now!
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FINDING THE FUNNY – 50 years of marriage and what happens? :) Mon, 10 Oct 2011 17:00:14 +0000 Admin After nearly 50 years of marriage, a couple was lying in bed one evening, when the wife felt her husband begin to massage her in ways he hadn't in quite some time. …

It almost tickled as his fingers started at her neck, and then began moving down past the small of her back. He then caressed her shoulders and neck, slowly worked his hand down, stopping just over her stomach. …

He then proceeded to place his hand on her left inner arm, working down her side, passing gently over her buttock and down her leg to her calf. …

Then, he proceeded up her thigh, stopping just at the uppermost portion of her leg. He continued in the same manner on her right side, then suddenly stopped, rolled over and became silent.

As she had become quite aroused by this caressing, she asked in a loving voice, 'Honey, that was wonderful. Why did you stop?'

To which he responded: 'I found the remote.'

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CBL#139 – Organic and Orgasmic with Sex Butter and Bonnie Gayle Sat, 08 Oct 2011 17:01:01 +0000 Admin Do you understand how when you emanate the essence of pleasure, you attract pleasure into your life? That is what my special guest, Bonnie Gayle, calls pleasure empowerment. Bonnie's personal story had her successful in a life as an accountant, but miserable personally. Possibly no coincidence, she developed early menopausal symptoms that decreased her libido and made sex painful. Never fear though because from this experience, she found happiness, positivity and her life purpose to empower and liberate women sexually. She doesn't just talk about…she created a 100% natural product Sex Butter which has healing properties inside and out. Tune into Bonnie's interview as she openly shares her personal story of transformation. Also on this episode is a fun segment where Coach Betty talks with the "Queen of Pinckney, Michigan" about how her inner beauty played into her queenliness. To hear the whole show, click the "LISTEN" button below.

When Bonnie turned 41, and was in the prime of her life she had a life-changing experience stemming from early peri- menopause.  She had a successful business as a business manager/accountant for over 18 years, attractive, and was supposed to be at her peak until her body had other plans.  Her mind was at its sexual prime while her body shut down.  As she reached out to woman for answers, she quickly realized that whether women were healthy or not, they were struggling sexually with their bodies and needed help for a variety of reasons.
The drastic physical change her body, sent her on a quest to find something that didn’t exist; a healthy product to sooth the dryness and pain and help her feel sexually empowered again.  So, she had it created – “Sex Butter”  and “Amida Oil” products to help women feel and heal their bodies while manifesting their dreams.  Cancer patients, abuse victims, and women with all types of other intimate issues are using Sex Butter, with positive results.
Bonnie is actively involved in the women’s community, speaking to women’s groups and Cancer survivors, and a huge advocate for women’s sexual empowerment.  She has experienced and seen how sexually repressed women are affected in all areas of their lives.  What started off as a mission to save herself and her body, became a mission to help women globally to heal.  As she has seen and felt herself, this experience has been life-changing to her person, her self esteem, and all areas of her life.  Some of the groups she’s involved in are:  National Association of Professional Women; Cambridge’s Who’s Who; Savor the Success; Woo Hoo Women; Goddess Collective; LA, Tribal Truth.
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GUEST ARTICLE – Why Bother with Beauty? Wed, 05 Oct 2011 17:00:09 +0000 Admin  

By Dee Mason
Beauty is a tricky concept, and it really is in the eye of the beholder.  Not only is it completely subjective, but it is also a product of how we view ourselves internally.  A person with confidence, poise, and a sense of self, is often far more attractive than a person who is traditionally beautiful, but emotionally or mentally vacant.??Then again, what is beauty?  Is beauty merely something that is aesthetically pleasing, or is it an inner light that causes people to want to be near a person?  These are not easy questions to answer, so it is common to find ourselves asking – why should any of us make an effort to be beautiful? 
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the primary definition of beauty is “the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit”.  However, this definition of beauty is often confused with the second most often utilized definition of beauty, “a beautiful person or thing; especially: a beautiful woman”, and therein lies the problem.  With the two definitions of beauty so commonly conflated, with one acknowledging the important of a beautiful internal life, and one all but negating the importance of humanity in beauty, it is difficult to know how to achieve the type of beauty that will be recognized by the outside world.  The world of entertainment would have us believe that the second definition is of far more importance than the first.  Reality shows like the “Next Top Model” series, or “Make Me A Supermodel”, or the “X-Factor”, that look for the total (external) package, espouse and reward a beauty that is only skin deep.  Very rarely are contestants on these shows viewed holistically.  So again, we must ask ourselves, why make the time or the effort to be beautiful both internally and externally?
The answer to the above question is actually quite simple.  Do it because it feels good.  It feels good to buy the ingredients for a healthy meal, cook it, and then eat it.  It feels good to go running in the morning before work, or in the evening as the sun is setting.  It feels good to take that yoga, dance, writing, music, or art course.  It feels good to continually make improvements to one’s own body and mind in little ways every day.  Keep in mind, improvements do not mean Botox injections, surgeries, or other augmentations. Improvements are those activities or practices that help a person continue to grow in both their mental and physical control.  When a person eats a healthy meal, takes a class they enjoy, or participates in a sport or group activity, they are feeding a part of themselves that is instantly recognizable to anyone who meets them.  That sense of self, the little voice that says, “Yes.  I would like to do this activity or work for my own health and enjoyment”, is highly attractive to other people.  It speaks to a self-knowledge and sense of worth that many people lack. 
Though it may sound cliché, inner beauty really can trump outer beauty.  
Though mainstream media would have us all believe otherwise, average looks, a sense of self, and genuine kindness, are far more lasting qualities than any icy-hot external beauty that will most assuredly fade with time.  In a slightly maudlin personal example of this, a student of mine once told me about a set of twins he knew in high school.  Both girls were pretty, but one had a stunning body to go with her face, and the other was wheelchair bound due to a spinal injury during birth.  My student and his best friend saw the young women at a party their senior year, and played Rock, Paper, Scissors to decide who would get to hang out with which sister.  My student “won”, and spent the rest of the evening, and the next week or so, with the sister who could walk.  Much to his dismay, the young woman was not particularly bright, and had a decided mean streak that he found off-putting.  After they parted company, she immediately hooked up with another young man, and my student noticed that she pretty much floated from young man to young man for the rest of their senior year.  The young woman in the wheelchair, the sister with “lesser” conventional external beauty, was extremely intelligent, had a great sense of humor, and 15 years later, is still married to my student’s best friend, they have two children, and a successful online share dealing business.  While this story is a rather sledgehammer example of inner beauty versus outer beauty, it is also a clear example of the importance of developing ourselves inside and out.
So, why take the time to develop beauty in the “wholistic” sense of the word?  It feels good.  You owe it to yourself to be the best that you can be.  Finally, other people will see those qualities in you.  We are relational beings and we will always respond positively to positive energy.  If you feel great about who you are, if you put time and energy into creating and finding beauty (the first definition) inside and out, you will attract like-minded people.  At the end of the day, being surrounding by people who believe in you, and who believe in themselves, is just about the most beautiful thing one can experience.
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FINDING THE FUNNY – My Way or the Highway! Mon, 03 Oct 2011 17:00:03 +0000 Admin Just another quick laugh at our expectations in relationships!  Enjoy!

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CBL#138 – The Business of Orgasm Sat, 01 Oct 2011 17:14:14 +0000 Admin Documentary filmmaker, Liz Canner, is my special guest on this episode to talk about the business of orgasm. Her film, "Orgasm, Inc." tells a disturbing, but hilarious story of how the pharmaceutical industry is racing to develop the first drug for the diagnosis of "Female Sexual Dysfunction." What is disturbing about that, you say? The pharmaceutical companies helped develop this diagnosis so they could then market and sell a drug for it. That is what I call a WHOA BABY. Through this 9 year film project, Liz learned so much about what goes into a woman's orgasm, and the sex education needed for medical professionals and women. Listen in to her courageous story of standing up to the pharma industry and what she learned by clicking the listen button below.


Orgasm, Inc. is award-winning director Liz Canner’s first feature documentary. Canner was recently named one of the top ten independent filmmakers to watch in 2009 by The Independent Magazine and honored with a Visionary Award from Dartmouth College for the movie. Since earning her BA with Honors from Brown University in 1991, she has received more than 45 awards, honors and grants for her innovative documentary projects on human rights issues. Canner’s documentaries have been broadcast on PBS, cable stations and internationally in many countries. They have screened at festivals like The New York Film Festival and the Human Rights Watch Film Festival. For her contribution to the field, Canner has been honored with a Radcliffe Institute for Advanced Study (Bunting) Fellowship from Harvard University and a Rockefeller Foundation Next Generation Leadership Fellowship documentary. 

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CBL Special – Everyday Naked with Mary Bartnikowski Sat, 01 Oct 2011 01:43:09 +0000 Admin One of the things I love about working in the internet market of media is that all I need is my recorder in hand, meet fascinating people, ask them for their wisdom and post it on my site.

Such was the case with Mary Bartnikowski, who I met through my dear friend Sandra Hickman, at David Walley's Hot Springs Resort near Genoa, Nevada. Love spontanous connections with dynamic women. 

Mary is the author of "Everyday Naked," and her newly released book "Kitten Heels in Katmandu: Adventures of a Female Vagabond," and she has captured vulnerability and deep truth about living as an adventurous women. Mary traveled to 27 countries in 6 years by herself, and her new book tells many of the tales she experienced. She is a true example of knowing her inner beauty and sexuality and finding the courage, confidence and grace to go with that. She is a photographer and has taken photos and videos of many of her adventures including seeing the Dalai Lama and escaping a stampede of elephants in Nepal. To listen to the 20 minute inteview, click link below.

Coach Betty & Mary Bartnikowski


Mary Bartnikowski is an award-winning photographer, published author, expert on women’s travel, kundalini yoga and meditation instructor, and mother of a maverick son. She travels full-time teaching photography and yoga and leading humanitarian projects worldwide. Mary has led programs at Stanford University, Apple, and Intel and is available for photography assignments, photographic consultations, and speaking. She exhibits and sells her work internationally and publishes books of her world journeys. After 25 years of having her own photography business in Palo Alto, California she is now a global citizen, who has worked and explored on 4 continents and in 27 countries.

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ARTICLE – An Unwavering Appreciation for Your Individuality Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:05:14 +0000 Admin Jacqueline Piper, of and author of “Beyond Style: The Quest,” offered that phrase to me during one of my recent interviews for a Special Inner Beauty Collaborative through You will be hearing much more about these 22 interviews with 22 different thought leaders from various backgrounds on the topic of inner beauty. I’m on a mission to make inner beauty ALL the rage.

Jacqueline shared three secrets on her approach to inner beauty. I want to share them with you, and add some of my own thoughts.
The first and most critical step in the “Beyond Style: The Quest” approach is to have a deep understand of the influence of your thoughts. The recognition of your habitual thinking, and looking at whether it is constructive or destructive. This is a big one, ladies. Is your thinking around your beauty positive and constructive or negative? Given the data on how women feel about their bodies, I guess one could conclude that most women need to work on their habitual thinking about their own beauty. I ask you to consider what is the most appealing part of your body to YOU; not your husband, your neighbor or your best friend. My next request is to ask you to make sure you bring that body part in when you look in the mirror. As long as it’s not the middle of your back, let your gaze take you to enjoy looking at it too. Start and end your day with noticing your own beautiful self, developing thoughts to support what you know about your beauty. 
Jacqueline’s second secret is the ability to develop an unwavering appreciation for your unique individuality. Wow, doesn’t that sound great! Can you feel how it helps you to tap into your inner beauty when you have an unwavering appreciation for who you BE in the world. Nobody else is like you…nobody.
“You are unique. If that is not expressed, then something is lost.” – Martha Graham
The final secret Jacqueline shared was to strengthen your mind with elevated thought. She shared that you must be a persistent seeker of your truth so that your mind can expand and help you see all you were created to be. When you live your life on this higher thought plain, then you have access to the universal laws of reciprocity, growth, and much more.
Women who seek to find that place of inner beauty will be rewarded with courage, confidence and grace enjoying a calm and harmonious life. 
I thank Jacqueline Piper for all her gems of wisdom, and thank all of you for caring about your beauty and what it means to the world. 
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CBL#137 – Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women with Alison Armstrong Mon, 26 Sep 2011 21:07:53 +0000 Admin Why is receptivity so hard for women?  What does it mean to receive a man? These questions and so many more are asked to relationship expert, Alison Armstrong. Women need to stop feeling like men are clueless and don't understand, and learn what they are doing to create the clueless-ness. Alison is a dynamo, so if you want some cut to the chase advice on how you can enrich your relationships and your life, sit down with some tea, and click "Listen" below. I guarantee it will provoke some new thinking. 





Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and designer of the wildly acclaimed "Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women" workshop series, asks the question: "If man were primarily the hunter and women the gatherer, what would this explain about our behavior?"  She explores the differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, win-win strategies for men and women to improve their communication and intimacy by paying attention to when they talk, how they talk, and what they listen for.  While many women bring out the worst in men – turning Princes into Frogs – Alison has spent two decades teaching women and men what they can do to bring out the best in each other.


Born in Laguna Beach, California in 1960, Alison Armstrong has been designing and leading transformational programs for adults for almost 30 years.  Since 1989, she has been training others to facilitate growth, healing and transformation.  In 1995, after four years of studying men for her personal benefit, she created the Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women® workshop series to share her extraordinary findings with women across the nation.  With her friend, Joan McClain, she founded PAX Programs Incorporated with the mission of “altering society’s culture by transforming the way women relate to men.”  PAX, the Latin word for “peace” and an acronym for Partnership, Adoration and Xtasy, creates peace between the sexes by providing unique and immediately useful information to women and men.


Alison is the author of Keys to the Kingdom and Making Sense of Men ~ A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care and Attention from All Men.  While she enjoys writing and developing products to help men and women create peaceful partnerships, she still leads workshops around the country.  You can see Alison live at Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery™, the PAX Mastery & Leadership Program, Embracing the Queen (the advanced Queen course), and Core Partnership (the “Colorado Horse Course”), Partnership By Design, and an occasional Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women® workshop and introductory Making Sense of Men™ seminars.


Alison’s other passions include gardening, nature, and animals, especially horses.  Fulfilling a childhood dream, Alison is raising a horse from birth at her beautiful home in picturesque western Colorado.  Alison enjoys spending time with Greg, her husband since 1993, who she has described as “the motorcycle riding, piano playing, former C.P.A.”  They live with their youngest daughter in Southern California.  People often comment on her marriage, assuming they must be newlyweds.  “Greg and I sometimes make people uncomfortable, although we don’t mean to.  I just have the worst crush on him.  And,” she adds with a smile, “Greg says he worships the water I walk on.” Armstrong also has a grown son and daughter, currently enjoying various adventures.


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FINDING THE FUNNY – MALE/FEMALE DIFFERENCES Mon, 26 Sep 2011 15:38:51 +0000 Admin  

Husband and wife are getting all snugly in bed. The passion is heating up. 
But then the wife stops and says, "I don' t feel like it. I just want you to hold me." 
The husband says " WHAT???" The wife explains that he must not be in tune with her emotional needs as a woman. 
The husband realizes that nothing is going to happen tonight and he might as well deal with it.
So the next day the husband takes her shopping at a big dept. store. He walks around and had her try on three very expensive outfits. And then tells his wife, We 'll take all three of them. Then goes over and gets matching shoes worth $200 each. 
And then goes to the jewelry Dept. and gets a set of diamond earrings. The wife is so excited (she thinks her husband has flipped out, but she does not care). She goes for the tennis bracelet. 
The husband says "but you don 't even play tennis, but OK if you like it then lets get it.' 
The wife is jumping up and down. So excited she cannot even believe what is going on. She says " I am ready to go, lets go to the cash register. " 
The husband says, " no no no, honey we're not going to buy all this stuff." The wife face goes blank. 
" No honey – I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while." 
Her face gets really red she is about to explode and then the husband says " You must not be in tune with my financial needs as a MAN!"
Men need sex. Women need shopping. How do you relate to this idea?
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ARTICLE: The 5 Ps to Peace, Passion, and Pleasure Thu, 22 Sep 2011 22:09:56 +0000 Admin  

How many Ps can you find in this article?  I'm feeling in a childlike mood today. :)


Penelope Piper Paused, Pondered, Planned, Prospected and Popped so that she could bring her Peaceful, Passionate and Pleasured self out into the world. 


