"Relate>Love>Sex: How to have a Hot and Juicy Relationship Opening to the Love Within," is the book Toni De Marco wrote and she is Coach Betty's special guest on this episode. Communication, or lack of communication, is the biggest obstacle in relationships based on Toni's extensive research and international travels leading workshops on the topic.  As her book title states, healthy relationships always begin with turning to self-love. Her experience, research and teachings stress each individual taking 100% responsibility for their own happiness, fulfillment and even orgasms! Listen in to hear some of her secrets to finding the juice and rekindling the communication so that everybody gets what they want and need.  Click the "listen button" below to hear the whole interview, AND some surprising "WHOA BABY" results out of Stanford University on Who are the Happiest People.

Author, Dr. of Metaphysics, trainer and founder of the Wellness & Sexual Healing Centers, Toni De Marco has an extensive background in psychology, metaphysics, and health.  Her training includes having studied with many of the world's leading wellness and Tantra teachers and she, herself, has worked as a teacher, healer and counselor to both individuals and couples for over 30 years. Ms. De Marco was a top cover-girl in her 20's and acted in scores of television commercials and several films at the same time that she was studying many different holistic and healing technologies.  In her 30's Ms. De Marco wrote an acclaimed health and beauty book, The California Way to Natural Beauty, and also started relationship counseling.  In her 40's, Ms. De Marco segued to writing and producing video and television. In her most recent venture into the Video/DVD arena she created Tantric Partner Yoga, along with Tantra trainers, Robert Frey and Lori Grace Star, as a tool to help couples to develop more intimacy in their relationships through sensual partner-yoga. 

Don't miss her September 8th FREE 75 minute telecall on "5 Simple Secrets to a Hot and Juicy Relationship."  Email CoachBetty@CoachBettyLIVE.com to get all the details and a FREE ebook from Toni.  

Learn more about Toni's work at RelateLoveSex.com.

This joke made me laugh out loud given the article I recently wrote on Caregiving.  

Eleven people – ten men and one woman – were hanging onto a rope from a helicopter after a mountain climbing rescue. Before long, the rope began to fray because of their combined weight, so they all agreed that one person should get off – but they couldn't decide which one. Finally, the woman gave a really touching speech, saying how she would give up her life to save the others, because women were used to giving up things for their husbands and children, and giving in to men, and never receiving anything in return. When she finished speaking, all the men started clapping.

How important do you think sex is to your overall health?  

In this episode of CoachBettyLIVE, we open the conversation about the connection between sexual health and overall health.  Women's Health Expert, Karen Carlson, and Coach Betty talk about what a wise nurse practitioner advises her patients on their sexual fulfillment.  Karen suggests that sex is as important as eating and exercise to our health and well being!  Listen to the entire interview below and enjoy a slice of her wisdom of over 18 years of working with women.  Her thoughts directly address this ever-rising issue of womens' sexual dysfunction issues.

CoachBettyLIVE with Karen Carlson – click here

Karen discusses the three most common complaints regarding sexual satisfaction and fulfillment:  pain, dryness, and lack of desire.  Karen empowers them to talk to their partner, as it has been documented that women don't talk to friends or family about their sexual experiences which leaves many women left uncertain about what to expect during sex.  

Karen Carlson is a highly skilled, well respected primary care nurse practitioner treating adults at the University of Washington's Women's Health Care Center on the Roosevelt campus. One of Karen's gift is to provide a safe, compassionate and holistic approach to discussing all health issues with her women patients.  She is one of only 3-5 % of health care providers that talk with women about sexual satisfaction!!

She is also clinical faculty and preceptor for nurse practitioner students from the University of Washington's School of Nursing, and clinical preceptor for medical students at the University of Washington's School of Medicine.  We are so fortunate to have her expertise and compassion teaching others.

I know how fortunate we are to have Karen's expertise in the world, because she and I have been best friends for over 40 years!!

I am stunned and amazed with all I am learning about the health benefits of having regular sex.   NOTE:  I am talking about healthy, loving and consensual sex.

This is just in from Scotland, Edinburgh Hospital.

Dr. David Weeks studied 3,500 Americans and Europeans from ages 18-102, and found that only 25% of youthful looks is due to genetics.  The rest of youthful looks is related to behavior.  When he examined sexual behavior, he reports that having sex 3 times a week can make you look a decade younger.

Check out the whole article, Vitamin S:  Monogamous, Safe Sex a Super Potent Package of Health Boosting Effects.

Sex as a healing modality is ancient wisdom, and also available to us without cost.  We carry this healing power around with us wherever we go.

First step to fabulous sex is to fall in love with yourself!

Try this experiment:

Pause, Look in the Mirror, and ask “Who Loves Ya Baby?”

This show was inspirational for me.  I had the pleasure of talking to musicians in France about their perspectives and stories with the healing power of music. Fa7 (Fabrice Mareau) and Ti Harmon had encouraging thoughts about how we can make this world a better place to live through music.

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Fa7 is a musician and artist in France and travels extensively visiting Europe then Africa, making friends in passage with people of all social and geographical origins. His guitar and his song writing are his expression and vision for how to assist healing the world which encircles it.

His unique music is composed in nature, and varies depending on the landscapes.  Tune into his CD “La Brise” to hear the sounds of the water in Guadeloupe, and the sounds of the stones in France.  See if you can feel into where he composed it.

Always nomadic mind…learn more about Fa7, his music, and his world projects on MySpace/Fa7Music.

Ti (pronounced tai) Harmon is originally from Philadelphia. She began singing at the age of five, when she was the first to eagerly volunteer for the solo in her kindergarten Christmas concert. She has since honed her skills performing in New York, Madrid, and Paris. After completing her theatre studies at New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts, she founded Rize Theatre and Dance Company. She then moved to Madrid where she decided to focus on music.

