Coach Betty offers up a perspective on fear that may expand your mind AND make you less fearful. When you are fearful, you are not able to love yourself…all your energy is taken up with the fear response…brain power compromised…muscles tense…disconnected to spirit…not to mention it doesn’t feel good.

Check out this short Views You Can Use segment, and see if you can’t redesign your fear. I can guarantee it is worth the effort…

My approach to healing involves using what we have available. I will continue to explore the research on the healing powers of our own bodies, including sex…it lives within us. Check out interviews, WOA Babies (news sounds bites), and Views You Can Use Segments from 2009 and you will hear a strong argument for the healing powers of sex. We even have scientific evidence that a healthy sex life is good for our hearts and immune systems. Pleasurable and loving sex shows protection against cancers, and lower rates of depression.

So then…it is a WOA BABY that…

“Thirty-two percent of women and 15% of men lacked sexual interest for several months within the last year.” (Laumann EO, Paik A. Rosen RC. Sexual dysfunction in the United States: Prevalene and Predictors. JAMA 1999;281:537-544).

All that healing power going to waste…

Listen to this two minute WOA Baby, and let Coach Betty inspire you to have “More HEALTHY Sex” in 2010 for the sake of bringing more self-love to the planet. How about THAT?

She writes:

“Imagine a land where love is the guiding principle, where one’s consciousness and connection to Earth is the ultimate goal.  A land where miracles are commonplace and spontaneous healings, connections, and a clear understanding of one’s life journey are natural occurrences.“

Experience Gateway 2 Ranch in British Columbia, through the upcoming interview with Liz on Wednesday, April 15th. This ranch is home to crystals, vortexes, and natural flora and fauna as well as author Liz and her husband, and their fifteen horses. In this pristine setting, all things properly align for the highest earthly vision human beings can possibly experience.

Liz Mitten Ryan

Check out LlizMittenRyan.com/info for more details and then listen to next week’s Green Think episode.

An amazing story awaits you…

Adee shares her story of how she made the first meeting with Coach Betty turn collaborative.  Her philosophy is people with similar visions working together is what makes change happen, but that wasn’t her first thought.

What do we need to admit to before we can truly collaborate with each other?  Listen in and find out.

To contact Adee:

Adee Swanson
www.adeeswanson.com
(707) 328-6026

One of Christine’s core values is FUN so you can have a blast working with Christine and end up with a job you love.  Not bad…it is what we at Women on Air want for you.  Let the path be at least half the fun.

If you are one of the 15 million + out of a job, listen in and see how you too can come into your own with your career.  Check out Christine’s website at:

www.balancingyourcareer.com

Women on Air encourage you to look at your relationships and see which ones need some inside out cleaning up. Listen to Giles personal story of how she handled it.

Enjoy!

Note the disturbing news about our planet and the honeybees in this conversation with the Dirt Diva. Stop and take notice news…we call that WOA Baby News (Women on Air = WOA). Learn what you can do to begin to turn the tide of honeybees disappearing from our earth.

We all need to step into our queen bee-ness and help bring nature back to its poetic balance.

Valuable websites with information are:

www.dirtdiva.com

www.ourwaterourworld.org

Also, for a free diagnosis of a plant or pest, contact your local Master Gardener desk. Bring your specimen to the main office and they’ll suggest the least toxic way to solve the problem. Find Master Gardeners in most cities across the US at the American Horticultural Society at www.ahs.org.

More news on the peace and balance of organic gardening coming soon…

Don’t miss this opportunity to get a bargain and begin the new year on a positive note.  Call now to book your coaching/re-design consults at the lowest prices we have ever offered.  Redesign certificates also make great gifts.  The Today Show announced that life coaching is the best holiday gift you can give this year.  Add a room re-design to that, and you have a gift that will last for years and years to come…can’t beat that.

Call now (707) 762-0962.

Stay tuned!

Check out this 7 minute podcast as Coach Betty and Giles explore how to embrace the state of “I don’t know.”  It is an authentic place that we as humans ,who hate to fail and not know, such a hard time going.  Their conversation may open you up to new ways to handle that uncertain feeling.

The bottom line is that nobody ever knows what is coming next.  So many in the world feel that way right now with their jobs, homes, and where life is headed.  The good news is that this chaos makes it an ideal time to design where you want your life to go…from the inside out.

The Today Show recently featured coaching as the perfect holiday gift.  Coaching was cited as one of the growth professions for the next decade, for good reason.  Coaches collaborate with their clients to find the deep meaning in their lives and then find the most efficient, effective and user-friendly method there is to get them there.

Consider calling Coach Betty (415) 328-1724 or Giles for an inside redesign that will help you find your clarity in the midst of the chaos.  I don’t know, coaching may just be the answer we need to make the needed positive changes in our world.

Enjoy!

Download Audio: idontknow-web.mp3

Check out this 7 minute podcast as Coach Betty and Giles explore how to embrace the state of “I don’t know.”  It is an authentic place that we as humans ,who hate to fail and not know, such a hard time going.  Their conversation may open you up to new ways to handle that uncertain feeling.