And so it goes in the world of organic and orgasmic.


Are we having fun yet? When is the last time you felt like life was rolling along without conflicts or worries? How do you suppose the laws of attraction work when we feel worry?


Okay, Coach Betty, enough with the questions! Many of my clients say enough, just tell me what to do and how to feel. Sorry, it is an inside job, and Pausing and Pondering these questions will help you find that place. How you Plan the rest of your life could be quite a bit different than your current path. 


This is actually a 5-part proven system that you can begin to implement today, in this moment, without Purchasing a thing to begin on the Path of Peace, Passion, and Pleasure which are the Ps that follow the Os of Organic and Orgasmic. Sometimes, I am just too clever.


Let me cut to the chase with step 1. The only way to begin the path to peace, passion and pleasure is Pausing in the moment and paying attention to your senses. Sensuality is not something you can multi-task through. You must get off the hamster wheel of whatever cycle you are in the midst of, and give yourself as little as 30 seconds or 10 breaths to notice your solar plexus or 3rd chakra area. That is really all there is to understand step 1, Pause.


The 2nd step of Ponder is all about what you felt when you Paused. If your upper belly is tense and tight, you are in some state of worry. Breathe deeper into that tightness and assure your body that you are going to find ways to make peace and relax.


The 3rd step of Planning is to design ways to get to your inner beauty, sexuality, and peace. The common Prescription is to breathe for 30 seconds and notice your 3rd chakra 3 times a day, when you open your eyes in the morning, after lunch, and before you close your eyes at night. Simple as that and remember all the 3s….3rd step, 3rd chakra, 3(0) seconds and 3 times a day. Design little tricks to remind and re-program your brain.


After this becomes automatic, then you are ready for steps 4 and 5. Prospecting for your unique magnificence and popping that out into the world can be tricky for you to do for yourself. Remember Marianne Williamson’s famous quote “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” I have personally experienced the fear of looking my power right in the eye and shrinking back from it. I repeatedly go back through steps 1-3, and more keeps popping out. It is very important to surround yourself with people who see you in all your beauty and sexuality, magnificence, wisdom, or whatever words for which you want to be known. 


Don’t let Penelope Piper have all the fun!  Pop it out there!




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FINDING THE FUNNY – Discussing Finances Mon, 19 Sep 2011 17:35:54 +0000 Admin

A couple was having a discussion about family finances.

Finally the husband exploded, "If it weren't for my money, the house wouldn't be here!"

The wife replied, "My dear, if it weren't for your money I wouldn't be here." 


How true is this for you?

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CBL#136 – The Wow of Inner BEauty and Sexuality Sat, 17 Sep 2011 17:08:36 +0000 Admin "Nobody teaches us how to be good at who we are," says my special guest, Lori Bryant-Woolridge.  She is the author of "The Power of Wow: A Guide to Unleashing The Confident, Sexy YOU." At her virtual Stilleto University, a 9 week online program, you can earn a Master's in Sensual Arts.  She has some interesting thoughts on how to redefine sex, and is breaking down the barriers to always being a "good girl." Don't wait for someone to turn your passion on…come to the party feeling desirable, urges Lori.  Click the button below to hear the entire interview.

Coach Betty shares a WHOA Baby about the controversy over Catherine Hakim's new book, "Erotic Capital." The book makes a case for women exploiting their beauty and sexuality, and enjoying the positive financial, cultural and social benefits. What cha think? 

Lori Bryant-Woolridge is the co-founder and past president of Mothers Off Duty, a non-profit organization that helps mothers stay balanced and committed to maintaining the woman within. This small group of working mothers also helps educate and mentor teen mothers through the Mothers Off Duty Scholarship Fund. She is also an Emmy award-winning tv writer and Essence bestselling novelist.

Get your "Individual Wow,""Social Wow," and "Sexual Wow" on and check out this dynamic and sexy lady.


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CBL SPECIAL: Organic Passion for the Native Seed with Dr. Vandana Shiva Fri, 16 Sep 2011 22:47:51 +0000 Admin Dr. Vandana Shiva is Coach Betty's honored guest on this CBL Special Podcast edition. It was a thrill and pleasure to interview the Queen of the "Native Seed" Movement. Dr. Shiva, visiting from India, spoke to an audience filled with fans and supporters at Dominican University in San Rafael, California on Wednesday evening.  Her opening remarks were, "There is so much to celebrate, but we are in a mess."

Her passionate message focuses on banning all chemical fertilizers and returning to organic gardening and the native seed. Her view is that the native seed is going through a holocaust as Corporations are controlling seed supply.  Over 250,000 Indian Farmers have committed suicide because of large indebtedness to these Corporations. Her call to action was directed at each individual as she said, "Things change because the fear disappears." Dr. Shiva urged women to take back the control of food for the future of our planet.

She has recently been named one of the 7 most influential women in the world by Forbes Magazine. Click on her name below for this 8 minute interview.

Vandana Shiva

One of the world's most renowned environmentalists, Dr. Vandana Shiva is the founder of Navdanya, an international movement to protect the diversity and integrity of living resources, especially native seeds, and the promotion of organic farming and fair trade. A global thinker, scientist and acclaimed author on the issues of food access, production and distribution, Dr. Shiva sits on the National Board of Organic Standards of India and Prince Charles panel of experts on Sustainable Agriculture, and also chairs the Commission on the Future of Food in Italy.

Trained as a Physicist with a Ph.D. on the subject of Hidden Variables and Non-locality in Quantum Theory from the University of Western Ontario in Canada, Dr. Shiva has received honorary Doctorates from University of Paris, University of Western Ontario, University of Oslo and Connecticut College. In 2003 she was named an environmental her by Time Magazine.

To learn more about Dr. Shiva and her fabulous work… and

"The future of our world depends on how we steward our land, soil, water, and seeds, and pass them on to future generations."

- Dr. Vandana Shiva

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FUN Organic and Orgasmic FACTS Wed, 14 Sep 2011 08:00:49 +0000 Admin One of my very favorite ways to explain what I mean by “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life” is this…to understand the wisdom of living in the flow of nature and embracing all of life’s experiences. Organic is nature’s  flow, and orgasmic is the juice that results when you embrace ALL of life’s experiences.


When we resist the flow of nature then we are in pain, either emotionally, physically or both. Nature flows according to a grand plan that involves constant change. Look outside at flowers, trees, or the sky, and everyday you will see a difference if you look closely. Our bodies change everyday too, getting older and wiser as the moments tick by.  Have you ever felt the pain of resisting the flow of aging? You know, looking in the mirror and saying, “Oh no, a new wrinkle,” or “When did I get so old?” It is rare to hear someone embrace the inevitable process of aging.  In this moment, doesn’t that strike you as really crazy? What about the perks and wonderment of getting older?  There is a recent study out of Stanford University that shows that peak emotional happiness comes at age 70. I love to report good news about aging as it gets such a bad rap in life. 


“It’s likely that only vibrations of love and gratitude appear in nature, and observations of nature shows this to be true.”  – Masuru Emoto


Yet another wonderful reason to move with the vibrations of nature, you create love and gratitude. When you move with the flow of nature it is also much easier to embrace your experiences along the way. A traditional Tao story illustrates that it is better to accept the wholeness of life instead of dividing experiences into good or bad. Ask yourself, “Who’s to say what is good and what is bad,” when you hit a bump in your life path. How many times can you look back at an experience you thought was tragic in the moment, and it turned into a blessing in disguise. Why even have this phrase in our world? Because it happens all the time, and we can actually LOOK for it and find the blessings pouring out. You only have to become aware and look.


My experience with chronic pain for 26 years is my teacher for living an organic and orgasmic life everyday.  When I do not listen to my body’s pain whispers (nature) and resist, well guess what happens. My bones and muscles that have been so compromised over time start yelling at me and I, at times, must come to a complete stop because I am in such pain. Now that is not a situation anyone would say “Hey I want to live like that,”  and it has been an amazing blessing to me. I found my life’s work of coaching, experienced numerous forms of powerful natural healing modalities which I get to share with the world through my radio work, and I have learned from my own experience through pain that inner beauty and sexuality are some kind of potent medicine for the soul.


FUN FACTS about Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life

  • You don’t have to leave home do it
  • You don’t have to buy anything, so you never have to upgrade.
  • You will begin to smile more and you just can’t help it…because
  • You find the funny perspective which makes you laugh…and then
  • You start to feel this tingling sensation in your lower belly…and
  • You shout “OMG, this lives inside of me!”

And I’m here to tell you, yes it does.  Enjoy organic and orgasmic living!

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Who’s to Say… Tue, 13 Sep 2011 17:15:36 +0000 Admin We can learn organic and orgasmic living from the traditional teachings of Tao. The story below illustrates why it is better to accept the wholeness of life instead to judging good and bad experiences.

When an old farmer's stallion wins a prize at a country show, his neighbor calls round to congratulate him, but the old farmer says, "Who knows what is good and what is bad?" The next day some thieves come and steal his valuable animal. His neighbor comes to commiserate with him, but the old man replies, "Who knows what is good and what is bad? A few days later the spirited stallion escapes from the thieves and joins a herd of wild mares leading them back to the farm. The neighbor calls to share the farmer's joy, but the farmer says, "Who knows what is good and what is bad?" The following day, while trying to break in one of the wild mares, the farmer's son is thrown and fractures his leg. The neighbor calls to share the farmer's sorrow, but the old man's attitude remains the same as before. The following week the army passes by, forcibly conscripting soldiers for a war, but they do not take the farmer's son because he cannot walk. The neighbor thinks to himself, "Who knows what is good and what is bad?" and realizes that the old farmer must be a Taoist sage."

- From The Tao Book and Card Pack by Timothy Freke

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Mother/Daughter Sex Talk Mon, 12 Sep 2011 15:37:14 +0000 Admin  

A mother was driving her daughter to her friend's house for a play date.
"Mommy," the little girl asked, "how old are you?"
"Honey, you're not supposed to ask a lady her age," the mother replied. "It's not polite."
"OK," the little girl said. Then a few moments later, she asked, "How much do you weigh?"
"Now really," the mother said, "that's a personal question and really none of your business."
"OK," the little girl said. Then a few moments later, she asked, "Why did you and Daddy get a divorce?"
"That's enough questions, young lady!" the mother said. "Honestly!"
The mother and daughter arrived at the play date, and the mother left the two children alone.
"My Mom won't tell me anything about her," the little girl said to her friend.
"Well," said the friend, "all you need to do is look at her driver's license. It's like a report card — it has everything on it."
Later that night the little girl said to her mother, "I know how old you are. You are 32."
Surprised, the mother asked, "How did you find that out?"
"I also know that you weigh 130 pounds," said the little girl.
The mother is now shocked. "How in heaven's name did you find that out?" she said.
Then the little girl said triumphantly, "And I know why you and daddy got a divorce!"
"Oh, really?" the mother said. "Why?"
"Because you got an F in sex."
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CBL#135 – Organic and Orgasmic Relationships through Collaboration Sat, 10 Sep 2011 17:15:05 +0000 Admin Erin Delaney and Dionisio Ceballos, married couple and creators of "The Committed Couple" programs, will teach you how to set safe and sacred space for relationships that are stuck and struggling.  On this interview, Erin shares vulnerably how she stepped back into her sensuality, and Dionisio talks of the profound and beautiful change in their sex life built from deep communication.  Weekly sacred meetings is at the core of their work. Click the Listen Button below to hear this passionate couple.

The WHOA Baby segment shares a perspective that makeup is a reflection of inner beauty instead of makeup being used to BE beautiful. Do you feel the subtle change in view?










Erin Delaney and Dionisio Ceballos, married for 12 years, are the creators of The Committed Couple: A Collaborative Journey to the Heart. Their programs are for committed couples who are struggling or feeling stuck in their relationship and want to rejuvenate and strengthen their commitment so they can have a more fulfilling and masterful relationship.  

Erin is a certified dream and true purpose coach, a trained dancer and certified yoga teacher. Dionisio is an Emmy Award Winning filmmaker & animator as well as an accomplished artist.


Both Erin and Dionisio are deeply devoted to their inner spiritual journey and self-development – individually and as a couple. They have studied with transformational leaders such as Marcia Wieder, Tim Kelley, T. Harv Eker, Lisa Sasevich and Brendon Burchard.


Their mission is to raise the awareness of the true and healing power of men and women working and living together in a honoring and collaborative way in order to create a paradigm shift for future generations and help transform the world. Go to to get 5 FREE tips from Erin and Dionisio.  Once you listen to them, you know they are on to something…check it out!!

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GUEST ARTICLE – Staring in the Mirror, Yet I Couldn’t See Wed, 07 Sep 2011 14:58:57 +0000 Admin  

Enjoy this article by Tia who came "on air" to be coached about her inner beauty.

Staring in the Mirror, Yet I Couldn’t See
by Tia Silverthorn Bach

It seemed a simple instruction—look in the mirror and say, “You are a self-confident, graceful, creative and inspiring person.” Coach Betty laid out the guidelines for finding inner beauty. I was pumped. How hard could it be?

I steadied myself in front of the mirror, armed with the words and the will. “You are…” What is that, I thought, a new wrinkle? Crap, there’s another gray hair. I pulled at my skin for a few minutes. I looked tired, sad even. My eyes scanned down. More pounds, I wondered and swore my t-shirt fit better a month ago. 

“Mom, whatcha doing,” my sweet six-year-old asked, confused as to why I was pulling, squirming and grimacing.

What was I doing? I was supposed to be lifting myself up, and all I could focus on were my flaws. If one of my three beautiful daughters did that, I would point out every wonderful attribute, every blessing. Yet, I focused on all the things I tell my children not to . . . physical attributes, not inner beauty. 

My mother and I co-wrote a coming of age novel, Depression Cookies, showcasing two distinct points of view: teenage daughter and her mother. I wrote the teenage daughter’s point of view while my mom wrote the mother’s. Our hope… to open up the dialogue not only between mothers and daughters but all women to discuss what makes us special and unique, what binds us. 

Plus, I’m raising three daughters. It’s easy to tell them to love themselves, but we parents know kids do what they see, not what they are told. Same is true for writers, we are constantly told to show and not tell. It means nothing to tell my children, and other women, to love themselves if I can’t show them how I love myself. 

"[Kids] don't remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are." Jim Henson

I believe whole-heartedly in inner beauty, but I need to practice what I preach . . . for myself, for my three children, for my friends and family. 

I started to soften in the mirror, gave my daughter a hug, and repeated, “You ARE a self-confident, graceful, creative and inspiring person.”

“Me, too, Mama,” my sweet daughter repeated. We were both standing in front of the mirror, and I finally started to see. I decided to give my children their own sayings so we could practice together. We’re committed to this exercise every day, until our images become clearer and the words easier to say. It’s a beginning, but a good one.

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FINDING THE FUNNY – Not for Men ONLY Tue, 06 Sep 2011 16:23:35 +0000 Admin One day the powers that BE came down and said to three guys that the less you cheat on your wives the better the cars you'll get in heaven.

So the first guy went to heaven after cheating on his wife 67 times and he got a Mercedes.

The second guy went to heaven and had cheated on his wife 2 times and he got a Ferrari, then the third guy went to heaven and said that he had never cheated on his wife and he got a Bentley.