She now calls upon the total of her experiences to find her unique musical universe: a sweet Jazz mixed with Soul, Folk, and Blues.

The band consists of Ti Harmon (Voice/Songwriter), Germain Guyot (Paino/Songwriter), Thomas Hugenel (Bass/Songwriter), Stephane Berti (Guitar), and Martin Wangermée (Drums). The group has been working together for over a year and combines styles and creative ideas to arrive at their distinct sound. The group debuted its project at the Fronteny Jazz Festival in August 2009.

To learn more, and listen in to Ti’s music, go to www.myspace.com/tiharmon.

The whole show can be heard above.

My special guest, Rebecca Costa, is a sociobiologist whose unique expertise is to spot and explain emerging trends in relationship to human evolution, global markets, and new technologies. A thought-leader and provocative new voice in the mold of Jared Diamond, Thomas Friedman and Malcolm Gladwell, Costa is part biologist, psychologist and entrepreneur, whose insights result from examining the “big picture.” Her successful career identifying global trends, combined with her keen ability to perceive the unifying concept within diverse and interrelated fields, uniquely qualify her to present a multi-disciplinarian approach to complex, systemic issues affecting our world today.   And if that is too serious for you, Bob Banner will be on the show to share laughter yoga. How and Why it works to help us heal.

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Rebecca Costa is a sociobiologist whose unique expertise is to spot and explain emerging trends in relationship to human evolution, global markets, and new technologies. A thought-leader and provocative new voice in the mold of Jared Diamond, Thomas Friedman and Malcolm Gladwell, Costa is part biologist, psychologist and entrepreneur, whose insights result from examining the “big picture.” Her successful career identifying global trends, combined with her keen ability to perceive the unifying concept within diverse and interrelated fields, uniquely qualify her to present a multi-disciplinarian approach to complex, systemic issues affecting our world today.  To learn more www.rebeccacosta.com or www.watchmansrattle.com, call her at 831-620-1505 or 831-521-9150, or email her at rebeccacosta@yahoo.com.

To learn more about the brain excercises that Rebecca talked about go to PositScience.com.

We lost our connection with Bob Banner so Coach Betty shared some stories from the movie “Laughology” which Bob will talk more about when he is on the show on December 14, 2010.

Did you know?

• children laugh 300 times a day and adults only 15
• laughter was the original peace signal
• The Laughing Doctor in Mumbai, India stopped practicing medicine because he found laughter was more healing
• laughing regularly helps you live 8+ years longer
• laughter is a natural anti-depressant

More about the healing benefits of laughter in December with Bob Banner…tune in live to hear more on Tuesday, December 14th at 12:00 (noon).  For now…enjoy the first CoachBettyLIVE with Rebecca Costa and Coach Betty by listening to the audio above.

It was my great pleasure and honor to interview my traveling companion and co-producer of the “Living an Organic & Orgasmic Life” tour, Yvette Summers.

The Natural Healers

We have been on this amazing European adventure for the last 3 months, and together practicing the mindset of “living an organic and orgasmic life.” Yvette is the most positive person I have ever met in my life, and I have watched her lift the spirits of everyone she meets. In this interview, I explored with her how she stays so happy and upbeat. I have observed as she spreads her love and laughter wherever she goes. On this podcast, she also shares the amazing story behind the collaboration of “The Natural Healers.”  Listen in…

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Yvette Summers

Yvette is a musicologist and percussionist who has worked with Grammy Award Winning artists, Herbie Hancock, Bill Summers, and Los Hombres Calientes, to name a few. Her exotic and sensual dancing and singing will uplift your spirits and make you feel good. Her background includes studying with Master Percussionists from all over the world. Her knowledge of the African Diaspora allows her to take you on a journey including the cultures of Brazil, Cuba and New Orleans.

To learn more about Yvette and “The Natural Healers” go to www.myspace.com/yvettesummers and www.myspace.com/thenaturalhealers.

This special podcast captures a few moments backstage with Simon Bartholomew and Jan Kincaid from “The Brand New Heavies.” Listen in to see what they have to say about the healing powers of music.

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Coach Betty and Simon Bartholomew

Simon Bartholomew, guitarist to ‘The Brand New Heavies‘ is a modern day renaissance man of many talents and interests. One fan has described Bartholomew’s guitar playing as: “a timely late 90s reminder that the guitar can be a delicately versatile tool, percussive and fluid as required…” However, this is not the only talent that Bartholomew possesses; his dexterity goes far beyond the mere strings of a guitar. Since forming ‘The Heavies’ (as he affectionately likes to call then) with school mates Andrew and Jay, Bartholomew has been involved in numerous other bands including ‘Akimbo’ and ’1ibear’, both of whom are from the same acid jazz genre. Surprisingly, however, when asked what his own musical influences are Bartholomew discloses that he is secretly a bit of a rocker. To learn more about Simon, read more: www.myspace.com/sybarmy#ixzz0utHkz99K

Jan Kincaid and Yvette Summers

A pioneer of the London Acid Jazz scene, Jan Kincaid translated his love for the funk grooves of the seventies into a sophisticated sound championing classic soul in an era dominated by Hip-Hop. The Brand New Heavies was originally an instrumental unit inspired by the James Brown and Meters records its members heard while clubbing the Rare Groove scene in vogue at the time.

When Jan played live in the USA he hypnotised audiences that hadn’t seen a live drummer in a long time, but especially impressed were the rap community who saw a drummer playing grooves that rappers would usually sample from old 70′s records. Legendary R&B artist Ray Charles was so impressed with the BNHs that he invited the band to play his 50th anniversary in the music biz.