The bottom line is that nobody ever knows what is coming next.  So many in the world feel that way right now with their jobs, homes, and where life is headed.  The good news is that this chaos makes it an ideal time to design where you want your life to go…from the inside out.

The Today Show recently featured coaching as the perfect holiday gift.  Coaching was cited as one of the growth professions for the next decade, for good reason.  Coaches collaborate with their clients to find the deep meaning in their lives and then find the most efficient, effective and user-friendly method there is to get them there.

Consider calling Coach Betty (415) 328-1724 or Giles for an inside redesign that will help you find your clarity in the midst of the chaos.  I don’t know, coaching may just be the answer we need to make the needed positive changes in our world.

Enjoy!

Download Audio: idontknow-web.mp3

Listen to this 10 minute podcast for some fun thoughts about how becoming curious in life opens your heart.

Coach Betty and Giles explore using the skill of genuine curiosity and the impact it has in the world. Coach Betty and Giles are both certified life coaches who have studied the skill and art of being curious from the inside out in their training and with their private coaching practices.

To learn more about coaching, check out www.coachbetty.com.

What do you discover when you are genuinely curious?

Download Audio: curiosity-web2.mp3

Last Sunday evening, I made the decision to euthanize my trusted companion, Lacey dog.  She was a border collie mix we rescued 10 years ago beginning at the wee young age of 5 weeks old (see photo below).  She was a quiet puppy barely chewing anything except the crotches of our underwear, a bazaar but common puppy habit.  Coupled with that charming trait was the joy of eating cat poop and horse manure…our reassurance Lace was indeed not of the human species.  Other than those less than appetizing behaviors, Lace grew into my life as an “almost-human” member.

I am sure the “Dog Whisperer” would not approve of my choice to let her sleep under the covers with me after the separation from my husband…eight years ago.  But oh how good it felt with her warm furry body laying next to me – she was the perfect size to curl right up inside my legs like an extra blanket for my calves and thighs.

It was so much more than warmth though…it was the unconditional love that rolled into that curve of my body.  I do believe it might be the purest love on the planet.  And once you have experienced that feeling of unconditional love and the being who gave it to you is gone…well, there is an emptiness that feels so deep and cavernous and at the same time your breath is so shallow it will not go past your chest.  Note: I am once again breathing, but it has taken a conscious focus, a dance class, and moving and meditating daily.

Lacey was absolutely without a doubt, the most perfect animal for me.  She protected me and snuggled with me (most of the time) keeping me warm and safe.  She would bark at every visitor to my door, and then settle quietly in the corner when she knew it was safe.  She would sit looking away from our campsite or beach site guarding us at all times.  When my daughter, Rebecca,  would be at my home during our co-parenting days, Lace would go to sleep with her because of her night fears.  She would usually get up in the middle of the night to come back and sleep with me though.  It was always a victory for Rebecca when Lace spent the whole night with her.  She would lie on my feet quietly (well not so quietly as she aged) breathing which always felt so soothing to me.  The first time I took her to the vet, she told me Lace would be “low maintenance” and she lived up to the prediction completely.

She was a proud watchdog who hated anyone fussing over her or paying special attention when they were worried about her.  So when she began growing tumors, I did one surgery and said “no more.”  The tumor turned out to be malignant.  Rebecca and I agreed that she would hate to hang on and go thru treatments of any kind.  When her cancer showed up on her rear end, the grief of making that excruciating decision was before me.  How much pain is the right amount of pain?

Opening to the power of choosing to, either be humane and loving by putting her down while she still barked at our visitors or keeping her alive until the pain got so bad she could not follow her instincts,  was the feeling of grief from the inside out.  I understand why so many do not make the choice to let them go.  We want to hold onto all that unconditional love for every possible moment.

Lacey’s gift to me was to show me what pure love could be.  Thanks, Lace.

For those of you that have read my cathartic expression of grief, I thank you.  Relaying this experience so vulnerably keeps me in my truth…and truth is a path to inner peace.

Blessing to all the creatures in the world.

RIP Lacey-girl.

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Stay tuned for more on that and other great interviews coming up in November and December!

Nature reflects life…once we get past our barriers, then life begins to flow.  Enjoy whatever beauty surrounds you today.  Life is lived in the moments…make some beautiful moments by noticing your surroundings.

Check out these additional shots of the Rogue River (below).  Bring the beauty and peace of nature to your inside today…these shots are a reminder that all is well in the world…how is your river of life flowing today?

Women on Air have another radio show broadcast coming up the end of November with special guests Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell, evolutionary behaviorists who have written a fascinating book “Redefining Seduction.”

Stay tuned!

On this monumental day of electing the next President of the United States, I am reminded of the responsibility of our choices. Please vote and exercise your right to choose who will lead us into the future. It is no secret that Women on Air are voting for Barack Obama. We strongly believe that this man has the skills to collaborate with the experts AND the people of the US, and nurture this country back to health. GO OBAMA!!!