Then one day the third guy was all sad and depressed and the first and second guys asked him what was wrong and the third guy said, "I saw my wife the other day" and the first guy said "yeah, so" and the third guy said " she was riding a skateboard"

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CBL#134-Sustainable Love with Wendy Strgar Sat, 03 Sep 2011 17:11:43 +0000 Admin Wendy Strgar is a common sense lady who has important wisdom about intimacy and relationships.  Her book "Love That Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy," is like a manual for relational and sustainable love. She talks about orgasm and sex as being a "system reset" for her life. Listen to my interview with Wendy by clicking the listen button below.

Emily from Asheville, North Carolina, was courageous and vulnerable enough to talk about how her body weight is an obstacle to seeing her inner beauty.  This is such a common experience for women. Listen in to their "on air" coaching session below.

Wendy Strgar has an important mission: to encourage sustainable, lovin relationships. Proclaimed a "Loveologist," Wendy writes and lecture on the topic of making love sustainable, a green philosophy she developed herself that emphasizes the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love and family. She created a business and line of organic intimacy products available to the public. She is a Mom of 4 teenage children, and has been married for 25 years to the same man. :)  Learn more about Wendy, her intimacy products and book at

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ARTICLE: Tapping into Your Inner Juice Wed, 31 Aug 2011 19:00:22 +0000 Admin  

The vision of "Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life" is about the transformative natural healing that happens when you live your life going with the flow (organically) and squeezing the juice (orgasmically) from  every moment. 

When we tap into our pleasure centers and experience the contentment and peace that lives there, we have the potential to create such lofty visions as world peace. John Lennon imagined organic and orgasmic living.  I believe that deep down in our inner sanctums of truth, we want to "Make Love Not War." Call me an optimist…I surrender as charged. The fear that shields our minds and bodies from the essence of orgasmic living is only a mask.

My journey of discovery and finding organic and orgasmic living came from the mask of a chronic pain condition. My health, for the last 26 years, has been on a roller coaster of mild to severe pain with very few pain-free days overall. You would not have a clue from looking at me unless you notice the swelling on my hands, or witness me getting up and down off the floor. I have worn my mask well.

Do we always have to go through pain to get to the pleasure? Many experts believe that it is when we are uncomfortable, that we have the compelling reason to consider another way. Until we are willing to look at the truth of our pain, the pleasure will go unnoticed.

When I finally learned to surrender to pain, I was shocked to find the pleasure lives right there along side of it.  My initial experience finding the pleasure came through surrendering to the pain and seeking another way, besides pharmaceutical medication, to find relief.  It came during a sexual healing experience when I went from a 10 on the pain scale to a 2 after having numerous orgasms during sex.  My body moved easily and gracefully for about 4 hours after. It didn't last though. So I began to experiment with the fact that the orgasmic-ness lived inside of me. Could I recreate that sensation in my body outside of the bedroom?  And the answer is yes, and that is what has birthed this movement towards natural healing through inner beauty and sexuality.  

What does it take to explore this for yourself? 

  • You must get out of your head and into your body.  It is impossible to tap into your inner juice by thinking about it. It just doesn't work. For women, this is not always the easiest thing to do either. During sex, if you have that overactive mind (and you are not alone) let your mind drift to the sensation place. What do you feel on your skin? Walk outside and feel the air on your face, and just notice.
  • Your experience of inner sexuality is greatly enhanced when you feel your inner beauty. When a woman feels her inner beauty, an inner sexuality naturally flows out. This is not beauty from the outside only…this is an inner place of loving yourself that assures you that you are a beautiful being. Think of the last time you noticed something that was so beautiful it made you react with a deeply felt "Ah."  In that moment, you have tapped into inner juice. So find something that really touches you…a beautiful photo, painting, friends, family, flowers, trees, a sunset…it is everywhere.  And then look in your eyes, and find it there too.
  • Once you have experienced a moment of tapping into your inner juice,  feel it. Where is it located inside your body? I can guarantee that it is not in your head.  Some of my clients have found it in their hearts, others in their lower abdomen, and still others in their solar plexus. 

Enjoy the experience of exploring and learning about your inner magnificence that is the natural truth of who you are…


What other ways can you share for tapping into inner juice?

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ANNOUNCING New Collaboration with WeEarth Global Radio Network Tue, 30 Aug 2011 23:46:06 +0000 Admin I am so excited to be a part of this new network, WeEarth Global Radio Network,

So many fascinating hosts to connect the world in all its humanity. Take 2 minutes to watch, and find out more at


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FINDING THE FUNNY – Women’s Sexual Satisfaction – NOT Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:25:59 +0000 Admin

A man wakes up in the hospital bandaged from head to foot.  

The doctor comes in and says, "Ah, I'm glad to see you've regained consciousness.  You probably won't remember, but you were in  a huge pile-up on the freeway.

"You're going to be okay — you'll walk again and everything, but your penis was severed in the accident and we couldn't find it."

The man groans, but the doctor goes on. "You've got $9,000 in insurance compensation coming, and we now have the technology to build a new penis. They work great, but they don't come cheap. It's roughly $1,000 an inch." The man perks up.

"So," the doctor says, "you must decide how many inches you want. I understand that you've been married for over forty years and this is something you should discuss with your wife. If you had a nine-incher before and you decide to invest only in a five-incher now, she might be disappointed. It's important that she plays a role in helping you make a decision."

The man agrees to talk it over with his wife.

The doctor comes back the next day and asks, "So have you spoken with your wife?"

"Yes I have," says the man.

"And has she helped you make a decision?"

"Yes," says the man.

"What is your decision?" asks the doctor.

"We're getting granite countertops."


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CBL#133 – Hot and Juicy Relationships with Toni De Marco Sat, 27 Aug 2011 17:00:32 +0000 Admin "Relate>Love>Sex: How to have a Hot and Juicy Relationship Opening to the Love Within," is the book Toni De Marco wrote and she is Coach Betty's special guest on this episode. Communication, or lack of communication, is the biggest obstacle in relationships based on Toni's extensive research and international travels leading workshops on the topic.  As her book title states, healthy relationships always begin with turning to self-love. Her experience, research and teachings stress each individual taking 100% responsibility for their own happiness, fulfillment and even orgasms! Listen in to hear some of her secrets to finding the juice and rekindling the communication so that everybody gets what they want and need.  Click the "listen button" below to hear the whole interview, AND some surprising "WHOA BABY" results out of Stanford University on Who are the Happiest People.

Author, Dr. of Metaphysics, trainer and founder of the Wellness & Sexual Healing Centers, Toni De Marco has an extensive background in psychology, metaphysics, and health.  Her training includes having studied with many of the world's leading wellness and Tantra teachers and she, herself, has worked as a teacher, healer and counselor to both individuals and couples for over 30 years. Ms. De Marco was a top cover-girl in her 20's and acted in scores of television commercials and several films at the same time that she was studying many different holistic and healing technologies.  In her 30's Ms. De Marco wrote an acclaimed health and beauty book, The California Way to Natural Beauty, and also started relationship counseling.  In her 40's, Ms. De Marco segued to writing and producing video and television. In her most recent venture into the Video/DVD arena she created Tantric Partner Yoga, along with Tantra trainers, Robert Frey and Lori Grace Star, as a tool to help couples to develop more intimacy in their relationships through sensual partner-yoga. 

Don't miss her September 8th FREE 75 minute telecall on "5 Simple Secrets to a Hot and Juicy Relationship."  Email to get all the details and a FREE ebook from Toni.  

Learn more about Toni's work at

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ARTICLE: The Good Gossip of Inner Beauty Wed, 24 Aug 2011 16:37:38 +0000 Admin  


“Gossip,” as defined by Wikipedia, is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It derives from the bedroom at the time of childbirth when the pregnant female’s relatives and neighbors (an all female event) would gather and chatter about others outside the birthing room.  The term is often used to refer to the spreading of dirt and excited details of scandals.  On the flip side, gossip can also be used to contribute to social bonding.  With the technology of the computer and internet, gossip can spread in an instant.


So what kind of messages about others do we want to spread like wildfire in our world today?  Aw come on, Coach Betty, it is so much fun to talk about other people and get all the juicy details of their struggles! Right?  I say wrong, because I am a part of creating a new positive consciousness, and the drama of negative gossip becomes an obstacle to the needed collaboration in solving the crisis level of problems today. If we are going to live, not just talk about, a new vision of a healthy and balanced planet for people on the planet, then we must STOP the addiction to “needing to know” the inner scum of other people’s life.  We are human, after all, and not a single one of us can claim perfection to my knowledge. So would you like your dirty laundry hanging in the air?


Women created the word for gossip, and now I want to invite and encourage women to foster the good gossip that is an actual path to inner beauty. I love playing with the positive sides of what words mean.  How can we turn “gossip” into that social bonding experience that creates good juice on the planet and spreads near and far with a click?


For starters:


  • Taken from an old saying my mother drummed into my head “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
  • When you share anything at all about another, evaluate where the information comes from.  Does it come from your own personal experience, another person who may or may not have gotten the facts straight, or from a media source.  Remember, it is not illegal to present false news. 
  • When you have spoken about someone who is not present and accounted for, how does it make you feel inside? Do you feel relaxed, calm and at peace or do you feel tense, tight and uneasy?


Inner beauty is felt as a peaceful relaxation, and your body knows it if you tune in.  Are you are spreading the good word, or contributing to more chaos and havoc among us? Spread the good word, and let’s take this opportunity to transform the world into what is possible!


If you resonating with this article, then YOU are a beautiful soul I want to know about so I can spread the good word about you.  Join my newsletter at by entering your name and email in the upper right hand corner of this page, and/or “Like” my fan page at, and let me know more about you. Who knows, you may just end up on the radio with CoachBettyLIVE.






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FINDING THE FUNNY – Male/Female Differences! Mon, 22 Aug 2011 17:40:15 +0000 Admin

I must give a shout out to Marlo Thomas and her newsletter which starts me out with a Monday Morning laugh that I would like to pay forward.  If you loved "That Girl," you will love her wonderful newsletter

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CBL#132-Gratitude and Inner Beauty with editor, Brenda Knight Sat, 20 Aug 2011 20:47:30 +0000 Admin What happens when a woman practices gratitude until it becomes a way of life?

She becomes emboldened (I love that word) to say what's on her mind. Gratitude is a virtue, according to my special guest Brenda Knight, which allows you to see the good in life. Brenda shares her "gratitude adjustments" and her personal story of tragedy that opened the door to a daily gratitude practice. Would you like to transform Fear into Courage, Anger into Forgiveness and Isolation into Belonging?  That is what is possible through the authentic feeling of gratitude. Click on the "Listen" button below to hear Brenda's amazing story and wisdom, AND hear Laura from the SF Bay Area go deeper with her own inner beauty after working with Coach Betty live "on air."

Brenda Knight is a twenty-year publishing veteran, starting at HarperCollins and authored American Book Award-winning Women of the Beat Generation, Wild Women and Books, Rituals for Life, The Poetry Oracle, and the forthcoming Happiness Habits.


She has worked with many bestselling authors including Diane di Prima, Phil Cousineau, Daphne Rose Kingma, BJ Gallagher, Congresswomen Jackie Speier, Mary Jane Ryan, and Paolo Coehlo.  Founding editor of Viva Editions, Knight lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she practices gratitude daily. She is founding editor of

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ARTICLE: Honoring Male/Female Differences Wed, 17 Aug 2011 19:09:51 +0000 Admin Have you ever experienced an encounter with the opposite sex where you felt like you were communicating so precisely, in direct language, and your intentions were completely misconstrued? Okay…it is a rhetorical question.  How can we learn to understand and honor our differences with love, compassion and an open heart?  My intention with the following essay on men and women is to open the conversation in a healthy way.

Masculine and Feminine characteristics are clearly very different energies.  A man who exudes strong masculinity is often a lone wolf, independent, competitive, physically strong, forgetful, logical, tough, and acutely self aware.  And what I mean by acutely self aware is a focus on taking care of his needs without consideration of what his female companion might need.  Some call this self-centered, and I don’t as it is too negative for the many good things about taking care of your own needs.

What you will notice with a women who lives from an extreme feminine place is a gentle collaborator, nurturing, loving, adapting, empathizing with a relaxed receptivity to change.  Often women are co-dependent because they receive what comes to them with the intention of nurturing and loving it back into balance.  It’s a woman’s intuition that allows her to feel what is out of balance.  The generous way a woman serves in this capacity is a beautiful thing. However, if a woman is not tuned into her own needs and inner nature or intuition, life can easily become unhealthy in relationship with a man. 


This is far from an exhaustive list of characteristics, and yet the stark contrast of  energies is apparent. We all carry both energies within, and each person has a unique spot on the spectrum from extreme masculine to extreme feminine. From the extremes noted here, it is a no wonder women lose their identity in relationships, and men are so confused by women and their flip flop behavior.


From this woman’s perspective, I have displayed the feminine characteristics noted above for most of my life.  I want a man to honor all the aspects of my softer and nurturing approach to life and relationships. My experience is that men love my femininity during sensual and sexual times, and then “don’t get too emotional on me now” can be the refrain when I have overextended my empathizer and need some time to recenter myself. 


As I understand men and their energies, I see a strength in mind and body men possess that is calming and peaceful to my inner soul. There is a determination that I admire from the toughness and competitive male stance.  Forgetfulness is a vulnerable and innocent place that has a sweet honesty.  These are the perceptions and attitudes I am embracing to fully appreciate and love our amazing men.


We need to take responsibility individually for the impact of our own true nature and rebalance ourselves. The world needs our best efforts. I am curious how our communication would change with the ability to stand in each other’s shoes, and see the positive side of our opposing characteristics?


What do you do to honor others?




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FINDING THE FUNNY-Why Women Rule the World Mon, 15 Aug 2011 18:16:56 +0000 Admin This joke made me laugh out loud given the article I recently wrote on Caregiving.  

Eleven people – ten men and one woman – were hanging onto a rope from a helicopter after a mountain climbing rescue. Before long, the rope began to fray because of their combined weight, so they all agreed that one person should get off – but they couldn't decide which one. Finally, the woman gave a really touching speech, saying how she would give up her life to save the others, because women were used to giving up things for their husbands and children, and giving in to men, and never receiving anything in return. When she finished speaking, all the men started clapping.

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CBL#131 – The Sensual Life with Monica Day Sat, 13 Aug 2011 18:39:27 +0000 Admin Did you know that the roots of why women use makeup is to try and duplicate the look of the orgasmic glow? 

This interesting bit of trivia and much more is what we discussed on this episode of "Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life." Special guest, Monica Day, Founder of The Sensual Life and creator of the one woman show "Song of the Sacred Whore."  Also, we have a brand new segment of live "on air" coaching with Tia from Demascus, Maryland where Coach Betty will help Tia rediscover her inner beauty and sexuality. Click the "Listen" button to hear the whole show.

Monica Day is the founder of The Sensual Life. She specializes in creating  safe spaces for people to explore, experience and express their sensuality.

Monica is best-known for finding playful ways to engage people into exploring what it means to live a more feeling, more passionate, more fully-expressed sensual life. She has spent the last 18 years as a writer, trainer and facilitator in areas ranging from personal growth and awareness, race and gender, class and power, sensuality and sexuality, communication skills, and relationship dynamics. She finds herself attracted to the edges of all experience — to the places where people are most likely to say “no” to going deeper with another…and working together to find “yes.”

The Sensual Life is Monica’s vehicle for sharing with others the tools of deeper communication, the turn-on of sensual awareness, and the practices that arouse greater freedom, awakening, love and spiritual connection.

Monica splits her time between Philadelphia, where she is raising two beautiful daughters with her former spouse and co-parent, and New York City, where she is active in various communities that explore sensuality, intimacy, communication and other opportunities for relating to the self and others through this core part of our being.

Her show, "Song of the Sacred Whore," will be a part of the Philly Fringe Festival from September 8-11.  Buy tickets at


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Caregiving from Inner Beauty and Sexuality Wed, 10 Aug 2011 18:29:23 +0000 Admin  

Have you always been a caregiver in your family?  Many women live this role of caregiver from a very young age.  That was certainly my story, and I have no blame or upset with my parents for how this played out in my life, however I am aware of the impact of my falling into this role since I was 3 years old.  Now, as I make my choices of how to BE the empowered woman I am, an acute awareness of these old roles is critical to my success.  If this resonates with you, then you will want to read on.  


Recent brain research from Dr. Louann Brizendine, author of “The Female Brain,” shows that the female brain’s hormones ready a woman to focus on herself when she enters into menopause.  This is a time when she has less interest in caregiving and more interest in new challenges and her own health and well-being.  However, so many women fall into caregiving automatically since it is what they have always known to do…that familiar groove. I, for one,  easily slip out of my life focus when a family member or close friend has a health issue or another type of emotional need. And now, at 56, I am feeling like I am done setting my life aside for others.  Wow…it does feels strange to write it.  Uncomfortable as it may feel, I am ready to align with the nature of my brain. If not now, when?


Women are capable of becoming more beautiful, sensual, and lusciously juicy beings as they get older.  When an older woman exudes self-love, you can see her inside out beauty throughout her face and entire body.  More than 2,000 fitness experts named 66-year old actress Helen Mirren “Body of the Year.”  Helen has tapped into a sustainable inner beauty and sexuality that comes from the wisdom of age, and alignment with the true nature of a woman…beautiful, sensual and orgasmic. It is this powerful feminine energy that gets lost when women continuously fall into caregiving.


The loss of soul connection, loss of connection to our femininity, may be the real cause of our anguished condition” – Marion Woodman


The difference in the way men and women provide caregiving help, as reported by the National Center for Caregiving, is quite fascinating.  Women take time off work and stay home to provide time-consuming care to disabled friends and family while men respond to loved one’s needs for support by delaying retirement, in part to shoulder the financial burden associated with long-term care.  Higher levels of depression, anxiety, and other mental health challenges are common in women who fall into these caregiving roles.  The Center’s studies show that women who provide more than 36 hours of care per week dramatically increase the likelihood of these health challenges.


The cost of this phenomenon to our world is a big one as women deplete themselves, and lose connection with their inner beauty and sexuality. We have stretched, depressed, and impatient women instead of upbeat, lively and beaming beauties. Mother Earth has been stretched, depressed and impatient waiting for women, like me, to turn this trend around.


What do women need to do to stay tuned into their inner beauty and sexuality, keep their hearts open to care and love, and not fall into the caregiver trap time and time again? Here are a few ideas:


*Before you jump to the needs of another – PAUSE and ask “what is a way to handle this without turning my life upside down?” Be responsible for yourself, and take the lead on this discussion with your loved ones…don’t leave it for others to advise you on what will work.  You are the only one who knows. How can you make this a healthy experience? 


*Rest.  It may not come easy when there are so many things to get done like dishes and laundry and kids and, and, and.  Letting go and working with “good enough” will allow you to stop and lay your body down (AND THAT IS WHAT I MEAN BY RESTING).  There is no substitute for a relaxed and prone body. At least for 60 minutes on the days you are extending yourself to others, and 30 minutes no matter what your day looks like.  Put it on the “to do” list.


*Practice the art of self-love by looking in your eyes every morning in the mirror and saying “I love you, I really really do.”  If it feels silly…fake it until you actually begin to feel it.  


*Spend 10 minutes a day in meditation – outside in the fresh air, if at all possible.


These are things you can do right now.  Don’t wait until tomorrow, or next week or next month when your family or friend is feeling better.  If you deplete yourself, then you can’t BE there for you or anybody else.


Need support?  Email me for a complimentary strategy session! You deserve it!


"It is hard to let your personality flourish when you are pointlessly paralyzed by insecurities about your physique. Character and personality are much more important and ultimately win out. For time passes and youthful beauty with it." -Hellen Mirren

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CBL#130-The Way of the Happy Woman Sat, 06 Aug 2011 17:08:20 +0000 Admin How committed are you to your happiness? Sara Avant Stover, my guest for this episode of CoachBettyLIVE writes, "Treat each moment as an opportunity to reclaim your health, and in turn, your wholeness and happiness."  As society has gotten out of whack with the cycles of nature, women are particularly affected.  Her book "The Way of the Happy Woman,"  and strategies she shared on the show provide a more feminine approach to living that restores queenly dignity and indigenous earthly power.  Do you want to know how to do less and get more?  Listen below for some great ideas.

CoachBettyLIVE with Sara Avant Stover – click here.

Sara Avant Stover is a mentor, teacher, and speaker to women around the world. A Phi Beta Kapha and Summa Cum Laude graduate of Columbia University’s all women’s Barnard College, I took my first yoga class at age 18, sat my first meditation retreat a few years later, and knew immediately that I would devote my life to teaching. After being diagnosed with the early stages of cervical cancer in my early 20′s, I moved to Chiang Mai, Thailand where I lived for 9 years, embarked on a healing odyssey throughout Asia, and, as a multi-certified yoga teacher, served as one of the pioneer yoga teachers in that part of the world. Since that time I have studied with the leading spiritual masters of our time and have taught thousands of women in over a dozen different countries. My work has been featured in The Huffington Post, Yoga Journal, Fit Yoga, Pilates Style, and Yogi Times. I love good sleep, autumn, dark chocolate, sexy lingerie, and beautiful shoes! I continue to travel the world leading women’s workshops, retreats, and teacher trainings and now call Boulder, CO home.

For more information on her online Red Tent community, and to order the book, go to


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CBL#129 – Changing the Way the World Thinks about Beauty Tue, 02 Aug 2011 15:19:42 +0000 Admin If Beauty is not just what we look like, then what exactly is it?

What is your best expression of beauty?  In an ongoing commitment to help women rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror, Coach Betty interviews Cynthia DeSoto who is a pioneer in her unique exploration of defining beauty.  On this episode, she shares her ground breaking research for the last 7 years surveying expressions of beauty from over 7500 beauty industry leaders.  Cynthia's 3 dimensional path to true beauty has three aspects:  BE true to your best self, CREATE the experience of beauty, and GIVE to the greater good.  Do you feel the radical nature of this path?  Listen to the entire show below.

CoachBettyLIVE and Cynthia DeSoto – click here

Cynthia DeSoto has spent the past 20 years working in the professional beauty industry both with Aveda Corporation and as owner of Caruh Salon Spa in Seattle, WA.  It is her soulful search for true meaning of beauty that brings her to this pinnacle in her career and the launch of her book "Changing the way the world thinks about Beauty."

After years of research and reflective study, Cynthia introduces The 7 Expressions of Beauty in her book as a framework to understand the universal truths about beauty and how to create beauty for yourselves and others. 

Passionate about people discovering their potential, Cynthia speaks to global audiences expanding the narrow definitions of beauty and elevating the role of the beauty professional to become leaders of personal transformation.

For more information about Cynthia and her book, go to  

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CBL#128 – Herpes as an Opportunity for Life Fulfillment Sat, 23 Jul 2011 18:18:20 +0000 Admin How about this for a reframe?  I learned from my preparation for this show that 20% of the population suffers from herpes, and there is tremendous shame for many.  Dale, is my very special guest, who will not only take the shame away, but open up paths to deeper fulfillment and joy in your life, including your core beauty.  IF YOU HAVE OR KNOW SOMEONE WHO HAS HERPES…it could change your world to listen to this show.  Take a look at the generous offer below from Dale!

CoachBettyLIVE with Dale…click here.

Dale is a CTI (Coaches Training Institute) co-active life coach, and will complete his certification testing September, 2011.  He is not waiting until then to fill a need in our society around the shame of herpes.  Dale focuses on people who are suffering with herpes, and people who are called to use their own (often painful) life experiences to help others not only survive, but thrive (a.k.a. "wounded healers").  He runs a recurring tele-seminar series called The Herpes Opportunity, and a blog on the positive side of herpes.  You can learn more about Dale and his work at:

Here is a video discussing the Opportunity.
Herpes Opportunity Video 

Next tele-seminar information is available here – starting August 16th

SPECIAL OFFER:  Dale has offered 5 free tickets for the next 6-week tele-seminar to people who write to Dale  their story and what they look to get out of the seminar.  AND he added in a 45 minute coaching session to all 5.  Email him right now



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CBL#127 – Selecting and Sustaining Joyful Partnerships Sat, 16 Jul 2011 19:33:40 +0000 Admin Following the article posted on Thursday about "Selecting and Sustaining Partnerhips," here is an episode of CoachBettyLIVE and "Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life" that includes 2 excerpts from a lively panel discussion on partnerships.  The discussion was held on Friday, July 8th in Marin County, just north of San Francisco.  It was a diverse group of 6 panelists who offered new views on how we can look at marriage and committed relationships in new ways.  

Listen to CoachBettyLIVE and the Panel Discussion – click here

Some of the perspectives shared were:

*shift the paradigm of dating to women selecting men

*stay in your own personal joy and do not expect anyone else to make you happy

*use thoughtful aggression when selecting men

*creative collaboration is a sustaining factor in relationships

*have dates with your partner outside of the daily grind

*tap into your spiritually juicy nature

What is your perspectives on "Selecting and Sustaining Joyful Partnerships."

Coach Betty also shares her views on this episode for women on "How to" approach a partner without feeling desperate?

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New Views on Selecting and Sustaining Joyful Partnership Thu, 14 Jul 2011 16:48:24 +0000 Admin  

Selecting and Sustaining Joyful Partnerships

Women and Men, A New View

by Betty Louise




How much more evidence do we need?  It is clearly time to pursue new views on what we define as marriage and on how we relate to one another. Our 67% divorce rate, according to 30-year marriage researcher John Gottman, cries out for a new approach. That is the bad news. The flip side is that science has shown amazing health benefits of both a healthy monogamous sex life and a lasting marriage/partnership. More good news is that there is new brain research that helps us understand male/female differences on a physiological level. This is ground-breaking research because previous science assumed there was no difference, and based their studies solely on the male brain – including the birth control pill! Think about the impact of understanding these differences can have for interpersonal and even international relationships.


This brings us to selecting and sustaining joyful partnerships. What has research taught us that debunks previous cultural norms and creates A New View? Let’s take a closer look at selecting and sustaining to see what’s new and how new views can contribute to more joyful partnerships.



Take a moment to think about your relationships. How did you come together…who chose who? As a woman, did you select the man? Or did you wait by the phone for a guy to call because he said he would? Women selecting men may be a new idea today, but the science that supports it has been around since we discovered the egg chooses the sperm. Take a look at animals in nature and you will observe it is the male who displays and the female who selects her mate to reproduce.  


Many leading experts, John Gray and Jean Shinoda Bolen among them, say that it is the way of the woman that is needed to nurture – indeed save – the earth. The many changing hormones of the female brain are what allow women to be in tune with the movement of nature itself. This is a call-to-action for women to know and embrace this truth so they can recapture their innate power and literally create peace on earth. Women are the only ones who know what makes them happy and the partner with whom they can create a force for good. Remember, if mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.


The New View on Selecting…Women choosing men in partnership creates sustainable love and a healthier planet. Do you agree?




Whether you agree or not that women choosing men is healthier for our partnerships and our planet, sustaining our initial attractions in relationship remains elusive for many well-meaning couples. What does it really take to maintain the spark, joy and fun?


After observing thousands of couples in a marriage lab, researcher John Gottman concluded that partners in successful marriages have five positive encounters to every one negative encounter. Lasting marriages also show that, when in conflict, both partners make an attempt at repair. Repair attempts come in many forms from saying “I’m sorry” or “I want us to find a better way” to finding the funny in it all and cracking a joke.


Sustainable joyful relationships are worth exploring. Lasting marriages that include regular sex (three times a week) have been shown to reduce diabetes, heart disease, depression, and nourish the immune system. Healthy, loving and regular sex, combined with a strong friendship, is a big part of the recipe for sustaining love. Enjoying the healing qualities of orgasm during healthy and loving sex also deserves attention. Consider these staggering statistics. Sixty to 80% of women are dissatisfied with their sexual orgasms. And a recent study from Indiana University revealed this surprising gap: 85% of men reported that their partner had an orgasm the last time they had sex; but only 64% of women said they had reached orgasm. Women’s sexual dissatisfaction has gotten so out of hand that a new diagnosis has been developed for it – Female Sexual Dysfunction! This is crazy because women are orgasmic beings from birth. They lose their desire and enjoyment of sex in the masculine world of aggression and competition where there is no time to really connect with desire and pleasure. In addition, women generally do not have a safe place to talk about it. Only 3-5% of health care providers even talk to their patients about their sex lives.


A New View on Sustaining…Women taking responsibility for their own happiness, and couples designing partnerships with positivity as an overriding principle. 



Selecting and sustaining build the partnership foundation. Filling the structure with joy is how we create a juicy new energy in our lives. Finding joy does not come from the outside…it comes from within for both women and men. No person outside of you is responsible for your happiness and joy or can even make you happy if they wanted to.  


How women and men feel about the way they look in our culture in a key to joy. What do you see when you look in the mirror? Studies show that 80% of women do not have a good body image and men may not fair much better.  Thousands of dollars are spent on beauty products every year that have no lasting results. If a person does not feel beautiful, it is difficult to feel sexual and awfully hard to be happy. True sustained joy is an inside job.


Creating Joy in your life doesn’t have to be hard. Make it a habit to smile and laugh more often. It is reported that children laugh from 75 to 250 times a day while adults only 15. How sad! Get out the joke books, find the funny perspective, and simply smile. See how the turned up corners of your mouth can actually transform your energy.


A New View…Think Fun!!


What is possible when we follow our true inner nature and understand our differences?


* attract high quality people into your life

  • self-confidence, beauty, sexuality and happiness from the inside
  • sacred healing orgasmic sex boosting health
  • less reliance on pharmaceutical medication
  • less infidelity and all the pain and suffering that goes with it
  • more smiles and laughter
  • uplifted energy for creative and constructive ideas

This is a warm up article for CoachBettyLIVE's show posting on Saturday which has a panel of 6 diverse views on this topic.  




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CBL#126 – New Views on Culture and Sex Sat, 09 Jul 2011 18:13:42 +0000 Admin Coach Betty and her special guest, Carol Queen, discuss the evolving culture of sex on this episode. Carol's matter of fact articulation around sex, pleasure and fantasy is so refreshing.  Why is it a powerful experience to pay attention to your sexual satisfaction?  Carol shared what she has seen for the last 20 years is a good healthy sex life allows a more loving connection, increased self-esteem, a more trusting relationship, more commitment, better health, and this is just for starters.  Listen in to the whole show below.  Carol gives us a ton of information, and also provides free sources of where you can continue the conversation and get questions answered.   

CoachBettyLIVE with Carol Queenclick here


Carol Queen has a doctorate in sexology. She's worked at Good Vibrations, the legendary women-friendly, sex-positive adult retailer in San Francisco, where she serves as Staff Sexologist and Chief Cultural Officer, since 1990. She's also the co-founder of the nonprofit Center for Sex & Culture, and she's authored or edited many books about sex and scripted and/or appeared in a number of explicit sex education films. You can visit,, and — on the latter, she answers customer questions about sex, which people can find by clicking on the Good Vibes Magazine on the far-right top navigation drop-down (called How-To).

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CBL#125 – Clinical Look at Sexual Satisfaction and Fulfillment Sat, 02 Jul 2011 17:07:29 +0000 Admin How important do you think sex is to your overall health?  