The inside tip for today is to stop…enjoy these photos of Grants Pass and the Rogue River…let it remind you of the beautiful world we live in. Take at least 30 seconds 3 times today to notice your world…the sights, sounds, smells…observe your feelings and thoughts without judgement. Although you may feel uneasy and eager today…I can promise you that if you integrate this practice of silence in your life, it is the path to inner peace.  It is only 1-1/2 minutes of your day…try it!

Thursday, we will post another conversation with Giles AND two yummy recipes for Autumn…stay tuned…

Blessings to all…those who win and those who lose today.

Stay tuned!

What to Do with a Mess Like This?

I suggest taking an empty laundry basket and move around your home and just start picking up all the piles and things that are not in their place and put them in the basket.  Go from room to room and do not take time to distribute all the items.  You have to centralize this operation and the launhdry basket now becomes the ‘distribute’ box.  If you have the urge to leave the room to put something away, DON’T.  Put it in the ‘distribute’ box instead, and then carry it along to the next stop.  Advise the inhabitants of your household that they have 24 hours to clarim their things from the ‘distribute’ contrainer or it will be purged.

Purge with a Purpose

When deciding to purge an item, the real acid test question is:  Will anything happen if I toss it away? Unless, it has some legal ramifications, go ahead and throw it away!

Most people in our part of the world are buried in a daily inflow of information and have an excess of ‘stuff’.  Some are better than others at managing their things and some are hoarders.  Oprah recently did a segment with a women who was a hoarder and had 75 tons of stuff, yes, tons, removed from her household so she could live a normal life.  Her husband was keeping bank statements and receipts that were more than 35 years old!  This was an extremem case of not being able to let go of things or purge.

A Place for Things and Everything in its Place

I find it really handy to have containers or place baskets at entries to put shoes in if you don’t have a nearby closet.  Have a dedicated basket for school papers that need to be signed.  A container for your mail and a basket and shredder next to it are ideal for quickly getting rid of junk mail.

I like to save the nice heavy department store shopping bags with handles and put them in my closets and next to my son’s chest of drawers.  As he grows out of clothes that are still useable to someone else, they go into the donate box.  Letting go of things and giving them to people who can use them makes the world a better place.  Remember, one of our sayings…Goodwill vs. Landfill.

Back to School – Back to YOU

As you organize your house with all these great tips from Leslie, your life can also be de-cluttered from the schedules of summer with the kids.

How do you re-discover YOU?

Back to you starts with de-cluttering your thoughts from coordinating and planning for others’ needs (kids, family vacations, summer camps, visits from/to relatives, etc.).  When my daughter, who is now 19 and living independently year round, use to go back to school I would find my body and mind needing some extra down time to catch my breath and check in with me.  This was my first summer without her, AND I now have time to write about my experience.  I recommend (and you may have heard me say it before) taking 30 seconds of silence to breathe at least 3 times per day.  Note your thoughts without judgement and say hello to your body.

Purge Inside Too

When you have noticed your thoughts, you may find that it is thinking that does not serve you…negativity. John Gottman, in his marriage research, shows that relationships need a 5-1 ratio of positivity to negativity to be successful.  Positivity starts on the inside.  Negative thoughts are USELESS and it’s time to say bye bye if it is self-critical or self-sabotaging in any way.   Read Byron Katie (anything by her) or “Excuse me, Your Life is Waiting.”  by Lynn  Grabhorn to get some funny and insightful thoughts on how to generate positivity in your life.

Containers for Your Thoughts

One container I often use with my clients is the Gremlin container.  Your gremlins are the voices of self-sabotage and negative thinking that we ALL carry with us.  There is a great book “Taming Your Gremlins,” by Richard Carsen.  He even has a Taming Your Gremlins Institute where corporate executives learn how to put those bad thoughts in cages.  When you notice the self-bashing routine, play with putting those thoughts in a Gremlin container.  I had a creative client that actually made clay figures to represent her Gremlins and would take the figures, verbally tell them they were not needed, and set them in a drawer or box.  Letting go of negative thoughts is one of the greatest contributions to your inner peace AND World Peace.

“You haven’t been taking care of yourself; you’ve been taking care of your money. I’ll take care of myself after I have enough money, after I get it secured. I’ll be happy then. And ‘then’ never comes.” This is a quote from Byron Katie’s book that is on our list.

These books offer new perspectives to help you ReDesign Your Life From the Inside Out.

Question Your Thinking – Change the World – Quotations from Byron Katie

Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting by Lynn Grabhorn

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

The Age of Miracles by Marianne Williamson

The Shack by William P. Young

Happy Reading!

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What a blast!  It was Betty’s 53rd birthday and we spent the day at KGO studios (ABC) in San Francisco.
It was gulpy action from start to finish as the producer redesigned the script right up until showtime.   to increase the stress, there was no rehearsal either.  We called that a WOA Baby!