In this episode of CoachBettyLIVE, we open the conversation about the connection between sexual health and overall health.  Women's Health Expert, Karen Carlson, and Coach Betty talk about what a wise nurse practitioner advises her patients on their sexual fulfillment.  Karen suggests that sex is as important as eating and exercise to our health and well being!  Listen to the entire interview below and enjoy a slice of her wisdom of over 18 years of working with women.  Her thoughts directly address this ever-rising issue of womens' sexual dysfunction issues.

CoachBettyLIVE with Karen Carlson – click here

Karen discusses the three most common complaints regarding sexual satisfaction and fulfillment:  pain, dryness, and lack of desire.  Karen empowers them to talk to their partner, as it has been documented that women don't talk to friends or family about their sexual experiences which leaves many women left uncertain about what to expect during sex.  

Karen Carlson is a highly skilled, well respected primary care nurse practitioner treating adults at the University of Washington's Women's Health Care Center on the Roosevelt campus. One of Karen's gift is to provide a safe, compassionate and holistic approach to discussing all health issues with her women patients.  She is one of only 3-5 % of health care providers that talk with women about sexual satisfaction!!

She is also clinical faculty and preceptor for nurse practitioner students from the University of Washington's School of Nursing, and clinical preceptor for medical students at the University of Washington's School of Medicine.  We are so fortunate to have her expertise and compassion teaching others.

I know how fortunate we are to have Karen's expertise in the world, because she and I have been best friends for over 40 years!!



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CBL#124 – The Beautiful Mind of Judy Stadt Sat, 25 Jun 2011 21:10:25 +0000 Admin What does it mean to have a beautiful mind?  Judy Stadt chats with us about how she nourishes her life so at the ripe young age of 69, she is a semi-finalist in the "Beautiful Minds" award sponsored by the National Center for Creative Aging and Martek Biosciences.  The award looks at the following 4 dimensions of brain health:  nourishment, mental engagement, physical activity, and socially connected.  Judy is blessed with the positive energy to overcome a diagnosis of "you will never walk again" to wearing high heels and dancing at her son's wedding a year later.  Listen to the whole show below to find out how she did it. 

Judy Stadt is an entertainer extraordinaire appearing in over a dozen films and 80 stage performances.  She knew she was born to entertain at 5 years old.  She delivers her own weekly radio show "The Lunch and Judy Show"  on PWRN which is a variety of music, conversation and plenty of laughs. Of course, her varied background – or the fact that audiences have dubbed her the American Judi Dench – might have something to do with her celebrity demeanor, too.  A quick look at her resume reveals that she wrote some of those 80 plays she appeared in; produced illustrations and greeting cards for her company, JudyStadt Graphics; designed fashion jewelry for JStadt Jewelry (found at high-end retailers like Saks Fifth Avenue) and clothing for the now-retired Judith and Charles boutiques in New York.  She is even a licensed real-estate sales representative.  Throw in a handful of awards and skills in jazz-singing, character-voicing, puppeteering, ballroom- and tap-dancing, and you've got a regular Renaissance woman.

She has some insightful words about how you can have a beautiful mind too.


Click the "Listen" button to hear Beautiful Judy Stadt.

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CBL#123 – Orgasmic Meditation as a Path to Healing Sat, 18 Jun 2011 20:11:08 +0000 Admin How connected to your sexuality are you?  This show highlights Nicole Daedone, author of "Slow Sex:  the Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm,"  who will share her expertise and experience on this topic.  Her work and book shows you how in 15 minutes, you can improve your sex life and experience true feminine satisfaction including:
* a deeper connection to your partner
* less anxiety around sexual performance
* increased sexual sensation

Listen to the entire show here.  CoachBettyLIVE with Nicole Daedone

Nicole writes, "The truth is, American women are not satisfied with their sex lives.  A reported 40 million American couples suffer sexless marriages, and 'low sexual interest in women' has become such an epidemic it is being considered an official diagnosis in the DSM V due out in 2013.  The problem isnt' that women aren't hungry for sex.  The problem is women want a different kind of sex than what's been on the menu."

Nicole Daedone is an author and educator focusing on the intersection between orgasm, intimacy, and life. She is the fouonder of OneTaste, a cutting-edge company bringing a new definition of orgasm to women through courses, coaching and media.  For more about OneTaste and OM, visit Nicole's blog appears at


Watch Nicole's TEDx talk here:  The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman




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CBL#122 – Seduction, Redefined for Peace and Partnership Mon, 13 Jun 2011 22:34:32 +0000 Admin It is great to have CoachBettyLIVE back on the air with Positive World Radio Network.  This show and my amazing guest interviews will present a compelling vision of how we can heal naturally through our beautiful and sexual inner natures.  

This episode highlights my dear friends and colleagues, Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell, authors of "Seduction, Redefined."  Their 18 year relationship is a testament to the science and theory of women selecting men as a path to peace in our homes, and on our planet.  Click the "listen" button below to hear the entire interview below.

Donna and Paul live in Marshall, California and are evolutionary and organic activists.  Marshall, a small town 45 miles north of San Francisco in West Marin County is famous for it's oysters which apparently also have properties of seduction. :) Donna and Paul have dedicated their lives to creating partnership between the feminine and masculine energies and to promoting the innate power of the feminine as an agent for cultural change.  They are founders of Baring Witness and KWMR, a local radio station.  Listen to the interview with them below to hear their revolutionary idea on creating a balance of feminine/masculine energies in the California Governor's Office.

At 81 years old, Donna continues to commit her time and energy to the Seduction, Redefined vision.  Paul is right beside her to offer the masculine perspective, and their work combines over 150 years of wisdom.  To learn more about Donna and Paul, go to

What do you think about women choosing men in partnership?

Love to hear from you!



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CoachBettyLIVE and Positive World Radio Network Thu, 19 May 2011 01:58:20 +0000 Admin ON AIR

Beginning in June, 2011…

I am very excited to be a host and part of the launch of the "NEW" POSITIVE WORLD RADIO NETWORK

With over 50 shows, PWRN is now the premiere destination for intelligent conversation, world class music, and cool Jazz.

Open your ears and experience the difference at


We think PWRN is different from mainstream media and we are especially proud of specializing in the "truth".  We hope you agree!

And so, we invite you to become a raving fan of PWRN.

Tell us what you think about PWRN and we'll enter you in a draw to WIN a PWRN gift package with all sorts of wonderful goodies from our hosts.

Just e-mail your thoughts to our Network Program Director, Rick Snyder at: and join me on the NEW PWRN.


"Radio For The Intelligent Optimist"

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Olga Aura becomes CoachBettyLIVE supporting sponsor Mon, 25 Apr 2011 23:19:23 +0000 Admin Dear Olga,

Thank you so much for your donation supporting CoachBettyLIVE internet radio programming. Your generous contribution will allow more transformation experts, like yourself, to rock the world into a positive and FULLY ALIVE state.

I appreciate your commitment and all your programs creating strong healthy relationships (and bank accounts) in our world. Your “Wealthy Lovers” program is rocking my world right now.  After the first two classes, I have identified an old belief system that has not allowed me to fully let men into my life.  Last night I found myself attracted to three men who returned the attraction! You are a treasure!

With gratitude and love,
Coach Betty

Do you want your world to rock?  Check out this amazing lady and her offerings!

Studies show that a woman’s success doubles when her intimate relationship fuels her business. A former Olympic athlete, Olga Aura has been married to the man of her dreams for seven years. And she teaches a 4-step GOLD system that will activate your power in the bedroom AND the bank.  Visit Olga’s website and receive 3 Gifts for you:

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CBL recommends the film “Orgasm Inc.” Mon, 04 Apr 2011 20:39:45 +0000 Admin Well my dear beautiful and sexual women of the world,

We must stand up, and pay attention to what is happening in this crazy world around our sexuality.  There is a movie that has been released earlier this year, Orgasm Inc.  It reveals how women get brainwashed into thinking there is something wrong (ladies, you know who you are), and actually we are just unique and different…normal. This movie is a courageous documentary by film director, Liz Canner.  Liz shows shows how out of control the pharmaceutical industry has become in their ability to influence what is considered a health diagnosis.  Think about it for a millisecond…the pharmaceutical industry determining what constitutes health!?!  They are onto the new hot market of women wanting to have better sex.  WHOA Baby!  We, as women, are sexual beings in our innermost natures.  This is our purest form of goodness.

Please take a moment to breathe right here and now.  You are a beautiful and sensual woman on the inside.  It is there, and we all want to see and BE in the presence of that woman.  Your sexuality is your birth right, and when women get back in touch with their sexuality we have a better chance to bring the planet back into balance.  You do not need medication to treat Female Sexual Dysfunction, because it only exists in the mind of the pharmaceutical industry.  There is a time and a place for pharmaceutical medication, and we must learn how to use it to contribute to the whole.

Here is a synopsis of Orgasm Inc.:

In the shocking and hilarious documentary Orgasm Inc., filmmaker Liz Canner takes a job editing erotic videos for a drug trial for a pharmaceutical company. Her employer is developing what they hope will be the first Viagra drug for women that wins FDA approval to treat a new disease: Female Sexual Dysfunction (FSD). Liz gains permission to film the company for her own documentary. Initially, she plans to create a movie about science and pleasure but she soon begins to suspect that her employer, along with a cadre of other medical companies, might be trying to take advantage of women (and potentially endanger their health) in pursuit of billion dollar profits. Orgasm Inc. is a powerful look inside the medical industry and the marketing campaigns that are literally and figuratively reshaping our everyday lives around health, illness, desire — and that ultimate moment: orgasm.

Have you seen the film?  Tell me what you think…

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CBL#121 – Transformation with the Love Doctor, Brenda Wade Thu, 31 Mar 2011 20:12:39 +0000 Admin Are you ready to transform and release your past pain from unfufilling relationships with love and money?  Dr. Brenda Wade reveals the 4 secrets to reprogramming our brains and transforming our lives. Her accelerated learning approach allows you to integrate immediately combining EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) with cognitive learning.  Tune in below to the entire show where she skillfully guides us through the 4 secrets of love centered transformation.

Brenda Wade is the President, CEO & Founder of Heartline Productions, Inc.  She is “one of the most renowned psychologists in America,” Dr. Brenda Wade is best known for her dynamic, love-centered approach to transformation. She has earned numerous awards as psychologist, author, television host, producer, keynote speaker and workshop leader.  Together, these pursuits typify the results of blending her three primary focuses:  Psychology, Media, and Speaking.

Dr. Brenda Wade, a clinical psychologist in San Francisco, California, specializes in couples and family therapy, with a private practice that reaches internationally.   Dr. Wade is both producer and host of the PBS television pledge special Power Choices currently airing nationally.  She hosted the nationally-syndicated television program “Can This Marriage Be Saved?”.  The program was based on the column of the same name which has run in the Ladies Home Journal magazine for over 40 years.   The San Francisco Chronicle described Dr. Wade’s demeanor on the program as “…always knowledgeable, selectively tough or sympathetic.”  The Boston Globe stated Dr. Wade’s manner on the show mixed with “…the magic of television, encouraged [people] to respond…,” and that the show had an “odd integrity”, not often viewed in a TV talk/relationship program.

Dr. Wade has appeared as a guest expert on such popular, national day-time talk programs as: Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America, Jenny Jones. She appeared with Peter Jennings in the ABC News Special: Children First.  Currently, Dr. Wade hosts CW’s Black Renaissance and contributes medical reports to KRON-4 News.

Dr. Wade’s latest book Power Choices: 7 Milestones on Your Journey to Wholeness, Love, Joy and Peace demonstrates the power of bringing together psychology and spirituality to transform lives.  She has also co-authored with Brenda Richardson, What Mama Couldn’t Tell Us About Love, which focuses on healing the wounds and celebrating the strengths of African American Women. Dr. Wade’s first book, also co-authored with Brenda Richardson, Love Lessons: A Guide to Transforming Relationships, leads couples in trouble through a step by step healing program based on the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

To learn more about Dr. Brenda Wade’s resources, go to or call (415) 775-4866.

Listen to the whole show here…CoachBettyLIVE with Brenda Wade


]]> 0 brenda wade,healing through love,love centered transformation,love doctor,loveandmoneysummit Are you ready to transform and release your past pain from unfufilling relationships with love and money?  Dr. Brenda Wade reveals the 4 secrets to reprogramming our brains and transforming our lives. Her accelerated learning approach allows you to int... Are you ready to transform and release your past pain from unfufilling relationships with love and money?  Dr. Brenda Wade reveals the 4 secrets to reprogramming our brains and transforming our lives. Her accelerated learning approach allows you to integrate immediately combining EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) with cognitive learning.  Tune in below to the entire show where she skillfully guides us through the 4 secrets of love centered transformation. Brenda Wade is the President, CEO & Founder of Heartline Productions, Inc.  She is "one of the most renowned psychologists in America,” Dr. Brenda Wade is best known for her dynamic, love-centered approach to transformation. She has earned numerous awards as psychologist, author, television host, producer, keynote speaker and workshop leader.  Together, these pursuits typify the results of blending her three primary focuses:  Psychology, Media, and Speaking. Dr. Brenda Wade, a clinical psychologist in San Francisco, California, specializes in couples and family therapy, with a private practice that reaches internationally.   Dr. Wade is both producer and host of the PBS television pledge special Power Choices currently airing nationally.  She hosted the nationally-syndicated television program “Can This Marriage Be Saved?”.  The program was based on the column of the same name which has run in the Ladies Home Journal magazine for over 40 years.   The San Francisco Chronicle described Dr. Wade’s demeanor on the program as “...always knowledgeable, selectively tough or sympathetic.”  The Boston Globe stated Dr. Wade’s manner on the show mixed with “...the magic of television, encouraged [people] to respond...,” and that the show had an “odd integrity”, not often viewed in a TV talk/relationship program. Dr. Wade has appeared as a guest expert on such popular, national day-time talk programs as: Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America, Jenny Jones. She appeared with Peter Jennings in the ABC News Special: Children First.  Currently, Dr. Wade hosts CW’s Black Renaissance and contributes medical reports to KRON-4 News. Dr. Wade’s latest book Power Choices: 7 Milestones on Your Journey to Wholeness, Love, Joy and Peace demonstrates the power of bringing together psychology and spirituality to transform lives.  She has also co-authored with Brenda Richardson, What Mama Couldn’t Tell Us About Love, which focuses on healing the wounds and celebrating the strengths of African American Women. Dr. Wade’s first book, also co-authored with Brenda Richardson, Love Lessons: A Guide to Transforming Relationships, leads couples in trouble through a step by step healing program based on the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. To learn more about Dr. Brenda Wade's resources, go to or call (415) 775-4866. Listen to the whole show here...CoachBettyLIVE with Brenda Wade   Coach Betty LIVE! clean 56:02
WHOA Baby#12 – Five Secrets to Manifesting Healthy Sex Thu, 31 Mar 2011 01:13:20 +0000 Admin This quote was gleaned from the magazine, Natural Solutions:  ”Multiple worldwide surveys show that 30% of women from teens to seniors, report having little interest in sex.”





This is a WHOA Baby to me because, as women, we ARE sexual BEings. When 30% of women have no interest in sex, then our society suffers. When women are not connected with themselves and feeling good, then there are a whole lot of children, men and women unhappy. Remember that old saying “When Mama ain’t happy, Nobody’s happy!”

Here are my 5 secrets for women to manifest healthy, enjoyable, fun and replenishing sex.

1)  mellow out…start with 30 seconds three times a day to breathe and feel into your body (and sexuality)

2) free yourself from outcomes and expectations…let events unfold organically

3) live in the moment…let your body feel the sensations of the moment

4) surrender to the pleasure…yep, here is the orgasmic part

5) thank your body for the experience…don’t miss this step!

Notice that these steps can be done with or without a partner.  Love yourself up, and then others will automatically love you up too. :)  Why do we resist healing ourselves through pleasure?  As always, your thoughts are much appreciated.

BE Light

BE Love

BE the soul you are in awe of…

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In Remembrance of the Beauty and Sexuality of Elizabeth Taylor Thu, 24 Mar 2011 22:21:30 +0000 Admin Elizabeth Taylor, with her many accomplishments, was an icon for beauty and sexuality.  I send her family and dear friends many good wishes at this time of her passing.

Elizabeth Taylor represents such an amazing example of how powerful beauty and sexuality as a combination can be for a woman.  Her classic films and TV appearances brought the essence of beauty and sexuality to our screens.  Her personal life, although wrought with unsuccessful marriages, also showed how powerfully men respond to women comfortable with their beauty and sexuality.  Eight marriages that show she got what she wanted, choosing each one of her mates.  On a grander scale, the work she pioneered with AIDS/HIV, is also such a clear example of a woman’s ability to exercise her woman-ness for goodness in the world.

What if I told you that you have an Elizabeth Taylor inside of you?  It’s true, and CoachBettyLIVE is committed to helping you find it.

Thank you for leading the way, Elizabeth Taylor.

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CBL#120 – The “Heaven” of Sacred Sexuality with Kimberly Cain Thu, 24 Mar 2011 19:12:12 +0000 Admin Don’t miss Kimberly’s gift to CoachBettyLIVE listeners below!

This special show highlights another kindred spirit in the vision of sensuality and sexuality as our innermost natures. Kimberly Cain is the author of a captivating novel, “Heaven,”  about an exotic dancer/stripper who is closer to her God-Self than most people walking on the planet.  I could not put this book down as the underlying insights into the sacredness of sexuality were revealed with a page turning story of the religious establishment challenging and abusing the concept of Inner Divinity through sensual and sexual dancing.  ”Heaven” is on Coach Betty’s highly recommended reading list.

Listen to the whole show below.


Kimberly Cain is a speaker, intuitive spiritual guide, writer and performer.  She has received songwriting awards from Billboard and Musician Magazines and opened shows for artists such as David Bowie and Sarah McLachlan.  A perpertual student of spiritual practice and its application to daily life, Kimberly is intrigued by the power of art to entertain, challenge, and transform.  Her years as a professional singer, broadcast talent, writer and producer have shaped her ability to synthesize the energies of the visible and unseen worlds into presentations of art and faith that stretch our perceived limits.  She is passionate about inspiring others to discover their own authentic voice.  Heaven is Kimberly’s first novel.  Find out more at

To learn how to unleash your own sexy spirit, sign up now for Kimberly’s teleclass beginning April 7th at  BY POPULAR DEMAND, Kimberly is extending her “on air” offer for the first 15 CoachBettyLIVE listeners who sign up for MoveYourSexySpirit, you will receive “Heaven” including the accompanying CD.  What a gift!!

Listen to the entire show here…CoachBettyLIVE with Kimberly Cain.

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WHOA Baby#12 – The Beauty in Chaos Wed, 23 Mar 2011 21:19:39 +0000 Admin My WHOA Baby this Wednesday comes from an email that has been circulating over the internet shining a beautiful light in the darkness of the earthquake and tsunami in Sendai, Japan.  This was written by an American woman living in Sendai.

When we strip life down to the bare essentials, let our true nature show, only love and goodness is present.

Beauty comes in many forms and surrounds us everyday.  Please take a moment to appreciate yours.


Hello My Lovely Family and Friends,

First I want to thank you so very much for your concern for me. I am very touched. I also wish to apologize for a generic message to you all. But it seems the best way at the moment to get my message to you.

Things here in Sendai have been rather surreal. But I am very blessed to have wonderful friends who are helping me a lot. Since my shack is even more worthy of that name, I am now staying at a friend’s home. We share supplies like water, food and a kerosene heater. We sleep lined up in one room, eat by candlelight, share stories. It is warm, friendly, and beautiful.

During the day we help each other clean up the mess in our homes. People sit in their cars, looking at news on their navigation screens, or line up to get drinking water when a source is open. If someone has water running in their home, they put out sign so people can come to fill up their jugs and buckets.

Utterly amazingly where I am there has been no looting, no pushing in lines. People leave their front door open, as it is safer when an earthquake strikes. People keep saying, “Oh, this is how it used to be in the old days when everyone helped one another.”

Quakes keep coming. Last night they struck about every 15 minutes. Sirens are constant and helicopters pass overhead often.

We got water for a few hours in our homes last night, and now it is for half a day. Electricity came on this afternoon. Gas has not yet come on.

But all of this is by area. Some people have these things, others do not. No one has washed for several days. We feel grubby, but there are so much more important concerns than that for us now. I love this peeling away of non-essentials. Living fully on the level of instinct, of intuition, of caring, of what is needed for survival, not just of me, but of the entire group.

There are strange parallel universes happening. Houses a mess in some places, yet then a house with futons or laundry out drying in the sun. People lining up for water and food, and yet a few people out walking their dogs. All happening at the same time.

Other unexpected touches of beauty are first, the silence at night. No cars. No one out on the streets. And the heavens at night are scattered with stars. I usually can see about two, but now the whole sky is filled.

The mountains are Sendai are solid and with the crisp air we can see them silhouetted against the sky magnificently.

And the Japanese themselves are so wonderful. I come back to my shack to check on it each day, now to send this e-mail since the electricity is on,and I find food and water left in my entranceway. I have no idea from whom, but it is there. Old men in green hats go from door to door checking to see if everyone is OK. People talk to complete strangers asking if they need help. I see no signs of fear. Resignation, yes, but fear or panic, no.

They tell us we can expect aftershocks, and even other major quakes, for another month or more. And we are getting constant tremors, rolls, shaking, rumbling. I am blessed in that I live in a part of Sendai that is
a bit elevated, a bit more solid than other parts. So, so far this area is better off than others. Last night my friend’s husband came in from the country, bringing food and water. Blessed again.

Somehow at this time I realize from direct experience that there is indeed an enormous Cosmic evolutionary step that is occurring all over the world right at this moment. And somehow as I experience the events happening now in Japan, I can feel my heart opening very wide. My brother asked me if I
felt so small because of all that is happening. I don’t. Rather, I feel as part of something happening that much larger than myself. This wave of birthing (worldwide) is hard, and yet magnificent.

Thank you again for your care and Love of me,

With Love in return, to you all,

Young American woman living in Sendai

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WHOA Baby#11 – Stop and Appreciate YOU Wed, 16 Mar 2011 22:47:34 +0000 Admin I heard a real WHOA Baby at the 100th celebration of International Women’s Day last week. There were speakers from all over the country talking about how women have become more powerful. One area of our lives where we give up our power is in the way we feel about our bodies. This is a quote from Tamilee Webb of Exercise TV and famous video series “Buns of Steel.”

“Ninety-seven percent of Women do not like something about their bodies!!!”

Tamilee mentioned that when she was in her twenties, she did not like her body.  Now that she is in her 50s, she would love to have that 20 year old body.  When will we learn to love our bodies???  When you do not feel good about yourself, no matter how hard you try, you do not bring good energy onto the planet.  This means that everybody loses because you don’t like the way you look!  How can you be in your true womanly power if you are concerned about cellulite or looking fat or or or???  The list is quite huge as you know.

You are a beautiful soul that has a beautiful spirit and juicy body to go with it.  It does not make anyone happy that you are not happy with you.

Call to Action:  Take 30 seconds right now to identify something you love about the way you look.  Find at least 3 ways to accent that body part in the next week.

This is for your happiness, all the people in your life, AND our world!  Yes We Can overcome the insanity of women not recognizing the power of their own beauty.

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CBL#119 – The Sensual Life with Monica Day Tue, 15 Mar 2011 22:19:54 +0000 Admin Today’s show highlights Monica Day of  Monica describes how tapping into our sensuality allows us to experience more of life in general.  Her vision includes eliminating the infamous question women so often ask, “Do I look fat in these jeans?”  Monica’s work helps women (and men) understand that we were all born with orgasmic energy, and we choose to share it in a relationship.  Your orgasmic nature is not outside of you. How about that for a new view on sex and orgasm?  Her programs help you find your sensual self by dropping the stories and replacing them with pleasure.  LOVE IT!

Coach Betty started the show with some WHOA Baby quotes which underlined the need for women to find their inner nature of sensuality. Ladies, we must stop berating our bodies…WE are beautiful BEings. Stay tuned for more on how you can rediscover this place with a new teleseries from Coach Betty on the 5 Ps to Peace, Passion, and Pleasure coming in May.

Listen to the whole show below!

Monica Day is the founder of The Sensual Life. She specializes in creating  safe spaces for people to explore, experience and express their sensuality. Monica is best-known for finding playful ways to engage people into exploring what it means to live a more feeling, more passionate, more fully-expressed sensual life. She has spent the last 18 years as a writer, trainer and facilitator in areas ranging from personal growth and awareness, race and gender, class and power, sensuality and sexuality, communication skills, and relationship dynamics.The Sensual Life is Monica’s vehicle for sharing with others the tools of deeper communication, the turn-on of sensual awareness, and the practices that arouse greater freedom, awakening, love and spiritual connection.

Sign up for Monica’s free report and weekly ezine to start tapping into your own sensuality right away…  It is easier than you think!


LISTEN HERE: CoachBettyLIVE with Monica Day

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CBL #118 – Celebrating Beautiful Women on International Women’s Day Fri, 11 Mar 2011 04:44:03 +0000 Admin It was a distinct honor and pleasure to attend the Women Information Network‘s (WIN) 100th anniversary of International Women’s Day at the San Francisco Convention Center on Tuesday, March 8th.  The room was filled with beautiful women sharing their gifts with the world.  I was lucky enough to capture interviews with two very special ladies, Anne-Louise Sterry and Marci Lock.  You can listen to the entire show below.

Anne-Louise Sterry and her alter ego, Aunt Lena, had the audience roaring with laughter as she delivered her empowering message of LIVE KINDNESS, EMBRACE PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY and CHANGE YOUR STORY.  Her humor and spirit uplifted the entire room.

Based in Portland, Oregon, Anne-Louise performs nationally and internationally. She has released five recordings, of which “Making Ravioli” won a Children’s Music Web Award for Best Spoken Word Recording for Older Children. She is on the roster for Young Audiences and the Regional Arts Council in Portland.

Anne-Louise’s repertoire is extensive and encompasses many genres from the sublime to the hilarious. Impossible to overlook is Aunt Lena, Anne-Louise’s alter ego. A creation of Anne-Louise, in the guise of everyone’s out-of-the-box Italian relative, Aunt Lena mixes stories from the New Jersey homeland with cutting edge Mediterranean wisdom. When Aunt Lena comes along with Anne-Louise, there’s no telling what can happen!  Check out more at



Marci Lock is a sought after Speaker, Trainer, Author, Life Transformation Coach and Nutrition Fitness Expert. For the past 10 years, she has passionately been transforming lives by empowering people with the TRUTH and knowledge of how to implement Nutrition and Fitness principles that produce rapid results that are kept for life. She teaches how to “Eat More, Work out LESS, and Experience Break Through Results” by turning your body into a Fat Burning Machine. She dosen’t just stop at teaching people how to work out for 12 minutes and burn fat for two days and eat delicious with ease. She also implements the one element missing from all other programs out there. Transforming the mind.

She discovered through her own journey of struggling with her weight, battling eating disorders, and many different diets, that changing behaviors alone does not produce long term results. You must change the limiting beliefs linking you to the behaviors in order to experience long term results. Once you break down the internal barriers, the external prison you built around your body sheds off with ease.  Learn more at

Listen to an archive of this inspiring  show by clicking on CoachBettyLIVE on – under March 2011.

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WHOA Baby #9: Beliefs That Drive our Behaviors Thu, 10 Mar 2011 01:16:49 +0000 Admin I just returned from the Women Information Network (WIN) celebration of 100 Years of International Woman’s Day yesterday on March 8th.

On this WHOA Baby Wednesday, I share this quote from the San Francisco Convention Center event. WHOA Babies are those short sound bites that you read or hear that make you stop and consider a new view on life and may even make you say “WHOA Baby!  We have to pay attention here.” How about this gem from my interview with Marci Lock, Transformation Coach, who is a perfect example of how powerfully spiritual women have moved into the world. Check out her website to BE inspired,  You can listen to the interview and hear all of her wisdom from our International Women’s Day interview tomorrow on Here is what fitness and nutrition expert Marci Lock has to say:

“80% of what you tell yourself, you believe. Only 20% of what you hear from others, you believe.”

This is how we can change the world! Do you feel it? This is awesome news as we DO have complete control of what we think which leads to what we believe.  So how about believing in the possibility of Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life and creating it.

What would that look like in your life?

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WHOA Baby #8 – Living with Positive and Abundant Energy Wed, 23 Feb 2011 19:45:57 +0000 Admin Here is a quote from the website

“Orgasm is the basis of all life. It is the most powerful energy that lives within every single one of us, and between us when we come together in sensual relationships. In popular culture, we have labeled the climax of a sexual experience an “orgasm” – and yet, orgasmic energy is much more expansive, available and abundant than in just these moments. Our ability to feel pleasure, sensation, connection, awareness and love is endless when we enter the gateway of our orgasm.”

I add this as a WHOA Baby because many in our culture think about the word orgasm as a private and intimate act which should not be discussed in broad daylight.  Words will trigger emotions.  When you have an emotional reaction to a word, often the intention of the speaker or author is lost because your brain needs to process the emotion.  The next time you hear or read the word orgasm, take a deep breath and smile.  See if you can feel the positive and abundant nature of it.

I love this quote as it reinforces the fact that orgasmic energy is available to us far beyond the bedroom. Could you use some extra positive energy in your life? Well guess what…you’ve got it right there inside you.

Thank you Monica Day, of, for your visionary approach to our innate positive and abundant orgasmic energy.



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WHOA Baby#7: Anti-aging aspect of Sex Wed, 16 Feb 2011 21:09:53 +0000 Admin I am stunned and amazed with all I am learning about the health benefits of having regular sex.   NOTE:  I am talking about healthy, loving and consensual sex.

This is just in from Scotland, Edinburgh Hospital.

Dr. David Weeks studied 3,500 Americans and Europeans from ages 18-102, and found that only 25% of youthful looks is due to genetics.  The rest of youthful looks is related to behavior.  When he examined sexual behavior, he reports that having sex 3 times a week can make you look a decade younger.

Check out the whole article, Vitamin S:  Monogamous, Safe Sex a Super Potent Package of Health Boosting Effects.

Sex as a healing modality is ancient wisdom, and also available to us without cost.  We carry this healing power around with us wherever we go.

First step to fabulous sex is to fall in love with yourself!

Try this experiment:

Pause, Look in the Mirror, and ask “Who Loves Ya Baby?”

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CBL#117 – Spiritual Sexuality with Ina “Laughing Winds” Tue, 15 Feb 2011 23:17:42 +0000 Admin My special guest on CoachBettyLIVE is Ina “Laughing Winds” Mlekush, who speaks to us about the ancient Native American traditions concerning the healing powers of orgasm and sex.  As soon as you hear her voice, you can feel her wisdom.  ”Human Beings are created to have pleasure,”  says Ina.  Her approach to beginning to get comfortable with self-pleasuring is beautiful and gentle.  Listen to the whole interview, and show below.

Ina has been in private practice since 1985 as a Marriage Counselor for Traditional Marriages and Alternative Lifestyles. Since 1992 she has focused on Sex Therapy, Relationship Solutions and Dating Consultation for Couples and Individuals. Issues that are prevalent are:  resolving the frustrations of sexual dysfunctions, incompatibility, stepping back into being sexual after years of celibacy or improving intimacy skills.

Ina helps individuals understand that Sex Education goes beyond the bedroom.  It is your life force energy, which promotes health and longevity. It is what gives you the energy to be parents, run a business, have a social life and still want – to – be passionate with your partner.