It was not an opportunity we pursued, but it was handed to us and we grabbed it.  We learned so much about our own human nature as we instantly berated our performance as we walked off the set.  It is unbelievable how fast those Gremlins attacked.  We observed it from the humorous viewpoint and got tons of laughs about the whole experience.  Everyone we met at KGO was so welcoming and helpful, including the weatherman Spencer Christian who is truly a gentleman.

Like any TV Diva stars would, we finished the day off with a mani/pedi and dinner at one of our local favs.

Form Follows Feelings:
A Four Step Guide

Step 1:  Clearing

On the inside, “clearing” means to stop the treadmill of life and give the mind a break from all superficial distractions.  We check in with our daily choices to make sure they align with our desires, and with who we are.  “What is important and meaningful in my life, and how am I positively expressing that?”

In the same way that changing a seating arrangement shifts the energy in a living room, we also need to clear our thoughts and rearrange our emotions to create deeper awareness. The added value of clearing is that it creates a clean slate and additional space for the next beautiful transformation!  It’s up to each of us to redesign the life we lead, into the life we “desire”, regardless of where we are on life’s path.  “Who do I want to be?  How can I just be happy with who I am right now?”  These are questions to consistently ask and answer from a place of awareness.

Coach Betty recommends taking 30 seconds of complete silence at least 3 times a day to start the process of clearing out the mind and discovering what lies beneath the surface.

The first step of the “outside” redesign process is to clear the room of all the existing furnishings. Yes, it’s absolutely necessary to do this!  Take everything out of the room. This includes artwork, furniture, lighting and all accessories. Most people think they can skip this step and just start moving their furnishings around. However, clearing the room completely provides you with a fresh new perspective that is no longer attached to the way the room looked before.

Start by removing the smallest items first and finishing with the largest.  As you move items out of the room, it is a good idea to place similar items together  in a designated “holding area.”

Grouping items into categories makes redesigning the space much easier, and allows you to see the room’s common themes expressed through artwork, collections, and family photos. You can also organize items according to types of finishes, for example wood, ceramic, crystal, or iron.

Whew!  The mind gets cleared, and the room gets cleared…it feels better already.

Step 2:  Assessing

Everyone carries a defining uniqueness.  We all have strengths, and experience moments in which our magnificence shines.  It’s true for every single person.  In the same way that we resonate with natural focal points in a room, we also resonate on the inside with our innate attributes.  Imagine the positivity we each contribute to the world when we are living and BEing present with our inner strengths.  Building on what works well in life is not only more fun, it also attracts an abundance of opportunities. BEing with our individual magnificence actually realigns the planet as a whole back into harmony.    As Marion Williamson says, who are we Not to be brilliant, talented, gorgeous and successful???”

Clearing the room of clutter gives you a new perspective; you now see a space full of possibility, and can assess its architectural highlights. Notice the windows and other sources of natural light. From what direction is light shining?  What are the natural and created focal points in the room?  What positive feature makes it unique — for example, a large picture window, a fireplace, or a bank of windows. The purpose for identifying the focal point is to anchor the main conversation area, which helps determine where to place the largest piece of furniture.  This is also a good time to examine the angles of the walls, and  how they connect with the floor to determine the shape of the room. Is it L-shaped, rectangular, or square?  After assessing the space and shape of the room you can determine a seating arrangement for the furniture that is most conducive to conversation.

Step 3:  Discover

When working with clients, we incorporate an exercise called the “wheel of life” into the work, which assesses the current balance of how things are flowing.  The wheel provides a visual perspective of the current state of affairs, and assesses your satisfaction within various areas of life, such as work, family, money, health, social life, etc.  Once you see the shape of your individual wheel and its life patterns, you can target which patterns no longer serve you and can be released, and which patterns need to be altered or changed to better support you. “What old grudge or resentment can I release?”  So many discoveries emerge, without even leaving your home!

Before returning any furniture back into the room, it’s time to “shop your home for treasures.”  The idea of shopping at home may sound like an oxymoron, but it’s actually a great technique for transforming something “old” into a fresh look  without spending a lot of money. So search your attic, basement, and storage areas for objects you may have forgotten about or overlooked.

After shopping the house, start your redesign by bringing back the largest piece of furniture (for example, the sofa) into the room.  Try placing the sofa at different angles, or set away from a wall, which can make the room feel more spacious.  Placing a large piece of furniture in a different position can dramatically change the room’s focal point and energy.  Next arrange smaller furnishings around the focal point to create your seating arrangement.  Experiment with trial and error, and try out L-shaped or U-shaped arrangements, depending on which is most conducive to conversation given the shape of the room. Open up to the arranging process, and let it be a dynamic one.  Keep making changes until the room looks and ‘feels’ right.  Remember form follows feelings…

Try on new perspectives.  We all resist change, and yet every day we encounter an ever-changing world.  Come on ladies, get away from that wall and step out into the room.  BE the focal point in your life!