She teaches men and women about their basic instinctual differences and how to communicate respectfully with each other. They learn how to rejoice in those differences and to discover caring ways to live together and make good agreements. With good agreements their sense of hope awakens, which supports a healthy intimate relationship.  The Grandmother Elders say, Men and woman are different and equal.  To learn more about Ina and ask her your questions, go to

How can you administer your own self-pleasuring medicine?, LISTEN HERE...coachbetty21511.

Coach Betty will be on a short hiatus from broadcasting, building her sponsorship structure so she can return to high quality programming which reaches far and wide.

Stay tuned to a new teleseries coming soon:  The 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure.

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WHOA Baby #6: Is it true that Menopause is a Sex Drive Killer? Wed, 09 Feb 2011 18:09:34 +0000 Admin How do women continue to live the Organic and Orgasmic life going through menopause?

Here are survey results from WebMD newsletter on women and menopause.

About half of women report reduced sex drive around the time of menopause, even though they believe it important to maintain an active sex life. Menopausal symptoms, such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex, may make sex less comfortable. But the hormonal changes of menopause are only part of the picture. An aging woman concerned about her sex drive should also consider the quality of her relationship, her body image and self esteem, medications she is taking, and her physical health.”

What do you hear when you read this?  What I hear and the reason it made it as one of my WHOA Babies is that women need to fall in love with themselves to continue their sex drive through the ages.  Vaginal dryness may occur, and I believe does occur because that is what we are told time and time again.  I am here to tell you that it has not been my experience in menopause.  I have gotten juicier as I have aged because I understand my body and the power of it.

It’s February and the month we focus on LOVE.  My request to you is to make it about self-love, not relationship love.  You may have heard me say it before…LOOK YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR EVERYDAY AND SAY “I LOVE YOU, I REALLY REALLY DO.” Everyday for the rest of the month…try it ladies.  When we have inner happiness and peace, guess what…everyone around us is more at peace and happy.

Stay tuned to learn more about my teleseminar on Peace, Passion and Pleasure coming soon.  It will be chocked full of ideas and ways for women to fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror!

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CBL#116 – Valeri Bocage on Actualizing Your Dream Tue, 08 Feb 2011 23:25:10 +0000 Admin Is there a dream in you that you would like to bring to life? Are you waiting for the right time, more time, or more money? Valeri Bocage empowers you to get clear about your purpose, how to break through barriers and be powerful & graceful in the face of any circumstance or challenge. You’ll learn keys to mastering your strengths and how to bring out your Inner Leader.  Listen to Coach Betty and Valeri talk about how to recognize your feminine power…it lives within you organically and orgasmically.
Coach Betty challenges some statements about menopause and how it affects your sex life.  Do menopausal women really have more vaginal dryness?  Listen in for a new view on the subject.

Valeri Bocage is the founder of Powerful Women International and has been assisting people in living their dreams for over 20 years. She has inspired hundreds of people to fulfill on their life’s mission. She has coached authors, entrepreneurs, parents, families, public speakers and artists to expand their vision for what was possible in their professional and personal lives globally.  She has been recognized by the United States Congress, Senate, Mayor Offices and several companies and organizations around the world.

Valeri was born and raised in New Orleans, LA. As a result of Hurricane Katrina, Valeri lost EVERYTHING, except her indomitable spirit and true passion for life. She took the loss as an opportunity to start a whole new life. She moved to San Francisco to fulfill on her dream of “EMPOWERING WOMEN TO EMPOWER THE WORLD.” Powerful Women International is doing just that. Now, only a few years later PWI has more than 30 connections around the world.

To learn more or become a member of PWI, check out

Listen the CoachBettyLIVE with Valeri Bocage here:  coachbetty2811

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WHOA Baby#5: Making Fraud Organic and Orgasmic Wed, 02 Feb 2011 20:05:55 +0000 Admin As promised, I am writing today to share more about my fraud experience in the hopes that it can save someone else from going through this very humiliating process. The data on fraud surprised me, and became a WHOA Baby.

“Fraud is considered white collar crime. An Illinois survey shows that 55.2% said that fraud crimes do more to undermine the morality of society than street crimes. More money is lost through white collar crime than as a result of street crime. National survey of fraud victimization show the total annual losses exceed $40 billion.”

This is from a report “Personal Fraud: the victims and the scams,” by Richard Titus of the National Institute of Justice.

Why did I get victimized?  What I have reflected upon is as follows:

1)  I was careless…my message is one that I believe anything is possible.  I believe in miracles and was convinced it was my time to receive one.  Because of that I did not thoroughly investigate the sources offering me this incredible opportunity.

2)  I am not aware of these scams as I rarely listen to news.  I stopped watching news regularly as a means to stay more positive, and create a healthy and uplifting world for myself.

3)  I was susceptible to this offer because it touched me so deeply in my heart.  The thought that I could be paid well to coach small groups of people who do not have access to such services was a miracle I wanted to believe in.

4)  I am a risk taker, and therefore even more susceptible to these crimes.

5)  Scams like this play on a person’s compassion and generosity and I fell for it hook, line and sinker, as they say.

6)  Shocking, but true, 10-20% of people victimized in this way have chronic health problems and those vulnerable are the best targets.


1)  Do your due diligence in investigating those in question.  Call and speak to a live person, look at websites, get name, address, phone numbers.

2)  DO NOT accept money orders.  Tell them to make a wire transfer right into your account.

3)  Insist on US checks

4)  Do not rely on your bank for the best information.  IF you deposit checks or money orders, be specific when the checks will clear NOT when the money is available.

The Organic and Orgasmic nature of this is that I am not resisting the truth, and am authentically sharing the story.  Life is rich and juicy in many ways!

If this information helps 1 person…it will have been a good day!

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CBL#115 – Mastering YOUR Destiny with Olga Aura Tue, 01 Feb 2011 22:42:41 +0000 Admin Today’s show covers some ground…makes sense because it is about taking Quantum Leaps.  If you want to hear the secret to taking action in spite of doubt and fear and taking a Quantum Leap in your life in 2011, you will want to hear this interview.  Olga shares her amazing story of how she arrived in the states in 1996 when she came to perform in the Olympics for the Ukraine team.  She never got back on the bus.  On the outside, she was a gold medalist and on the inside she was dying.  She never even had her first menstrual cycle until she was 22.  Listen below to how she mastered her own destiny, and became a mentor to others.

Coach Betty shares her experience of being caught in an internet fraud scam, and what she learned.  To learn more about fraud and NOT being victimized to it, check out Richard Titen’s National Institute of Justice, “Personal Fraud:  The Victims and the Scams.”

A Gold medal winning gymnast, Olga Aura is a Master Your Destiny Mentor.  She has a laser beam vision for seeing instances of great destiny and the practical step-by-step system for you to Master your destiny. Whether you want to bring forth a babe, a book, a business or a beloved Olga’s Quantum Leap system guides you to reach your GOLD.
For over 25 years Olga honed her Quantum Leap methodology in the Soviet Olympic Reserve, then with the Tibetan monks, Peruvian medicine men and with hundreds of successful clients and students from all around the world. Now Olga is a proud CEO of her own visionary empire, and she is the author of the “5 Secrets to Unlock Your Irresistible Soul Power”.
You can find out more about Olga at
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WHOA Baby #4 – Coach Betty dealing with FRAUD Wed, 26 Jan 2011 16:24:12 +0000 Admin Today is a real WHOA Baby Wednesday as I have been a victim (I do hate that word) of a FRAUD scandal.  I write today to say BE ALERT and do not conduct business with anyone you have not met or been referred to by someone you trust.  I am a trusting soul who believes in miracles and wants to make a huge impact on empowering people in the world, and right now I feel about 2 inches tall.  DON’T let this happen to you.

It all started in December when I received an email from a woman in London named Catherine Thornton who invited me to lead coaching workshops in Marin County (where I live).  These workshops to be held for the underprivileged (heart strings) and there was funding available so I would also be paid handsomely.  After numerous pieces of correspondence laying out an elaborate tale of Catherine as a mom caring for her ill daughter (more heart strings) so she needed to turn over the registration task to an outside source.  Harriet Washington became another name in the whole scandal and she sent International Money Orders to me, totally over $4,000 and said she needed me to send money Western Union so that she would not be taxed twice…once in the US and again in the UK.  This is where I should have been on to it, but I also received a schedule of the workshops and other pertinent information about how the workshops would be conducted.  I went to the bank and they assured me the money orders were good, and funds would be available the next day.  I sent the Western Union transfers the next day, and a week later my account was overdrawn.  My bank is claiming I am responsible for over $4,000 at this point in time.  Fraud claim and police report filed…fire building in my belly for justice.

There is a silver lining, and an organic and orgasmic way…I will keep you posted on how I find it.

In the meantime, check out this article to help avoid being a victim.  FRAUD ARTICLE

Truly a WHOA BABY Wednesday!!

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CBL#114 -Women BEing Organic and Orgasmic with Zestra Tue, 25 Jan 2011 21:49:46 +0000 Admin The entire show today was devoted to talking about how women can find more sexual fulfillment and satisfaction.  Rachel Braun Scherl of Semprae Laboratories, producers of natural botanical oil Zestra, was my special guest.  Why is it important for women to pay attention to their own sexual satisfaction?  A healthy and loving sex life translates to a healthy life, emotionally, physically, and socially. As Rachel pointed out on the show, much more attention is given to men’s sexual satisfaction.  Ladies, it is time to start taking responsibility for our own sexual desires and fulfillment.  Would it help you to feel more confident, have an increased self-esteem, and feel courageous to ask for what you want in your life?  That is what greater sexual fulfillment will do for you.  Listen in to the entire show with the whys and hows below.

A seasoned executive, Rachel Braun Scherl has focused on driving growth through innovation, building Fortune 500 brands, revitalizing stagnant brands, and creating opportunities for 20 years.  As President and co-Founder of Semprae Laboratories, Rachel is building on her track record of success, developing teams committed to creating a company that provides essential sexual satisfaction and health products and services to women.

Rachel and Mary Wallace Jaensch, long-time business partners, founded Semprae Laboratories, Inc. with Quaker BioVentures, in 2008.  The company is by women, for women and dedicated to the idea that all women deserve sexual satisfaction.  Semprae’s flagship product, Zestra Essential Arousal Oils, is clinically proven to improve desire arousal and satisfaction for women of all ages and lifestyles.  Find out more, and order a FREE sample of Zestra (shipping charges do apply) by going to  If you type in the special CoachBettyLIVE code Z53FREE, you will save 5% on any order.

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WHOA Baby #3 – SEX boosts Self-Esteem Wed, 19 Jan 2011 18:52:26 +0000 Admin Boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex, collected by the University of Texas researchers published in the “Archives of Sexual Behavior.”

Gina Ogden, PhD who is a marriage and family sex therapist, finds that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better.  ”One reason people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves.”  Great sex begins with self-esteem.  If the sex is loving, connected and what you want, it raises it.”

This is why I am so passionate about helping women rediscover their beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror.   Imagine how your enjoyment of sex would change if you always felt good about YOU…and then having sex made you feel even better!  Now that’s a WHOA BABY!

What if you felt beautiful and sexual with anyone, anytime and anywhere?  How would your life be different?

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CBL #113 – Organic and Orgasmic Divorce Tue, 18 Jan 2011 21:44:01 +0000 Admin How can you make the process of divorce feel organic and orgasmic? My guests, Martie Leys and Kathleen Adams, discuss the process of co-mediation for couples contemplating divorce. They talk about co-mediation as an international peace movement. These optimistic ladies have an uplifting approach to how to BE with the process. Listen to the whole show below.

Martie H. Leys’ legal approach as a collaborative family law attorney and mediator is informed by earlier careers as a social worker and educator.

Martie graduated from the USF School of Law and was admitted to the California bar in 1994. While in law school, she served as an intern mediator with Alameda Co. Family Court Services, where she mediated custody disputes and made recommendations to the Court. She also clerked for the Law Offices of Margaret L. Anderson in Santa Rosa and the Law Offices of Irv Piotrkowski in Petaluma. She has been practicing family law since 1998 and specializes in out of court divorces using mediation and collaborative practice to help couples through the transition.  Her website is

For over twenty years, Kathleen Adams has worked with adults and children.  She has an established psychotherapy and consulting practice in Petaluma, CA, where she specializes in transition and trauma, divorce, adoption, school issues, grief, and victims of crime.

Kathleen has taught seminars and workshops nationwide on a wide range of clinical and social work topics for agencies, colleges, and parent groups. Currently she is a trainer for the Bay Area Academy, a division of the School of Social Work at San Francisco State University.

Kathleen is the co-author of the awarding-winning therapeutic children’s bookOn the Day His Daddy Left (Albert Whitman& Company).  She produced the educational film TO SAVE a CHILD: Preventing Suicide by Identifying Depression in Elementary School Children, narrated by Mariel Hemingway.  And she is the executive director of the non-profit teen suicide prevention organization Five Alive.

Kathleen’s website and information can be found at

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WHOA Baby #2 – Redefining Seduction Wed, 12 Jan 2011 17:53:52 +0000 Admin Consider this…Women choose men in relationships.

Yes, that is what Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell write about in their groundbreaking book, “Redefining Seduction:  Women Initiating Courtship, Partnership and Peace.” Donna and Paul are evolutionary psychologists who have done extensive research, and had their own amazing relationship based on this theory. A premise of their work is that the egg chooses the sperm.

Here is a WHOA Baby sampling from the book:

Redefined Seduction Truths

Women, not men, should make the first move in courtship

Women’s initiative in courtship is not only natural but essential to the survival of the species

Men are in awe of women

Every women possesses the power to select and seduce her chosen mate

Surveys done at college campuses confirm that men would love to be seduced and have women make the first move.

Check it out at

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CBL#112 – The 5 step Path to Orgasmic Fulfillment Wed, 12 Jan 2011 03:53:29 +0000 Admin
Here is Coach Betty LIVE in Paris, France as she prepared for the opening of “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life” at the Theatre La Reine Blanche last July.  Let me tell you, it was an organic and orgasmic time.

This CoachBettyLIVE episode was Coach Betty sharing a bit of her personal journey and outlining the 5 step path to Orgasmic Fulfillment.  You can listen to the entire show below.

Highlights from the show:

5 Easy Principles to Inner Peace, Passion and Pleasure AND Orgasmic Fulfillment

PAUSE is step one to begin to feel more alive sexually right away

PONDER is assessing what is working and your own level of satisfaction

PLAN is how to prepare for YOU and your next sexual experience

PROSPECT is how to dig deep and explore the orgasmic possibilities in life

POP is how you surrender and allow your life to be organic and orgasmic

Whether you are in a long term relationship, newly in love, or single, Coach Betty will guide you to create an inner orgasmic nature that allows you to feel confident and courageous to step out and BE the beautiful you.  If you follow the principles of the 5 Ps to peace, passion and pleasure, you will fall in love with yourself every time you look in the mirror.

Listen here by clicking on the link below.


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WHOA Baby #1 for 20 ONE ONE (2011) Thu, 06 Jan 2011 01:16:19 +0000 Admin Coach Betty is pleased to announce that beginning in 2011, we will start “WHOA BABY WEDNESDAY.”  WHOA Babies are notes, quotes and stories that will open your mind to the natural healthy benefits and healing power of sex.  We are committed to helping women rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror.  This is not a selfish endeavor for women’s ego…it is for the benefit of relationships and to help sustain our planet. We will also be focusing on how we can all appreciate the presence of men in our world.  After all, without men…we would not be here!


Source:  Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine

Sex increases the hormone, oxytocin.  As the oxytocin surges, endorphins increase and pain declines.  So if your headache, arthritis pain or PMS symptoms improve after sex, thank oxytocin.