Step 4:  Illuminate

How do we light up inside?  It’s easy to tell when a woman is feeling her beauty because she glows from the inside out.  She radiates magnificence and it shows.  Ironically for most women, stepping into our own magnificence is our deepest fear However, we join Marianne Williamson in believing that when we let our lights shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same  Come forward in your natural power to manifest the beauty within you and your surroundings.  This will contribute positively to the planet and allow you to feel in harmony with it all.

In redesign, we often repurpose a piece of furniture; for example, the use of an antique trunk as a coffee table.  We can do the same in life — change direction and repurpose our talents and life patterns to create a new style whenever we choose.  We are only limited by our imaginations. When we consciously design our lives around the unique and beautiful beings we are on the inside, the world sees our internal “wow” factor.  And the world is dying for that to come forth!

The final step in redesigning your external space is to add lighting and personality to the room; let the space speak volumes about the people living in it. This is accomplished with family pictures, heirlooms, and unique collections arranged artistically. For example, pick up a piece of artwork or an artifact off the floor, and try hanging it on the wall.  The artwork is featured in a new way, and the wall increased its visual appeal.

Lighting, along with color, is a key factor in setting the mood of a room.  The ideal arrangement includes three lights placed in a triangular pattern throughout the room. Position them close enough to furniture groupings so that lighting is equally distributed in the space.  Use different types of lighting — table lamps, floor lamps, ambient lighting, up lighting, down lighting.  Mirrors, when strategically placed are also a good source of light when reflecting a nearby lighting fixture.

When we consciously design our lives around the unique and beautiful beings we are on the inside, the world sees our internal “wow” factor.  And the world is dying for that to come forth!

So there you have it… 4 easy steps.
Clear, Assess, Discover and Illuminate your home and your life and you will feel the peace, passion and pleasure you deserve. May you find it now!

Step 2 in the re-design process is about assessing what you learned in step 1. Once we stop long enough to see what is going on beneath the surface (remember the practice of 30 seconds of silence 5 times a day focusing on the breath), then we can take a good look at what we see and feel.

In re-designing your inside world, it is key to become aware of what natural talents and skills are within you.   Just as with a room design where you build the room around natural focal points, so it goes with the inside.  You build your life around your strengths.  If you are feeling positive in your life overall, then you have probably done this.  If you feel negativity and can’t get your life on track, then chances are your life is built around created focal points – not always in our best interest. We get to choose the focal points that will best serve us.

Your call to action, should you choose to accept it, is to take 5 minutes every night to write down what focal points you built your day around and how they made you feel (without judgement of any kind).  What do you notice?  This is not about regrets or misgivings about how you have lived your life so far.  In every moment, we have the opportunity to turn things around.

When our lives reflect our natural talents/skills (focal points), we increase our peace leading to a life of passion and pleasure!  Then you can create additional focal points to support who you are at your core.  That is exactly what we want for you.  Email  Betty at bettylouise@womenonair.biz if that inner peace is elusive.

Stay tuned for so much more coming up…things are really flying on air now.

If you have been exploring the inside tip from last week by taking 30 seconds of silence at least 5 times a day, you will have begun to experience the de-cluttering process of the mind.  If your mind has been unable to stop during those 30 seconds…it is similar to having so much stuff piled up in a room in your house, you do not know where to begin to clean.  And just as you start from the beginning with the clearing out of a room, you start from the beginning on the inside too…this week, during your 30 seconds…focus on your breathing…inhale…exhale…inhale….exhale…that is all…let’s start from the beginning.

Happy Spring Cleaning of the mind!

STOP and focus on your breath for 30 seconds.

The first step to re-designing your life from the inside out is to CLEAR (your thoughts on the inside and the room on the outside).     This key first step creates the enviornment for a life of peace, passion and pleasure.  There are several ways to approach the clearing step.  We are devoting the entire month of May to ideas and perspectives on clearing from the inside out.    Please let me know if YOU have ideas for how to effectively clear out your mind/thoughts/brain…email me your suggestions at bettylouise@womenonair.biz.

Call to action for the week…take 30 seconds at least 5 times throughout the day to stop, breathe, and imagine your thoughts melting away.  Practice this often and you will find less stress and more clarity…this takes 2-1/2 minutes of your day.  Do you have that much time in your day to help increase peace, passion and pleasure?

One step at a time…

There is so much new hope on the horizon for 2008…there is a momentum of change in the air.  Join forces with Women on Air to help propel that change in a positive direction one step at a time.

Women on Air are taking steps to provide you with a more comprehensive blog…upcoming attractions are podcasts with special guests, more inside out tips, and a new and improved website.   We are taking things one step at a time so you will be hearing from us soon…stay tuned!

Tip

Give simply of yourself this holiday season…a smile on the outside equals a warm heart on the inside.

Tis the season to give, to spend, to shop and to party til you drop.  Why not give away and spend time on things that are really meaningful…our time or random acts of kindness?  Is there any reason that we should have a season or a special time for giving?  To wait for the holidays to practice random acts of kindness is a bit ridiculous, isn’t it?  And to demonstrate that Women on Air are not perfect yet, we have the following tale for you.

Betty Louise and I recently acknowledged the ringer of the Salvation Army bell, Veronica, outside the post office.  We both independently gave her a dollar because “it was the holidays.”  We then splurged for coffee and bought Veronica a hot chocolate.   Now Veronica won’t be there all year round, but there will be others to replace her throughout the year.

What do you do when people are asking you for help?  Do you pretend they are not there and keep walking?  Do you avoid a homeless person’s eyes and then feel guilty?  How about trying something different when you feel uncomfortable with people in need?  Our recipe for being a giver is the following three steps:

1) Be aware of your giving nature

2) Watch for the opportunity to extend some kindness to someone you see

3) Then,  just take an extra moment and DO IT….

It doesn’t matter if you give the person 50 cents or a cup of hot cocoa.  Try acknowledging the person.  At a minimum, look them in the eye and smile.  It will surprise you…the gift you receive back.  As Veronica reminded us with a big smile on her face…”You just bolstered my spirit.”

And now for the give-away as promised…stay tuned to an email inspiration from Women on Air later this week…if you are the 3rd person to email back you receive the gift of one month coaching (3-1/2 hour phone sessions) with Coach Betty (Betty Louise).  Stay tuned for more give-aways…we will be giving all year long.

Thanks for tuning into our blog, and remember…Being the real YOU is the best gift you can give.

When you find yourself saying the same negative things over and over, hearing the same nagging message or experiencing the same self-defeating behavior, it is a signal for you to make a change.

What we are really talking about here is cycling.  Cycling, as we define it, is a bit like insanity…doing the same thing over and over expecting a different outcome.  We are cycling when we are caught in the rodent wheel of life going around and around without getting anywhere.  In our culture, this is common because we are often driven by money and fear and this in turn creates more vicous cycles. We often don’t even recognize what cycle we are caught up in. (And BTW, we create these cycles! look for a tip on this…)

I (Leslie )received a call from the school psychologist regarding my son Carter’s inability to focus in the classroom. He attends 5th grade and for the past six years I have received this same type of call  to discuss Carter’s learning needs.  This is a perfect example of cycling. After six years of experiencing the same issue I am ready to break this cycle, and will find a learning environment that is more conducive to who he is and what will motivate him to want to learn.  There is definitely an inside/outside mismatch with Carter’s unique needs and learning style, and the traditional learning environment of our public schools…an environment where he doesn’t feel successful and never “good enough.”  What I will find for him now is an environment that allows his uniqueness to express itself in his junior high years.

As this example demonstrates, cycles show up in our lives in many different forms; it may be a recurring message like this or maybe you are cycling with wanting to lose weight, or changing a negative behavior or pattern. What is the cycle you want to break through to take your life to the next level inside and out?

Women on Air are here to remind you about the importance of being in harmony with your persona, who you really are, or who you want to become.  We will provide tips and ideas to make sure your external environment supports your internal environment in every way to bring out the greatness that is lurking inside all of us.

Don’t forget to use what you have available –your strength, your awareness, and your courage to break the cycle and discover your greatness.  Coachbetty.com will soon have a CD available for further support in breaking cycles.

Stay tuned………………we are not perfect yet!

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When the outside world represents your true nature, it allows for contentment and peace on the inside.

“We shape our dwellings, and afterwards our dwellings shape us.”  – Winston Churchill

Who would have guessed our inside out tip was inspired by Winston Churchill’s quote? How is your dwelling shaping you?  What does your home say about you?

Sammie, our favorite yappy but lovable Yorkie, has been transformed due to her surroundings and new home.  From an inside pad trained (questionably trained) “diva dog,” she has transformed into an outside fetch dog running after sticks on the trail…and doing her business outside (most of the time).  Sam has come back to her true nature and is living like the dog she is.  She has adjusted to two other dogs (that is Lacey in the picture with Sam) and her food intake has become regulated…the canines run eat, sleep, and play as a pack.  This dwelling shaping has been a very positive thing for our Sammie dog…as our friend, Winston points out…consciously shape your dwelling because it impacts the way you live, the quality of your life, and your peace and contentment.  Take a tip from our Sammie girl, and shape your dwelling to be a reflection of your personal desires (true nature) and what you love most.

Happy Holidays…we are so thankful for all of your support!

Tip

Step 1: Take a moment to look inwards and discover what you are truly desiring and wanting to be fulfilled.  Step 2: Sit with it and feel into what it would be like if the wish was fulfilled. Step 3: Put your best shoes or cowboy boots on, and take one concrete action step after the other.

Sounds easy, eh? We must stop making things so complex and learn to “just BE.” We hear this all the time…how are you doing with it? Just being? This tip emphasizes the need to go inward (steps 1 AND 2). See where you can simplify your life today…start by taking some inward time for yourself…maybe 30 seconds today…

I (Leslie Marie) made a major career change in ’07 and had to go inward to get clear about my desire, my values, and my how I could get all of them in alignment. Once I had the awareness and could envision myself pursuing my passion, the outward step came next. Now it is putting one foot in front of the other and sometimes I trip and sometimes I’m skipping, but I’m glad that I’m moving forward.