Imagine being able to help your pain by increasing your pleasure with healthy and loving sex.  Although this appeared in the Bulletin of Experimental Medicine, orgasms have been used to treat female hysteria since at least the 1850s.  Don’t believe anything you don’t want to, AND it might be worth a try to consider regular natural sex (which could mean anywhere from masterbation to intercourse) instead of something more toxic for your body.

It may not be the cure-all for pain and many other health conditions, however it is certainly a handy adjunct to any therapies you may be using.  To learn more, listen in to CoachBettyLIVE on every Tuesday at 12:00 pm PT.

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CBL#111- Living Organically and Orgasmically with Yvette Summers Tue, 04 Jan 2011 21:32:17 +0000 Admin The co-founder of Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life is my special guest on today’s show, Yvette Summers.  Yvette is one of the most positive people I have ever met in my life.  Her description of living an Organic and Orgasmic Life is finding the way to making every activity become love.  She will share some stories of how she does that in her own life.  Tune into the entire show below for inspiration from this woman who exemplifies a loving spirit.

Yvette Summers is a musicologist, percussionist, dancer and vocalist who has worked with Grammy Award Winning artists, Herbie Hancock, Bill Summers, and Los Hombres Calientes, to name a few. Her exotic and sensual dancing and singing will uplift your spirits and make you feel good. In 2010, she co-produced along with Coach Betty the “Living an Organic & Orgasmic Life” tour, a performance of music, dance, and conversation that was musically rich and culturally diverse. Her latest protect is The Natural Healers who she will be recording a new CD with and performing in a European tour in 2011.  To find out more, go to

Listen to the entire show here:


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CoachBettyLIVE #110 – Skipping into 2011 with Kim “Skipper” Corbin Tue, 28 Dec 2010 22:41:50 +0000 Admin This upbeat and fun show highlights Kim “Skipper” Corbin who started skipping for fun and fitness over 10 years ago.  It turned into much more than that for her.  It became a way to help shift the world to a more positive place, and also build the muscle of self confidence without worrying about what other people think.  Kim advises that a good way to start skipping is to try it in your own home first…start out with 10 skips and just see how you feel.  Chances are your childlike spirit will emerge and you can’t help but smile.  Kim has an inspiring story you won’t want to miss.

In addition, Coach Betty takes the last segment of the show to continue the conversation about the health benefits of sex.  As her research continues, she is learning that there are many amazing health benefits of sex.  Listen to the entire show below.

Kim Corbin has been the world’s most vocal advocate for the body, mind, spirit benefits of adult skipping since she created the website in 1999. Her efforts have been featured in USA Today, Time, People, and Newsweek Magazines.  Visit her online at

Listen above…

]]> 1 fun and fitness with skipping,healing through sex,,Kim "Skipper"Corbin,New World Library,skipping movement This upbeat and fun show highlights Kim "Skipper" Corbin who started skipping for fun and fitness over 10 years ago.  It turned into much more than that for her.  It became a way to help shift the world to a more positive place, This upbeat and fun show highlights Kim "Skipper" Corbin who started skipping for fun and fitness over 10 years ago.  It turned into much more than that for her.  It became a way to help shift the world to a more positive place, and also build the muscle of self confidence without worrying about what other people think.  Kim advises that a good way to start skipping is to try it in your own home first...start out with 10 skips and just see how you feel.  Chances are your childlike spirit will emerge and you can't help but smile.  Kim has an inspiring story you won't want to miss. In addition, Coach Betty takes the last segment of the show to continue the conversation about the health benefits of sex.  As her research continues, she is learning that there are many amazing health benefits of sex.  Listen to the entire show below. Kim Corbin has been the world’s most vocal advocate for the body, mind, spirit benefits of adult skipping since she created the website in 1999. Her efforts have been featured in USA Today, Time, People, and Newsweek Magazines.  Visit her online at Listen above... Coach Betty LIVE! clean 56:57
CBL#109 – Annie Spiegelman, the Dirt Diva, talks dirt, compost and healing communities Mon, 27 Dec 2010 18:25:41 +0000 Admin I was honored and excited to be a guest host for Dr. Pat’s radio show out of Seattle and on the internet on December 22nd.  I invited one of my favorite people in the whole world, Annie Spiegelman, the Dirt Diva, to be my special guest.  Below you can listen to the whole show.  Annie is such an inspiration, and transformed her life when she left New York City where she worked in the movie business and moved to California and became a passionate environmentalist.  She is now a Master Gardener, and author of three gardening books.  Her latest book, “Talking Dirt,” makes it simple and easy for anyone…Annie always says if she can do it, anyone can.

She shares why we should reconsider having a lawn, especially in dry climates like California. Check out,, and Composters.Com to find out how to fertilize without using pesticides.  If you want to start a school garden, like Annie did, contact your local Master Gardeners or the American Horticulture Society,  Annie and her books are chocked full of fabulous information about how we can take care of ourselves, our families, our communities, and our precious soil.  Check her out at

Annie also writes a popular organic gardening column entitled Dirt Diva in the Bay Area’s Pacific Sun newspaper and blogs on The Huffingon Post while also working in film production as a First Assistant Director. She claims she spends her days dodging bullets from the cutthroat publishing business, the maniacal movie industry and her teenage son. And rarely uses medication.
LISTEN IN HERE…click on December and look for December 22nd show with guest host Coach Betty
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CoachBettyLIVE #108 – Mat Stein and Natural Healing from Mr. Science Wed, 22 Dec 2010 23:03:02 +0000 Admin This episode of CoachBettyLIVE features author, Mat Stein, talking about how this MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) graduate opened his mind to healing forces that his left brain could not understand.  He shares how to make a “Grab and Run Kit” in case of emergency.  It includes a headlamp, water purifier and other simple items to help you survive in any circumstances.  He also discusses effective self help remedies that can boost your immune system at this wintery time of year.

In addition, on this show, Coach Betty continues her conversation about the natural healing power of orgasms and has some remarkable history of the medicinal use of them.

Matthew Stein is a design engineer, green builder, and author of the best selling book “When Technology Fails,” a comprehensive manual on sustainable living skills, survival, and disaster preparations. Stein is a graduate of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) where he majored in Mechanical Engineering. Stein has appeared on numerous radio and television programs and is a repeat guest on Fox News, Lionel, Coast-to-Coast AM, and the Thom Hartmann Show.  He is an active mountain climber, serves as a guide and instructor for blind skiers, has written several articles on the subject of sustainable living, and is a guest columnist for the Huffington Post.  Check him out at

Listen to the entire show above.

]]> 0 Mat Stein,natural healing,science of alternative medicine,technology of orgasm,When Technology Fails This episode of CoachBettyLIVE features author, Mat Stein, talking about how this MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) graduate opened his mind to healing forces that his left brain could not understand. This episode of CoachBettyLIVE features author, Mat Stein, talking about how this MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) graduate opened his mind to healing forces that his left brain could not understand.  He shares how to make a "Grab and Run Kit" in case of emergency.  It includes a headlamp, water purifier and other simple items to help you survive in any circumstances.  He also discusses effective self help remedies that can boost your immune system at this wintery time of year. In addition, on this show, Coach Betty continues her conversation about the natural healing power of orgasms and has some remarkable history of the medicinal use of them. Matthew Stein is a design engineer, green builder, and author of the best selling book "When Technology Fails," a comprehensive manual on sustainable living skills, survival, and disaster preparations. Stein is a graduate of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) where he majored in Mechanical Engineering. Stein has appeared on numerous radio and television programs and is a repeat guest on Fox News, Lionel, Coast-to-Coast AM, and the Thom Hartmann Show.  He is an active mountain climber, serves as a guide and instructor for blind skiers, has written several articles on the subject of sustainable living, and is a guest columnist for the Huffington Post.  Check him out at Listen to the entire show above. Coach Betty LIVE! clean 55:50
CoachBettyLIVE #107 – SARK, Self-Love, and Transforming Loss into Gifts Fri, 17 Dec 2010 19:46:59 +0000 Admin My special guest, SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy), provides loads of inspiration and practical FREE ideas to unleash your creativity and learn to love yourself, the purest form of love possible.  When you have a full cup of self love, you share an overflow of love with the world .  That is how SARK puts it.  Through self-love practices, SARK went from having incest in her early life to living an orgasmic life today.  If you stop and consider the transformation involved in that…it is nothing short of miraculous.  SARK openly shares her story.   And Coach Betty continues the conversation about sexual healing and health for the world quoting a recent national survey on sexual health and behaviors.  Check it out at NationalSexSurvey.

SARK is a best-selling author and artist, with sixteen titles in print and well over two million books sold, including the national bestsellers Succulent Wild WomanBodacious Book of Succulence, Eat Mangoes NakedProsperity Pie, and Juicy Pens, Thirsty Paper. Her newest book is Glad No Matter What. She is also the founder and Creative Fountain of Planet SARK, a thriving business that creates innovative products and services to support empowered living. SARK lives and creates gladly in San Francisco, CA.  Visit her online at or call her Inspiration phone line at 415 546 3742.

Don’t miss SARK’s creative wit and wisdom…Listen above.

]]> 0 Glad No Matter What,healing sex,natural healing,SARK,Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy,Transforming loss My special guest, SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy), provides loads of inspiration and practical FREE ideas to unleash your creativity and learn to love yourself, the purest form of love possible.  When you have a full cup of self love, My special guest, SARK (Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy), provides loads of inspiration and practical FREE ideas to unleash your creativity and learn to love yourself, the purest form of love possible.  When you have a full cup of self love, you share an overflow of love with the world .  That is how SARK puts it.  Through self-love practices, SARK went from having incest in her early life to living an orgasmic life today.  If you stop and consider the transformation involved in is nothing short of miraculous.  SARK openly shares her story.   And Coach Betty continues the conversation about sexual healing and health for the world quoting a recent national survey on sexual health and behaviors.  Check it out at NationalSexSurvey. SARK is a best-selling author and artist, with sixteen titles in print and well over two million books sold, including the national bestsellers Succulent Wild Woman, Bodacious Book of Succulence, Eat Mangoes Naked, Prosperity Pie, and Juicy Pens, Thirsty Paper. Her newest book is Glad No Matter What. She is also the founder and Creative Fountain of Planet SARK, a thriving business that creates innovative products and services to support empowered living. SARK lives and creates gladly in San Francisco, CA.  Visit her online at or call her Inspiration phone line at 415 546 3742. Don't miss SARK's creative wit and wisdom...Listen above. Coach Betty LIVE! clean 56:45
CoachBettyLIVE #106 – Sustainability and Sex – Healing YOU and the Planet Sat, 11 Dec 2010 02:41:05 +0000 Admin Sssssssssssssss…Sustainability and Sex!

My show today highlights an amazing human being, Trathen Heckman.  He is a visionary who takes backyard projects and brings them to the community and beyond.  He will share how he wildly succeeded in the 350 garden challenge earlier this year.  His organization, operates by 4 core words…because every choice matters. He is on the first half hour to promote and encourage a vision of a sustainable and healthy world.  And then you get bonus time with Coach Betty sharing her theories of sexual healing for You, your relationships, and the planet.

Trathen Heckman, is the Co-Founder of, and Board President of  This mover and shaker walks his sustainble conscious talk, and inspires others to do the same.

Listen to this inspiring young man’s journey as he awoke to greater consciousness and is now supporting and empowering individuals to “be the change.”

Hundreds of people participate in his Daily Acts sustainability tours inspiried by “hot-damn-they’re-fun” projects.

Check out more at

Listen in above!

]]> 0,Green Sangha,healing community,healing power of sex,new views on sex,new views on sustainability,sexual healing,transition town movement,Trathen Heckman Sssssssssssssss...Sustainability and Sex! - My show today highlights an amazing human being, Trathen Heckman.  He is a visionary who takes backyard projects and brings them to the community and beyond.  He will share how he wildly succeeded in the 350... Sssssssssssssss...Sustainability and Sex! My show today highlights an amazing human being, Trathen Heckman.  He is a visionary who takes backyard projects and brings them to the community and beyond.  He will share how he wildly succeeded in the 350 garden challenge earlier this year.  His organization, operates by 4 core words...because every choice matters. He is on the first half hour to promote and encourage a vision of a sustainable and healthy world.  And then you get bonus time with Coach Betty sharing her theories of sexual healing for You, your relationships, and the planet. Trathen Heckman, is the Co-Founder of, and Board President of  This mover and shaker walks his sustainble conscious talk, and inspires others to do the same. Listen to this inspiring young man's journey as he awoke to greater consciousness and is now supporting and empowering individuals to "be the change." Hundreds of people participate in his Daily Acts sustainability tours inspiried by "hot-damn-they're-fun" projects. Check out more at Listen in above! Coach Betty LIVE! clean 55:55
CoachBettyLIVE #105 – Music from France with Fa7 and Ti Harmon Sat, 04 Dec 2010 03:11:23 +0000 Admin This show was inspirational for me.  I had the pleasure of talking to musicians in France about their perspectives and stories with the healing power of music. Fa7 (Fabrice Mareau) and Ti Harmon had encouraging thoughts about how we can make this world a better place to live through music.

Fa7 is a musician and artist in France and travels extensively visiting Europe then Africa, making friends in passage with people of all social and geographical origins. His guitar and his song writing are his expression and vision for how to assist healing the world which encircles it.

His unique music is composed in nature, and varies depending on the landscapes.  Tune into his CD “La Brise” to hear the sounds of the water in Guadeloupe, and the sounds of the stones in France.  See if you can feel into where he composed it.

Always nomadic mind…learn more about Fa7, his music, and his world projects on MySpace/Fa7Music.

Ti (pronounced tai) Harmon is originally from Philadelphia. She began singing at the age of five, when she was the first to eagerly volunteer for the solo in her kindergarten Christmas concert. She has since honed her skills performing in New York, Madrid, and Paris. After completing her theatre studies at New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts, she founded Rize Theatre and Dance Company. She then moved to Madrid where she decided to focus on music.

She now calls upon the total of her experiences to find her unique musical universe: a sweet Jazz mixed with Soul, Folk, and Blues.

The band consists of Ti Harmon (Voice/Songwriter), Germain Guyot (Paino/Songwriter), Thomas Hugenel (Bass/Songwriter), Stephane Berti (Guitar), and Martin Wangermée (Drums). The group has been working together for over a year and combines styles and creative ideas to arrive at their distinct sound. The group debuted its project at the Fronteny Jazz Festival in August 2009.

To learn more, and listen in to Ti’s music, go to

The whole show can be heard above.

]]> 0 Caona Women of Soul,Fa7,Fabrice Mareau,healing power of music,The Natural Healers,Ti Harmon This show was inspirational for me.  I had the pleasure of talking to musicians in France about their perspectives and stories with the healing power of music. Fa7 (Fabrice Mareau) and Ti Harmon had encouraging thoughts about how we can make this world... This show was inspirational for me.  I had the pleasure of talking to musicians in France about their perspectives and stories with the healing power of music. Fa7 (Fabrice Mareau) and Ti Harmon had encouraging thoughts about how we can make this world a better place to live through music. Fa7 is a musician and artist in France and travels extensively visiting Europe then Africa, making friends in passage with people of all social and geographical origins. His guitar and his song writing are his expression and vision for how to assist healing the world which encircles it. His unique music is composed in nature, and varies depending on the landscapes.  Tune into his CD "La Brise" to hear the sounds of the water in Guadeloupe, and the sounds of the stones in France.  See if you can feel into where he composed it. Always nomadic mind…learn more about Fa7, his music, and his world projects on MySpace/Fa7Music. Ti (pronounced tai) Harmon is originally from Philadelphia. She began singing at the age of five, when she was the first to eagerly volunteer for the solo in her kindergarten Christmas concert. She has since honed her skills performing in New York, Madrid, and Paris. After completing her theatre studies at New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts, she founded Rize Theatre and