We are Women on Air and we work with women who are ready to redesign their lives from the inside out to be a force for change. There is so much awaiting us…

Send us your feedback today and stay tuned for more tips as we move towards the holidays.

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Tip: Walk through your home (inside and out) and clear out all the dead plants and leaves. With the removal of the old brush from your environment, it gives you a place to ponder what you might need to let go of in your inner world.

It is Autumn in California…the leaves are rapidly changing color and falling to the ground. Like Fall we all have different colors, moods and phases. The beauty of this time of year is rich, colorful, and vibrant to experience…what if we could see our moods and phases in this same way?

BL has been letting go of a relationship for the past five months. Her aha’s throughout this period are like the changing colors of the season. This time was rich with learning, colorful and vibrant in its emotional roller coaster, as well as brilliant in the vulnerability of romantic love. Having always been one of the last leaves to fall off the tree, it took me five months to let go of the relationship or the ‘tree” so to speak. Endings evolve when it is time to let go just as the leaves fall when they are ready. Relationships are like the seasons…they change every year whether we want them to or not. What can you do to embrace the changing nature of relationships?

Stay tuned to our tip next week…and remember…We Are Not Perfect…Yet!

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We had a timely Halloween redesign tip typed in the blog and all ready to publish yesterday when the text to the tip vanished into cyberspace. We made several attempts to retrieve it with no success. It was a choice point…do we recreate the tip or let it go? Living in the techno world that we do, this has happened to many of us, and usually at the most inopportune time.

The outside world has information for us all the time. Sometimes we choose to take in the information, ignore it, or take it as a real sign. When you are faced with a choice point, as in our cyberspace example above, ask yourself whether it is worth the internal fight. What would it be like to let it go and know that in some way it just was not meant to be. So we did.

Look for our pictures soon, and know that we had a great story to tell about the Haunted House we created with our Halloween fanfare for some ten year old boys. Maybe the ghosts and goblins we stirred up on Saturday night are getting revenge and decided to make our scary tip vanish into nothingness.

According to TAO philosophy, Who’s to Say What is Good?

As Halloween approaches, BEWARE of your choices. You can either let it glow or let it go.

May the Spirits be with You,

Women on Air

Look for our Tip Next Week: Preparing to Nest for Winter

What if we embraced our dark side?

Redesign tip: Taking 15 minutes a day for an inside out cleaning can give you a large payback for small change.

Watch your thoughts go by…where is your stream of consciousness, where is your focus…keep moving the thoughts through so that your inside world can give you the clarity to become empowered. Just as you do with your closet…what to keep and what to throw away? Will you ever wear those sailor pants again? Judith Warner, in her book “Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety,” explores how the current generation of moms (women) became control freaks. Let’s stop the madness..take your 15 minutes.

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What makes us save the china for company or a holiday?  What makes us put our life on hold?  Betty Louise and Leslie Marie want you to feel special everyday and pull out the good stuff inside and out TODAY!

Dust off china, and serve your family on it tonight.  Watch their reaction.

Uncover the unfulfilled internal desires, and share your dream with at least one other person today.  Watch how it feels.

“Women on Air” are preparing for the upcoming launch of our radio show.  We have already lined up some great guests…experts, specialists and celebrities.  Stay tuned for the podcasts of those interviews and more news on our launch coming right up.  We are smokin!!!!

In preparation for the presentation, we reviewed the research and concluded that we need both male and female leadership in our world.  As a matter of fact it was just cited this week in the news that more women in leadership (holding Board positions) results in more profit…see cnnmoney.com and the Fortune 500 Powerful Women Summit.   

 We have collected much material here in Reno to share with you, from the inside out of course. Speaking of the inside, we are eager to get back home as we are reeling from the neon pink and purple lights EVERYWHERE in the hotel…the Star Trek themed design is hard to take for more than 24 hours.

And as we write this, we see the inside/out tip is…that the outer environment has such a strong impact on our inner ability to function.  We find ourselves holing up in our hotel room looking at the mountains to find some sanity and reality.  We are in an environment with real smoke and mirrors.  Our minds are boggled as we navigate our way through the casino–with the planetary carpet and flashing lights — we search for  elevators to get us back to our safe environment.  Until we get back home to fresh air and nature and our neutral toned carpet, ponder this…

Consider being a role model for a younger woman, someone who could benefit from your experiences, knowledge, successes and failures. This could be a huge force for change…

 We burden ourselves with too many things.  As my daughter is no longer under my roof full time, my female brain’s GPS tracking system has more space for creativity.  Now I find myself contemplating moving from a very large house (4,000 ft.+) without the need for teenage space.  My thoughts move towards simplicity like a small house to rent on the beach, and now bigger is definitely not better. 

Where do we need to reevaluate our living spaces from the inside out? 

Elimate the clutter and edit your personal inventory…what means the most to you? What do you treasure/value?  Leslie Marie always brings out clients’ treasures from  their attics, garages, and stale corners…dusts them off and showcases them in a new light.   Their momentos are rearranged and they fall in love with them again as they are viewed differently;  just as our thoughts/perspectives can be redesigned to support our inner world and relationships. 

Building a relationship is somewhat like buying a house.  We often get taken in by the outside appearance (or curb appeal).  Then we go inside to check out the design of the house and find we don’t like it after all.  This is like relationships.  We often fall into relationships because they have curb appeal…my (Betty Louise) own experience is to be enchanted with a person’s looks, where they live, who they hang with, a deep calming voice (exterior)…then as the relationship progresses, I learn more about their background, values about intimacy, deep-seated fears and what they treasure and hold on to (interior)…now my relationship is somewhat like a home, one that I’m not sure I want to live in.  As I learn, you learn…I am currently in the process of pondering a redesign or moving out of a relationship.   I find myself looking for a co-architect for this redesign project–as it will take two to create the blueprint for this relationship.  Stay tuned for more…

“Women on Air” are back home, but continue to look for updates, insights and many more redesign tips…

We find ourselves at another beautiful beach on the Oregon coast where beachcombing is one of the major activities.  As Leslie Marie (our  trusty retail therapist) examined the shells in a local shop, when she picked one up and a tag saying “Made in India” fell out.  We call that an inside/outside mismatch.  We are all looking for the real thing.  We all want relationships we can count on…does your outside appearance align with your inside self?  If you aren’t sure…stay tuned to womenonair.biz for more tips and insights that will help you to achieve this and more.

Homeward bound tomorrow…

We continue to experience this phenomenon.  As we find beautiful places on the Oregon Coast…we are now in Rockaway Beach listening to the sounds of the ocean and watching the waves roll in,…an inner peace and beauty emerges from the source of you at times like this.  This will help each and every one of us to change the world…the more centered we feel in our own beauty and peacefulness, the more of our essence (why we are on this earth) is present. 

Wherever you may be in your world…find some beauty today and be a reflection of that to those around you.

Let us know how it works by emailing belou70255@comcast.net. 

Moving down the Oregon coast today, enjoying the seaside as  we go, one mile at a time. Stay tuned for where we “land.”

 We are in Seattle, WA on a gorgeous afternoon spending time with my oldest friend’s family on Queen Anne Hill.  Karen and I have been friends for 38 years…we have been through more than half of our life together…if there is anyone who will tell me the truth when I ask for it, it is Karen.  We can not always see what our friends see…they can help us with blind spots and love us through it.    Love yourself and ask for the truth.  We need to begin to develop the muscle of truth with each other…start a force for truth…

 More later as we head to the coast of Oregon for replenishment, strategy and brainstorming time…

 We find ourselves sitting next to the Rogue River where our intuitive maps guided us to this perfect setting for the launch of WOA (“Women on Air”).   We almost checked into a Best Western, and I had a hunch it wasn’t the right place.  After stopping at a fancy fishing lodge to see what magic Ms. Leslie Marie could pull off, we were directed to the Motel Del Rogue accommodating us with a two bedroom place, kitchenette and deck overlooking the Rogue River…GUIDED…hence, tip #1 reminds us to be clear about what you want on the inside and verbalize on the outside. 

 Yesterday, our relationship work focused on my daughter,  at Sacramento State and her new roommate.  They find themselves thrown together from completely different backgrounds (mine, grew up an only child in Novato, CA and her roommate grew up one of eight in Oakland, CA) and now they are living in a  very small dorm room until next May.  How do we get along and understand each other with such diversity?  How can we let go of all the judgements based on our experiences in life to embrace each other’s differences? 

 Re-Design Tip#2:  Clear the clutter (thoughts) housed in your brain…erase any past experience of someone with that name or look…and get curious about who they are.

 Heading to Seattle…check in later for more…

Stay tuned to this blog to learn as we learn,
“Women on Air”
Betty Louise and Leslie Marie

Do you hear that inner voice asking you to take care of yourself? Are you listening?

Is your work life stressed and unsatisfying because people don’t get along?

“Women on Air” can help! We will help you re-design your life from the inside out so you can more fully express the “real” you and enjoy relationships anytime, anywhere and with anyone.

For starters, we offer the following 6 tips to get you started. Stay tuned…we are taking to the road on September 17, 2007 to do drive-bys, walk-bys, and talk-bys where we will be listening carefully to what people are saying about life and relationships while we collect more tips everyday.

Inside/Out Tips

• Walk through your home and take away all the dead plants
• Move or get rid of one piece of furniture
• Buy really high thread count (at least 400) sheets (bonus tip: shop Ross)
• Take 30 seconds of silence before every meal to become present with the moment
• Write down 10 ways your life is working well
• Focus on positive comments only for a whole week and write down the experience